Uthando kunye nobudlelwane sisiseko sobomi bethu. Zisenza sonwabe, sixhase yaye sizive siyinxalenye yabanye. Kodwa, njengayo nayiphi na into ephilayo, zifuna ukongiwa nokukhathalelwa ukuze zichume. Nokuba uzinikele ixesha elide okanye usaqala ukuphonononga ilizwe lothando, izicaphulo ezikhuthazayo zinokunika isikhokelo kunye nenkuthazo endleleni.
Enye yezona nkalo zibalulekileyo zothando kukuqonda. Njengoko UMaya Angelou wakha wathi, ‘Ndifunde ukuba abantu baya kuyilibala into oyithethileyo, abantu baya kuyilibala into oyenzileyo, kodwa abantu abanakuze bayilibale indlela obenze bavakalelwa ngayo.’ Esi sicatshulwa sisikhumbuza ukuba uvelwano kunye novelwano ngundoqo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuluqilima nobunentsingiselo. Ayisiyonto esiyithethayo okanye esiyenzayo kuphela, kodwa yindlela esibenza bavakalelwe ngayo abanye eyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Eleanor Roosevelt wakha wathi, 'Yenza oko uvakalelwa kukuba kulungile, kuba uya kugxekwa.' Esi sicatshulwa sisikhumbuza ukuba simamele iintliziyo zethu kwaye silandele indlela yethu, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuchasana nokulindelwe ngabanye. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi kubudlelwane, apho ukunyaniseka kuthi kuvumela unxibelelwano lokwenyani kunye nokukwazi ukuthanda ngokwenyani.
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Uthando alusoloko lulula, kodwa lusoloko lufanelekile. Njengoko Nicholas Sparks wabhala, 'Uthando lufana nomoya, awukwazi ukulubona kodwa unokuluva.' Esi sicatshulwa sisikhumbuza ukuba uthando lungamandla anokuthi asizisele uvuyo olukhulu kunye nolwaneliseko. Isenokungasoloko ibonakala, kodwa impembelelo yayo ayinakuphikiswa. Ngokukhulisa uthando kunye nobudlelwane, sidala indawo yokuba la mandla mhle achume.
Iingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo zinokusebenza njengezikhumbuzo kunye nezikhokelo kuhambo lwethu lothando kunye nobudlelwane. Banokusinika intuthuzelo ngamaxesha anzima kwaye basikhuthaze ukuba sibe yeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kuthi. Ke, ezi zicatshulwa mazibe ngumthombo wenkuthazo njengoko ukhulisa uthando kwaye usakha unxibelelwano olunentsingiselo ebomini bakho.
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IiQuotes zoBudlelwane ezikhuthazayo
'Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana kaninzi, kusoloko kukho umntu omnye.' - uMignon McLaughlin
'Uthando alukho malunga nokuba zingaphi iintsuku, iinyanga okanye iminyaka enikunye ngayo. Uthando lumalunga nendlela enithandana ngayo yonke imihla.' -Akwaziwa
'Kubudlelwane bokwenene, uhlobo ekufanele sizabalazele kulo, uhlobo ekufanele sinyanzelise kulo, kwaye, ngokuphandle, kufanelekile ukuqhawula umtshato, bobabini abantu bazama ukunikela kakhulu okanye kancinane ngaphezu koko bakufumanayo.' - Amy Poehler
'Eyona nto inkulu uya kuyifunda kukuthanda nokuthandwa.' -Moulin Rouge
'Uthando aluyiyo le nto uyithethayo. Uthando yinto oyenzayo.' -Akwaziwa
'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo luvusa umphefumlo; oko kusenza sifikelele okungakumbi, okutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu kuze kuzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.’ - Nicholas Sparks
'Ulwalamano olomeleleyo lufuna ukuba nithandane nakwezo zihlandlo xa nisokola ukuthandana.' -Akwaziwa
'Ayikokufumana umntu ogqibayo, kukufumana umntu okukhuthazayo ukuba ugqibezele.' -Akwaziwa
'Ubudlelwane obukhulu bumalunga nezinto ezimbini: okokuqala, ukuxabisa ukufana, kwaye okwesibini, ukuhlonipha ukungafani.' -Akwaziwa
Yintoni isicatshulwa esinamandla malunga nobudlelwane?
