Ukuziqhelanisa nentsapho entsha kunokuthatha ixesha kwaye kusenokubakho ixesha elibuhlungu apho wena kunye nomntwana wakho wesibini ningacofiyo. Ukuba uziva ngathi umntwana wakho wesibini uyakucaphukela, yiba nomonde, ungaguquguquki, kwaye ube novelwano. Ngelixa kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu wokudlula njengomntu omdala, ukuqhubekeka nokutshintsha okukhulu kosapho njengoko umntwana enokuziva exakekile ngokweemvakalelo kwaye kungumsebenzi wakho ukuba nobubele kulo mzuzu unzima.
Ziqonde Iimfuno Zomntwana Wakho Wesibini
Abantwana nokuba badala kangakanani banokuziva belahliwe ngumzali omnye okanye bobabini ngabazali bokwenyama. Banokuziva bengonwabanga kwaye benovalo njengoko inkqubo yosapho lwabo itshintsha kwaye ikhula iquka umntu omtsha. Njengokuba umtshato wakho omtsha uqhakaza, abanye abantwana banokuziva ngathi bakhuphisana nomzali wesibini ukuze baqwalaselwe ngabazali babo. Ukusebenzela ukuya ukumanya usapho Ukubeka phambili iimfuno zabantwana ababandakanyekayo. Bonke abantwana kufuneka bazive:
- Kukhuselekile
- Ukunyamekela
- Ixabiso
- Njengale nto bayithethayo ibalulekile
- Kubekwe phambili
- Kutheni Intsapho Yam Indithiye?
- Amagqabantshintshi ngamalungelo oTata-aBazali
- Iingcebiso zaBantwana abaKhulisa abantwana ngokuBambisana
Yiba Novelwano Ngomntwana Wakho Wesibini
Ulutsha lunokuba nelona xesha linzima ukuziqhelanisa nomzali wesibini njengoko sele bekhulileIndlela yokukhulisa abantwanakunye nokuphila kwendlu. Ukusukela kwiminyaka ye-10 ukuya kwe-14, abantwana baya kutshintsho oluninzi. Yongeza utshintsho olukhulu kusapho kumxube kwaye oku kunokushiya abantwana baziva bexhalabile, benoloyiko, bexhalabile, kwaye ngathi beswele nakuphi na ukubonakala kolawulo. Ukuqonda into anokuhamba kuyo umntwana wakho wesibini kunokukunceda uhambe ngendlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nabo. Khuthaza iingxoxo ezininzi ezivulekileyo apho umntwana okanye abantwana banokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo nezimvo zabo. Khumbula ukuba wenze ukhetho ukwenza le ntsapho, kwaye abantwana abayenzanga. Banike iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana neemvakalelo zabo ngokuhlala uvulekile kwaye unovelwano.
Khulisa umzi ohloniphekileyo
Unokuziva ngathi umntwana wakho wesibini akakuhloniphi.Thetha nomlingane wakhomalunga nemithetho yendlu kwaye ukuba nobabini nigqibe kwelokuba kulungile ukuba nithathe inxaxheba ekuyithobeleni, qiniseka ukuba uhlala ungaguquguquki kwaye uqinile. Sukuvumela umntwana wakho wesibini okanye abantwana ukuba bavuke kuwe kwaye bahlale bezolile. Nangona oku kunokuba nzima, kuyayomeleza indima yakho njengomzali.
Ukuqhuba Uqeqesho Njengomzali Wesibini
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nigqibe ekubeni nobabini niza kulinganaUmzali kunye, imigaqo kufuneka ibekwe endaweni ukuze wonke umntu akwiphepha elinye. Ukwenza njalo:
- Yenza imithetho yosapho kunye neminyaka efanelekileyo yeziphumo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye wabelane ngazo kunye nomntwana wakho okanye abantwana.
- Nyanzelisa imigaqo ngendlela ezolileyo.
