Ukufumanisa imiqondiso yokuba umntu utsala umdla kuwe kunokuba sisilumko. Ngaba ukudibana kwamehlo kuthetha umtsalane? Kuthekani ngokuhlekisa okuhlekiswa yile ntombazana xa uthetha nayo? Kukho imikhondo efihlakeleyo yokuba umntu akuthande njengonxibelelwano ngamehlo, ukudlala ngothando kunye nolwimi lomzimba. Funda zonke izikhombisi ezifihlakeleyo ukuze ufumane oko kuthethwa ngamehlo.
Uqhagamshelo lamehlo
Olunye lweempawu zakudala zomtsalane kukudibana kwamehlo. Kunokubakho amanqaku okutsala ukuba ubamba umntu ejonge kuwe. Le yindlela entle yokwazisa omnye umntu ukuba unguyenomdlakwaye iyafumaneka; sukuhamba ngaphezulu kwaye ujonge ixesha elide.
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Umtsalane Uyathandeka
Inzululwazi yaseMelika ixoxa ngesifundo ngamehlo kunye nokubonisa umdla. Ayenzi kuphelauqhagamshelo lamehlophawula umtsalane wabo kuwe, kodwa kuyanceda ukuba uzive utsalelekile kubo ngokunjalo. Ngaba wakha weva ibinzana, 'Unomdla unomdla?' Kule meko, 'Unomtsalane uyathandeka' kuba abantu bathanda ukubathanda abantu abafumana benomdla. Umtsalane uya usiba nzulu xa umnxeba wamehlo ubuyisiwe kwaye ugcinwe. Ngokutsho kweScientific American, abafundi abahlanjululweyo bangomnye umqondiso wokutsala. Abafundi abahlaziyiweyo banokwenza ukuba umfazi abenomtsalane ngakumbi kwindoda (yena ubonakala ethambile kwaye engowesifazana ngakumbi), nangona abafundi bezinto ezixineneyo bengasoloko benomtsalane-wokuphakamisa umfazi.
Ukujonga okufihlakeleyo
Inkangeleko yobuso bomntu ikwayinto entle yokunika. Uhlala ubona intlantsi yokudibana kwamehlo okanye uncumo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu uneentloni kakhulu, ukudibana kwamehlo kunokuthintelwa, kodwa xa loo mntu ekubambe iliso, unokuqaphela ukuba sisimemo sokuza size kuthetha. Ezinye izikhombisi zibandakanya:
- Unokumva ukuba ukujongile naxa uzenza ngathi akuqapheli.
- Uyabona ukuba akanakususa amehlo akhe kuwe.
- Unokuqaphela ukuba ujonge ngaphaya kwakho kwaye ajike ngokukhawuleza.
Ukudlala ngothando njengoMtsalane
Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona ndlela yokwazi ukuba umntu unomdla kuwe kukuthumelauphawu lokudlala ngothandokwaye ubone okwenzekayo. Zama ukuba ngumhlobo omncinci kwaye ubone ukuba umntu uyakubuyisa na amandla akho. Xa kukho umtsalane, bobabini abantu baya kuwondla loo mtsalane kwaye bafune ngaphezulu. Qiniseka nje ukuba awuthengisi umtsalane wakho komnye umntu. Nika uthsuphe olucacileyo kwaye ubuye umva ukuze ubone ukuba uyaphindiswa na.
Zama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokudlala ngothando
Ukudlala ngothando akusoloko kuthatha uhlobo lwe-blush kunye ne-giggling. Zininziiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokudlala ngothando. Ukunika umntu ingqwalaselo encinci ngakumbi kunaye wonke umntu okujikelezile kunokuba yindlela efihlakeleyo yokubonisa umdla wakho. Ukuba uqaphela omnye umntu esenza ngokungathi nguwe wedwa egumbini (ngaphandle kwabanye abantu abakhoyo), kukho ithuba elihle lokuba udlalwe naye.