Ubudlelwane sisiseko sobomi bethu, sibumba ukuba singoobani kwaye singobani. Zisenza sonwabe, sixhase yaye sizive siyinxalenye yabanye. Kodwa zinokuba lucelomngeni kwaye zifuna umsebenzi onzima nokuzinikela.
Isicaphulo esinamandla esiquka undoqo wobudlelwane yile:
'Ezona zinto zintle kwaye zintle kwihlabathi azinakubonwa okanye zichukumiseke - kufuneka zivakale ngentliziyo.' - uHelen Keller
Esi sicatshulwa sisikhumbuza ukuba ixabiso lokwenyani lobudlelwane alikho kwizinto eziphathekayo okanye kwimbonakalo yomzimba, kodwa kunxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nothando esabelana ngalo nomnye umntu.
Igxininisa ukubaluleka kokusondelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuqonda ekukhuthazeni unxibelelwano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo. Xa sizivulela imvakalelo yokwenene kunye nokuqonda omnye umntu, sidala iqhina elingenako ukuqhawuka.
Ngapha koko, esi sicatshulwa sigxininisa ingcamango yokuba uthando kunye nobudlelwane akusoloko kulula. Kufuna ukuba sibe sesichengeni, siyeke ukulinda, kwaye sithembe omnye umntu ngowona loyiko neminqweno yethu enzulu.
Kwihlabathi elihlala libeka phambili izinto eziphathekayo kunye nenkangeleko engaphezulu, esi sicatshulwa sisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokugxila kwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene-uthando kunye noqhagamshelwano esabelana ngalo nabanye.
Ngoko ke, masiluxabise kwaye silukhulise ulwalamano lwethu, kuba lungumthombo wolonwabo lwethu olukhulu kunye nesiseko sobomi obanelisayo.
Zeziphi ezinye iingcaphulo zokukhuthaza izibini?
Uthando alukho nje ngokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo, kodwa ukudala ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo. Ayikokuba uthando lwakho lwalungakanani na ekuqaleni, kodwa uthando olungakanani owakhayo kude kube sekupheleni.
Olona thando lubalaseleyo luhlobo oluvusa umphefumlo luze lusenze sifikelele ngakumbi, olutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu luze luzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.
Uthando alukho malunga nokuba zingaphi iintsuku, iinyanga, okanye iminyaka enihlala kunye. Uthando malunga nendlela enithandana ngayo yonke imihla.
Ubudlelwane abugqibelelanga. Imfezeko asiyonjongo. Uthando luphela kukwamkela ukungafezeki nokukhula kunye.
Uthando lokwenene aluthethi ukuba ngoohlulwa; kuthetha ukwahlukana kwaye akukho nto iguqukayo.
Ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo bufuna ukuthandana ngamaxesha amaninzi, kodwa uhlala nomntu omnye.
Uthando asikokufumana umntu oza kuhlala naye; kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.
Ulwalamano olomeleleyo lufuna abantu ababini abakhetha ukuthandana nakwezo ntsuku xa besokola ukuthandana.
Uthando alubhekiseli kwindlela othi ‘Ndiyakuthanda’ ngayo, kodwa yindlela ongqina ngayo ukuba yinyaniso.
Uthando asikufumani umntu onokuhlala naye; kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.
Ulwalamano lufana nomyezo; bafuna ukuhoywa nokunyanyekelwa ukuze bakhule kwaye bachume.
Uthando alubhekiseli kwimpahla; imalunga noxabiso.
Ukuthandwa kakhulu ngomnye umntu kukunika amandla ngelixa ukuthanda umntu ngokunzulu kukunika isibindi.
Uthando aluyonto uyifumanayo. Uthando yinto ekufumanayo.
Olona lonwabo lukhulu ebomini kukweyiseka ukuba siyathandwa; sithandwa ngokwethu, okanye kunoko, sithandwa naphezu kwethu.
ungawugcina njani umthi ngamaxolo awonakeleyo
Uthando alukho malunga nokujongana, kodwa ukujonga kwicala elinye kunye.
