Ngaba ujonge ukuba ngoyena mgcini mntwana ulutsha kwibhloko? Funda iindlela zokuziqalela ishishini lokugcina abantwana, ufumane abathengi kwaye ubagcine!
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Ngaba Ukulungele Ukugcina Umntwana Okwishumi Elivisayo?
Ukugcina abantwana babanye abantu luxanduva olukhulu. Ayicacanga into yokuba ukuze ube ngumntwana ogcina abantwana, kufuneka ubenoxanduva kwaye ube nolwalamano oluhle nabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ngokwenza abantwana ukuba babambe umsebenzi wakho wexeshana, kukho ezinye ezimbalwaizinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Imifanekiso yokwenene yoLutsha yoBomi bemihla ngemihla
- Iimbono zezipho zaMantombazana aBafikisayo
- Imikhwa eli-7 yoLutsha olunefuthe eliPhezulu
Yiba Bhetyebhetye
Ukuba ukwimidlalo emininzi kunye nezinto zangaphandle ezilunge kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uhlala uhlala uxakekile, iya kuchaphazela ukuba ubizwa kangaphi.
Qinisekisa
Ukuba uzimisele ngokuzama ukwenza imali ngee-gigs zokugcina abantwana, cinga ngokufumana i-CPR kunye noNcedo lokuQala lweMveku noMntwana oQinisekisiweyo. Ukongeza, ukuba umncinci, ungafuna ukuthatha iklasi yokuBantwana yaseMelika eMnqamlezo obomvu. Iklasi ijolise kulutsha oluncinci nakwishumi elivisayo (abaneminyaka eli-11 ukuya kweli-15) njengesingeniso sendlela yokusingatha iimeko ezahlukeneyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba iintlawulo zakho zikhuselekile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Yenza ubuchule
Ngumzali onqabileyo ofuna ukuba uhlale phambi komabonwakude kunye nomntwana wakhe ungapheli. Ngelixa uninzi lwabazali lungalindelanga ukuba uze nento yokwenza nomntwana wabo, ukuba ukulungele ukwenza ubugcisa okanye ukwenza into ngomntwana wabo, uya kufumanisa ukuba abazali abaninzi baya kukubiza kwakhona.
Qola
Unokuba ukhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungahlala wedwa ekhaya okanye uye kwenye indawo ngaphandle kolawulo lwabantu abadala kodwa ngaba ukhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba unakekela umntwana womnye umntu? Oku kuthetha ukuba ujoliso lwakho, ngelixa usemsebenzini, kufuneka ubenomntwana kuphela. Ikwathetha ukuba xa kuvela iimeko ezingalindelekanga, uyakwazi ukuzisingatha ungakhange ubuze ukuba wenzeni.
Izinto ezilindelweyo kulutsha olusana
Xa uqeshwe njengomntu ogcina umntwana okwishumi elivisayo, iseti nganye yabazali oyigcinela umntwana mhlawumbi iya kuba nolindelo oluthile oluya kufuneka ululandele ukuze ugcine umsebenzi wakho kunye nokufumana intlawulo yakho, ukuba uyahlawulwa ngomsebenzi. Ngokwesiqhelo izinto ezilindelwe ngabazali kubagcini babantwana abafikisayo zezi:
- Ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana abonzakali okanye babe sengxakini ngelixa ubaphethe
- Ukondla abantwana
- Ukucoca nayiphi na into oyonakalisileyo wena okanye abantwana
- Ukuphendula umnxeba okanye intsimbi xa ikhala
- Ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bayangena ebhedini ngexesha abazali abafuna ukuba balale ngalo
- Ukonwabisa abantwana de kufike abazali ekhaya
Ukugcina umntwana luxanduva olukhulu olunokukunceda ekulungiseleleni ubomi, ukuba nje uthathwa ngokungathí sina. Ukuba umntu uthembele ngokwaneleyo ukuba akuvumele ubukele abantwana babo, kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo onke ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwabo.
Uliqala njani ishishini lokugcina umntwana
Unesatifikethi, ulungile ngezimvo-ngoku into oyifunayo ngabazali abakulungeleyo ukushiya abantwana babo kunye nawe iiyure ezimbalwa! Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokwenzafumana imisebenzi yokugcina abantwana.
