Ukulwa kwesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kuyinxalenye yokwenene kubomi babafundi abaninzi. Ukwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi, uninzi lwazo lukhutshelwa kwaye luboniswe kwiYouTube. Funda ukuze ufumanise ukuba kutheni le nto kusiliwa kwaye kwenzeka njani ukuthintela ubalo olulandelayo.
Kutheni kusiliwa kwiSikolo samaBanga aPhakamileyo
Rhoqo, kubakho umlo ngenxa yokungaqondani kunye nokuhleba. Ngamaxesha anqabileyo xa abantu besilwa ngelixa bethetha ngengxaki ubuso ngobuso. Imilo ihlala isenzeka xa abantu bengathethi ngeengxaki zabo kwaye nabahlobo babo bebanika ulwazi olungelulo.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Izimvo zasebusuku eziphezulu
- Imifanekiso yokwenene yoLutsha yoBomi bemihla ngemihla
- Igalari yeZipho zokuthweswa izidanga
Umzekelo, ukuba umntu ebenokukuxelela ukuba omnye umntu uthetha inkunkuma ngawe, ubuya kuthini? Uninzi lwabantu luya kuba nomsindo. Endaweni yokuba babuze umphathi weendaba ezimbi, ngokuzenzekelayo baya kumcaphukisa umntu ekuthiwa uthethe izinto ezimbi.
Kwakhona kulula ukuba nomsindo kwabanye abantu xa ucinga ukuba bahamba bengena kwisithandwa sakho okanye isoka lakho. Ngaba wakha wanomsindo komnye umntu othetha nomdla wakho wothando? Mhlawumbi bathumele amanqaku okanye imiyalezo kubo, okanye babatsalela umnxeba. Uye wasabela njani?
Cinga ngaphambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo
Kulula ukubanjwa okomzuzwana kwaye uphendule ngokusekwe kwiimvakalelo, kunokuba yinyani. Olunye ulutsha olunomsindo ongcolileyo, oku kungakhokelela kwimpikiswano enobundlongondlongo. Ezi zilandelayo ziingcebiso zokukunceda ujongane nomlo onokubakho kwisikolo esiphakamileyo:
- Cinga ngomthombo. -Ukuba umntu usasaza intlebendwane, mhlawumbi abanamdla kuwe. Yintoni abanokuyizuza ngokukuxelela into engalunganga?
- Jonga iinyani. -Umntu oqolileyo angaya emthonjeni afune isisombululo sengxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba lo mntu uyakoyikisa, funa uncedo kumntu omdala. Akunakulungile ukusongela omnye umntu.
- Thetha ngengxaki. -Xa kunokwenzeka, thetha nomnye umntu kwindawo ekhuselekileyo nengathathi cala, ngakumbi apho bakhoyo abantu abadala. Amaxesha amaninzi umlo ungaphaya kokungaqondani kwaye unokulungiswa ngokulula ngokuxoxa ngengxaki ngokufanelekileyo.
- Zama ukuba nengxoxo wedwa. - Ngamanye amaxesha abahlobo bethu banokuba ziintshaba zethu. Iingxoxo ezishushu zinokuqubisana xa kukho abanye abantu. Oku kunokwenzeka xa sifuna ukugcina ubuso okanye ukubonisa abanye ukuba asoyiki omnye umntu.
- Funa uncedo kumntu omdala. -Ukulwa kwesikolo, ngakumbi okwasemzimbeni, kuya kuphelela kwi-ofisi ye-counsellor okanye kwi-ofisi yenqununu. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umlo uzonyukela kwinqanaba lokufumana umzimba, funa uncedo kumntu omdala ukuze uwusasaze kwangoko. Akukho mntu uphumeleleyo xa kukho ukungqubana komzimba.
- Thetha nabazali bakho. - Kulusizi ukuba ulutsha oluninzi aluthethi nabazali balo malunga nokulwa esikolweni. Ukuba akukho nto yimbi, unokuqiniseka ukuba abazali bakho bakukhathalele ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Cela ingcebiso kubazali bakho - ungothuka xa besabela.
