Ukwazi ukudlala ngothando nenkwenkwe sisakhono esiluncedo kwaye kumnandi ukusifunda xa ubetha indawo yokuthandana. Unokucinga ukuba yahluke ngokupheleleyo kunendlela onomdla ngayo kwintombazana, kodwa uya kumangaliswa kukufana kwabo bobabini.
Sukucinga ngokudlala ngothando ngenkwenkwe
Xa ufunda ukudlala ngothando nenkwenkwe, omnye umahluko ophambili kuninzi lwamakhwenkwe kunye namadoda kukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngobuqhophololo- enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha awufanelanga. Inkcubeko yanamhlanje ifundisa amadoda ukuba akufuneki 'anxibelelane' nezinto zovakalelo, kwaye kufuneka bahlale beqinile kwaye bezikhetha. Ukudlala ngothando ngezi ntlobo zamadoda kunokuba nzima, kuba kunzima kubo bobabini ukuba bazi ukuba uyadlala kwaye nabo babonise indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngayo. Ukuba unika iintyatyambo emfazini, kuyamkeleka ngokupheleleyo kwinkcubeko yakhe ukuba abe neentloni kwaye ancume kwaye mhlawumbi agigitheke. Ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo emntwini yinto anokugculelwa ngayo-nangona evakalelwa ngendlela efanayo!
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Kwangokunjalo, ukumncoma nje- Ndiyayithanda indlela ibhatyi ebukeka ngayo kuwe, Michael! kunokuthathwa njengesimemo sokudlala ngothando, kodwa usenokungasithathi njengesinye, kungenxa yokuba ayithathwa 'njengendoda' ukuba ijonge inkangeleko- endaweni yoko, 'ililize.' Ufanele ngakumbi ukuba umazise ukuba unomdla kuye ukuba uyamncoma ngesixhobo esithile anaso-imoto yakhe, umzekelo.
Umntu oSebenzayo weNtsha eNtsha
Ewe, enye i-archetype yenkcubeko yendoda yangoku ichasene nendoda echazwe apha ngasentla- umntu ofundiswe ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zakhe, ukuxabisa izinto ezinje ngezothando kunye nobuhle nokunye. Musa ukucinga ukuba la madoda kulula ukudlala nabo - bafundiswe ukuba akufuneki bacinge ukuba umfazi unomdla kubo ngenxa yokuba ebancoma. Ngelixa banokuba nobabalo ngakumbi ekwamkeleni ukuncoma, bakwanakho nokucinga ukuba bangumlinganiso nje wobuhlobo- ayisiyiyo injongo yokuthandana, yeyona nto ifun'ukudlala ngothando. Nokuba kunjalo, ukuba kubonakala ngathi lo mfo ulahlekile imiqondiso oyithumelayo, kungcono kungcono ukuba uphume umazise ngokuthe ngqo, ukuba unomdla kuye. Ukudlala ngothando ngumdlalo omnandi kuphela ukuba bobabini bayadlala, kwaye ukuba uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unomdla, oko kumnika ithuba lokudlala ngothando nawe.
Ingozi yokuNxibelelana gwenxa
Ngelishwa, zombini ezi stereotypes zingasentla (kwaye zineenkolelo, ngaphandle kwezinto ezininzi) zinengxaki enokubakho ekuqikeleleni nasekungazinakekelweni kweempawu zovakalelo: ukuba bayakucaphukisa, banokuthatha isimilo esihle semihla ngemihla njengokudlala ngothando. Yinto eyaziwayo eyenzekayo yomntu ongayifumaniyo imiqondiso echuliweyo yokuba 'akanguye lo ungenayo.' Kwakhona, kwezi meko, unxibelelwano olucacileyo- ngamanye amaxesha unxibelelwano oluphangaleleyo- yindlela yokuhamba.
Ubugcisa obugqibeleleyo bokudlala ngothando
Zombini ezi ntlobo zamadoda zizinto eziqhelekileyo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo-kwaye ndinethemba- lokuba indoda ofuna ukudlala ngothando nayo ayiphumi ngaphandle, ukuze ikwazi ukufunda imiqondiso yakho kwaye iphendule ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba kunjalo, ukudlala ngothando kunokuba yeyona midlalo imnandi isibini esinokudlala ngayo-nokuba kungomhla wokuqala okanye emva kwamashumi eminyaka sitshatile.
1. Qwalasela: Isicwangciso sakho sokuqala sokudlala ngothando kukuhlawula. Qaphela into athanda ukuyenza, qaphela ukuba zeziphi izifundo okanye iinkqubo zeTV okanye iivenkile ezenza ukuba akhanye kwaye ancume. Njengoko ufumana umbono wokuba yeyiphi eyona nto ithatha ingqalelo yakhe, iya kukunceda ubone ukuba ungayijolisa njani kwizikhombisi kunye neemoods ozifunayo.
Mbini. Menze akuhoye: Qala ukutyala imbewu encinci yezinto azithandayo ecaleni kwakho-ukutsala umdla wakhe. Umzekelo olungileyo uza kuqaphela ukuba uyayithanda ipie yethanga- kunye noku-odola ioyile yokuthambisa yephayi yeethanga ukucima imood.
3. Cebisa: Nje ukuba unike ingqalelo, qala ukucebisa ngezinto zokwenza kunye-izinto azithandayo, ekuqaleni, ukuzidibanisa nawe, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha uyakudibanisa ixesha kunye nawe njengento ayithandayo- nokuba ithini ngu!
Nje ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba apho ukudlala ngothando kwakho kuphumelele kwinjongo yokuthandana, sukuyeka! Ukugcina umdla wokudlala omnye komnye, ucebisa ngeendlela onokuchitha ngazo ixesha elininzi kunye-oko kuya kunceda ukugcina uthando lwenu luhlaziyekile kwaye luphile nokuba nindawonye ixesha elingakanani.
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