Ukuphulukana neqabane lobomi lixesha elizele lusizi kwiqabane elisaphilayo. Nika amagama ovelwano ngokushiywa ngumyeni kumhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho ukubaxhasa ngeli xesha.
Ukuba Utheni Xa Indoda Yomntu Esifa
Ukufumana ifayile ye-Amagama afanelekileyo okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwinixa umyeni wabo eswelekile unokuziva kunzima ngenene. Khangela imizekelo yokukukhokela kumagama afanelekileyo ovelwano kumhlobo, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu osebenza naye:
- Igama lomyeni likuthanda kakhulu. Xa wayethetha ngawe, amehlo akhe ayakhazimla kwaye wagqabhuka okomntu ofikisayo onenkwenkwezi! Ihlala iyifudumeza intliziyo yam. Uya kukhunjulwa ngokunzulu.
- Ukutshata kwakho negama lomyeni yenye bendisoloko ndiyithanda. Niyancedisana ngokugqibeleleyo. Ndiyaxolisa ngokusweleka kweqabane lakho kwaye ndilapha kuwe.
- Ukuphulukana kwegama lomyeni kushiya umngxunya kuzo zonke iintliziyo zethu. Uyimithandazo yam, namhlanje kwaye rhoqo. Nceda undazise ukuba kukho nantoni na endinokuyenza ukukuxhasa ngeli xesha.
- Igama lomyeni lithathe intwana yazo zonke iintliziyo zethu, kwaye uya kuhlala ekhunjulwa njengomntu onobubele nothando. Ndiyakuthanda kwaye ndilapha ngenxa yakho.
- Amagama asilele ukuchaza ukuba uyakuphulukana kangakanani nomyeni wakho. [Faka ubuntu bakhe] akulibaleki. Uya kuhlala ngonaphakade kwindawo endiyithandayo.
- Ndithuthuzeleke, Sihlobo sam, njengokuba usentlungwini yokuswelekelwa ngumyeni wakho. Igama lomyeni lilishiyile ilizwe lingwevu okoko waphumelela. Ngamana ungafumana uxolo ngexesha lakho.
- Igama lomyeni yayingumhlobo wokwenene kunye noyena mmelwane ulungileyo endinokumcela. Ilahleko yakho iviwa luluntu lonke. Ndilapha ngenxa yakho ukuba ufuna nantoni na.
- Umyeni wakho wayeyindoda entle kwaye ndifuna uyazi ukuba ndilapha ngenxa yakho ngeli xesha. Ndingathanda ukufowunela kwaye ndikhangele kunye nawe kamva namhlanje okanye kule veki ukuba ukhululekile xa usenza njalo.
- Umyeni wakho wayengumhlobo nomcebisi kum. Nceda undazise ukuba ndingakuxhasa njani ngeli xesha.
- Ngamana iinkumbulo zegama lomyeni zingahlala zikho entliziyweni yakho. Thatha ixesha elininzi njengoko ufuna ukulila kwaye uyazi ukuba ndilapha ngenxa yakho yonke le nkqubo.
- Kuluzuko kum ukubala wena kunye negama lomyeni njengabahlobo abathandekayo, ngokusondeleyo kangangoko ngaphandle kokuba lusapho. Ndazise into endinokuyenza ukukuxhasa ngoku.
- Ukusebenza nomyeni wakho yayiyeyona ndawo ibalaseleyo yomsebenzi wam. Uya kukhunjulwa kakhulu hayi ndim kuphela, kodwa sonke kwisebe.
- Nantoni na oyifunayo ngeli xesha, ndilapha kuwe. Nditsalele umnxeba okanye undithumele umyalezo, ubusuku nemini, ngayo nantoni na oyifunayo.
- Intsapho ingunaphakade kwaye nangona umyeni wakho eswelekile, uhlala kuzo zonke iingqondo zethu. Ngamana ungafumana intuthuzelo kwiinkumbulo zakho. Yazi ukuba ungabelana nabanye ngam, nangaliphi na ixesha.
- Nanini na kwaye nantoni na oyifunayo, ndazise. Ndilapha ngenxa yakho njengokuba uphilisa. Ndiyakuthandana.
- Iivesi zeBhayibhile zeMfesane zeMingcwabo kunye neNduduzo
- Amagama afanelekileyo okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwini
- Amagama ovelwano ngokulahleka koNyana okhuleleyo
Amagama ovelwano lokulahlekelwa ngumyeni ngesiquphe
Xa iqabane lisweleka ngesiquphe, mhlawumbi ngenxa yonyango olukhawulezileyo okanye ngengozi, kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwiqabane elisaphilayo.Yitsho into yokuthuthuzelakunye nenkxaso ngeli xesha lingalindelekanga:
- Ukuphulukana nomyeni wakho kungaphaya kokuthetha. Unjani? Ndilapha ngenxa yakho.