Yintoni isicatshulwa sobudlelwane bokwenyani?
Ulwalamano lokwenene lolo lwakhelwa ekuthembaneni, ekuqondeni nasekuhlonelaneni. Lunxibelelwano oluhamba ngaphaya komtsalane womzimba kunye nokunxibelelana okungaphezulu. Iingcaphuno zobudlelwane bokwenyani zibamba undoqo wentsingiselo yokuba nonxibelelwano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo nomntu.
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ukuba ubudlelwane bokwenyani abukho malunga nokugqibelela okanye ukuhlala kuvuya. Kumalunga nokuba kukho omnye komnye kumahla ndinyuka, nixhasane amaphupha neminqweno, nokukwazi ukuthetha ngokuphandle nangokunyaniseka.
'Ulwalamano lokwenene ngabantu ababini abangafezekanga abangafuniyo ukunikezela.' -Akwaziwa
Esi sicatshulwa sibalaselisa ukubaluleka kokwamkela iziphene kunye nokungafezeki komnye nomnye. Kubudlelwane bokwenyani, omabini amaqabane azimisele ukusebenza ngeeyantlukwano zabo kwaye akhule kunye.
'Ulwalamano olomeleleyo lufuna ukuba nithandane nakwezo zihlandlo xa nisokola ukuthandana.' -Akwaziwa
Esi sicatshulwa sigxininisa ukuba uthando lokwenene lukhetho. Imalunga nokukhetha ukuthanda kunye nokuxhasa iqabane lakho, nokuba amaxesha anzima. Imalunga nokufumana amandla okusebenza kwiingxabano kunye nokufumana indawo efanayo.
'Ubudlelwane bokwenyani kuxa ninokuxelelana nantoni na nayo yonke into. Akukho zimfihlo, akukho buxoki.' -Akwaziwa
Ukunyaniseka nokungafihli nto kubalulekile kubudlelwane bokwenyani. Kumalunga nokukwazi ukuthemba iqabane lakho kunye nokwazi ukuba unokuzityand’ igila kuye ngaphandle koloyiko lokugwetywa okanye ukungcatshwa.
'Ulwalamano lokwenene ngumntu owamkelayo ikamva lakho, oxhasa ikamva lakho, nokukhuthaza ikamva lakho.' -Akwaziwa
Ubudlelwane bokwenyani bakhelwe ekwamkeleni nakwinkxaso. Imalunga nokuwola izinto ezidlulileyo zomnye nomnye, ukubakho ebomini bomnye nomnye, nokukhuthazana ukuba bakhule kwaye bafezekise iinjongo zabo.
Ukuqukumbela, izicatshulwa zobudlelwane bokwenyani zisikhumbuza ukuba uqhagamshelo lokwenyani luhamba ngaphaya kobunzulu. Kukwamkelana iziphoso zomnye, ukukhetha uthando nangamaxesha anzima, ukunyaniseka nokungafihli, nokuxhasana amaphupha omnye komnye. Ezi zicatshulwa ziyasikhuthaza ukuba sizabalazele ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo nobanelisayo obusekwe kwintembeko, intlonipho nokuqonda.