- Sukugcina iimfihlo kwiqabane lakho okanye wenze isivumelwano malunga nokophula imithetho nabantwana bakho abancinci njengoko oku kukususa kwindima yakho yobuzali.
- Ukuba umntwana wakho wesibini uthetha into ebuhlungu kuwe ngelixa uxoxa nabo ngokwaphula umthetho, yitsho into enovelwano kwaye uyiqinisekise, emva koko uphinde ujonge incoko emva kokulandela iziphumo.
Yazi ukuba ukuzimisela njengomzali womzali kuthatha ixesha kwaye uzuze imbeko kubalulekile ukuba ungaguquguquki, unothando, kwaye ube novelwano nokuba ungangumngeni kangakanani kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana.
Unxibelelana njani noMntwana wakho woMtshato
Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho wesibini xa uziva ungathandwa.
Nxibelelana noMntwana oMncinci
Thatha ixesha lakho ukubazi, uthathe umdla kwizinto abazithandayo, kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba bachithe ixesha kunye nomzali wabo obazalayo bebodwa, kunye nabo bonke njengentsapho. Abancinci bathanda ukuziqhelanisa ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi kunabantwana abadala, ke yiba nomonde kwaye uqhubeke nokuzama ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nabo.
Nxibelelana nabaTwebi kunye noLutsha
Banike indawo kwaye ubabonise ukuba uyayihlonipha imida yabo. Yiba nembeko kwaye ubuze ngaphambi kokutsiba ubanike iingcebiso, kwaye ubabonise ukuba nokuba bathetha into ekrwada okanye ekhathazayo uyakuhlala ubalungele nokuba sekutheni. Ngeli qela leminyaka, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungabavumeli bangene phantsi kolusu lwakho okanye baphume kuwe. Ukuba bayabona ukuba ukrwada ngokulula, banokusebenzisa loo ntlungu nxamnye nawe kwixa elizayo, ke qiniseka ukuqhubekeka nokunxibelelana kwakho kamva kwaye uza neempendulo ezikhawulezayo onokuzitsho ukuba kwenzeka into efanayo kwixa elizayo. Imigca emikhulu yokugcina engqondweni yile, 'Ndiyayiva into oyithethayo', 'Makhe ndicinge ngaloo nto', kwaye 'ndicela uxolo ukuba uziva njalo.'
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Nxibelelana nabaNtu abaDala
Ngelixa ungadingi ukuba ngumzali wabantu abatsha abangabazali, kulungile ukujolisa ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nabo. Banike indawo kunye nexesha lokuzihlengahlengisa kolu tshintsho lutsha losapho, kwaye uhlale ubabonisa ukuba uyakubakhona, nokuba bathetha ngokungakuthandi ekuqaleni.
Gcina Uxolo Nomnye Umzali Wendalo
Bobabini abazali bendalo baya kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwindlela iqabane lakho lomtshato wesibini eliqhela ngayo. Iqabane lakho likukhethile, kodwa umntu wakudala angangonwabisi ngale nkqubo intsha yosapho. Ngelixa ungakwazi ukulawula indlela akuphatha ngayo omnye umzali womntwana, unga:
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- Hlala uqinisekile kwaye unobubele ebantwaneni nakomnye umzali wokwenyama.
- Yazisa umntwana ukuba awuzami ukuthatha indawo kamama okanye utata wakhe.
- Nyaniseka malunga nendlela oziva ngayo xa omnye umzali ethetha kakubi ngawe kwaye uxoxe ngoku ngasese neqabane lakho.
- Ungaze uthethe kakubi ngabazali babo bokwenyani kunye nabo nokuba uziva urhintyelwe ukwenza njalo.
Khumbuza abantwana ukuba bangabathanda bobabini abazali bomzali kunye nomzali wesibini ngaxeshanye kwaye uya kuhlala ulihlonipha ixesha labo labucala nabazali babo bokwenyani.
