85 IiNtetho zaSisi

Intetho malunga nabantakwenu ibonisa indlela abathandana ngayo, abazondanayo, abahlekisa ngayo, kunye nendlela abadibana ngayo. Umtshato okhethekileyo awunakuphikwa. Mhlawumbi ujonge imemo entle ukuba ubhale kwileta yemvakalelo, okanye mhlawumbi ufuna amagqabantshintshi ekhadi lakho lokuzalwa lomntakwenu kulo nyaka? Nokuba ungaziphi na izizathu, kuhlala kumnandi ukufunda ezi ntlobo zezicatshulwa kunye neentetho.

IiNtetho zoMzalwana oSondayo

Ngaba ufuna into yokubonisa ukuba uyabaxabisa kwaye uyabathanda kangakanani abazalwana noodade bosapho lwakho? Ezi ntetho zomntakwethu zivakalelwa zenza kanye loo nto.

Abazalwana kunye noodade ngamaqhawe amakhulu omnye nomnye anamandla amakhulu okuphilisa; ziqwalasele njengenhlanhla yokuba nazo.
Njengeswekile kunye nesiqholo, abantakwenu benza izinto engaphezulu intle.
Abahlobo beza bahambe, kodwa abantakwethu (oodade) bona ngonaphakade .
Kulungile ukuthembela kubantakwenu ngexesha lokudinga, bobabini banamagxa omeleleyo kwaye athambileyo okukhala kuwo.
Abantakwenu bayayazi indlela yokutyhala amaqhosha omnye komnye, kodwa bayakwazi ukulungisa izinto ngokukhawuleza kunaye nabani na.
Udade wakho (umzalwana) yingelosi yakho yokwenyani, awunakuzibona (amaphiko) akhe.

Amanqaku afanelekileyo

Iimpawu ezihlekisayo malunga nabantwana bakowenu
Amagama angama-85 amaNtombazana anentsingiselo aqala ngo-M
Ama-80 + achukumisayo eKrisimesi oSapho

Amabinzana ahlekisayo eSling

Abanye abantakwenu basondele, kodwa mhlawumbi abanabo obo budy ubudlelwane nabanye abazalwana noodade abanabo. Yongeza inqaku lokuhamba kwikhadi lakho elilandelayo lomntwana wakho omthandayo.

Abantakwabo babekwa kulo Mhlaba ukuba bathande, bonwabise kwaye bacaphukisane. Inxalenye yeemfuno zomsebenzi.
Ukuba ibingenguwe, ngendingenamntu usola iimpazamo zam.
Ngamanye amaxesha amnandi, ngamanye amaxesha amuncu, unokuhlala uthembele kubantakwenu noodadewenu ukuba bakunike okwahlukileyo.
Nguwe kuphela owaziyo kwaye ugcine zonke iimfihlo zam, kuba ukuba awuyazi, ndiza kuyixela eyakho.
Ukwabelana, ndithetha ukuba, izinto zomnye nomnye yeyona nto ilungileyo malunga nokuba nomntakwenu (udade).
Ngabantakwabo kuphela abaziyo uloyiko lokufowuna 'umpu' wokugqibela, ukubona ukuba ngubani ofumana isihlalo semoto ngaphambili.
Ubhuti wam nguye yedwa ozondixelela xa isinxibo sindenza ndibonakale ndityebile. Nokuba ayenzi njalo!

Amabinzana ngobuhlobo babantwana

Abantakwenu noodadewenu mhlawumbi ngabona bahlobo bakho basondeleyo. Qinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba ngezi mvakalelo zikhawulezayo.
Xa uhleka, nam ndiza kuhleka, kwaye xa ulila, ndiya kukhala nawe kuba singabahlobo abakhulu.
Abazali bethu basenza thina siblings, kodwa sikhetha ukuba ngabahlobo abasenyongweni.
Ubuhlobo kunye nokunyaniseka kwethu akukho midakuba singoodade(abazalwana).
Ngenxa yokuba ungumhlobo wam kunye nomntakwethu (dade) uyazi ukuba ungawenza njani amaxesha angcono kwaye abe nzima kube lula.
Xa kubonakala ngathi lonke ithemba lilahlekile, ungasoloko ujonge kubantakwenu ukuba ube ngumhlobo.
Bendihlala ndingakwazisi ukuba ungumhlobo olungileyo xa wawusakhula, kodwa ndikubona kungekuphela njengosisi wam, kodwa oyena mhlobo wam usenyongweni ngoku.

