Ukujongana namalungu osapho anzima kuyinyani kubantu abaninzi. Ukusuka kumalungu osapho angakuhloniphiyo ukuya kumalungu osapho angenambulelo, iindlela zokufunda ukuyajongana nedrama yosaphoinokukunceda ukonwabele ixesha losapho kwakhona.
Ungasondela njani kwiLungu loSapho elinobunzima
Awunakho ukutshintsha indlela omnye umntu enza ngayo, ke musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho uzama. Into onolawulo kuyo, yindlela owenza ngayo izinto. UDebbie Mandel, MA , ingcali yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nomqeqeshi, uyavuma ukuba ukuba awuyithandi into oyibonayo kwilungu losapho elinzima, tshintsha into oyibonayo nendlela osabela ngayo. Awunakuhlala uphepha ukunxibelelana namalungu osapho anzima, ke sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukwenza ezona ndibano zilungileyo.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Iintshukumo zangaphandle zoSapho Wonke umntu uya kuthanda
- Iifoto zoNwaba loSapho
- Ukujongana namalungu osapho anekhwele ngokufanelekileyo
Dibana kumhlaba ongathath'icala
Ukunxibelelana kwenye indawo nobabini niziva nikhululekile kunokunceda kwangoko ukudala imeko ezolileyo. Ukuba wena okanye ilungu losapho lwakho unemicimbi ephambili ebotshelelwe kwindawo ethile, cebisa ukuba umsitho okanye isenzo senzeke kwenye indawo. Ukudibana kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke kuhlala kusenza ukuba abantu baziphathe kakuhle ngenxa yoko ukuba neKrisimesi kwindawo yomsitho orentiweyo kunokuba lula ngakumbi kunokuqokelelana endlwini kaMama, umzekelo.
Gxila kwizithuba
Ngaphambi kokudibana nelungu losapho lwakho, cinga ngazo zonke iimpawu ozithandayo ngazo. Ukujolisa kokuhle kunokubi kuya kukulungiselela ukujongana nezenzo ezikucaphukisayo. Kungenxa yokuba inqanaba loxinzelelo aluzukuphakama ngaphambi kokuba umbone umntu, oko kuyakwenza ukuba ukwazi ukubanyamezela kwaye ubabone ngokukhanya okungcono.
Zilungiselele ukusebenzisana
Khawufane ucinge ukuba olu nxibelelwano luza kubonakala njani ngokukodwa ngokusekwe kumava akho angaphambili nalo mntu. Ngokwesiqhelo, amalungu osapho anzima anendlela ethile yokuziphatha ekulula ukuyilandela wakube uyazi. Ngokusekwe kukuziphatha kwabo kwangaphambili, zilungiselele ngengqondo ukujongana nayo nayiphi na imeko ocinga ukuba inokwenzeka. Ngokwenza njalo, unokufumanisa ukuba unexesha elilula lokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo.
Sebenzisa uvelwano ukutshintsha umbono wakho
Abantu abanzima abazalwanga benjalo, baba njalo ngenxa yokuhlangana kwendalo nokondla. Nangona kunokuba nzima ngokwenene, zama ukuqonda imbono yabo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uvumelane nezimvo zabo, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kunokukunceda unxibelelane nabo ngendlela ezolileyo. Ukunxibelelana nabantu abanzima kudala amathuba amangalisayo okukhula, ukubonakalisa ngokwakho, kunye nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo obuphakamileyo.
Ungathetha njani nelungu elinzima losapho
Ngamanye amaxesha, akukho nto ingako unokuyenza ukunqanda ukucaphuka kwelungu losapho. Kulapho kuya kufuneka usebenzise ubuchule bokulungisa ukungavisisani.Indlela othetha ngayoinokuchaphazela imeko yayo nayiphi na incoko, ke yazi indlela othetha ngayo.
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Sebenzisa iiNgxelo ze- 'I'
Xa usebenzisa 'I' iingxelo, kuthatha ityala kumntu othetha naye, oko kumnceda ukuba angazikhuselanga. Amabinzana afana nokuthi, 'Ndiziva ndisongelwa ngamagqabaza anje' okanye 'Ndikhathazeka msinya ngezihloko ezinje ngezi.' Qala ngegama 'mna' kwaye wenze iimvakalelo malunga nawe.
