Kungathatha ixesha elide ukusuka ekucingeni ngokufuna uqhawulo-mtshato ukuze uzive ulungele ukuqhubela phambili kunye. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa onokuthi uqonde ngcono ukuba uyinyaniukulungele ukuqhawula umtshato.
Ngaba Ukulungele Ukuqhawula Umtshato?
Nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba uqhawulo-mtshato lube sisigqibo esifanelekileyo kuwe, kubalulekile ukuba uphonononge ukuba kutheni kwaye ungene nzulu kwinkuthazo yakho yokuqhubela phambili nale nkqubo inzima. Ngoku ka UGqirha LeslieBeth Wish , isayikholojisti nonontlalontle owaziwa kwilizwe lonke ngomsebenzi wakhe, 'abantu basoloko bekhawuleza ukuqhawula umtshato.' Ugqirha Wish uqhubeka athi, 'Intlungu nokudideka zikhulu kangangokuba kulula ukuzikhohlisa ngokucinga ukuba xa uqhawula umtshato nje kwaye ugqibezele iingxaki zakho ziya kuphela.' Kodwa abahlali njalo. Ngamanye amagama, into ocinga ukuba uza kuyisombulula uqhawulo-mtshato inokukulandela kolunye ubudlelwane ebomini bakho ngaphandle kokuba uyakuqonda nzulu okwenzekileyo emtshatweni wakho kunye nendima oyidlalileyo.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Ukulinda Indoda Eqhawula Umtshato
- Ukwabiwa ngokulinganayo koqhawulo mtshato
- Iingcebiso zoMama abangatshatanga
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Ukuba iqabane lakho belikukuhlukumezangokubhekisele kuwe kunye / okanye kubantwana bakho, ukuya phambili ngoqhawulo-mtshato yindlela yokuzikhusela kwaye uphinde ufumane ukhuseleko olulahlekileyo kulwalamano. Akuqhelekanga ukuba abo banobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo bazive besoyika kwaye bexhalabile ngokushiya olu hlobo lobudlelwane, njengoko uloyiko lokudibana nomntu ophethe gadalala, okanye ukuba wedwa kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezinamandla nezingonwabisiyo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba abo baphethe gadalala bahlala benyuka ngokuziphatha kwabo okungenampilo, ke ngoko ukufuna ingcebiso okanye inkxaso ngokukhawuleza kunokuba kukunceda wenze esi sigqibo. Banokusebenzisa kakubi izinto, ezinokuthi ziqinise isimilo sabo sokuqhushumba.
ndifuna umyeni wam wangaphambili abuye
Ugqirha Wish uphawula ukuba kwabathile, '... abona bantu baphula umthetho badla ngokubandakanya ubundlobongela basekhaya, ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana, [kunye] nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi ... Iqabane alizimiselanga ukufuna unyango olufanelekileyo. 'Uyamthanda umntu ophakathi kwamaxesha amabi kwaye umthiyile [okubi], utshilo uGqirha Wish. 'Amaxesha amnandi angena kuwo kwaye akwenze unciphise amaxesha amabi' anokwenza uzive ngathi ubambekile emtshatweni.
Iingcebiso azikhange zibe luncedo
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nizamile ukucebisa ngomtshato ngelizama ukusombulula imicimbi ephindaphindayo kodwa kungabikho nto, ninokukulungela ukucinga ngokuya phambili noqhawulo-mtshato. Imiba esekwe nzulu engenakusonjululwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, okanye iinjongo zobomi ezingafaniyo ongakwaziyo ukuzidibanisa ukwenza umtshato usebenze, zizizathu zokuba ungaqala inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato.
Utshintsho ekukhethweni ngokwesondo
Ukuba wena kunye / okanye iqabane lakho lingathanda ukuba nomnye umntu ngokwesondo, ke ukuzama ukulenza lisebenze isenokungabi yeyona ilungileyo kuwe. Inokuba sisisongelo semithambo yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba kunye neqabane elahlukileyo, kwaye kunokuba buhlungu ukufumanisa malunga neqabane lakho elifuna ukuba kunye nomnye umntu. Nokuba ngubani onomdla kwiqabane elahlukileyo, ukuqhawula umtshato kukuvumela ukuba uqhubeke neqabane elifuna ukusondelelana nawe.
Umnqweno woQhawulo-mtshato Uzimele kwiiNtshukumo zoBomi eziXinzelelweyo
Uxinzelelo lwezehlo zobomi njengokufa, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi, kunye nokuxilongwa okunzima kunokubangela iimpikiswano kunye nokuqina phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho njengendlela yokusasaza uxinzelelo eniziva ngalo nobabini. Oku kunokongeza uxinzelelo emtshatweni wakho kwaye kuvelise umnqweno wokuqalisa uqhawulo-mtshato. Qiniseka ukuba ucinga malunga nokuba uza kuqhubekeka phambili noqhawulo-mtshato ziimeko ezahlukileyo okanye inqanaba loxinzelelo lwakho lancipha kancinci. Umnqweno wakho wokuqhawula umtshato kufuneka uthathelwe ingqalelo ngokuzimeleyo kangangoko kwezinye iimeko zoxinzelelo ebomini. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ayinalo uxinzelelo simahla, ke qiniseka ukuba uqinisekile ngokupheleleyo ngokhetho lwakho ngaphambi kokuba ungeze uxinzelelo kubomi bakho
Uzamile izisombululo ezininzi
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nizamile ukuyenza isebenze, kodwa eminye imiba ibisoloko ikhazimla kwaye kubonakala ngathi anizukuza nezisombululo, emva koko uqhawulo-mtshato lunokuba sengozini. Ngamanye amaxesha izibini ziyahlukana kwaye ziyahluka ngokwahlukeneyo, ezinokudala umgama phakathi kwenu. Oku kunokuchaphazela unxibelelwano lwakho kunye nenqanaba lokusondelelana kunye, zinto ezo zibalulekile kumtshato ophilileyo.