Yenza unxibelelwano losapho
Ingabonakala ngathi yeyokugqibela into umntwana wakho wenyani afuna ukuyenza kukuchitha ixesha nawe, nangona kunjalo kubalulekile ukucwangcisa ukuphuma kosapho. Oku kukunika lonke ithuba lokudibana. Khuthaza abantwana abathandabuzayo ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ngokuthi:
- Ukunika ulutsha amandla okukhetha umsebenzi wosapho abangalonwabela
- Ukuvumela ukuba beze nomhlobo kunye
- Ukubazisa ukuba ukhona ukumamela, unomdla wokuva malunga nezinto abazithandayo, okanye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye
Ukwenza amasiko amatsha, njengokubhiyozela uSuku lweeSibini zomtshato wesibini, kunokubanceda abantwana bahlengahlengise kwaye badibane nosapho olutsha.
Yiba Nobulungisa
Enye yezona ziqhelekileyoimiceli mngeni kusapho oludibeneyoIsityholo sokuba omnye umzali akabaphathi kakuhle abantwana bakhe bemvelo okanye abantwana bomtshato wesibini. Enye indlela onokuthi ujongane ngayo nale ngxaki kukucela iinyani kunye neemvakalelo xa umntwana ecela umngeni kumzali ngokungabi nabulungisa. Xoxa ngeenyaniso, qinisekisa iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye uqinise umbono wokuba ujonge ukuphatha wonke umntu ngokufanelekileyo kwaye wonke umntu ulandela imigaqo efanayo.
Nyaniseka
Ulutsha luthanda ukubetha amabhondi angcono nabantu abadala abathetha ngokunyanisekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo nabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba into oyithethayo kufuneka ibe yile nto uyithethayo kuba banokufunda iinjongo zakho kwimbonakalo yobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba. Xa uzama ukusebenza ngobudlelwane obucelomngeni kunye nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo onokuthi:
- Vavanya naziphi na iindlela ozamile kunye neziphumo ozifumeneyo.
- Thatha isigqibo sokuzama enye into eyahlukileyo kwaye ulazise ulutsha ukuba usebenza ngenkuthalo kubudlelwane obuvela esiphelweni sakho.
- Nyaniseka kwaye ube neempazamo zakho ngokukhawuleza nangokucacileyo.
- Cela uxolo ngendima yakho kule ngxaki kunokuba uxoxe.
- Banike amathuba amaninzi okunxibelelana nawe. Yenza iinzame zobomi babo kwaye uhloniphe ukuthandabuza kwabo ukuba kubathatha ixesha ukuba bazive bekhululekile xa bekunye nawe.
Funa ukucebisa
Iingcebiso kusapho zinokuba luncedo kakhulu xa kuziwa kwimicimbi ethile yosapho edibeneyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungabeki tyala kuye nabani na ngexesha lonyango okanye xa usenza uluvo lokuya kubona umcebisi. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba abantu ababini abahambelani, bobabini baya kunyango, okanye usapho lonke luya kunyango kunokuba lube ngumntwana onobunzima bokuziqhelanisa nolwakhiwo losapho. Kule meko ikhethekileyo, ngaphandle kokuba umntwana afune ukubona ugqirha yedwa, kungcono ukuyibeka le njengesiqholo esisebenza kunye nosapho luphela.
Ukusebenza ujonge ubudlelwane
Ukwakha usapho oludibeneyo olonwabileyo kunokuba nzima kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo. Ukusebenzela ukuba nobudlelwane nomntwana ongakuthandiyo ngamava aqhelekileyo kubazali bomtshato wesibini. Nangona inokuziva ikhathazekile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubuhlungu ukubhekana nolu hlobo lwamandla asekhaya, kubalulekile ukuhlala ungaguquguquki, uzolile, unovelwano, kwaye unobubele kuyo yonke le nkqubo ngaphandle kokuphulukana nolwalamano olunokubakho olumangalisayo.