Cwangcisa umda kwiincoko
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukushiya incoko embi nelungu elinzima losapho kuba okukhona uthetha, izinto ziya zisiba mbi ngakumbi. Yitsho into enje, 'Ndiyaqonda ukuba ufuna (ufuna) ukwenza oku, kodwa ndinayo le nto ndingathanda ukuyifeza. Ke masikhe siqonde ukuba masinqumle ntoni kwaye yintoni esinokuyenza ukuze sifeze konke, 'okanye' andizukuxoxa ngesi sihloko. Ukuba ungathanda ukuqhubeka, kuyakufuneka ndihambe, 'ukubazisa ukuba awuzukuthatha inxaxheba kwincoko embi.
Cebisa ngoQhawulo
Ukuba uva ukuba ingxoxo ihla ngendlela engalunganga okanye engenampilo, zixolele ngokuphefumla ngokukhawuleza. Unokuthi, 'Le ncoko inzima. Ndizokufumana umoya omtsha okwexeshana. ' Ukuba uziva uxakeke kakhulu yile ncoko kwaye ungathanda ukuyeka ukuthetha naye uthi, 'Ndiyakonwabela ukuthetha nawe. Masibeke isikhonkwane kule ngxoxo okwangoku. ' Unokuthi, 'Ndiziva ndonganyelwe. Makhe siyixoxe ngelinye ixesha. '
Buza ukuba bacinga ntoni
Amaxesha amaninzi, amalungu osapho anzima aya kuyitolika gwenxa ingxelo kwaye ayisebenzise ukuqala ingxabano nawe. Xa ubona ukuba uyeza, babuze into efana nale, 'Uyiqonda njani le nto ndiyithethileyo?' Ngale ndlela, uya kuba nakho ukucacisa ukungaqondani ngokubanika ulwazi olongezelelekileyo ukuze babone ngcono injongo yakho.
Ungayenza njani into malunga nelungu elinzima losapho
Kuxhomekeka kuhlobo lomntu ojongana naye kunye nemicimbi ethile, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo onokuthi uzenze ngokubangqongileyo ukugcina izinto zinoxolo. Cinga ngento oyaziyo ngalo mntu kunye nendlela abaziphethe ngayo ukuze ulungele ukwenza ngendlela ekunokwenzeka ukuba ungazicimi.
Nyaniseka
Kukho ithuba elincinci lokuba ilungu losapho lwakho lingaqondi ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo iyakukhathaza, ngakumbi ukuba akukho mntu wakha wabaxelela ukuba iyenzeka. Ngelixa ukunyaniseka kungabuyela umva kwiimeko ezithile, kufanelekile ukuzama ukubazisa ngento ekukhathazayo nokuba kutheni. Ukuba ukunyaniseka akusebenzi okokuqala, akukho sidingo sokuqhubeka uziphinda.
Kuphephe Izihloko ezishushu
Ukuba uyazi ukuba ukuxoxa ngezopolitiko kuhlala kuphelela kwingxoxo eshushu, kunqande umxholo. Ukuba ilungu losapho lwakho linyanzelisa ukuxoxa ngalo, zama ukutshintsha umxholo. Ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha isihloko, suka kuye ngokuya kwelinye igumbi okanye uphelise intlanganiso. Ngokuthintela izihloko ezibakhuthazayo, unciphisa amathuba edrama enkulu.
Ziphephe iimeko zoxinzelelo
Xa kufuneka unxibelelane nelungu losapho elinzima, zama ukunqanda imisebenzi okanye indawo owaziyo ukuba zibangela ukungaziphathi kakuhle. Umzekelo, ukuba abathandi ukuhlala kwizithuthi kwaye bahlala bekhalaza ngalo lonke ixesha, cwangcisa ukudibana xa usazi ukuba itrafikhi ilula okanye uqhuba ngokwahlukeneyo.
Musa ukuwahoya ngokupheleleyo
Kungabonakala kusengqiqweni ukungahoyi ilungu losapho elikukhathazayo, kodwa oku kunokubangela imicimbi engakumbi. Yenza inqaku lokuthi 'Molo.' xa ubabona kwaye ubandakanyeka kwincoko encinci ukuba unako. Ungabakhusela ngobuchule ngexesha lemisitho, ubandakanyeka kuphela ukuba baya kuwe.
Gcina iithebhu kwiimvakalelo zakho
Xa uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nelungu elinzima losapho, khumbula ukuqhubeka nokungena ngokwakho. Qaphela nakuphi na ukungavisisani emzimbeni wakho kwaye uzame ezinye iindlela zokuzola ukuze uzifumane ngamaxesha oxinzelelo. Khangela iindlela ezilula zokuthatha ikhefu njengokuya kwindlu yangasese. Ukuba ufikelela kwinqanaba lokophuka ngokweemvakalelo, fumana indlela enobulumko yokuzithethelela.
