Indlela yokubuyela kumkhondo njengabantu abatshatileyo inokuba nzima, kodwa ukulandela amanyathelo oxolelwaniso lokwahlukana komtshato kunokukunceda wena neqabane lakho nenze njalo ngempumelelo. Ukuqhubekeka okungahambanga kakuhle kunye nendlela onokuthintela ngayo imiba yexesha elizayo kunokunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho bomelele emva kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokudibana.
1. Yenza iSicwangciso sokuSebenza
Xa ukhetha uku babuyelene , kubalulekile ukubayiza neceboezibonakalisa iziphumo zoxolelwaniso ezinokubakho. Sebenzisa oku kulandelayo njengesikhokelo sokwenza isicwangciso sakho esisodwa njengesibini:
- Xoxa malunga nexesha eniza kulisebenzisa nobabiniuxolelwaniso.
- Thetha ukuba uxolelwaniso luthetha ntoni kuwe ngokwakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuba nobabini ukwiphepha elinye.
- Xoxa malunga nokuba uza kubuyela kunye kunye kwangoko okanye ufuna ukwenza amadinga kwangaphambili.
- Thetha ngezinto ozilindeleyo ngokubanzi-kutheni ufuna ukudibanisa kunye nomzamo ozimisele ukuwenza ukuze ugcine ubudlelwane buphelele.
- Ukwabiwa ngokulinganayo koqhawulo mtshato
- Iingcebiso zoMama abangatshatanga
- Ukulinda Indoda Eqhawula Umtshato
2. Chonga izinto ezingahambi kakuhle
Nje ukuba wenze isicwangciso esisisiseko sendlela oza kuqhubeka ngayo nolwalamano, kubalulekile ukuba ukuvavanye njengesibini kunye nangabanye Kutheni ubudlelwane bungasebenzi ngaphandle njengoko bekulindelekile. Qiniseka ukuba wenze oku kulandelayo xa nobabini niziva nizolile kwaye nilungele imvakalelo:
Ncokola Uzolile
Qalisa incoko ngokulungelelanisa omnye nomnye-kungasolwa, kungekho kungxola, akukho kubiza ngamagama, kwaye akukho kuzikhusela ngexesha lencoko. Ukuba nabani na uziva engonwabanga okanye ezithethelela ngexesha lencoko, cinga ngeendlela zokuxelelana ngokuzolileyo kwaye ubeke ingxoxo okwethutyana- khumbula kubalulekile ukusebenza kuyounxibelelwano olusempilweni, ngakumbi xa kuncokolwa kakhulu
Gxila kwinxalenye yakho kubudlelwane
Gxila kuphela kwinxalenye yakho kubudlelwane-into obunokuyenza ngcono, into ongathanda ukuyiphucula xa uqhubela phambili. Cinga ngendlela izinto oziphethe ngayo ezinefuthe kwiqabane lakho kwaye uzicwangcise kunye.
loluphi uhlobo lwenja yam yokulayisha umfanekiso
Yenza uluhlu kunye
Ngokudibeneyo, yiza noluhlu lwento enicinga ukuba nobabini ayilunganga ngokubanzi, hayi ngokukodwa- cingani ngemixholo ephambili enjengonxibelelwano, uthando, iinjongo zexesha elizayo / izicwangciso, ukuthembana, uxanduva kunye neemfuno zakho.
3. Vavanya ubudlelwane bakho: Isilayidi xa kuthelekiswa nesigqibo
Le ngcamango ibalulekile xa kuziwa ekuhlolweni kobudlelwane.
Isilayidi
Izibini ezininzi ziwela kudidi 'lokutyibilika', oko kuthetha ukuba bebekhe bahlala kunye okwexeshana, kwaye 'besilayida' ukuba nabantwana, behamba kunye, okanye betshata ngaphandle kokuxoxa ngenene ngezi zigqibo zibalulekileyo ebomini babo.
Ukuthatha isigqibo
Ukuthatha izibini ezitshatileyo ngabom bakhethe ukuba kunye kwaye baxoxe ngeenjongo zabo zobudlelwane kunye neemfuno ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuya phambili. Ukuthatha isigqibo kwiibini ezitshatileyo kunikezelwe ngakumbi komnye nomnye kwaye baxele amanqanaba aphezulu okwoneliseka.
Izinto Onokuthetha Ngazo
Ukufumanisa ukuba ubusisibini esityibilikayo okanye esigqibayo, yiya kule mibuzo ilandelayo kunye- kwaye ujonge ukuba sisibini esigqibayo xa sele nixolelanisile:
- Ngaba sithethile ngokuthatha inyathelo elilandelayo ngaphambi kokuba sithathe inyathelo?
- Yeyiphi imiba kunye neenjongo esithe saxoxa ngazo ngaphambi kokukhetha ukutshata? Oku kunokubandakanya inkolo, ezemali, abantwana, kunye neenjongo ezizayo ngokubanzi.
