Ukuba nomntakwenu owahlukanisiweyo kunokuzisa uluhlu lweempendulo zeemvakalelo ngaphakathi kwakho. Nokuba ufuna ukusebenza ekunxibelelaneni kwakhona nomntakwenu owahlukanisiweyo, okanye unethemba lokuqalisa ukuvavanya la mava, kukho iindlela ezisempilweni onokuthi uhambe ngazo ngokwenza njalo.
Umlingane oMiselweyo
Ukwahlukaniswa nomntakwenu, nokuba ubudlelwane benu bebungenampilo, kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezinzulu kwaye ezinokuba buhlungu. Ukwazi izinto onokuthi ukhethe kuzo xa kuziwa ekusetyenzisweni kwamava ohlukanisiweyo nomntakwenu kwaye unezixhobo zokukunceda ekuxolelaneni nabo kunokukunceda uzive unamandla okwenza esona sigqibo siphilileyo.
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Yintoni ukuLungelelaniswa kwabantakwenu?
Ukwahlukaniswa kwabantakwenu kwenzeka xa omnye okanye abantakwenu abaninzi bekhetha ukunqamla ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye. Oku kwaziwa ngokuba kunqunyulwe. Ithetha ukuba:
- Zero unxibelelwano- akukho fowuni, akukho imeyile, akukho imiyalezo, akukho zincwadi
- Unokufumana malunga neziganeko ezinkulu zobomi kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo, umhlobo, okanye elinye ilungu losapho elinxibelelana nabo
- Unokwazi okanye ungasazi isizathu sokwahlukana
Yintoni Ebangela Ukungaqheleki Kwabantakwenu?
Ukwahlukaniswa kwabantakwenu kungabangelwa ngu:
- Ubuntu obungahambelaniyo
- Omnye okanye abantakwenu abaninzi babambe ingqumbo kwaye hayiukusombulula ungquzulwano ngeendlela ezisempilweni
- Ukhuphiswano oluxhokonxwa ngumzali / ngumongi okanye ngabazali / ngabanonopheli
- Imeko yomothuko wobuntwana / yokuncamathisela ngaphakathi kosapho lwemvelaphi
- Ukuthandwa ngumntwana kusapho lwemvelaphi olutyhala abantakwabo ngaphandle
- Uqhawulo-mtshato, ukwahlukana kosapho
Kuqheleke Njani Ukuba Abantakwenu Babethwe Ngaphandle?
Ngelixa kungekho toni yophando kwi Inani lilonke labantu abahlukanisiweyo nabantakwabo Kuqikelelwa ukuba kumalunga ne-8%. Ngamanye amagama, akuqhelekanga kakhulu ukwahlula phakathi komntakwenu, kodwa gcinani engqondweni abanye abaninzi banobudlelwane kunye nobutshaba kubantakwabo, kodwa abahlukananga kwaphela.
Yintoni umntakwethu onetyhefu?
Ubudlelwane kunyeilungu losapho elinetyhefuinokukuhambisa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ingakhuselekanga kuwe ngokweemvakalelo kunye / okanye emzimbeni. Imizekelo yokuziphatha kwabantwana abanetyhefu:
- Ukulawula, kuthatha ithuba kuwe
- Ukwenze kunye / okanye nabantu obathandayo baziva bengonwabanga ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye / okanye emzimbeni
- Uziva uphelile emoyeni emva kokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo ngaphandle kokugcina imida efanelekileyo
- Ulwalamano lwakho luziva lungalingani nabo bahlala bethatha
- Ziphula ukuthembela kwakho kunye nemida rhoqo
- Uhlala uziva usetyenziswa ngabo
- Zivusa isiphithiphithi
Indlela yokuJamelana noLungelelwaniso lwabantakwenu
Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuzama uxolelwaniso nabo emgceni okanye hayi, kukho iindlela eziphilileyo onokuthi uqale ngazo ukuqhubekeka namava akho kunye nomntakwenu ohlukanisiweyo.
- Thetha nonyango olugxile kulwahlulo losapho.
- Qhagamshela kwiqela lenkxaso kunye nabantakwenu abafumana imiba efanayo enxulumene nokwahlukana.
