Ukufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho ofikisayo ufuna uncedo kunokuba yinkohliso ngakumbi kuba ulutsha ngokwendalo ludlula kwixesha lokwahlukana nabazali okanye abagcini babo apho baqala khona ukuzazisa. Ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuqhawuka kubazali babo, ngamanye amaxesha ulutsha luye lube neempawu ezinzulu zempilo yengqondo ezifuna ukhokelo lwangaphandle.
Ukuqonda indlela yokuziphatha yesiqhelo kunye nengxaki
Xa ujonge indlela yokuziphatha kwabakwishumi elivisayo, gcinani engqondweni ubuninzi bayo kunye nokuqina kwayo. Qaphela ukuba isimilo sihlala sisebenza kubantu abathile, okanye iimeko ngokunjalo.
ngowuphi umnwe wokunxiba isangqa semfazi omnyeAmanqaku afanelekileyo
- Imifanekiso yokwenene yoLutsha yoBomi bemihla ngemihla
- Iingcamango zokulala zamantombazana aselula
- Ubomi njengoLutsha
Ukuziphatha kwabaLutsha ngokuFanayo
Inxalenye yendlela yokuziphatha komntwana kwinqanaba lokukhula ukwahlukana nomzali okanye igunya labazali. Oku kuqinisekisa ukuba banako ukuzimela, abantu abadala abasempilweni abakwaziyo ukulawula iimfuno zabo. Eli ingalixesha elinzima kubazali njengoko bejonga indlela yokuziphatha 'evukelayo', kodwa gcinani engqondweni le yinxalenye yophuhliso oluqhelekileyo kwaye kufuneka yenzeke ukuze ulutsha luhambe luxhomekeke kwinkululeko. Ungaqaphela:
- Ukuncipha kwexesha elichithwe nosapho kunye nokonyuka kwexesha elichithwe noontanga
- Uluvo oluninzi, ubukho bezwi
- Ukuphononongwa kweenkolelo ezahlukeneyo ezinokuthi okanye zingaceli mngeni kubazali babo
- Ukunxiba ngendlela ebonisa ubuntu babo
- Ukuphonononga isini sabo
- Ukucela umngeni kwiingcinga kunye nemithetho yabasemagunyeni
- Ukufumana ukungavisisani okungakumbi nomzali okanye nabazali babo
- Ukufuna ukufumana ubuni babo ngelixa kwangaxeshanye bezama ukwamkelwa ngoontanga
- Ukugxeka kwiindlela zobuzali
Iingxaki zoLutsha
Ukuba uqaphela kakhulu, ngaphandle kolawulo, kunye nokuziphatha okungathandekiyo, umntwana wakho unokufumana ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba uqaphela nayiphi na kwezi ndlela zilandelayo zokuziphatha, kungcono ukuba ufumane ugqirha ogxile kulutsha. Jonga:
Uluhlu lwawo onke amazwe kunye nezihloko
- Iimpawu zeukudakumbakubandakanya notshintsho lokutya, ukuhlala wedwa, i-anhedonia, iingxaki ezinxulumene nokulala, ukuzenzakalisa, kunye nemibono yokuzibulala
- Iimpawu zeixhalakubandakanya ukufakwa phezulu okanye emaphethelweni, ubunzima bokulala kunye nokubaleka iingcinga
- Sebenzisa utywala kunye / okanye iziyobisi ukujongana nentlungu yeemvakalelo
- Ukungena kwiingxabano zomzimba nabanye, okanye ukonakalisa ipropathi
- Ukonakalisa abanye ngabomokanye izilwanyana
- Ukukhankanywaiingcinga zokuzibulala okanye zokuzenzakalisa
- Ukuzenzakalisa ngokuzisika, ukutshisa, ukukrwela, ukukhetha okanye ukuzincwina
- Ukukhupha iinwele zabo, amashiya, okanye iinkophe
- Ukuba neengcinga ezingafunekiyo kunye nokunyanzelwa
- Ukuba nexesha elinzima lokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela esempilweni- umzekelo ukuba badubuleke rhoqo kwaye babe namandla kakhulu kwiimvakalelo
- Ukwala ukutya, ukutya kakhulu okanye ukuzilolonga, kunyeukuzinkcinkca ngotywala kunye nokucoca
Ukuzinakekela uMzali
Ngaphambi kokuba uxoxe ngayo nantoni na nomntwana wakho, thatha umzuzwana ukuba uzibonise kwaye uqaphele ukuba ngaba ucinga ukuba yeyiphi na into yakho kulutsha lwakho. Eli xesha linokuba ngumzuzu onzima nakubani na kwaye ulutsha lwakho lunokubangela iinkumbulo zobuntwana bakho. Xa usiya kuncokola nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, qiniseka ukwenza njalo ngendlela ezolileyo, enothando nevulekileyo. Ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha uziva usebenze kakhulu, thatha umoya kwaye uvavanye ukuba ukwindawo elungileyo yokuqhubeka nengxoxo ngendlela esempilweni.
Ukunceda Ulutsha Olunengxaki
Ukuba uziva ngathi umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo, cinga malunga nengxaki abahlangabezana nayo kwaye loluphi uhlobo lonyango olunokuba lolona luncedo. Olunye ukhetho lubandakanya:
- Ulutsha olusebenzayo oluphezulu olunamava amodareyitha ukuya kwi-moderation: iintlanganiso rhoqo nonyango olugqwesileyo kulutsha
- Ulutsha olufuna ukhathalelo olulunge ngakumbi: iinkqubo zonyango olunzulu
- Ulutsha olufuna ujikelezo lwexesha:iinkqubo zonyango olunzulu
- Ulutsha olufumene ukonzakala: UkuNtshutshiswa kwamehlo kunye nokuLungiswa kwakhona Unyango (EMDR)
Umntwana wakho unokuziva enqabile ukufumana uncedo, ke thantamisa xa ubamba umxholo wonyango okanye iinkqubo ezinzulu. Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani impilo-ntle yabo kwaye ubanike ukhetho ukuze bazive ngathi bayinxalenye yenkqubo yokwenza izigqibo. Bazise ukuba iimpawu kunye nentlungu abahlangabezana nayo ayisiyiyo into ekufuneka beyenzile bodwa kwaye kukho iitoni zokhetho ezikhoyo.
Zama ukulungelelanisa amava abo ngokubazisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu luye lwafumana iimpawu ezifanayo kwaye inxenye yamava oluntu ijongene neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Yenze yaziwe kaninzi ukuba ubekho kwaye uya kubaxhasa kuyo yonke le nkqubo.
Ungayakha njani iirock
Ukunceda ulutsha oluzibulalayo
Ukuba umntwana wakho ngokuzibulala (unenjongo, unokufikelela kwiindlela zokwenza oko, kwaye unecebo), ungabashiyi bodwa kwaye ufune uncedo olufanelekileyo kwangoko. Oku kunokubandakanya isibhedlele esingazibandakanyiyo ngokunxibelelana namapolisa, inkqubo yonyango olunzulu, kunye neqela lenkxaso kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
Ukunyamekela Umntwana Wakho Ofikisayo
Inokuziva yoyika ngokwenene xa umntwana wakho ofikisayo efumana umzuzu onzima. Khumbula ukuzikhathalela ngokwakho kule nkqubo kwaye ufune olona nyango lusemgangathweni kumntwana wakho ukuba ubona naziphi na iindlela zokuziphatha ezikhathazayo ngokukhawuleza.