Yiba Nenjongo Ngempendulo Yakho
Nangona kunzima ukungasabeli kwisenzo esikucaphukisayo okanye esirhabaxa, yima kancinci ucinge malunga nento oza kuyithetha okanye uyenze. Oku kunokunceda ukuthintela iimpikiswano kunye nokwenza unxibelelwano nelungu elinzima losapho lihambe kancinci.
Amaqhinga okuSebenza ngeDrama yoSapho ekhethekileyo
Ngelixa kungakhange kubonakale kufanelekile ukuba kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokujongana nelungu losapho elinzima, gcinani engqondweni ukuba unolawulo lokuziphatha kwakho kuphela. Ukufunda indlela yokujongana neengxaki zosapho okanye amalungu osapho angacingeliyo okanyecaphukel wenainokukunceda ukwenza oku kunxibelelana kungabi luxinzelelo kuwe.
Iindlela zokulwa nokuLawulwa kwaMalungu oSapho
Unokuba nelungu losapho elihlala lithatha iincoko, lingena kwiincoko zabanye abantu, okanye lifuna ukulawula ukuba kwenzeka njani, phi, kwaye nini okanye umsitho wenzeka. Ukujongana nolawulo okanye ukulawula ilungu losapho , zama ezi ndlela:
- Banike ulawulo kwiinkalo ezithile, njengokuthi ngubani ozisa esiphi isidlo, ukuze bazive benamandla angonzakalisi omnye umntu.
- Sukubanjwa kubuxoki babo okanye ukuthetheleleka, khumbula into oyaziyo ukuba iyinyani.
- Sebenzisa ingqiqo kunye nezibakala kwincoko yakho.
Iindlela zokulwa namaLungu oSapho aDlula ngokuDlamkileyo
Ukuba ilungu losapho lwakho lithanda ukuhleba malunga nomntu wonke, ukuchitheka kweemfihlo, ukwenza ubuxoki bokuqwalaselwa, kunye nokwenza idrama naphina apho baya khona, zikho iindlela ezimbalwa onokuthi uzame ukujongana nazo.
- Yala ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiincoko ezimnandi ngokuthi 'andizukuthatha inxaxheba kule ncoko, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngenye into endingathanda ukuncokola nawe.'
- Sukusabela. Abantu abagqithisileyo bafuna iimpendulo ezinkulu, ke ukuba abayifumani kuwe baya kuqhubeka.
- Sukuzama ukuqiqa nabo okanye utshintshe ingqondo. Awungekhe uhlengahlengise umntu ongenangqondo, ke ungakhe ulinge okanye uzokungena kumdlalo weqonga.
Iindlela zokulwa namaLungu oSapho aNgekho mthethweni
Mbize ngokuba nguNative Negative okanye yena uNegative Ned, la malungu osapho ahlala ekhathazekile kwaye ngakumbi athanda ukubonisa zonke iimpazamo zakho. Ukujongana nomntu ongathandekiyo kubandakanya ukuqonda ukuba yingxaki yabo, hayi eyakho.
- Yiba nguwe. Ukuba awungomntu ungathandekiyo, sukuba mbi naxa bengenjalo.
- Gwema ukusombulula iingxaki. Umntu oxinezelekileyo okanye osoloko eneempawu ezimbi akasayi kuphendula kakuhle kwimizamo yakho yokubonakala 'uyilungisa'.
- Sukuyithatha buqu. Ukungakhathaleli kwabo akubonakalisi wena kunye nobomi bakho, yinto yabo.
Amaqhinga okujongana naMalungu oSapho acaphukisayo
Abantu abatyebileyo bafuna ukujongwa kwaye bacinga ukuba ukukhwaza nokucaphukisa yindlela yokuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa. Ukujongana nelungu losapho elinokucaphukisa kunokuba yinto ekucaphukisayo, kodwa zikho ezinye iindlela onokuthi uzame ngazo.
- Cwangcisa umzuzu wokuba babeyinkwenkwezi kwasekuqaleni. Ukuba bafumana wonke umntu engakhathalelwanga kwi-bat, banokwaneliseka ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazole kancinci.