- Ngaba sitshatile kuba besikhe sahlala kunye okwethutyana kwaye kwavakala ngathi inyathelo elilandelayo?
- Sasiyintoni isizathu sokutshata?
- Ukuya phambili, kutheni sifuna ukuba kunye?
- Ngaba iinjongo zethu zekamva zihambelana?
- Ngaba sasisibini esityibilikayo okanye esasithatha isigqibo ngaphambili?
- Singasenza njani isigqibo sokuba sisibini?
- Ngaba kusempilweni ukuba siqhubele phambili kolu lwalamano?
Xoxa ngeeMfuno noLindelo
Ukufumanisa into oyifunayo ngokwahlukeneyo nanjengesibini inganisondeza kunye, ikuncede uzibonakalise, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba nobabini ninako ukunika enye into efunekayo ukonwaba kubudlelwane. Vavanya ngokunyaniseka Yintoni oyifunayo kubudlelwane kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unika iimpendulo ezithile kwezi zilandelayo:
- Ngakanani, kaninzi kangakanani, kwaye uluhlobo luni lothando oludingayo
- Lixesha elingakanani wedwa olifunayo kwaye nini
- Yintoni ekwenzandiziva ndithandwa(izipho, imisebenzi yenkonzo, uthando lomzimba,uthando lomlomo)
- Lingakanani ixesha ongathanda ukulichitha kunye emini, ebusuku, nangeempelaveki
- Yeyiphi imisebenzi ongathanda ukuyenza kunye kunye nedwa
- Zithini iinjongo zakho zomhlala-phantsi kunye nomsebenzi wakho
- Ungathanda ukuyichitha njani imali yakho - ulondolozo,uhambo, ukuthenga, iimali zomhlalaphantsi
- Nokuba uza kudibanisa iimali zakho okanye uzigcine zahlukene
- Yintoni oyilindeleyo kwiqabane lakho malunga nenkxaso yezemali, ulwabiwo lomsebenzi wasekhaya, kunye nenkxaso yemvakalelo
Ukuba abantwana bayabandakanyeka
Ukuba unomntwana okanye unabantwana abaninzi kunye, kungcono ukuba wenze iimpazamo kwicala lokulumkisa.
Gcina Ubucala
Nokuba yeyiphiutshintsho olunxulumene nolwalamano oluchaphazela usaphokunokuba nzima ukuba umntwana aqonde, asebenze, kwaye ahlengahlengise. Gcina uxolelwaniso lwakho lobuhlobo luyimfihlo kwaye wazise umntwana okanye abantwana xa uqiniseke nge-100 yepesenti ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuphumelela kwaye nobabini nigqibe ekubeni niqhubele phambili ngoxolelwaniso.
Qiniseka kwaye uthintele uxinzelelo
Qhubeka uthethe kakuhle ngelinye iqabane elinomntwana kwaye ungaze ubandakanye umntwana kuzo naziphi na izigqibo eziphambili malunga nenqanaba loxolelwaniso okanye iingxoxo zomtshato. Le yimicimbi yabantu abadala kakhulu ekungafuneki nokuba nomntwana ofikisayo angayazi njengoko ibangelauxinzelelo olungafanelekangakunye nesixa-mali esingalunganga esabelwe umntwana.
Uxoxa njani nabahlobo kunye nosapho
Isigqibo malunga nokuba uza kubaxelela nini abantu ngento yokuba wena neqabane lakho nihamba ngamanyathelo oxolelwaniso lokwahlukana komtshato sisigqibo sobuqu.
Zilungiselele Iimbono Zabanye
Ngapha koko, abahlobo bakho kunye namalungu osapho baya kuba nembono malunga nokuba ukunika umtshato wakho elinye ithuba lokucinga yinto elungileyo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukuba ufikelele kubo xa wenzakele okanye unomsindo, baya kuyikhumbula loo nto, kwaye banokugcina iimvakalelo ezimbi ngeqabane lakho.
Yabelana Nje ukuba imiba isonjululwe
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nizimisele ngokuzama kwakhona, ngekhe ufune ukwabelana ngeendaba kwangoko. Abantu ebomini bakho baya kusixhasa ngakumbi isigqibo sakho sokubuyelana ukuba ungabelana ngokuzolileyo ngeendaba zakho kwaye uchaze into yokuba uyisombulule imicimbi edlulileyo ngoku kwaye ukulungele ukuya phambili.
Ukuhlala kwiqela elinye
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ekudibanisaneni kukufunda ukuhlala kwiqela elinye, kwanakwiimpikiswano kunye nokungaqondani. Xa izibini zinokulungelelana, zinokumelana ngokuvulekileyo kwaye zibonise uvelwano nobubele omnye komnye, amathuba okuba ukuhlala kunye ixesha elide yanda kakhulu. Ukuba ufuna uncedo olongezelelekileyo, fikelela ku umcebisi ngubani onokubonelela ngezixhobo, ngenkxaso, kunye noluvo olungakhethi cala ukunceda ngakumbi ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho.
