Ukubuza intombazana ukuba ibeyintombi yakho kunokuba linyathelo elikhulu, ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba ucela intombazana ukuba ihoye onke amanye amaqabane ayo ukuba abe kunye nawe. Ngesi sizathu, isenzo sokuphakamisa kuye kufuneka sicingelwe kakuhle kwaye kufuneka sihambelane nobuntu bentombazana. Ngamanye amagama, sukucwangcisa umzuzu onobunkunkqele, wothando ukuba intombazana izakuphela yintsini okanye ibaleke kuloo ndawo ihlazo.
Cacisa
Enye yeengcebiso ngokulungiselela incoko ebangela ixhala kukujonga ukuba uziva njani omnye umntu. Cinga ngeemvakalelo zabo njengoko uceba oko ufuna ukukuthetha. Uvalo lunokubangela ukuba uphambane ngamazwi akho kwaye ngempazamo uphephe ukubuza umbuzo, 'Ngaba uyafuna ukuba yintombi yam?' Sukungacaci, awufuni ukusuka kwincoko uzibuza ukuba uthe 'ewe' ukuba ube yintombi yakho okanye hayi.
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Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzixela
- 'Ngaba uyafuna ukuba yintombi yam?'
- 'Nguwe wedwa ntombazana endiyifunayo. Unganceda ube yintombi yam? '
- 'Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu, kwaye ndingathanda ukuba ube yintombi yam. Uthini?'
- Ndiyakwazi kwaye ndiyazi ukuba singasisibini esihle. Ngaba uyafuna ukuba yintombi yam? '
- 'Uya kundenza oyena mntu wonwabe emhlabeni ukuba uthi uyafuna ukuba yintombi yam. Ucinga ntoni?'
- 'Ndicinga ukuba lixesha lokuba sithathe ubuhlobo bethu siye kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Ngaba uyafuna ukuba yintombi yam? '
Kuphephe ukungaqondani
Isitshixo sokumbuza kukuqinisekisa ukuba ubuza owona mbuzo endaweni yokubetha ujikeleze ityholo. Ngale ndlela, akukho ukungavisisani ekupheleni kwencoko. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ngombuzo ongqalileyo, intombazana inokungakulungeli ukunika impendulo kwangoko kwayemhlawumbi ndifuna ixesha lokucinga ngayo. Ukuba kunjalo, zama ukuba nomonde kwaye ucebise usuku kunye nexesha oza kuphinda uthethe naye kwakhona ngempendulo. Amagama afanelekileyo kule meko anokuthi: 'Ndiyaqonda ukuba ufuna ukuyicingisisa nzulu. Ungathetha njani ngale nto kwakhona ngoMvulo, emva koko undinike impendulo? '
Ubuso ngobuso bubhetele
Nangona inokubonakala ngathi yeyakudala, le ncoko ilunge kakhulu kwenziwa ubuso ngobuso xa kunokwenzeka. Ukuba kufuneka yenzeke ngombhalo okanye ikhompyuter (njengakwimeko yobudlelwane obude), kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba wenze umbuzo okanye ingxelo yakho ngokucacileyo. Kwaye ke, zeziphi iikhamera ezenzelwe ukuba zingaboni ngasonye ngexesha leencoko ezibalulekileyo?
Yiya kuye ngqo
Sukuvumela umnqweno wakho wentombi ujike ube ngumdlalo wefowuni ophukileyo ongaqhelekanga. Musa ukuthumela umhlobo wakho ukuba ayokucela egameni lakho.
Ixesha nendawo echanekileyo
Ukubeka inqanaba lokucela intombazana ukuba ibe yintombi yakho kufuneka ijikeleze kwizinto ezenza ukuba bobabini bazive bekhululekile. Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha indawo apho nobabini niya kugxila khona. Ipati elixineneyo apho kuya kufuneka ukhwaze ngaphezulu kwamazwi abanye abantu ayisiyonto ilungileyo, umzekelo.
Khetha indawo enentsingiselo
Indawo ekhethekileyo ethetha into kuni nobabini (njengendawo enadibana kuyo okanye indawo enibutha kuyo kakhulu) yindawo efanelekileyo yokubuza, njengoko isongeza uthando kwaye iyamnceda ukuba aqonde ukuba ulichithe ixesha elingakanani ucinga ngale nto . Uya kuqonda ukuba esi yayingesosigqibo sazenzekelayo onokuzisola ngaso kamva.
Ixabiso labucala
Kungcono ukwenza oku ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli; ungavumeli abahlobo okanye ababukeli ukuba bajike imeko ibe ngumboniso, okanye mandundu, benze ukuba intombazana izive icinezelekile.
Umzuzu ofanelekileyo
Zama ukukhetha ithuba apho kungekho zithintelo zexesha, ukuze incoko ingangxami. Umzekelo, ukubuza xa uhamba kwiiholo usiya kwiklasi elandelayo kungamenza azive ngathi uphantsi koxinzelelo lokuthatha isigqibo, kwaye indlela asabela ngayo edolweni inokuthi hayi.
Imilo entle
Ukuba uthatha ixesha lokucwangcisa ukuba uza kumcela nini ukuba abe yintombi yakho, zininzi iindlela ezintle zokubuza. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukuba intombazana ayilulo uhlobo lomntu onokonwabela into entle, ukusebenzisa indlela entle yokumcela ukuba abe yintombi yakho kungathumela umyalezo wokuba awumazi kakuhle okanye unokumenza azive ukungakhululeki.
- Bhala umbuzo wakho ngetshokhwe, mhlawumbi kwindlela yakho yokuhamba okanye kwindlela eya esikolweni. Qiniseka ukuba uyityikitye.
- Mnike ikeyiki okanye ikuki kunye neqabaka ekubuza umbuzo.
- Mnike intliziyo (ubucwebe, okanye iphepha elimnandi elisongiweyo) kwaye uthi, 'Ngoku ekubeni ndikunikile intliziyo yam, uya kuba yintombi yam?'
- Thenga ibhere elithethayo elikuvumela ukuba urekhode ilizwi lakho ulicela ukuba liphume nawe ulinike njengesipho.
Umzuzu omkhulu
Kubalulekile ukungena kumzuzu okhuselekileyo kwaye ulungile. Kwelinye icala, sukuziqhelisela kude kube lixesha lokuba umzuzu ujike ube yimonologue apho ungayiva impendulo yakhe. Nokuba ucwangcisa umzuzu ocacileyo okanye ucwangcise okungaqhelekanga, qiniseka ukuba iinjongo zakho zicacile kwaye uzame ukumnceda azive ekhululekile. Okukhona ungenaxhala kwaye uxhalabile uziva, okona kulungileyo mzuzu uya kuba kuni nobabini.
