Jonga iindlela ezilula, zokuyila zokugcina incoko yokubhaliweyo yothando ihamba. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuba incoko yakho yokubhaliweyo yome ngaphambi kokuba iqale. Ukubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kuqinisekisa ukuba imiyalezo yakho yothando iyaqhubeka.
1. Buza imibuzo evulekileyo
Kuhlala kulunge ukubuza umbuzo ovulekileyo. Olu hlobo lombuzo alunakuphendulwa ngo-ewe okanye uhayi okanye ezinye iimpendulo zegama elinye. Umzekelo:
- Umbuzo ovaliweyo: 'Unjani namhlanje?' Ngokwesiqhelo ifumana impendulo yelizwi elinye yokwenza isiphelo esingathandekiyo kwincoko.
- Umbuzo ovulekileyo: 'Zeziphi izinto oziqhubileyo namhlanje?' Unokubuza imibuzo evulekileyo ngakumbi esekwe kwimpendulo.
- Umbuzo ovulelekileyo: Kwenzeke ntoni namhlanje emsebenzini / esikolweni ofumene umdla okanye umdla?
- Uyiqala njani incoko kunye nentombazana ngokwendalo
- Indlela yokudlala ngapha nangapha kokubhaliweyo: Imizekelo emitsha kunye neClever
- Iziqalo zokuNxibelelana ngokuThumela imiyalezo
2.Yenza imibuzo yakho ibonakale
Ugcina njani intombazana inomdla xa uthumela imiyalezo? Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zinokukunceda ukuba ube nencoko enentsingiselo kunye neqhubekayo kunye nentombazana ngaphezulu kwemiyalezo ebhaliweyo. Endaweni yokubuza nje into ayenzayo namhlanje, biza umbuzo wakho ukuze ubuntu bakho bukhanye. Ngelixa umazi, uya kukwazi. Ukuba unayokumnandi kwaye kudlala ngothandoubuntu, emva koko makayibone. Umzekelo, ungambuza:
- 'Loluphi uhlobo lwemithetho oyaphule namhlanje?'
- 'Loluphi uhlobo lobubi olwenzileyo namhlanje?'
- 'Yeyiphi into embi oyenzileyo namhlanje?'
3. Ukwazi Abaqhekezi Bomkhenkce
Xa ubhalela umntu omtsha, imibuzo okanye izicelo zokungenisa indlela yindlela efanelekileyo yokwenzamazi. Yintoni ofuna ukuyazi ngaye? Cinga ngokwendlela yokuhlangana nomntu ngaphakathi-nomntu nokuba ingahamba njani loo ncoko. Umzekelo, ungathumela umyalezo obhaliweyo:
- 'Ndixelele ngomsebenzi wakho [umxhasi wengxowa-mali, isikolo, njl. Njl.]. Uthanda ntoni ngayo? '
- 'Uthanda ntoni ngokuhlala [faka idolophu / isixeko]?'
- 'Kutheni uthathe isigqibo sokuya [kwikhondo lomsebenzi okanye kwikholeji enkulu]?'
4. Thatha inxaxheba kwincoko
Ufuna ukuba imiyalezo yakho ibe yincoko yokwenyani, ingabi ngumbuzo wemibuzo engama-20 okanye ikhwizi yokuthandana nesantya. Imibuzo kufuneka isetyenziswe njengendlela yokukhokela kunye nokuqhubeka nencoko. Oko kuthetha ukuba kufanele ukuba ibe kukutshintshiselana ngeendlela ezimbini. Umzekelo, kuya kufuneka ufake isandla kwimpendulo nganye eyabelana kancinci malunga nawe ngokwendlela yendalo yokuncokola.
- Her: 'Ndandinomdla kwezempilo xa ndandifunda kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo.'
- Wena: 'Ah ... Ufunda kakhulu. Umdla wam wawungenamdla ungako - umdlalo webhola olandelayo. ' (ubuso obunoncumo)
- Her: 'Udlalile?'
- Wena: 'Ewe, kwikota yekota. Kwenzeka ntoni kwi-HS ekwenze wanomdla kwi-HC? '
5. Ungayigcina njani incoko yokubhaliweyo ihamba
Nje ukuba incoko iqengqele ngokwabelana kancinci malunga nawe, qhubeka uyithumele kuye. Ukuba incoko malunga nomdla wakhe kwinto ethile iyoma, khawuleza uye komnye umxholo onxulumene noko. Sukungena ngesihloko esahluke ngokupheleleyo. Isitshixo kukuvumela incoko yakho ukuba iqhubele phambili ngokufana nengxoxo yomntu.