- Bayeke ngendlela entle xa bengxola kakhulu okanye bemkile kakhulu. Abantu abacaphukisayo abaqondi ukuba benza ezi zinto.
- Cwangcisa ukuzola, imisebenzi ezimeleyo yokunciphisa unxibelelwano ngelixa uchitha ixesha kunye.
Iindlela zokuSebenza naMalungu oSapho aneXhala leMpilo yeNgqondo
Ukusuka kubuntu obuphazamisayo ukuya kuxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, ukujongana namalungu osapho abonisa iingxaki zempilo yengqondo kunzima kuba kuya kufuneka ujonge imeko yabo yengqondo.
- Qaphela amandla abo kwaye ujolise kwezo.
- Qonda indlela abaziphethe ngayo mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo yobuqu kuwe.
- Kuphephe iincoko malunga nempilo yabo yengqondo ngaphandle kokuba bekucela uncedo.
Indlela yokujongana namalungu osapho anetyhefu
Inkqubo ye- inkcazo 'yetyhefu' yinto 'eyingozi kakhulu okanye embi.' Ukujongana namalungu osapho anetyhefu, kuya kufuneka ubenako ukuqonda ukuba banetyhefu kwaye ufunde xa kufanelekile ukunqamla.
Uxelela njani ukuba iLungu loSapho okanye iDynamic yeDynamic iyityhefu
Ukuba ilungu losapho lwakho likubangela uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo okanye lomzimba, ngakumbiuxinzelelo lwexesha elide, zinetyhefu ebomini bakho. Ezinye zeempawu zokulumkisa umntu zinetyhefu zibandakanya ukuba:
- Kukukhathaza ngabom rhoqo
- Ungaze ucele uxolo ngokuziphatha kwabo
- Rhoqo hlala ufuna uncedo lwakho nokuba lubangela ukuba ulahlekelwe bubuthongo, uphoswe ngumsebenzi, okanye ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo
- Ukugxeka rhoqo
- Ukuzama ukulawula yonke imiba ephambili yobomi bakho
- Ukuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye ngokwesondo
Indlela yokujongana namalungu osapho ayityhefu
Ukuba awukakulungeli ukusika ilungu losapho lakho elinetyhefu ebomini bakho, kukho iindlela ezithile onokuthi uzame ukugcina unxibelelwano ngoxolo.
- Thatha isigqibo sobudlelwane bobudlelwane bakho kwaye unamathele kubo. Awudingi ukuba wabelane ngezi zinto.
- Yazi into oyenzayo kuluntu kunye nezinto ozigcina ziyimfihlo.
- Yithi 'Hayi' ukumema ukuba ufuna njalo.
- Thintela utywala neziyobisi ngexesha lokudibana. Ukuba kunokwenzeka zisuse njengezinto onokukhetha kuzo nabani na.
- Sebenza nomcebisi wakho ukukunceda ujongane nemicimbi yosapho.
Ungazikhupha njani kwiiLungu loSapho elinetyhefu
Ukuba ilungu losapho lwakho liyityhefu ngokucacileyo kwaye alibonisi zimpawu zokuzazi, uvelwano, okanye ukuzama ukuba ngumntu ongcono, kungangcono ukuba unqamle kubo. Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokunqamula kwilungu losapho elinetyhefu, zimbini iindlela ezisisiseko.
- Ungabenza 'isiporho' kwaye usike nje onke amakhonkco, utshintshe inombolo yefowuni, kwaye ususe iindlela zokuba bafumane ulwazi lwakho loqhakamshelwano. Le ndlela ilungele ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza.
- Ungabaxelela ukuba ufuna ikhefu kwaye uphephe ukuphendula kwimizamo yabo yokunxibelelana.
- Xa ukhulula kwilungu losapho elinetyhefu, yazisa amanye amalungu osapho ngesigqibo sakho ukuze kungothusi kubo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba unezixhaso endaweni yakho kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okhuseleko xa ucinga ukuba oko kuyimfuneko.
Gxila kuwe
Kangangoko ungathanda iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso zibenze ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono ngokuzenzekelayo, akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Gxila kubuntu bakho kunye nento onokuyenza ukujongana namalungu osapho anzima njengecebo lakho lokugqibela. Ukuba uziva ungenathemba okanye ungenakuncedakala malunga ne-iingxaki zentsapho, funa uncedo kumcebisi oqeqeshiweyo okanye kunyangi. Ukuba ucinga ukuba amalungu osapho lwakho angayivulela, ungaUkuphonononga unyango losapho.
