Ukuthetha into ethe kratya endaweni yokuba 'uxolise ngokulahleka' kuya kuyidlulisa imfesane yakho ngokusuka entliziyweni. Nokuba ubumazi umntu ongasekhoyo okanye hayi, ukunika umhlobo wakho, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu omaziyo uvelwano lwakho kufanelekile.
Ndingathini endaweni yoXolo ngokulahleka kwakho?
Ibinzana elithi 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' lisenokungazichazi ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani. Kungcono ukuba ubenakho ukwenza igama le-uvelwano esithiukubonisa ubudlelwane onabo kunye nofelweyo kunye nesithandwa sakhe esingasekhoyo.
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Amagama amafutshane ovelwano kuye nabani na
Njonga iamazwi entuthuzelo emva kokufaezikuvumela ukuba ubonelele ngovelwano ngokunyanisekileyo ngamafutshane kodwa ngelinye ibinzana elithi 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho.' Izinketho ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo ezinokuthi zenzelwe umntu kuyo nayiphi na imeko zibandakanya:
- 'Iingcinga zam zikuwe ngeli xesha lokuzila.'
- 'Ngamana ungafumana uxolo nentuthuzelo kwiinkumbulo zakho ngoSwelekileyo Omthandayo.'
- 'Ndaba buhlungu kukuva ngokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo.'
- 'Othandekayo oswelekileyo wayengumntu okhethekileyo kubo bonke abo badibana naye.'
- 'Ndicinga ngawe kwaye ndilapha ngenxa yakho.'
- 'Ujikelezwe luthando ngeli xesha linzima.'
- 'Umhlobo wakho uya kukhunjulwa.'
- Ndikuthumelela amazwi endiyokuzisola ngawo ngokusweleka komntu omthandayo. '
Ukuphulukana noMzali
Yiza nenye into eyeyakho ngakumbiyithi kumntu ofelwe ngumzalikunokuba 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho.' Ezi ntetho zifanelekile nokuba kukho umntu onazouphulukene notataokanye umama.
- 'Umama / utata wakho wayengumzali omangalisayo kwaye esisikhokelo kuthi sonke.'
- 'Wayefana nomzali wesibini kum ekukhuleni, kwaye andikucingi ukuba uhlangabezana nantoni.'
- 'Bendicinga umhlaba kamama / utata wakho kwaye ndiziva ndilahlekile kakhulu.'
- 'Mandime ecaleni kwakho ngexesha losizi lwakho njengokuba uqhubeka nokuswelekelwa ngumzali wakho.'
- 'Ndabathanda kakhulu abazali bakho kwaye ndiza kubakhumbula ngokufudumeleyo njengoko ndihlala ndicinga nosapho lwakho.
Ukuphulukana neqabane okanye iqabane
Fikelela kumntu olahlekelwe ngumlingane okanye iqabane lakho lobomi ngentetho enovelwano enje:
indlela yokutsala indoda eyintombi
- 'Bambelela kwiimemori zeqabane lakho kwaye ubambe ngokuqinileyo isandla sam.'
- 'Ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kweqabane lakho kunzima, ke xhomekeka kum nanini na ufuna.'
- Intliziyo yam ibuhlungu ngenxa yokusweleka kweqabane lakho.
- 'Ukuphulukana neqabane lakho akunakunyamezeleka kwaye awunyanzelekanga ukuba udlule koku wedwa.'
- 'Umlingane wakho wayengomnye wabahlobo bam abasenyongweni kwaye ndilapha nanini na xa ufuna iqabane likuncede ukhumbule.'
Ukuphulukana noMntwana
Ukuphulukana nomntwana yinto evakalelwa ngokunzulu ngabo babemazi. Sebenzisaamazwi anovelwano emva kokuswelekelwa ngumntwanaukwazisa abantu obathandayo ukuba ukhathalele.
- 'Akukho mntu kufuneka ahlelwe yile lahleko yothusayo kwaye ndilapha ukukuxhasa.'
- 'Ndibuhlungu ngenxa yokungabikho kwegama lomntwana ebomini bethu.'
- 'Unyana / intombi yakho ikhanyise umhlaba ngoncumo lwayo kwaye ukukhanya kuyakuhlala kuthi sonke.'
- Ndizele lusizi kusapho lwakho ngokuswelekelwa ngumntwana wakho kwaye ndilapha ukukunceda kule nto. '
- 'Iinyembezi zam ziwa ngokukhululekileyo kukusweleka komntwana wakho. Nceda ungaze uzive ngathi kuya kufuneka undifihlele iinyembezi zakho. '
Ukuphulukana noMhlobo
Xa umntu omthandayo ephulukana nomntu amthandayo, kunzima ukuba wazi ukuba mandithini. Cinga elinye lala mabinzana ukubonisa uvelwano xa umntu ephulukana nomhlobo:
- 'Ihlabathi liziva lililolo ngaphandle kwegama loMhlobo, kwaye ndilapha ukukunceda umkhumbule.'
- 'Ndikuthandile ukuchitha ixesha nomhlobo wakho; ndicela unditsalele umnxeba nanini na, kwaye sinokwabelana ngeenkumbulo ngaye. '
- Ndiyazi ukuba andinakukwazi ukubuyisela umhlobo wakho, kodwa ndingakhona xa ndikudinga. '
- 'Umhlobo wakho ebengumntu obalaseleyo kwaye ukufa kwakhe yilahleko embi.'
Ukuphulukana nomntu osebenza naye
Abantu osebenza nabo benza ubuhlobo kwaye banokuba lusapho olusondeleleneyo lomsebenzi. Xa umntu ephulukana nomntu osebenza naye, usenokuthi:
- 'Ukusweleka komntu ngamnye wayengumcebisi obalaseleyo kum. Ilahleko yakhe iya kubonakala lisebe liphela. '
- Ndiyazi ukuba nonke benifana nosapho kwiNkampani Igama. Ukulahleka komntu oswelekileyo kusenza buhlungu sonke. '
- Umntu oswelekileyo wayeyinkokeli emangalisayo. Siza kuluphosa ukhokelo lwakhe. '
Ngaba Ukuthi Uxolo Ngokulahleka Kwakho Kufanelekile?
Ngelixa ibinzana elithi 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' linokuthathelwa ingqalelo lokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, livakale linganyanisekanga kunegama lokuqala, linendawo yalo. Amaxesha ambalwa apho kufanelekileyo:
- Libinzana elifutshane onokulisebenzisa njengeumyalezo womngcwabo wekhadi lomngcwabo.
- Ingavula okanye ivaleikhadi lokufelwaapho ubhala khona umyalezo wobuqu omde.
- Isenokuba lilizwi elifutshane kuthumela umyalezo kumntu osentlungwini.
Xa usazi umntu oswelekileyo, ukuthi 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' yindlela yokufikelela kunye nayeinto yokuthethakwaye bazi ukuba ulapho. Ingavula umnyango wencoko ende, ethe xaxe kwaye ubazise ukuba ucinga ngabo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento oza kuyithetha, kungcono ukolule isandla usithi 'Ndicela uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' kunokuba ungathethi kwanto.
Nika uvelwano lwakho olusuk 'entliziyweni
Ukufumana ilungeloamagama okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwinikuthetha ukumba nzulu kancinane kwiimvakalelo zakho ngebinzana elinyanisekileyo lovelwano. Yenzele umntu ofelweyo kwaye ngubani olahlekileyo kwaye amagama akho aya kuziva kwaye evakala efanelekile.