Ukubhiyozela uMtshato: Ubulumko kunye noburharha kwiiQuotes
Umtshato luhambo oluhle oluzaliswe luthando, ukuhleka, nokukhula. Lumanyano lwemiphefumlo emibini ethembisa ukuxhasana nokuxabisana ebunzimeni nasebubini. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezithatha ubulumko kunye noburharha bomtshato:
- 'Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana kaninzi, kusoloko kukho umntu omnye.' - uMignon McLaughlin
- 'Umtshato awungomthendeleko womoya kuphela, ukwakhumbula nokukhupha inkunkuma.' - Joyce Brothers
- 'Imfihlo yomtshato owonwabileyo kukuba unokuhlala ngoxolo nomntu ongaphakathi kweendonga ezine, ukuba wanelisekile kuba lowo umthandayo ekufuphi kuwe, mhlawumbi uphezulu okanye uphantsi, okanye kwigumbi elinye, kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba ukufudumala. ukuba awufumani rhoqo kakhulu, ngoko luthando.' - Bruce Forsyth
- 'Umtshato luloyiso lwentelekelelo phezu kobukrelekrele. Umtshato wesibini luloyiso lwethemba phezu kwamava.' -Oscar Wilde
- 'Umtshato omkhulu awukho xa 'isibini esigqibeleleyo' sidibana. Kuxa isibini esingafezekanga sifunda ukunandipha ukungavisisani kwaso.' -Dave Meurer
- 'Umtshato ufana nomdlalo wechess, ngaphandle kokuba ibhodi ihamba ngamanzi, iziqwenga zenziwe ngumsi, kwaye akukho ntshukumo oyenzayo iya kuba nayiphi na isiphumo kwisiphumo.' -UJerry Seinfeld
- 'Umtshato ohlala ixesha elide wakhiwa ngabantu ababini abakholelwayo - nabaphila ngokuvisisana nesithembiso esinyanisekileyo abasenzayo.' -Darlene Schacht
- 'Umtshato ufumana indawo yokulala nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni rhoqo ebusuku evekini.' - UChristie Cook
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza ngobuhle kunye nobunzima bomtshato. Bathimba ubulumko bobudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide kunye nokuhlekisa okuza kunye nokuhamba kunye nobomi kunye. Nokuba ubhiyozela owakho umtshato okanye ufuna inkuthazo, ezi zicatshulwa ziqinisekile ukuba ziyakwenza ukuba uxabise ulonwabo kunye nemingeni yobomi bomtshato.
Ngawaphi amazwi obulumko emtshatweni?
Umtshato luhambo oluhle olufuna uthando, ukuzinikela, nokuqonda. Endleleni, kuya kubakho amahla-ndinyuka, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula amazwi obulumko anokunceda ukomeleza ulwalamano lwenu. Nazi ezimbalwa:
1. 'Uthando alukho malunga nokuba zingaphi iintsuku, iinyanga okanye iminyaka enikunye ngayo. Uthando lumalunga nendlela enithandana ngayo yonke imihla.' -Akwaziwa
2. 'Umtshato awusosibizo; sisenzi. Asiyonto uyifumanayo. Yinto oyenzayo. Yindlela othanda ngayo iqabane lakho yonke imihla.' -uBarbara De Angelis
3. 'Umtshato omkhulu awukho xa 'isibini esigqibeleleyo' sidibana. Kuxa isibini esingafezekanga sifunda ukunandipha ukungavisisani kwaso.' -Dave Meurer
4. 'Eyona mitshato mikhulu yakhiwe phezu kwentsebenziswano, intlonipho, ukuncomana, kunye nenxalenye engapheliyo yothando nobubele.' -Fawn Weaver
5. 'Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana kaninzi, kusoloko kukho umntu omnye.' - uMignon McLaughlin
6. 'Imfihlo yomtshato owonwabileyo kukuba unoxolo nomntu ongaphakathi kwendonga ezine, ukuba wonelisekile kuba lowo umthandayo ekufuphi kuwe, nokuba uphezulu okanye uphantsi, okanye kwigumbi elinye, kwaye uziva. obo bushushu ungabufumani rhoqo, luthando olu.' - Bruce Forsyth
7. 'Umtshato owomeleleyo ufuna abantu ababini abakhetha ukuthandana kwanangeentsuku abasokola ngazo ukuthandana.' -Dave Willis
8. 'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo hlobo oluvuselela umphefumlo luze lusenze sifikelele okungakumbi, olutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu luze luzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.' - Nicholas Sparks
9. 'Umtshato owonwabileyo luhambo lokungazingci apho ulonwabo lomnye umntu lubalulekile kolwakho.' - UGeorge Burns
10. 'Umtshato asikokufumana umntu onokuhlala naye; kukufumana umntu ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe.' -Akwaziwa
Khumbula, la mazwi obulumko enzelwe ukukukhuthaza kwaye akhokele kuhambo lwakho lomtshato. Bamkele, ulixabise iqabane lakho, kwaye uhlale ukhetha uthando.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esigqibeleleyo somtshato?
Umtshato ogqibeleleyo awuyontsomi, bubudlelwane obakhelwe phezu kothando, ukuthembana, nokuvumelana. Kumalunga nokuxhasana amaphupha omnye nomnye nokwamkela iimpazamo zomnye. Imalunga nokukhula kunye kwaye ninganikezeli omnye komnye.