- Ijenali malunga namava akho kunye nokuhlukana kwabantakwenu ukunceda ukukhupha ezinye zeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene noko (inokujolisa kuyoiimvakalelo ezinxulumene nosiziUmda wexesha lokwahlukana, kunye / okanye ijenali yasimahla malunga neengcinga zakho).
- Zama ukuqonda iimeko ezijikeleze ulwahlulo ngokwembono kunye nokungajongani neemvakalelo.
- Ngena kusapho lwakho lwembali yobudlelwane bemvelaphi. '
- Cinga ukuba ukwahlukana sisona sisombululo sisempilweni. Ukuba uqalise unxibelelwano olungena zero, ngaba yayikukukhusela imvakalelo kunye / okanye ukhuseleko ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye ngaba yayikukusabela ngokukhawuleza kwingxabano okanye kwimeko?
- Nxibelelana nomhlobo onokuthenjwa onokwabelana ngeemvakalelo kunye neengcinga zakho malunga nemeko.
- Vumela ukubabuhlungu le lahleko. Nokuba inguwe owaqala ngoqhakamshelwano, ungasaziva iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nosizi malunga nokulahleka kobudlelwane bakho kunye / okanye ukulangazelela into onqwenela ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nomntakwenu bubonakale ngathi.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uxolelane nomntakwenu. Nguwe kuphela onokulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo nezigqibo ozenzayo, kwaye umntakwenu usenokuziva engakulungelanga ukunxibelelana kwakhona, okanye angafuni ukudibanisa nantoni na. Le inokuba yinto ebuhlungu ngokungathethekiyo kulwahlulo lwabantakwenu, ngakumbi xa omnye umntakwenu efuna ukusebenza kubudlelwane, kodwa omnye umntakwenu akenzi njalo. Ukuba umntakwenu akafuni ukunxibelelana nawe kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba ufuna inkxaso efanelekileyo yokukunceda wenze le lahleko.
Unxibelelana njani kwakhona nomZalwana oMiselweyo
Ukuba ungathanda ukunxibelelana kwakhona nomntakwenu:
- Nxibelelana nomntakwenu kwaye ubuze ukuba bakhululekile ukuthetha nawe.
- Ukuba akunjalo, hlonipha isigqibo sabo kwaye ubuze ukuba kulungile ukujonga emva komhla (qiniseka ukunika usuku).
- Ukuba bakubuza ukuba ungathanda ukunxibelelana kwakhona, thatha ixesha lakho uthathe isigqibo sokuba lolukhetho olusempilweni kuwe.
- Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthetha omnye nomnye, qiniseka ukuba wabelana ngeengcinga zakho ngendlela ezolileyo, nembeko; khumbula, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde nembono yomntakwenu.
- Xoxa malunga neenjongo zakho zencoko kwaye uphephe ukuntywila kwiinkcukacha zobundlobongela, okungenani kule ncoko yokuqala.
- Sebenzisa 'I' iingxelo kwaye uphephe ukubeka ityala. Gxila kwinto eniyifunayo nobabini njengeyona njongo yokugqibela yobudlelwane kunye nomnye.
- Zingenele ngokwakho ngencoko. Qaphela ukuba uziva kukho nakuphi na ukungavisisani emzimbeni wakho okanye uziva uphendula ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba kunjalo, phefumla kancinci.
- Ukuba uziva ukhathazekile kakhulu okanye uqaphele umntakwenu esiba nomsindo okanye umsindo, cebisa ukuthatha ikhefu elifutshane kunye nokunxibelelana kwakhona emva kokuphola.
- Ukuba omnye okanye bobabini baziva bengakhululekanga kwaye befuna ukuphinda banxibelelane ngelinye ixesha, qiniseka ukukhetha umhla oza kujongana ngawo.
Iindlela ezisempilweni zokuSombulula ubuNgozi boSisi
Ukwahlukaniswa kwabantakwenu ngamava antsonkothileyo aya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwiqela labantakwenu. Nokuba ukhetha ukunxibelelana kwakhona nomntakwenu okanye akunjalo, qiniseka ukuba ufumana iindlela ezisempilweni zokujongana nale nto ukuyo.
