Nabani na onamava okubaxekileyoiingcinga ngokufa okanye ukufakwaye ngelishwa banokuphakama xa imeko ebangela ukuvela okanye bade bazive ngathi abaphumanga ndawo. Ngelixa kukho amacebo amaninzi onokuzama ngawo uwedwa, ukuba uyaqhubeka nokufumana iingcinga ezingafunekiyo, ezingafunekiyo malunga nokufa ngaphandle koncedo, kungcono ukufikelela kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo enokukunceda.
Ukuqonda iingcinga eziqinisekileyo
Inkalo enkulu yeengcinga ezinomdla yingcinga yokungafuni ukucinga ngento okanye ukuyiphepha iyenza ukuba unxibelelwano lwe-neural lomelele njengoko ucinga ngakumbi nangakumbi ngayo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuthabathekeni njengoko ingqondo ijikeleza ezi ngcinga ngaphandle kwesisombululo. Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuninzi kunokubandakanya uphawu lokufa okungapheliyo okanye iingcinga ezinxulumene nokufa. Oku kunokubandakanya:
- Ubume obungalunganga obuphambanisayo
- I-phobia enxulumene nokufa
- NgokubanziUnxunguphalo
- Ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo emva koxinzelelo(PTSD)
- Ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo
- Ukoyika Ukufa Komzali
- Iimpawu zokusondela ekufeni
- Izizathu zokuba Ukuhlanza ngaphambi kokuba kuFe
Abanye abantu banokuba ngaphezulu bathambekele ekucingeni ngokugqithiseleyo ngokusekwe kwimfuza yabo.
Iindlela zokuyeka iingcinga eziGqithisileyo malunga nokufa okanye ukufa
Zininzi iindlela zokuzivocavoca onokuthi uzame ukukunceda ukuba uziqonde ngcono ezona zinto zibangela ukuba uqhagamshele, kwaye ekugqibeleni unciphise iingcinga onokuthi uzibone malunga nokufa kwakho okanyeukufa kothandekayo. Ukuba uziva ngathi iingcinga zakho zininzi kakhulu okanye uziva ngathi usengozini yokonzakalisa wena okanye abanye,funa uncedongoku nangoku.
Ukuqonda umxholo weengcinga zakho
Xa abantu befumana ukufa okugqithisileyo okanye iingcinga ezinxulumene nokufa, amaxesha ngamaxesha, banomxholo ngokubanzi. Ukuqonda okungcono ukuba yeyiphi imixholo ebonakala ngathi ihlala iqhubeka kwiingcinga zakho ezinokukunceda ukuba unxibelelane ngcono nomxholo wento ebangela ukuba ube nakho. Eminye imixholo eqhelekileyo ibandakanya:
- Ukufa xa ulele
- Umntu omthandayo esifa belele
- Iingcinga zokuzenzakalisa okanye zenzakalise abanye
- Ukufa ngogonyamelo kwabathandekayo
- Ngengozi ndibangela ukufa kothandekayo
- Kwenzeka ntoni kwabo bathembele kuwe emva kokuba uswelekile
Ukunxibelelana nawe
Enye yezona zinto zinzima ekujonganeni neengcinga ezingafunekiyo zinxibelelana ngokunzulu kuwe kunye nokuqonda ukuba yintoni enokubangela ingcinga yokuqala ebangela ukuvela okungathandekiyo. Xa uqala ukucinga ngokufa okanye ukufa, zama ukuthatha umzuzwana kwijenali. Bhala phantsi:
zingaphi iikhabhathi kwibhotile yewayini ebomvu
- Into ubuyenza kanye phambi kokuba kuvele ingcinga
- Indlela owawuziva ngayo ngokweemvakalelo
- Apho uziva iimvakalelo zakho emzimbeni wakho
- Imvakalelo yakho yayinzima kangakanani kwisikali se-zero ukuya kwi-10
Qaphela ukuba zithatha ixesha elingakanani ngemizuzu okanye iiyure iingcinga ezingapheliyo zihlala khona. Enye yezona ndlela zokuziphatha zinamandla onokuqala ukuzenza kukwazisa kwaye wazi ezi ngcinga. Kwabanye, ukuqala ukuphonononga nzulu ezi ngcinga, nangona zisoyikisa okanye ngamanye amaxesha zisoyikeka, kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba kuninzi ezi ziingcinga nje, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi azisekelwanga kwinyaniso okanye kwilogic, kwaye ikakhulu ziqhutywa ziimvakalelo . Oku kunokunciphisa amandla abo ngokubanzi.
