Zininzi izibonelelo kunye nokungalunganga ekuhambiseni ubuhlobo bakho kubudlelwane. Jonga ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphuma kummandla womhlobo kunye nendlela yokubona ukuba nobabini nilungile. Jonga ukuba uthini umqeqeshi wethu wokuthandana.
Ungaba njani ngaphezu kwabahlobo nje
Umbuzo woMfundi
Ndibe ngumhlobo nentombazana malunga ne-5 iminyaka ngoku. Saba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngoku singabahlobo abakhulu. Sinobuhlobo obomeleleyo nobusondeleyo. Kutshanje nangona bendineengcinga zokuba ngaphezu kwabahlobo naye. Ndivakalelwa kukuba uyintombazana elungileyo kum, kwaye ndingathanda ukulandela ezi mvakalelo kodwa andifuni ukonakalisa ubuhlobo bethu. Ndingawenza njani lo mbandela? -Igalelo lika: John
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John othandekayo,
Ndingumlandeli we-BIG wobudlelwane bezothando obuvela kubuhlobo obunzulu kwaye eyakho ayizukukhetha. Oko kutshiwo, kukho umngcipheko wokuwela usuka kubuhlobo uye 'kwisibini esithandanayo.' Okokuqala, intombi yakho isenokungafuni ukuba ubuhlobo butshintshe. Usenokukuthanda njengomhlobo, kodwa angabinazimvakalelo ezibaleka nzulu. Enye ingxaki enokubakho ngokuwela ngaphaya, kukuba ubudlelwane bokuthandana buphele, ubuhlobo buphela ngenxa yokuba iintlungu zokuphulukana nothando azinakumelana nokubuyela kwindlela izinto ezazidla ngokuba phakathi kwenu nobabini. Okokugqibela, ezinye izibini zenza abahlobo abakhulu kunye nabathandi abathandekayo.
Kwiphepha leflip, zininzi izibonelelo zokuhambisa ubuhlobo kubudlelwane obunothando. Olunye uncedo kukuba nobabini sele niyazi ukuba 'kulungile, okubi nokubi' malunga omnye nomnye. Eli nqanaba lokwamkelwa kunye nokuthembela kwenza ukuthatha umngcipheko kufanelekile! Esinye isibonelelo sokuqala ukuthandana ngokusekwe ekubeni nobuhlobo obuqinileyo kukuba unesiseko esomeleleyo onokwakhela kuso. Ke, uyazi njani ukuba lixesha lokusuka kubuhlobo uye 'kwisibini'? Eyona nto ayifunayo kukuba ebeya kuthatha umngcipheko kwaye abelane nawe ngenqanaba lomdla wakhe ngokwenza oko. Ndicinga ngombuzo wakho ukuba oku akukenzeki.
Uthando olufanele ukujongwa luthando olufanele umngcipheko. Kum oku kuthetha ukuthatha ukholo. Ukufumanisa ukuba intombi yakho inomdla wokuthatha ubuhlobo ubuse kwinqanaba elitsha, kuya kufuneka ubuze kuye. Ninokucwangcisela uhambo lwenu nobabini, oluya kuninika ithuba lokukhomba indlela enivana ngayo nobabini kwaye kubaluleke kangakanani ebomini benu. Uhambo luya kukunika ithuba elongeziweyo, ukuba uthando lusekude, lokudala ithuba lokuhambisa ubuhlobo ukuba bube kufutshane.
indlela yokwenza intombazana ikuthande
Ukuba ucwangcisa uhambo lukhulu kakhulu, lwenze uhambo losuku. Inxalenye yokuqala yosuku kuxa nobabini ninokwenza into emnandi kwaye inomdla kwaye ngokuhlwa kunokuba sisidlo sangokuhlwa esihle kwaye sithule. Ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa, unokuphinda uyibuyise imicimbi yosuku kwaye ubonise indlela enivana ngayo nobabini kunye nezinto enifana ngazo. Njengoko evumelana namanqaku akho kunye nokuqwalaselayo, ungathatha umngcipheko omkhulu kwaye umxelele ukuba umxabisa kangakanani ebomini bakho, kwaye uqonde njani ukuba uyintombazana elungileyo, kwaye ungathanda ukulandela ezi mvakalelo. Impendulo yakhe iya kukuxelela yonke into ekufuneka uyazi ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ubuhlobo bulungele na ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
~~ Lori