Umtshato awubhekiseli ekufumaneni umntu ofezekileyo, kodwa ngokuthanda umntu ongafezekanga ngokugqibeleleyo. Kungokwamkela iiyantlukwano zomnye kunye nokubhiyozela amandla omnye komnye. Imalunga nokuba lilitye lomnye ngexesha lesaqhwithi kunye ne-cheerleader yomnye ngexesha loloyiso.
Umtshato ofezekileyo awusoloko ulula, kodwa kuwufanele umgudu. Kukukhetha ukuthandana yonke imihla, nokuba izinto ziba nzima. Kumalunga nokuba ngumhlobo osenyongweni omnye komnye, umntu ozithembayo kunye nesithandwa sakhe. Kumalunga nokudala ikhaya elizaliswe kukuhleka, ukuqonda, kunye nothando olungagungqiyo.
Kumtshato ofezekileyo, izibini zincokola ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka. Baphulaphula ngenyameko yaye bathetha ngobubele. Bazixabisa izimvo zomnye yaye bayalalanisa xa kuyimfuneko. Baxhasa amaphupha omnye nomnye kwaye bakhuthaza ukukhula komntu.
Khumbula, umtshato ogqibeleleyo awuthethi ngokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo, kodwa malunga nokuba ngumntu olungileyo. Imalunga nokuphatha iqabane lakho ngentlonipho, ububele, nothando. Kumalunga nokwenza umzamo wokukhulisa ubudlelwane kunye nokwenza omnye nomnye azive exabisekile kwaye exatyisiwe.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna isicatshulwa esigqibeleleyo somtshato, khumbula ukuba umtshato ogqibeleleyo awukho malunga nokugqibelela, kodwa ngothando, ukuzinikela, kunye nokuzimisela ukukhula kunye nokufunda kunye.
Yeyiphi eyona quote yomtshato?
Imitshato lixesha lothando, ulonwabo, kunye nemibhiyozo. Lusuku olukhethekileyo apho abantu ababini badibana khona ukuze baqalise uhambo oluhle lothando nobuqabane. Ukufumana isicatshulwa esifanelekileyo sokuthatha undoqo wesi siganeko sibalulekileyo kunokuba ngumngeni, kodwa nantsi enye ehlanganisa kakuhle umoya womtshato:
'Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana kaninzi, kusoloko kukho umntu omnye.' - uMignon McLaughlin
Esi sicaphulo sikaMignon McLaughlin sigxininisa ukubaluleka kokuhlala sifumanisa kwaye sikhulisa uthando emtshatweni. Isikhumbuza ukuba uthando alukho umcimbi wexesha elinye kodwa uhambo oluqhubekayo olufuna umgudu, ukuzinikela, kunye nokuzimisela ukuthandana neqabane lakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Imitshato ayibhekiseli nje kumsitho nombhiyozo; ziphawula isiqalo sokuzinikela ubomi bonke omnye komnye. Esi sicatshulwa sisebenza njengesikhumbuzo esihle sokuba isitshixo somtshato ophumelelayo silele ekukwazini ukubona ubuhle, ixabiso, kunye namandla kwiqabane lakho, nangamaxesha anzima.
Ke, nokuba ujonge isicatshulwa esizofakwa kwizifungo zakho zomtshato okanye ukwabelana nesibini esisanda kutshata, esi sicaphulo sikaMignon McLaughlin lolona khetho lubalaseleyo. Iquka umongo womtshato nothando nokuzinikela okufunekayo ukwakha umtshato owomeleleyo nohlala ixesha elide.
Khumbula ukuba, uthando aluyondawo yokuya kuyo; luhambo olufanele ukuxatyiswa kwinqanaba ngalinye lendlela.