- Ukucinga ngawe namhlanje kwaye ndifuna ukufikelela ekunikeni uncedo ngayo nayiphi na into onokuyifuna. Ndingakhe ndimise emva kwexesha ndiboleke isandla [ngenisa uncedo oluthile]?
- Andinakuthetha nto ukususa iintlungu, kodwa ndilapha ukukunceda uzithwale. Sukuziva ngathi kufuneka uyenze le nto wedwa. Ndilapha ukuze ndifumane inkxaso.
- Ukuphulukana negama lomyeni kuvakala ngokunzulu kuye wonke umntu owayemazi. Yazi ukuba ndilapha ukukunceda nakweyiphi na indawo ongathanda ukuyenza. Nceda undazise ukuba ubulindwendwele kule veki.
Amagama ovelwano lokulahlekelwa ngumyeni emva kokugula ixesha elide
Xa umyeni esweleka emva kokugula ixesha elide, ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uyayibonisa eyakhoXhasa ngokufanelekileyo umntu osentlungwini:
- Ndiyaxolisa ngokuswelekelwa ngumyeni wakho. Ukuthumela uthando oluninzi.
- Ndiza kuhlala ndikhumbula iGama loMyeni njenge [faka inkumbulo apha]. Ndandingumntu ongcono ngokumazi. Ukwezingcinga zam namhlanje kwaye uhlala uhleli.
- Ukuthumela iingcinga eziphilisayo ngeli xesha. Uya kukhunjulwa kwaye uya kuhlala ekhunjulwa.
- Igama lomyeni yayiyindoda enobomi bayo obubonisa amaxabiso ayo. Ndiyazi ukuba uxabise umtshato wakhe kuwe ngaphezu kwako konke. Ndinombulelo kakhulu ngokuba nolwalamano nani nobabini. Yazi ukuba ndilapha ngenxa yakho.
Ukuphulukana noMyeni kunye nooTata
Xa umyeni esweleka enabantwana ekhaya, unokufuna ukukuqonda okuuhlobo lwelahleko kumyalezo wakho wovelwano. Kufanelekile ukuba unikezele ngoncedo lwekhonkrithi ngakumbi ukuba ukufutshane nosapho. Cinga ngoku:
- Igama lomyeni yayinguTata omangalisayo, onenkathalo ebantwaneni bakho. Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ngokusweleka kosapho lwakho.
- Into emnandi ngegama likaMyeni kukubona uvuyo [faka amagama omntwana] kuye. Ndandiluva unxibelelwano entliziyweni yam xa bekunye. Ndingathanda [ukufaka imisebenzi eluncedo] ukuba ukhululekile xa usenza njalo.
- Ndilapha ngenxa yenu nonke ngeli xesha. Ndingathanda ukunceda nangayiphi na indlela ukuba kulungile kuwe. Ndingahamba [faka amagama abantwana] epakini kule veki izayo?
- Qho xa ndijonga [faka amagama abantwana], ndiyakhunjuzwa ukuba ngubani igama likabawo onothando nomyeni. Wayeyindoda yosapho yokwenyani kwaye ukudlula kwakhe kuthetha ukuba ilizwe lincinci elincinci kuthi sonke. Usapho lwakho lusezingcingeni zam nasemithandazweni yam.
- Uvelwano lwam ngokusweleka kwegama lomyeni. Nceda ungathandabuzi ukundazisa xa kukho into oyifunayo. Ukuthumela uthando lwam.
Into oza kuyithetha kwikhadi lovelwano lokulahlekelwa ngumyeni
Ukubhala ikhadi lovelwano kukuvumela indawo ethe kratya ukuba ubandakanye iingcinga ezinde elinokuthi lijonge iqabane elisaphilayo egameni lomyeni walo ongasekhoyo. Ukuba ubandakanyaIleta yovelwano yovelwanoEkhadini, unokwandisa kancinci ngeenkumbulo ezimfutshane zomyeni elinokuthi iqabane elisaphilayo likuthande ukufundwa. Iqabane elisaphilayo linokufumanauvelwano vesi yeBhayibhileokanye intetho yenkolo iyathuthuzela ukuba bayayithanda inkolo. Xa ukubhala kunzima, unokufumana kubandakanyaUmbongo wentuthuzeloeyona ndlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane.
Amazwi Athuthuzelayo Abantu Obathandayo
Kunzima ukwazi eyona nto ifanelekileyo ukuyithetha komnye umntuUsentlungwini yokuswelekelwa liqabane. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukuze wenze umyalezo wakho wentuthuzelo umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho ngeli xesha.