Intetho Ngamawele

Yamkela esinye isiqingatha sakho kunye nezi zicaphuno ezimnandi kwi-twindom.

Singafana ngaphandle, kodwa wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ndim okrelekrele.
Amawele aphindaphindiwe uyolo kwaye aphindaphinda ingxaki!
Ukusikelelwa ngewele elifanayo kufana nokuba nesidanga xa kuvela imeko kaxakeka.
Amawele enza izinto kabini ngokulunga.
Ukuba newele yinto emsulwa yethamsanqa, ke ukuba awuzange uzibone unethamsanqa ngaphambili, ngoku lixesha lokwenza njalo!
Amawele afana neetapile zetapile, awunakuba nayo enye.

IiNtetho zesiqingatha-Sibling

Ngamanye amaxesha abantakwenu abasondele kuwe basondele kunezalamane zegazi.

Ihafu-siblings yenza usapho luphelele.
Ayisiyo yegazi, kodwa ibotshelelwe enye kwenye ngokufanayo.
Unokuba ngumntakwabo mntakwabo, kodwa kubo, wenza iintliziyo zabo igcwele .
Kanye kwithuba elithile, siba nethamsanqa kunye nesiqingatha-sibling singene kwihlabathi lethu, lisenza sizive siphelele.
Kwimeko apho ndingaze ndifune khona ukhuphelo, enkosi kuThixo ndinawe!
Isiqingatha sabantakwethu siza kuluncedo. Musa ukuwathatha lula.

Iingcaphuno ezidumileyo kunye neziqendu malunga nabantwana bakowenu

Ngamanye amaxesha, abanye abantu banokubeka iimvakalelo zakho malunga nomntakwenu okanye udadewenu ngamagama angcono kunawe.

'Amandla omntakwenu owazi yonke into ngawe, owazi usapho okhulele kulo, ophethe isiqingatha semfuzo yakho - ayikho into enjalo.' - UJeffrey Kluger
'Khange siqonde ukuba senza iinkumbulo, sisazi nje ukuba siyonwaba.' - uwinnie ipooh
'Abantakwethu ngabantu esiqhelisela kubo, abantu abasifundisa ngokulunga nentsebenziswano nobubele nokukhathalela, amaxesha amaninzi indlela enzima.' - Pamela Dugdale
'Kubudlelwane obuninzi phakathi kwabantakwethu, inqanaba lempixano linokuphakama, kodwa amaxesha okonwaba ebaleni nasemva komgangatho ongaphezulu kokulinganisa.' - UPo Bronson kunye no-Ashley Merryman
'Abantakwenu bazi ngcono kunaye nabani na. Basenokungasoloko bekuncoma, kodwa baya kusoloko benomdla kakhulu kuwe. ' - UGqr Terri Apter
Ukujongana namalungu osapho akholwayo kakhulu
'Umntakwenu inokuba nguye yedwa ogcina isazisi, ekuphela komntu onezitshixo zomntu ongaphazanyiswanga, obaluleke ngakumbi kuye.' - UMarian Sandmaier
'Usapho yenye yezinto zobugcisa zendalo.' - UGeorge Santayana
Ubudlelwane babantakwenu-kunye neepesenti ezingama-80 zabantu baseMelika ubuncinci umtshato ophelileyo, basinda ukusweleka kwabazali, baphinde bavuke emva kwengxabano eziya kuthi zitshone nabuphi na ubuhlobo. Bayachuma kwiwaka lokuzalwa kunye nomgama, imfudumalo, ukuthembeka kunye nokungathembani. ' - UErica E. Goode
'Ubudlelwane nabantakwenu busonjululwe ngokungalunganga kwii-psyche zethu.' - Abantakwabo kuPhuhliso

Izilinganiso zothando zabantwana

Yazisa umntakwenu ukuba uthanda kangakanani okanye yena uyathandwa ngenye yezi ngcaphuno.