- Mbuze ukuba yeyiphi na ikholeji aye kuyo okanye yeyiphi ikholeji aceba ukuyifunda.
- Mamela impendulo yakhe kwaye uqhubeke ubuze malunga nomsebenzi wakhe okanye izicwangciso zekholeji.
- Ukuba uphumelele kwaye uyawuthanda umsebenzi, mbuze ngendawo aphangela kuyo.
- Ukuba akaqalanga ikholeji kwaye ngumgama omde, buza ukuba uyazi esixekweni.
- Ukuba ubukhe waya esixekweni, emva koko unokongeza ezinye iinkcukacha malunga nento oyaziyo. Uya kuba nemibuzo kuwe.
6. Ungawubhalela njani uMhla wokuBhala
Nje ukuba usete ubudlelwane kwaye ufuna ukuthatha incoko yakho uye nayo kwinqanaba elilandelayo, kuya kufuneka ulungiselele ukudibana nomntuumhla wakho wokuqala(okanye umhla kwangoko kubudlelwane bakho). Eyona ndlela yamkelekileyo kukuthumela imiyalezo kumhla wekofu. Cwangcisa umhla kunye nexesha kwaye emva koko ubonise ukulungele ukuba nencoko yomntu nomntu.
7. Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ukugcina isicatshulwa esihamba phambili
Nokuba uthumela imiyalezo kunye neqabane elithandanayo okanye elinokubakho, kuya kufuneka unoluvo olulungileyo malunga nendlela onqwenela ukuba incoko yakho ihambe ngayo. Lungiselela izihloko ezimbalwa ngaphambi kwexesha ukukunceda ugcine incoko isendleleni. Musa ukuyichwetheza imibuzo yakho ngokungathi uqheliselwe. Vumela incoko ukuba ibe nokuhamba kwendalo. Khetha izihloko ezinxulumene nomntu, ingingqi yakho, inkampani abayisebenzelayo, ikhondo lomsebenzi, kunye nezinye izinto onomdla kuzo.
8. Sebenzisa iMozulu njenge-Lead-in ukuya kwincoko ebanzi yokubhaliweyo
Ukuthetha malunga nemozulu akufuneki kube yinto eqhelekileyo. Kukhokelela kakhulu kwincoko yokuthumela imiyalezo. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze uqiniseke ukuba incoko yakho ayifi kakubi kwaye ibuhlungu. Imozulu yiindlela entle yokuqala incoko yokubhaliweyokwaye kunokukhokelela kwezinye izihloko ezininzi ezinxulumene nemozulu. Imozulu inikezela ngesiqendu sokufumana ngakumbi malunga nento eyenziwa ngumntu okanye angacwangcisa ukuyenza.
- 'Ngaba ufumene ikhephu elininzi phezolo?'
- 'Besinendudumo embi izolo ebusuku. Bekunjani apho ubukho? '
- 'Wow, kwabanda ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Injani indawo okuyo? '
9. Thetha ngeeholide njengaMyalezo oTyibilikisayo wokuBhala
Zininzi iiholide unyaka wonke. Kuxhomekeka kwixesha lonyaka, ungathumela umyalezo malunga nexesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo leholide ukwaphula i-ice yakhoumyalezo wokuqala obhaliweyoentshaumdla wothando.
- 'Yintoni eyona uyithanda kakhulu [faka iholide]?'
- 'Bekushushu nyhani kule yesine kaJulayi. Uye wabhiyozela njani? '
- 'Uyaphi kumbulelo?'
- 'Uya kuba phi ngoJulayi 4?'
Ukuba umdla wakho wothando awunazicwangciso zeholide ezayo, zenze kunye.
10. Iindidi eziqhelekileyo zemibuzo yokuNxibelelana noMbhalo
Kukho imibuzo eqhelekileyo enokuthi uyisebenzise okanye uyakhele ukulungela imeko yakho. Ungasoloko ubahombisa ukubonisa ubuntu bakho. Umbuzo ngamnye unokukhokelela kwincoko enkulu kakhulu kwaye igcwele.
- 'Yintoni ekwenza wonwabe?'
- 'Kukuphi ukutya okuthandayo?'
- 'Ithini Imuvi yakho oyithanda kakhulu?'
