Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokubonakala ngathi abantu basetyhini kunye nabesilisa bakumacala ahlukeneyo kwindalo iphela. Ngoku ka UGqirha John O'Connor , ugqirha wezengqondo onamava angaphezulu kwamashumi amabini, ingcali yokuziphatha kwabantu, umbhali we Thetha, Kwaye umfana bonke ubomi bakhe, ngamanye amaxesha, kunjalo. 'Amadoda nabafazi banezimo zengqondo ezahlukileyo,' utshilo uGqirha O'Connor. 'Ukwazi ingqondo yomfana nokubukela indlela aziphethe ngayo yindlela yokwazi ukuba unomdla kuwe.'
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Ukuqonda indlela abafana abathandana ngayo ngokubanzi kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, uGqirha O'Connor ulumkisile, kuba mfo ngamnye wahlukile ngenxa yemvelaphi yakhe kunye namava akhe obomi. Ngapha koko, iuhlobo lokudlala ngothandoIimpawu ezithunyelwa ngamadoda zikwimeko efanelekileyo. Iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha umntu azenza kwiklabhu yasebusuku ngekhe iqhubeke kakuhle emsebenzini, ngakumbi ukukhathazwa ngokwesini kungumba omkhulu kangaka.
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Ukudlala ngothando ngelixa uphumile
Ukuba ukwiklabhu yasebusuku okanye ibha kwaye uyazibuza ukuba umntu unomdla kuwe na, uGqirha O'Connor ucebisa ukuba ugcine engqondweni umntu ocinga ngale meko. 'Abafana baya kuphuma baye kubona ukuba banokufumana ingqalelo kubafazi ngokubanzi. Ukuba bafumana impendulo, njengoncumo okanye olunye uhlobo lomqondiso kuwe, banokukuthengela isiselo okanye bahambe kwaye baqale ukuthetha nawe. ' NgokukaGqirha O'Connor, ikho imizekelo eliqela yokuziphatha kwendoda eyindoda.
- Ucoce umqala -Umfana unokuwucoca umqala wakhe okanye enze enye ingxolo ephezulu ukuze nje abantu basetyhini bamjonge. Ukusuka apho, uya kuzama kwaye afunde imbonakalo ayifumana kubafazi egumbini ukubona ukuba ukhona na umntu onomdla wokujonga indlela yakhe.
- Uthethela phezulu -Amadoda eqela angonwaba, kodwa eyona nto iphambili kule ntetho ingayindlela yokwenza ukuba abantu basetyhini bajonge indlela yabo. Emva koko balinganisa iimpendulo abazifumanayo ukubona ukuba ukhona umntu onomdla.
- Ukwenza into engaqhelekanga -Uya kugobela phantsi anyuse iikawusi zakhe, agudise iinwele zakhe umva, ashukumise ibhatyi yakhe, abambe ibhiya yakhe emoyeni, nantoni na eya kumenza abonakale.
- Ukuba ngumkhuseli wabasetyhini -Abanye abantu bahlala befumana elona thuba lincinci lokuba ligorha kwaye bakhusele imbeko yomfazi ukuze bafumane ingqalelo. Ukuzenzela umntu oza kukumela uya kuba nethemba lokuphucula imeko yakhe emehlweni akho.
- IBrags ingxola -Amanye amadoda aya kuthetha ngeempawu zawo zokwenyani okanye ezicingelwayo ukuze afumane ingqalelo kubafazi, nakwivolumu apho aqinisekileyo ukuba uyayiva. Banokude bafeze imali kwisipaji sabo, kwaye olo luhlobo lokuqhayisa.
- Uncumo, usithi krwaqu, okanye ujonge kuwe Encwadini, Unxibelelwano lwangaphakathi: Ukudala ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu , isidangaukumjonga emehlweni nokumomothekakufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo ukuze ibe ngumqondiso wokudlala ngothando. Abanye abantu bayancuma nje ukuba babonakalise imbeko, okanye angonwaba. Ukuba uyancuma, ujonge, kwaye uzamajongana nawe emehlweni, uncumo lunokuba lunye kuseto lokuziphatha oluza kubonisa ukuba unomdla kuwe. Ezi kunye neminye imiqondiso yolwimi lomzimba inokukunceda ubone ukuba indoda inomdla kuwe na.
Emva kwaba baqwalaseli bokuqala, uya kuhamba azame ukunxibelelana nawe ngeendlela ezingacacanga, ezinjengokuqala incoko, ukubuza igama lakho, okanye uku-odola isiselo.
indlela yokwenza umgubo werayisi emdaka
Ukudlala ngothando ngelixa usebenza
Umsebenzi unokubonakala njengethuba elifanelekileyo lokudlala ngothando kuba wonke umntu ukhulisa ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo kwaye wazi wonke umntu kwinqanaba elithile, nangona kunjalo, akunjalo. Ezinye iinkampani zinemigaqo-nkqubo engavumiyo ukuba abasebenzi bathandane. Amadoda kufuneka anyuswe kakhulu emsebenzini. Oko akuthethi ukuba umfazi akazukuwenza umdla wakhe, utshilo uGqirha O'Connor.