indlela yokukhupha amabala emostade
Imicimbi Iyaqhubeka
Ukuba omnye okanye nobabini ni kufuna unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo okanye lomzimba kwenye indawo Esona sizathu siphambili sokuqhawula umtshato, kwaye ungasaziva uzibophelele komnye nomnye, uya kukhula ngakumbi nangakumbi ngokwahlukana. Oku kungakhokelela kukungonwabi, unxunguphalo, ukungathembani, kunye neemvakalelo zokuba awonelisekanga bubomi bakho bomtshato.
Unxibelelwano luyekile
Unxibelelwano yinto ebalulekileyoyokugcina iubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Xa unxibelelwano lume, okanye ekuphela konxibelelwano ojamelana nalo kukulwa, ungaqala ukucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba omnye okanye nobabini anizimisele kusebenza ekuphuculeni unxibelelwano, amathuba okuba ubudlelwane benu buya kuqhubeka bonakala.
Iqabane alisafuni kusebenza kubudlelwane
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nirhoxile ukuba ningasasebenzi kubudlelwane benu, inqanaba lenu lokusondelelana, unxibelelwano kunye nentlonipho omnye komnye linokuhla kakhulu. Nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ubudlelwane abuwufanele umzamo kwaye awukwazi ukuwenza usebenze, unokulungela ukuya phambili noqhawulo-mtshato.
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Ukuwa ngenxa yothando
Ubudlelwane buthatha umsebenzi onzima kunye nomzamo wokugcina. Ugqirha Wish uphawula ukuba, 'umtshato ayithethi ukuba ulitikiti lokonwaba.' 'Umnqweno wothando nomtshato uyaphela, kwaye izibini zihlala zitshixa xa iphupha-liphela ilizwe.' Ngokungafaniyo xaUnabantwanaUthando phakathi kwamaqabane alunamida. Oku kuthetha ukuba nobabini kuyakufuneka nisebenzele ukugcina uthando phakathi kwenu. Ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane akasavumi okanye akakwazi ukwenza iinzame zokondla uthando lwenu, ubudlelwane buya kuqhubeka buncipha kwaye ungakhula ungonwabi ngakumbi.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba, 'ukuba awusazi isizathu sokuba utshate kwaye ungonwabi, uya kuthi uzise izinto ezininzi ezingaziwayo kulwalamano lwakho olulandelayo.' Ke, ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuqhubekeka noqhawulo-mtshato, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge imicimbi yakho yomtshato edlulileyo, uthathe ubunini bendima yakho kwingxabano, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba awangeni kwindima efanayo kubudlelwane bakho obulandelayo.
Isigqibo siSekwe kuLwazi, hayi ukuSabela
Ukuba uchithe ixesha uqhubekeka uqhawula umtshato kwaye ngentliziyo yakho yonke uziva ngathi sesona sigqibo sinempilo kuwe, ke uya kuba ukulungele ukuya phambili. Ukwenza isigqibo ngale ndlela kwahluke ngokupheleleyo kunokuthatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato njengempendulo kumlo ombi okanye kwimiba eqhubekayo kubudlelwane. Ukuba uziva ukulungele ukwenza izigqibo ngexeshaulamloezisempilweni kubo bobabini neqabane lakho langaphambili, ngaphandle kweyiphi na into kuni efuna ukohlwaya, emva koko nikwindawo efanelekileyo yokuqhubela phambili ngoqhawulo mtshato.
Umahluko phakathi koSongelo loqhawulo mtshato ngokuchasene nokuthatha isigqibo soqhawulo mtshato
Isoyikiso sokuqhawula umtshato isenokwenzeka ngaphambili emtshatweni wakho. Cinga ngale ndlela, nokuba woyikisa ngokuqhawula umtshato okanye iqabane lakho lenze njalo, ukwenza njalo kuyindlela yokukhuthaza impendulo, kwaye ayisiyondlela esempilweni yokwenza ubudlelwane benu. Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato kuthetha ukuba usithathe ngokupheleleyo isigqibo esifanelekileyo kwaye awuzami ukohlwaya iqabane lakho okanye ukubenza bazive bengalunganga.
Ukwenza esona Sigqibo siGqibeleleyo kuwe
Ukuba uziva ukulungele ngokupheleleyo ukuya phambili noqhawulo-mtshato lwakho, kodwa ungaqinisekanga ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kwenkxaso eyongezelelweyo, '... ingcebiso kunye nokulamla kunganceda ... Ndinqwenela. Unokusebenzisa ezi nkqubo zenkxaso ukuba awunabo abantwana kunye, kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaqhubeka njani ngaphandle kokubambelela kwiinkcukacha. Ekugqibeleni isigqibo sesakho ukuba usenze, qiniseka ukuba uqwalasele i-engile nganye ngaphambi kokuqala le nkqubo inzima.