Amandla oQhagamshelwano: Iingcaphuno zoBudlelwane obukhuthazayo
Ubudlelwane bakhelwe phezu kwesiseko soqhagamshelwano. Kungalo nxibelelwano apho uthando luya kuchuma kwaye lukhule. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa ezikhuthazayo ezibhiyozela amandla onxibelelwano kubudlelwane:
'Ulwalamano oluqinileyo phakathi kweentliziyo ezimbini lunokumelana naso nasiphi na isiphango.' | 'Phambi koqhagamshelwano lokwenene, umgama linani nje.' |
'Ubunzulu bonxibelelwano lwethu bumisela amandla obudlelwane bethu.' | 'Unxibelelwano sisitshixo esivula umnyango wothando.' |
'Uthando aluyomvakalelo nje, lunxibelelwano olunzulu lwemiphefumlo.' | 'Xa iintliziyo ezimbini zidityanisiwe, zibetha njengenye.' |
'Uqhagamshelwano lilaphu elidibanisa imiphefumlo emibini.' | 'Uqhagamshelwano oluqinileyo luvumela ukuba siqondane ngaphandle kwamagama.' |
Ezi zicatshulwa zisikhumbuza amandla onxibelelwano ekukhuliseni nasekomelezeni ubudlelwane bethu. Ngamana bangakukhuthaza ukuba uxabise kwaye uhlakulele unxibelelwano onalo nabo ubathandayo.
Yintoni isicatshulwa esikhuthazayo malunga noqhagamshelwano?
2. 'Amandla obudlelwane alele kuqhagamshelwano phakathi kwemiphefumlo emibini, ukukwazi ukuqonda kunye nokuxhasana phakathi kobunzima kunye nobunzima.' -Akwaziwa
3. 'Ehlabathini apho wonke umntu uqhagamshelwe, ngumgangatho woqhagamshelwano lwethu olubalulekileyo ngokwenene.' -Akwaziwa
4. 'Uthando lolona hlobo lonxibelelwano, olubopha iintliziyo kunye nemiphefumlo kunye kwiqhina elidlula ixesha kunye nomgama.' -Akwaziwa
5. 'Uqhagamshelwano lokwenene alukho nje ngokubakho ngokomzimba, kodwa malunga nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo nabantu esibathandayo.' -Akwaziwa
6. 'Ubuhle bokunxibelelana bukumava ekwabelwana ngawo, ukuhleka, iinyembezi, kunye namaxesha okwenza ubomi bube luncedo.' -Akwaziwa
7. 'Sonke siyimisonto kubugcisa bobomi, esidityanisiweyo kwaye silukiweyo ukwenza uyilo oluhle noluntsokothileyo.' -Akwaziwa
8. 'Amandla okwenene oqhagamshelwano alele ekukwazini ukudala utshintsho oluhle kunye nokwenza umehluko ebomini babanye.' -Akwaziwa
9. 'Uqhagamshelwano alukho nje ekufumaneni izinto esivumelana ngazo, kodwa malunga nokwamkela iyantlukwano yethu kunye nokubhiyozela iyantlukwano eyenza ukuba sibe sodwa.' -Akwaziwa
10. 'Kwihlabathi apho iteknoloji isidibanisa ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili, masingakulibali ukubaluleka koqhagamshelwano lokwenene lomntu kunye namandla okuphilisa, ukuvuselela, nokuguqula ubomi.' -Akwaziwa
Yintoni isicatshulwa esinamandla malunga nobudlelwane?
Ubudlelwane bufana nomdaniso. Ngamanye amaxesha uyakhokela, ngamanye amaxesha uyalandela. Kodwa xa ufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, udala imvisiswano entle.
Uthando alukho malunga nokufumana umntu ofezekileyo, kodwa malunga nokubona umntu ongafezekanga ngokugqibeleleyo.
Uthando lokwenene alukho malunga nokungahlulwa; imalunga nokufumana ulonwabo lwakho naxa nohlukene.
Kubudlelwane obuqinileyo, amaqabane omabini aphakamisa omnye kwaye angaze ahlise omnye phantsi.
Ukuthembana sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano olomeleleyo. Ngaphandle kwayo, yonke enye into iyawohloka.
Ulwalamano olomeleleyo lwakhelwe phezu kwesiseko sothando, intlonipho nokunxibelelana ngokuphandle.
Uthando alukho malunga nokuba nezinto, lumalunga nokuxabisa.
Obona budlelwane bugqwesileyo bobo apho unokuba nguwe kwaye usathandwa ngokuba ungubani.