Ukudlala ngothando emsebenziniimiqondiso inokubonakala icace ngakumbi kwaye ingabonakali. 'Kule meko,' utshilo uGqirha O'Connor, 'kuya kufuneka ujonge into eyenziwa ngumfo ukubonisa umdla wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuncwasa kungenzeka, kodwa kuhlala kungaphaya kokudibana kuba iinkampani ziye zamangalelwa ngokukhuthaza imekoUkuhlukunyezwa ngesondo. ' Iimpawu zokudlala ngothando emsebenzini zibandakanya:
- Wenza umzamo wokuthetha nawe ngalo lonke ithuba, ngamanye amaxesha enze izizathu zokuba nibe nencoko
- Ulandela inkqubo yakho yesiqhelo, enje ngokuvela kwigumbi lesidlo sasemini kwangaxeshanye usenza yonke imihla
- Ukubuza ukuba uye kwisidlo sasemini
- Isandla sihambisa umyalezo kuwe
- Uzisa ikofu
- Ukumamela ngenyameko
- Ngaba uziphethe kakuhle (ucinga indlela yakhe yokuziphatha)
- Ukubanjwa ngamanye amaxesha, okunje 'ngengozi' ukuxubha ingalo
Ukudlala ngothando kwiqela eliqhelekileyo
Kulapho abantu baziva bekhululekile ukudlala ngothando nabasetyhini. Ukuba iqela liqela elisondeleleneyo labahlobo, abafana bahlala bedlala ngothando, utshilo uGqirha O'Connor, kuba wonke umntu uyaqhelana. Kulapho inkcazo yabasetyhini kunye neyamadoda ngokudlala ngothando ifana kakhulu. Indoda eukudlala ngothando naweunga:
- Ncuma
- Uqhulo
- Ukuchukumisa
- Thetha ndikumamele
- Ndiyakuncoma
Nokuba ngabahlobo, amathuba okuthandana akhona ngokusekwe kule miqondiso, nokuba umntu uyaphindisela kunye nabasetyhini abaninzi kwiqela. Ukuba akaphenduli nomnye umntu, kwaye uziphatha ngale ndlela kuwe, ke unomdla kuwe.
Iimpawu zokudlala ngothando lomntu
Ubuntu bomntu buya kuhlala bunempembelelo kwindlela abafikelela ngayo kwabasetyhini, utshilo uGqirha O'Connor. Umahluko ochazwe nguGqirha O'Connor zezi:
Amadoda aneentloni
UKUYAUmntu oneentloni uhlala edlala ngothandoxa ethandana nomfazi. Unokubonisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ezinje:
- Ukumamela ngenyameko
- Ukunikezela ngesithambisi okanye intuthuzelo
- Ukujonga emehlweni akho ngelixa uthetha
- Ukuzisa ikofu yakho oyithandayo okanye wenze izizathu zokukubona
- Ukuba ligxalaba lokuxhomekeka
- Ukubeka abanye abantu phantsi, ngakumbi enye yezinto onomdla kuzo
Ugqirha O'Connor, ofundise iiklasi zokuzithemba kwaye uncede uninzi lwamadoda aneentloni ekusebenzeni kwakhe, ucacisa ukuba, 'Ngokwesiqhelo, abantu abaneentloni baba nengxaki kwiklabhu yasebusuku kwaye kunqabile ukuba bahambe nomntu. Bazokukuphepha ukunxibelelana ngamehlo kwaye abanokuncuma kuba boyike kakhulu. Baya kuhlala beba ngumfazi ngethemba lokuba ekugqibeleni eli bhinqa liza kubona ukuba lelona lifanelekileyo kuye. Nangona kunjalo, umntu oneentloni uya kuba nobunzima obukhulu ekumxeleleni iimvakalelo zakhe zokwenyani. Zilunge ngakumbi kwiimeko apho uhlobo oluthile lobudlelwane lusekiwe. '
Abafana Abahle
Abafana abahlekayo badla ngokuba bubomi bepati, okanye bahlala bethathelwa ingqalelo njengomntu odidi 'leklasikhi'. Banokudlala ngothando ngoku:
yenza intombazana oyiphuphayo ngemifanekiso
- Ukuqhekeka iziqhulo ukubona ukuba ngubani ohleka
- Sebenzisa uburharha ukukhulisa umdla wabasetyhini
- Ukwenza inkqubela phambili, njengokuchukumisa umlenze wakho (kodwa ke ukuhlekisa ngayo ukuba kuyakucaphukisa)
Izilwanyana
Amanye amadoda aya kudlula ngothando kwaye aye ngqo kwinkqubela phambili yesondo, ekhomba kwiindlela zokuziphatha eziphazamisayo. Ugqirha O'Connor uxela ngamandla ukuba abantu basetyhini mabahlukane nezi ntlobo zamadoda. Amanye amadoda aziphatha ngendlela ephazamisayo, njengokuchukumisa amalungu omzimba ngexesha lokudibana nawe. La madoda ahlala ezibandakanya kolu hlobo lokuziphatha kuba efuna ukubona ukuba ngubani oza kungenisa kubo ngoko nangoko, ukuze balawule umntu obhinqileyo kubudlelwane. Asinto yokuziphatha kakuhle, kwaye ayikokudlala ngothando. '
Ukuqwalaselwa ngoyena mqondiso wokugqibela wokudlala ngothando ngamadoda
Lilonke, kunokubonakala ngathi uyazi ukuba umntu udlala ngothando nawe kunzima ukufumanisa. Ingcebiso kaGqirha O'Connor kukugcina engqondweni ukuba ukuba indoda ikubonisa ingqalelo, yeyona nto iphambiliuphawu ukuba unomdla. Emva koko unokudlala ngothando kunye naye ukubonisa umdla wakho kwaye akuncede udluleleinqanaba elilandelayo.