'Ukuba ngumzalwana wakhe wokwenyani, ndiziva ndihlala emthunzini wakhe, kodwa andikaze ndibenaye, kwaye andikabi nawo ngoku. Ndihlala ekukhanyeni kwakhe. ' - UMichael Morpurgo
Ndihlala ndithatha umntakwethu omncinci. Wayemncinci kakhulu kwaye engenakuzikhusela kwaye wayedinga udade omkhulu ukuba amjonge. Ndiya kuyenza loo nto kude kube ngumhla wokufa kwam kwaye mhlawumbi nasemva koko. ' - Sally Umzobi
'Oyena mntu uhlekisayo ndimaziyo ngumntakwethu uBob. Wayeyeyona mpembelelo inkulu ekukhuleni kwam. ' - URicky Gervais
'Usisi ngumntu onokuhlala uthembele kuye, nokuba awazi ngelo xesha.' - Sally Umzobi
'Andizange ndibenodade wethu, kodwa ndinabahlobo abangoodade wethu bokwenene, nokuba asizizalamane zegazi.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwethu banjengeoyile neviniga, kodwa bebesoloko bekho kum. Ngale ndlela ziyafana! ' - Sally Umzobi
Ngokwenyani andazi ukuba abantu banokuhamba njani ebomini ngaphandle kodade, omdala okanye omncinci. Uhlala undiphefumlela kwaye undikhokele kumaxesha am anzima. ' - UJordani Van Dootingh
'Udadewethu undibonisile ukuba ndingathanda ukuba ngumama onjani.' - Daisy
'Ndinikezela eli nqaku kudade wethu omdala omhle, uCathy, ondifundise okuninzi ngamazwi akhe nangomzekelo wakhe. '- UDan Coughlin

Iimpawu zoMlingane oMncinci

Ayizizo zonke iikowuti ezimele ukuba zezonwabisayo okanye ezinemvakalelo.

'Eyona nto intle malunga nokuba nabakhuluwa bakho abakhulu uhlala unaye umntu okwenzela into.' - UChloe uGrace Moretz
'Abantakwethu abafani, kodwa ngamnye ujongeka njengam.' - Sally Umzobi
'Ndingadibanisa ubudlelwane bam nomntakwethu omdala ngokumbulisa nanini na xa ebuya ekhaya evela kwibhola ekhatywayo kwaye bendiya kuba ndisebenzisa izifundo zam zepiyano. Wayememeza ngomculo, 'Hayi, Mozart! Wenza kanjani?' -Umzobi uSally
'Kwintsapho emanyeneyo, abazala bafana nabantakwenu, ngaphandle kokuba bakuphathe kakuhle xa ungabantwana.' - Sally Umzobi
'Kwakungekho kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo apho mna nomkhuluwa wam saba ngabahlobo bokwenyani kwaye siza kuphinda sithandane. Ukusukela ngoko, besingabahlobo abakhulu. - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwenu babonakala bebambene njengamaankile ajikeleze amaqatha abo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwenu bayazazi ezona mpazamo zakho, kodwa bayakuthanda kwaye bazithethelele.' - Sally Umzobi
'Yeyiphi into ebaluleke kakhulu kwimiphefumlo yabantu ngaphandle kokuziva ukuba idityanisiwe ebomini - ukuba kunye nezinye iinkumbulo ezingathethekiyo.' - UGeorge Eliot
'Abantakwenu bathembekile ngokungagqibekanga kuba banani lonke ixesha. Ayikhe ithi qatha ezingqondweni zabo ukuba ingakukukhuseli. ' - Sally Umzobi

Iimpawu ezihlekisayo zabantwana

Hlala usisidenge ngezi ngcaphuno zihlekisayo zomntakwenu okanye udadewenu.

Uyenza njani into entsha yebhotile yewayini

'Awuhlalanga de waphosa ubunzima bomzimba wakho ngasemnyango wegumbi lakho lokulala ukunqanda umntakwenu ukuba ebe enye yeekhasethi zakho zekhasethi.' - UChristine Burke
'Ndiyazi ukuba umntakwethu omdala sele ekhulile xa engazange andibethe ngengalo xa endidlula eholweni.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwethu babekwiqela lebhola ekhatywayo lesikolo esiphakamileyo ke, omnye wabo wayehlala elwa nokuba kwakungekho umdlalo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Imidlalo yeBhodi ivelisa ezona mbi kubantakwabo, ngakumbi xa bengazobi Phuma kwiKhadi lasimahla laseJele emva koko umhlaba ePark Indawo naseBhodiwalk! - Sally Umzobi
Ndiyancuma kuba ungubhuti wam. Ndiyayihleka kuba akukho nto unokuyenza ngayo. ' - Ayaziwa

Iingcaphuno zesiqingatha-Sibling

Abantakwabo sibini bathetha ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo.