Ukulwa kwamanqindi kunye ne-cyberbullies
I-Intanethi ingenise inqanaba elitsha lokuxhaphaza kwizikolo eziphakamileyo. Cinga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo esinokwenzakalisana ngazo: imiyalezo ebhaliweyo, iincwadi ze-Intanethi, iYouTube nezinye iisayithi zokunxibelelana nabantu. Ngelixa abazali bakho babesilwa amanqindi ngasemva kwesakhiwo emva kwesikolo, ulutsha lwanamhlanje lunokungcungcuthekisa umntu oneminyaka engama-24 / 7. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungangcungcuthekisa umntu ungakhange ubanjwe, cinga kwakhona. Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo bekungekho nto ingako yokunyanzeliswa komthetho malunga nokulwa kwezikolo eziphakamileyo ezazikho kwi-cyberpace. Nangona kunjalo, kuba eminye yale milo ikhokelele ekwenzakaleni kakhulu nasekufeni, abenzi bemithetho baqalisa ixesha elitsha lokumisela umthetho kwi-Intanethi. Kukho iziphumo zokuxhatshazwa kwi-intanethi.
Cinga ngezi meko zilandelayo kunye neziphumo zazo:
- UMegan Meier Ityala likaMegan Meier yenye yeentlekele zokuzibulala kulutsha ezingalibalekiyo. Ababini abakwishumi elivisayo kunye nomnye woomama babo benza i-akhawunti engeyiyo ye-MySpace egameni likaJosh Evans. U-Ashley Grills oneminyaka eli-19 ubudala, kunye nentombi kaLori Drew okwishumi elivisayo, yayingabo babethumela imiyalezo ekhohlakeleyo kuMegan. U-Ashley wayengoyena mntu wokuthumela umyalezo wokuba 'umhlaba uya kuba yindawo engcono ngaphandle kwakho,' ku-Megan ngaphambi kokuba azixhome. Njengeminye imiba emininzi, eli tyala laqala ngaphezulu kwehlebezi.
Ukusukela esi siganeko, ukuxhatshazwa kwi-intanethi kuyekisiwe eMissouri. NgoJulayi 2, 2008, umama, uLori Drew, wagwetywa ngokwaphula umthetho weComputer Fraud and Abuse Act. Ukuba ufunyaniswe enetyala, uya kujongana neminyaka emine kwintolongo yomdibaniso. I-Ashley Grills inikwe ukhuseleko ukuze inike ubungqina ngokuchasene noLori Drew.
- Ividiyo yaseFlorida yoLutsha -Ilityala lijikeleza amantombazana akwishumi elivisayo abetha enye intombazana kwaye ayilobe ngevidiyo ngenjongo yokuyibeka kuYouTube. Abasibhozo abatsha baseFlorida, amantombazana amathandathu kunye namakhwenkwe amabini, baya kuziswa ngezityholo zokuthimba inqanaba lokuqala lokuthimba, ibhetri kunye nokuphazamisa ubungqina. Ulutsha luthi ukuhlaselwa kwale ntombazana yayikukuziphindezela ngezithuko ezazithunyelwe kwi-Intanethi lixhoba. Olu hlaselo luthathe ngaphezulu kwemizuzu engama-30, amantombazana ebetshintshana ngokubetha ixhoba. Ixhoba linengxaki yokuva nokubona. Abahlaseli, abaneminyaka eli-14 ukuya kweli-18 ubudala, baya kugwetywa njengabantu abadala kwaye bajongane nobomi entolongweni.
Ezi zimbini kuphela zamatyala akutshanje abandakanya umlo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Kuwo omabini la matyala akhankanyiweyo, ulutsha olwathi lwasabela ngokwasemphefumlweni bajongana nezityholo zolwaphulo-mthetho kwanobomi entolongweni- ixabiso eliphakame kakhulu ukuhlawula ukuphulukana nomsindo. Ngexesha elizayo xa ujongene nomlo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, cinga ngaphambi kokuba usabele. Ubomi bakho, kunye nabanye abakungqongileyo, banokuxhonywa.