11. Uyibuyisela njani kwakhona incoko yokubhaliweyo yokufa
Ukugcina incoko uhamba naye nabani na kufuna ukuba uthumele umyalezo omncinci kancinci. Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho butsha, ungalusebenzisa olo luhlu lwezihloko ezinokubakho engqondweni xa incoko yakho ingafa. Ukuba incoko yakho iyamisa, ungawutshintsha umxholo ngokuthumela imiyalezo efana nale:
- 'Owu, ndikhumbule nje…'
- 'Ndisandul' ukufumana isaziso malunga nothotho lweTV olutsha ... '
- 'Umhlobo wam, uGeorge, undibhalele nje malunga [faka isihloko]. Ucinga ntoni ngayo? '
12. Uyenza njani iNtetho yeNqaku kuKhokelo eNtsha
Ukuba incoko yakho yokubhaliweyo ibonakala ngathi ayiyi ndawo kwaye ikhula ngokukhawuleza njengesiqhelo kwaye iyadika, ungasoloko uyisa kwicala elitsha. Enye indlela efanelekileyo yokwenza oku kukuthumela umyalezo othi, 'Hayi ukutshintsha isihloko, kodwa ndivele [ndabona itreyila kumboniso bhanyabhanya omtsha, iflaya yomboniso omtsha wobugcisa, njlnjl.] ...' Emva koko mbuze uluvo lwakhe kwaye / uyaluthanda olo hlobo lwemovie okanye ubugcisa. Ukuba uyayenza, uya kuba nenqaku elifanelekileyo lomhla.
13. Isihloko Esinye Sikukhumbuza Esinye Isihloko
Ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha incoko yakho ihleli, lungela ukutsibela kwesinye isihloko. Ungaya ngaphandle komthungo uye kumxholo owahlukileyo ngokuthi, 'Oko kundikhumbuza into endiyibonileyo [endiyibonileyo, endiyifundileyo okanye endiyivileyo]…' uze uqhubeke nokuxoxa ngesihloko esitsha.
14. Hlaziya iNtetho yokuNqunyanyisiweyo yeNqaku noMculo
Omnye umbuzo onokuvuselela incoko ebhaliweyo kukucela uluvo lwakhe ngengoma okanye kakubi. Ungathumela umyalezo, 'Ndivile nje le ngoma imnandi ngokwenene [nika iinkcukacha okanye ubhale umnxeba ikhonkco]. Ucinga ntoni ngayo? ' Oku kuya kukhokelela kwincoko malunga nomculo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zezihloko ezinxulumene noko. Uya kufumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba nobabini ninomdla ofanayo kumculo.
15. Xelela isiqhulo ukugcina incoko yokubhaliweyo ihamba
Ukuba unengxaki yokugcina incoko yakho yokubhaliweyo ihamba, zama isiqhulo. Ukuba awumazi kakuhle omnye umntu, gcina ihlaya licocekile kwaye liqhelekile. Qinisekisa ukuba iyahlekisa! I-segue elula isenokuba, 'Hayi, sukuthetha ukusibeka kwelinye icala, kodwa umhlobo wam undithumele nje ihlaya onokuthi ulithande ...' emva koko bhala isiqhulo uhambe apho.
16.Dlala umdlalo weTekisi ukuze ugcine ukubandakanyeka kwincoko yokubhaliweyo
Enye indlela yokugcina iqabane lakho elithandanayo ukuba libandakanyeke kwincoko yakho yokubhaliweyo kukudlala umdlalo wokubhaliweyo. Ungafumanaimidlalo imibuzo emininzi online, njenge Unga okanye Andizange ndibenaye . Ukuzonwabisa ngakumbi, batshintshisane ngokubuza imibuzo, ke ngamnye kuni unethuba lokufumanisa ngakumbi malunga nomnye.
17.Izihloko eziThintelweyo zokuGcina iincoko zakho zeTekisi ziqhubeka
Kukho izihloko ezibini apho uninzi loluntu luyalela ukuba lungachazwa kuba abantu banezimvo ezomeleleyo malunga nenkolo kunye nezopolitiko. Eyona ndlela ikhawulezayo yokuphelisa incoko yokubhaliweyo nomntu omtsha ngaphambi kokuba iqhubeke kukuthumela malunga nenkolo kunye / okanye nezopolitiko. Ukwahluka kuphela kukuba sele ubazi ubudlelane bomnye umntu kwaye ngethemba lokuzibonisa ngokwakho.
Iindlela ezili-17 onokuthi ugcine ngazo incoko yokubhaliweyo yothando ihamba
Ezi ndlela zili-17 zokukunceda ugcine incoko yakho yencoko yothando ekumiseni kulula ukuyisebenzisa. Icebo ngalinye linikezela nge-arsenal encinci yeengcamango ukuqinisekisa ukuba unencoko yokubhaliweyo esemgangathweni kunye neqabane lakho lothando.