Umntwana
Ilizwi lomlomo lisasazeka ngokukhawuleza nabazali. Ukuba wenza umsebenzi olunge kakhulu wokugcina abantwana bomzali omnye, unokuqiniseka ukuba usapho luya kuthetha ngawe kwaye likucebise kubahlobo babo. (Ngendlela, kuyafana ukuba wenza umsebenzi ombi-igama lomlomo linokusasaza okanye libulale ishishini lakho.) Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukufumana iigig ezihlawulelwayo ekuqaleni, cinga ngokuzithandela njengomncedisi kamama. Ayisi kunceda nje ukuba ufumane amava ngelixa unikezela ngenkonzo efunekayo kumama, kodwa ikwanika umama nethuba lokukubona unxibelelana nabantwana bakhe. Yenza umsebenzi olungileyo, kwaye unokuqiniseka ukuba umama angatsalela umnxeba kwakhona, kodwa naye unokubaxelela bonke abahlobo bakhe.
Yenza intengiso
Beka uiflayakwivenkile yokutya yendawo ohlala kuyo kwibhodi yezibhengezo, kwiziko loluntu, okanye wenze iflaya ulifake kwiibhokisi zeposi ezisingqongileyo. Le yindlela elungileyo yokwazisa, ngakumbi ukuba uqinisekisiwe okanye unazo ezinye iziqinisekiso. Ikwalithuba lokuchaza intlawulo oyilindeleyo kunye nokufumaneka kwakho.
Imibuzo yabantwana abakwishumi elivisayo
Ukuqala ishishini lakho lokugcina umntwana okwishumi elivisayo akunzima kodwa kunokuthatha unyamezelo kwaye ezinye ishishini zilumkile. Nazi ezinye zeempendulo zeminye imibuzo ebambelele ngakumbi.
Ndibiza ntoni?
Eyona ndlela yokufumana into oza kuyibiza kukubona ukuba yeyiphi inkathalo yosuku lwasekhaya ehlawulisayo kwaye ubuze isiqingatha. Ukuhlawulisa kwakho imali eninzi kuya kuxhomekeka kwindawo okhoyo. Kwezinye iindawo, i-1.50 yeedola ngeyure kumntwana ngamnye umndilili ukanti kwezinye iindawo, i-10 leedola ngeyure lilungile. Ufuna ukulunga, kodwa ukuba le yindlela ohlawula ngayo ikholeji, ufuna ukwenza imali.
Ungaze uthi ulungile ngayo nayiphi na imali ngaphandle kokuba iyinyani. Uninzi lwabazali, ngakumbi abo bangaqhelanga kuqesha umntu oza kubagcina, abazi ukuba bahlawule ntoni kodwa bonwabile ukuhlawula oko bakucelileyo.
yenza ulusu olomileyo olomileyo
Ndingenza ntoni xa abazali befika kade ekhaya?
Kuxhomekeka ekubeni kutheni befika kade ekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba ngekhe ukwazi ukugcina imisebenzi yokugcina abantwana ukuba uboniswe kade. Kuqhelekile ukuba babonise xa besithi bazokubonisa. Akukho nto ingako ungayenza ngelixa ugcina umntwana, kodwa unokuhlala 'uxakekile' ngalo lonke ixesha usapho lubiza emva koko.
Kuthekani ukuba abantwana bayasendle?
Kungcono ukunyaniseka malunga nento onokuyiphatha kwaye uyiyeke imisebenzi emva koko kukuzibeka ngaphezulu kwentloko yakho. Ngale nto ithethwayo, ngesiqhelo xa abantwana bedikiwe ukuba baphume kancinane kulawulo. Ukuba kulindeleke ukuba ulalise abantwana ebhedini, zama ukungena eyadini udlale umdlalo wokukhaba emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. Nokuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ulindele ukugcina abantwana bonwabile kwaye ngokwenza njalo, uya kuwenza lula umsebenzi wakho ngokunciphisa imiba yokuziphatha.
Ukugcina umntwana luxanduva olukhulu
Ukuba ngumgcini wosana okwishumi elivisayo kunokuba ngumsebenzi onomvuzo. Ayikuvumeli kuphela ukuba wonge imali yasekholejini okanye ezinye izinto, kodwa ukuba ngumgcini wosana okwishumi elivisayo kuhlala kukunika incasa yokuqala yokuba kunjani ukuba nomqeshi kunye nomsebenzi.