'Umntwana wakowenu akahlukanga kuwe. Banembali yosapho enomdla ngakumbi. Ewe, kubo unembali yosapho enomdla ngakumbi. ' - Sally Umzobi
Umntakwenu unika into ongenayo, kwaye ubanika isiqingatha sezinto abangenazo. Ke, kunye iziqingatha zakho ezibini ezahlukileyo zenza konke okukubophelelayo njengosapho '-uSally Painter
'Ukuba unesiqingatha-mntakwenu, zibale njengenhlanhla, abanye abantu abanabo abantakwabo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwabo abantakwabo babelana ngeziqingatha zabo ezilungileyo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwabantakwenu banethuba elingaphezulu kwabanye abantakwenu. Kufuneka bancintisane kuphela nomzali omnye, besazi ukuba omnye umzali ngowabo! ' - Sally Umzobi

Amanqanaba eSiqu-sibling

Iintsapho ezihlanganisiweyoKuthetha ukuba abantakwenu abathandanayo baqheleke ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Bahloniphe ngezi ngcaphuno:

'Umntakwenu wenzala linyathelo elinye elikhulu ekukhuleni ebomini, kunye.' - Sally Umzobi
'I-DNA inokuqinisekisa ubudlelwane begazi, kodwa ayinakuluthintela uthando phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu.' - Sally Umzobi
'Xa uvula intliziyo yakho kumntwana womntakwenu, uvula umhlaba omtsha wothando obungalindelekanga kunye nobuhlobo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Xa uzalelwa kusapho, abanakukhetha ngaphandle kokuba lusapho lwakho. Nangona kunjalo, umntakwenu ngu-stepyamkelwe kusapho, kuba bayakufuna. ' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwenu abathandekayo bakhula bexabisa iyantlukwano kwabanye abantu kwaye bayamkela loo mahluko ngezenzo zothando nokuxolela.' - Sally Umzobi
'Sukubeka ingqondo yakho ukuba uza kuthiya umntakwenu omtsha ngaphambi kokuba unike ithuba lokuba wenze into eya kubenza bakuthiye.' - Sally Umzobi

Amazwi Abantakwabo

Iindlela ezingakumbi zokuxelela umntakwenu indlela oziva ngayo zibandakanya la mazwi:

'Abantakwethu ngabantu esiqhelisela kubo, abantu abasifundisa ngokulunga nentsebenziswano nobubele nokukhathalela- amaxesha amaninzi indlela enzima.' - Pamela Dugdale
'Abantakwenu baya kuhlala bengabantakwenu. Ayinakuze itshintshe. ' - Sally Umzobi
'Ukuba ufuna ukwenza ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini kunye nezinto ezinkulu ebomini, awunakwenza nto wedwa. Awona maqela akho aphambili ngabahlobo bakho nabantakwenu. ' - UDeakak Chopra
Xa umntwana ekuphela kwakhe ezifumanisa ukuba akasenguye kwaye njengabantakwabo bazalwa kusapho, ngokukhawuleza ufunda ubugcisa bokuziqhelanisa notshintsho lobomi. -Umzobi uSally
'Abantakwenu kuphela kwabantu emhlabeni abaziyo ukuba kunjani ukukhuliswa ngale ndlela ubukuyo.' - UBetsy Cohen
'Baxabise abantakwenu ngendlela abakuthanda ngayo.' - Sally Umzobi
'Abantakwabo banxibelelene ngendlela engathandekiyo, kodwa abasoloko behlala benxibelelana xa bekhulile.' - Sally Umzobi
'Kwilizwe langaphandle sonke siyaluphala. Kodwa hayi kubazalwana noodade. Siyazana njengokuba sihlala sisazi. Siyazazi iintliziyo zabanye. Sabelana ngamahlaya osapho abucala. Sikhumbula iimbambano zosapho kunye neemfihlo, iintlungu zosapho kunye novuyo. Siphila ngaphandle kwexesha. ' - UClara Ortega
'Ukuba ufuna ukuqonda amandla ezinto ezenzeka kubantakwenu, jonga nje umdlalo obonisa uQhushululu losapho.' - Sally Umzobi
'Ukuba ndinabahlobo endingabathandiyo, ndinokubalahla. Ungawuqhawula umtshato umyeni okanye inkosikazi. Abantakwenu abanakuphepheka. ' - UGeoffrey Greif, Ph.D.
'Abantakwenu bahlala bekhumbula konke okungalunganga owabenza kona, kodwa bakhumbula nazo zonke iinceba zakho.' - Sally Umzobi

Isicatshulwa sayo yonke into

Nokuba unobuhlobo obusondeleyo nomntakwenu, okanye usasebenza, kubalulekile ukuba wazise umntakwenu ukuba ubathanda kangakanani. La mabinzana aphefumlelwe, kwaye alapha ukukunceda ufumane iijusi zakho zokuyila zihamba.