ususa njani amabala amanzi anzima
Ukhuphela ngaphandle iingcinga zakho
Ukukhuphela ngaphandle iingcinga zakho kunokukunceda ujonge umbono wakho ngokufa ngendlela ethe kratya. Oku nako, kunokunceda ukunciphisa amandla abo kunye nokuvumela ukuba uzive ubuyile kulawulo. Nokuba ujamelana neengcinga malunga nokufa kwakho, ukusweleka komntu omthandayo, okanye iingcinga ezizezinye njengokufa ulele, ezi zimvo zinokuthi ziveliswe ngaphandle. Ukuhambisa iingcinga zakho malunga nokufa okanye ukufa:
- Khawufane ucinge ukuba ezi ngcinga zinokuthatha enye indlela ngaphandle kwakho. Ukuba kunjalo, zaziza kujongeka njani? Yichaze ngokucacileyo inkangeleko yabo kwaye uyibhale phantsi, uyizobe, kwaye uyichaze ngokweenkcukacha.
- Nika igama lefom yangaphandle oyenzileyo.
- Xa kuvela iingcinga ezingapheliyo, qala ukuthetha ngazo okanye ubhale ngazo malunga nenjongo kunye nokujonga. Sebenzisa igama olinike iingcinga zakho ukuzichaza xa ubhala okanye uthetha. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uthathe inxaxheba ebonakalayo kula mava anokukwenza uzive ungalawuleki. Ngokwenza njalo, ukhetha ukuba yinxalenye yohambo lwakho lokuphilisa, endaweni yokuziva uphantsi kolu ngenelelo.
Ukuphefumla Umsebenzi kunye nokubonakala
Ukuzilolonga ngokuphefumlazilula, kodwa zizixhobo ezinamandla ekuncedeni ukuba uzive usemgangathweni ngeli xesha linzima. Beka isandla sakho esiswini nasentliziyweni kwaye uqalise ukugxila ngaphakathi. Vumela iingcinga ukuba zize kwaye uzithelekelele zidada ngombhobho womoya okanye ngebhola yombhalo. Qaphela ujonge ukuphefumla kwakho kwaye uqhubeke ngokungagwebi ujonge ezi ngcinga zihambayo. Ukubayeka badlule kunciphisa amandla abo kwaye kunceda ukuba wenze indlela entsha, esempilweni enokuthi inciphise uxinzelelo oluhamba nezi ngcinga zingathandekiyo.
Ukufumana indawo yokuyila
Iindawo zokuyila ezinje ngokubhala, ukuzoba, ukupeyinta, ukudanisa, kunye nokudlala umculo kunokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke nokuba zeziphi iimvakalelo neengcinga ezenzekayo ngalo mzuzu. Abantu banotyekelo lokufuna ukunqanda endaweni yeengcinga zobuso eziva zoyikisa. Oku kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kukwaxhasa umjikelo wamandla abo. Sebenzisa indawo yokuyila kunokukunceda uhambe ngala maxesha oyikisayo, ngelixa uqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela esempilweni. Inokukunceda ukuba wenze umkhwa osempilweni, ukuba unomdla wokuwuphepha.
Ukwandisa uKhathalelo lwaKho lwemihla ngemihla
Uxinzelelo luthanda ukonyusa iingcinga ezingafunekiyo, ke ukubeka phambili ukuzinakekela kwakho kunokunceda kakhulu ekunciphiseni ezi ngcinga zingathandekiyo, kunye nalo naluphi na uxinzelelo malunga nokucinga ezi zinto kwixesha elizayo. Ukukhathazeka ngezi ngcinga ziza kamva kunokubangela ukuba beze, kwaye kwakhona komeleze iindlela zabo ze-neural. Ukuzikhathalela kubandakanya:
- Ukutshekisha ngokwakho yonke imihla
- Ukuba nobubele kuwe
- Ukuba nomonde nesiqu sakho
- Ukubuza into oyifunayo ngokwempilo yengqondo
- Ukuphonononga iindawo zentengiso
- Ukwenza imisebenzi esempilweni okanye izinto ozithandayo ezibangela uvuyo
- Ukuthetha nonyango okanye umcebisi xa ufuna izixhobo ezongezelelweyo
Ukusebenza ngeeNgcinga ezinxulumene nokuFa okungapheliyo
Ingaziva ingumngeni omkhulu ukuqala kwenkqubo yokusebenza ngeengcinga ezingafunekiyo malunga nokufa kunye nokufa. Ukuqonda ezona zinto zibangela ukuba ufunde kunye nendlela yokulawula uxinzelelo lwakho ngendlela esempilweni kunokukunceda ukunciphisa okanye ukusombulula iingcinga ezigabadeleyo malunga nokufa kunye nokufa. Ukuba uziva ukhathazekile, uneengcinga zokuzenzakalisa wena okanye abanye abantu, okanye uziva ngathi imithambo oye wayizama ayincedi ngokwaneleyo, fikelela kumcebisi okanye ingcali enokukukhokela kwinkqubo yakho.