Ubudlelwane obunempilo abukho malunga nokugqibelela, kodwa malunga nokukhula nokuqonda. Imalunga nokufunda kunye nokuvela kunye.
Uhambo Ndawonye: Amagama akhuthazayo kwizibini
Ukuqalisa uhambo lobomi kunye neqabane lakho ngamava amahle nanelisayo. Luhambo oluzaliswe luthando, uvuyo, kunye nemiceli mngeni eyenza kuphela iqhina lakho lomelele. Ngamaxesha olonwabo namaxesha obunzima, kubalulekile ukukhuthazana nokuxhasana. Nanga amagama akhuthazayo ukukunceda uhambe kunye kolu hambo:
- 'Uthando alubhekiseli ekufumaneni umntu ofezekileyo, kodwa ukufunda ukubona umntu ongafezekanga ngokugqibeleleyo.' - USam Keen
- 'Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana kaninzi, kusoloko kukho umntu omnye.' - uMignon McLaughlin
- 'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo luvusa umphefumlo luze lusenze sifikelele okungakumbi, olutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu luze luzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.' - Nicholas Sparks
- 'Ekugqibeleni, uthando oluthathayo lulingana nothando olwenzayo.' - Ayinabhithi
- 'Umtshato owomeleleyo ufuna abantu ababini abakhetha ukuthandana kwanangezo mini xa kunzima ukuthandana.' -Dave Willis
Khumbula, uhambo ngalunye lwesibini lwahlukile, kwaye kubalulekile ukuxabisa nokuxabisa uthando nenkxaso eninayo omnye komnye. Yamkela imiceli mngeni, bhiyozela uloyiso, kwaye uhlale ukhetha uthando. Kunye, ninokoyisa nantoni na eza ngendlela yenu kwaye nidale iqhina lobomi elizaliswe lulonwabo nokwaneliseka.
Uthini umyalezo okhuthazayo kumaqabane?
Kwihlabathi eligcwele iziphazamiso kunye nemingeni, kubalulekile ukuba izibini zihlale zixhunyiwe kwaye ziphefumlelwe. Umyalezo olula kodwa onamandla unokusebenza njengesikhumbuzo sothando nokuzibophelela ekwabelwana ngako phakathi kwabantu ababini. Nantsi eminye imiyalezo ekhuthazayo kumaqabane:
| 1. | 'Uthando alukho malunga nokuba zingaphi iintsuku, iinyanga okanye iminyaka enikunye ngayo. Uthando lumalunga nendlela enithandana ngayo yonke imihla.' |
| 2. | 'Phambi kothando, sifunda ukuba nomonde, ukuqonda nokuxolela. Uthando lunamandla okuphilisa nawokutshintsha.' |
| 3. | 'Lixabise ixesha eninalo kunye, kuba ekugqibeleni, lawo ngawona mathuba abaluleke kakhulu.' |
| 4. | 'Ulwalamano olomeleleyo lufuna ukukhetha ukuthandana kwanangezo ntsuku xa kunzima ukuthanda omnye nomnye.' |
| 5. | 'Olona thando lubalaseleyo lolo luvusa umphefumlo luze lusenze sifikelele okungakumbi, olutyala umlilo ezintliziyweni zethu luze luzise uxolo ezingqondweni zethu.' |
| 6. | 'Uthando alubhekiseli ekufumaneni umntu ofezekileyo, kodwa lumalunga nokubona umntu ongafezekanga ngokugqibeleleyo.' |
| 7. | 'Umtshato ophumelelayo awubangelwa kukufumana umntu ofanelekileyo, kodwa kukuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo.' |
| 8. | 'Obona budlelwane bukhulu bakhelwe phezu kwesiseko sokuthembana, uthando nenkxaso.' |
| 9. | 'Bonke ubudlelwane buhamba ngamahla ndinyuka. Olona vavanyo lokwenene lothando lusekuhlaleni uzibophelele nasekusebenzeni imingeni kunye.' |
| 10. | 'Uthando luhambo olungcono xa luhamba ngesandla. Sikunye, akukho nto ningenakuyoyisa.' |
Le miyalezo ikhuthazayo isebenza njengesikhumbuzo kwizibini ukuba uthando lukhetho, ukuzinikela, kunye nohambo. Bakhuthaza izibini ukuba zihlale zinxibelelene, zixhasane, kwaye zihlangabezane nemicelimngeni ezayo. Nokuba kungokwamazwi okanye ngezenzo, ukubonakalisa uthando noxabiso omnye komnye kubalulekile kulwalamano olomeleleyo nolukhulisayo.