Yiba Nentembelo
Kunokuba nzima ukuthumela iimpawu zokudlala ngothando xa ukukungenjalo uneentloni, kodwa khumbula ukuba ukuzithemba kunokuba nomtsalane ngendlela emangalisayo. Njengoko intetho isithi, 'yenze inkohliso de uyenze' kwaye udlulise ukuzithemba naxa wenaandiziva ndiqinisekile.
Impawu zomzimba
Ukuba umntu wenzaunxibelelwano oluninzi ngamehlokwaye bayame ngaphakathi okanye bajike imizimba yabo ibhekise kuwe, inokubonisa umtsalane, ngokwe Psychology Namhlanje . Ulwimi lwabo lomzimba lunokubonisa uloyiko, njengokujijeka okungaphezulu okanye ukulinganisa iintshukumo zakho. Ngokwesiqhelo unokufumana imvakalelo esekwe kulwimi lomzimba wedwa nokuba umntu unakho okanye angabinamdla. Ezinye izikhokelo zibandakanya:
- Umntu uya kufumana isizathu sokukuchukumisa nje umzuzwana.
- Uya kuhlala ejikile ajongane nawe.
- Unokuziva unoluvo olomeleleyo lokuncika usondele emntwini ngokusekwe kulwimi lomzimba wakhe.
Ukudlala ngothando
Xa amantombazana eziva enomtsalane, baya kuhlala begigitheka xa kuncokolwa ngelixa abafana beqhele ukuncuma ngakumbi kwaye babonakale bengeneka kwaye bevulekile. Inkqubo ye- KwiYunivesithi yaseKansas Ucacise isifundo esivela Ijenali yokungaziphathi kakuhle :
- Yesintuabadlala ngothando abangamadoda(abo baziva ukuba le ndoda kufuneka yenze inyathelo lokuqala) zivulekile ngakumbi kwaye zibandakanyeka kwizinto ezingathethiyo njengokuncika nokugcina ukuma okuvulekileyo.
- Iiflashi zamabhinqa zesintu zityhila izihlahla zabo kunye nezandla ngakumbi nangobunono ngokuqhula indoda.
- Oontombazana abanyanisekileyo abathandanayo banika imbonakalo yobuhle kwaye bayagigitheka okanye bancume
- Zombini ezesini zazinqanda ekugxadazelweni kwaye zazimamele into yomtsalane wazo.
Incoko njenge-Attribution-Grabber
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntu ekuthanda, loo mntu uya kuba ulunge ngokwenyani okanye angathandeki. Bazama ukufumana ingqalelo yakho. Umntu uya kufuna ukukubona rhoqo kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye. Ngokucacileyo, ukukucela ukuba uxhome okanye ukuqala incoko nawe kunokuba luthando lokuba ukuwe. Nazi ezinye izinto ekufuneka ubukele:
- Uvalo ngexesha lencoko, njengamaxesha okuba neentloni okanye ukuthetha kakhulu. Isincwaso sasemzimbeni, isifundo sikhankanya, unokukuthanda kodwa uzive ungonwabanga kwimeko-nganye-nganye. Benza konke okusemandleni abo ukudlala ngothando bejikelezwe ngamandla eefestile ezixakekileyo, iiklabhu zasebusuku, kunye namaqela kwaye bathembele ngakumbi kulwimi lomzimba kunencoko esondeleyo ukubonisa umtsalane wabo.
- Ukuqhula kunye nokuqhula ujikeleza kuhlala kungumqondiso wokutsala kwayeukudlala ngothando(Iimpazamo ezinyanisekileyo, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, zinokukwenza oku).
- Umntu uya kufuna ukuthetha nawe ubuso ngobuso ngokucela inombolo yefowuni okanye i-imeyile.
Sukucinga ngokuCinga ngaphezulu
Ngelishwa, akunakwenzeka ukuba wazi ukuba umntu othile utsala wena okanye hayi. Abantu banokuziva benomdla kuwe, kodwa bakhethe ukungazenzi. Eyona nto intle ukuyenza kukuzonwabisa kwaye uyathemba ukuba umntu olungileyo uza kuqaphela kwayendikubuze. Dlalani kancinci nabantu onomdla kubo kwaye ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