Yiyiphi isicatshulwa esilungileyo malunga nokubambisana?
'Ukubumbana akukhona nje ukubakho ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa nangokudityaniswa ngokweemvakalelo.'
'Ngokumanyeneyo, sifumana amandla, inkxaso, kunye nothando olungenamiqathango.'
'Ukumanyana sisitshixo esivula umnyango wolonwabo nolwaneliseko.'
'Xa sima kunye, sinokuloyisa naluphi na ucelomngeni oluvelayo.'
'Ukumanyana sisiseko okwakhiwa kuso ulwalamano oluhlala luhleli.'
'Ubunye bokwenyani kuxa iintliziyo ezimbini zibetha njengenye.'
'Ukubambisana asikokungabikho kongquzulwano, kodwa kukulungela ukusebenza kunye.'
'Simanyene, sifumanisa ubuhle bokwabelana ngolonwabo kunye neentsizi zobomi.'
'Ukumanyana yiglu egcina ubudlelwane bomelele kwaye bomelele.'
'Ukumanyana yeyona mbonakaliso yothando nomanyano.'
Yintoni isicatshulwa sobudlelwane bokuhamba?
Ukuhamba kunye kunokusondeza isibini, kudale iinkumbulo ezingalibalekiyo kuze komeleze ubuhlobo baso. Nantsi isicatshulwa sobudlelwane bokuhamba:
'I-Adventure ilindile, kwaye kunye siya kuhlola ihlabathi.'
Esi sicatshulwa sigxininisa uchulumanco kunye novakalelo lokumanyana oluza nokuqalisa izinto ezintsha njengesibini. Iqaqambisa umbono wokuhlangabezana nehlabathi kunye, ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, kunye nokudala iinkumbulo ezingapheliyo.
Xa uhamba neqabane lakho, unethuba lokufunda kunye nokukhula kunye, ukujongana nemingeni, kunye nokwamkela amava amatsha ecaleni. Lithuba lokudala unxibelelwano olunzulu kwaye womeleze ubudlelwane bakho.
Ke, pakisha iibhegi zakho, bamba izandla, kwaye uvumele uhambo luqale!
Yintoni isicatshulwa malunga nokwabelana ngeeadventure kunye?
'Ubomi buyihambo enzima okanye abukho kwaphela.'
- uHelen Keller
'Ukuzonwabisa kuluncedo ngokwako.'
- Amelia Earhart
'Ekugqibeleni, sizisola kuphela ngamathuba esingawathathanga.'
- Lewis Carroll
'Olona lonwabo lukhulu onokuluthatha kukuphila ubomi bamaphupha akho.'
- Oprah Winfrey
'Ihlabathi yincwadi, yaye abo bangahambiyo bafunda iphepha kuphela.'
-Saint Augustine
'Ikamva lilindelwe.'
-Akwaziwa
'Ubomi buyinto emnandi, yiba nako.'
- Umama uTeresa
Umbuzo kunye nempendulo:
Ndingalukhulisa njani uthando kubudlelwane bam?
Ungakhulisa uthando kubudlelwane bakho ngokuvakalisa rhoqo uthando lwakho kunye nokuxabisa iqabane lakho, nichithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, kwaye nimamelane ngenkuthalo.
Ndingalukhulisa njani uthando kubudlelwane bam?
Ukukhulisa uthando kubudlelwane bakho, ungazama ukubonisa uthando lwakho kunye nokuxabisa iqabane lakho rhoqo, nichithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, nibonise uthando, kwaye nimamelane ngenkuthalo. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukunxibelelana ngokuphandle nangokunyaniseka, ukuxhasana iinjongo kunye namaphupha omnye komnye, kwaye wenze iinzame zokugcina uthando luphila.
