Ukuqonda iiSapho zoMzali omnye

Baninzi ngakumbi abazali abazikhulisela abantwana babo kwezi ntsuku, ngokuzikhethela okanye ngenxa yeemeko ezingaphaya kolawulo lwabo. Akukho mfihlo yokuba ukuba ngumzali ongatshatanga akukho lula, kwaye nemiceli mngeni yokukhulisa abantwana, ukondla usapho, kunye nokuzigcina zonke kunye kunokuba nzima, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Xhobisa ngezibakala, iingcebiso kunye nezixhobo ozifunayo ukuze uphumelele.

Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zeentsapho zomzali omnye

Inkqubo ye- I-Encyclopedia yeMpilo yaBantwana ithi kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeentsapho zomzali omnye, kubandakanya:

Usapho olukhokelwa ngumzali oqhawule umtshato
Usapho olukhokelwa ngumzali ongumhlolokazi
Usapho olukhokelwa ngumzali omnye ongatshatanga okwangoku okanye ongumzali ongatshatanga ngokuzikhethela

Amanqaku afanelekileyo

Iintshukumo zangaphandle zoSapho Wonke umntu uya kuthanda
Iifoto zoLonwabo loSapho lweHlabathi
Iindidi zoLwakhiwo loSapho

Abazali abangabodwa babandakanya abazali abangatshatanga abahlala kunye. Nokuba umama notata bahlala kwindawo enye, basathathwa njengabazali abangabodwa.

Iinyani ezivula amehlo malunga neKhaya loMzali omnye

Ngokwenqaku elibhalwe nguSusan Pollet, Esq. epapashwe kwiwebhusayithi yeNkundla yeNkundla yaseNew York yeNkundla, NYCourts.gov , inani leentsapho ezinomzali omnye liye laphindaphindeka kathathu ukususela ngo-1960.

Ngapha koko:

Iintsapho ezinomzali omnye ziphakamisa ikota yabantwana besizwe.
Ngo-2000, malunga neepesenti ezingama-30 zeentsana ezizelweyo zazingoomama abangenamaqabane.
Kwipesenti ezingama-84 zabasetyhini abangabazali abangabodwa, iipesenti ezingama-44 zabo baqhawule umtshato okanye bahlukana.
Kwipesenti ye-16 yamadoda angabazali abangabodwa, iipesenti ezingama-57 zabo baqhawula umtshato.
Phantse iipesenti ezingama-20 zabazali abangabodwa abangaphangeliyo, ngelixa iipesenti ezisi-8 zabazali abangatshatanga abangasebenziyo.
Isinye kwisithathu sazo zonke iintsapho ezinomzali omnye sihlala kwintlupheko kwaye sifumana uncedo kuluntu.
Abantwana abakumakhaya anomzali omnye abakho semngciphekweni ngakumbi kunabantwana abakumakhaya atshatileyo. Uncwadi oludlulileyo lubonise ukuba abantwana bamakhaya angabazali abangabodwa bathambekele ekubeni ngamahlwempu, kunokwenzeka ukuba baphume kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba babe ngabazali abakwishumi elivisayo. Nangona kunjalo, iziphumo zakutshanje zibonisa ukuba abantwana abavela kumakhaya omzali omnye abanamava afanayo xa umzali omnye ebonelela ngendlu ezinzileyo kwaye enobudlelwane obuzinzileyo nabantwana bakhe.

Ngokwengxelo enomxholo Iintsapho zaseMelika kunye noLungiselelo lokuPhila: 2012 , epapashwe ngu Iziko laseMelika laseCensus , enye inyani ebalulekileyo ibandakanya:

Inani lemizi engumzali ongayedwa ekhokelwa ngabasetyhini yayiyiipesenti ezili-12.1 zawo onke amakhaya (iphepha le-12).
Ipesenti yamakhaya angabazali abangabodwa akhokelwa ngamadoda yayiyi-2.3 (iphepha le-12).
Uninzi lweentsapho ezinomzali omnye zihlala kumazantsi mpuma eUnited States, kwimpuma yeMississippi, naseOhio, New York, Michigan, Maryland, Arizona, naseNew Mexico (iphepha 18).

Imiceli mngeni ekhethekileyo yokuba ngumzali omnye

Iintloko zamakhaya angabazali abangabodwa zijongana ngqo nezinto ezithileiintsileloxa ubuzali kwaye ujongana neminye imiba enokuthi ivele.

Imali kunye neNtlupheko

Abazali abangenamaqabane bathambekele ekubeni sesichengeni sokuwela kubuhlwempu. Ukuqhuba umzi kumvuzo omnye kunokuba nzima, kwaye ukhathalelo lwemini lubeka uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo ekuhlawuleni imali, ngakumbi ukuba umzali ufuna ukuhlawula ngaphezulu kononophelo okanye ahlawule iinkqubo zasemva kwesikolo.

Inkqubo ye- IZiko laseBrookings unikezela ngobungqina obunikwe iKomiti yeeNdlu yeeNgwevu yase-United States ngu-Ron Haskins (owayesakuba yi-White House kunye nomcebisi webandla kwimicimbi yezentlalontle). Kobo bungqina, uHaskins ubonakalisa ukuba iintsapho ezinomzali omnye ezikhokelwa ngabasetyhini zihlala zinika ingxelo yenxalenye enkulu yamazinga entlupheko eUnited States, kwaye inani lolu hlobo lwendlu liyenyuka.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba inani labafazi abangatshatanga abangena emsebenzini liye lenyuka kule minyaka ingamashumi idlulileyo sibulela iinkqubo ezinje ngeNtlalontle-ukuya eMsebenzini, kwaye oku kuye kwasusa amahlwempu kwaba bantu basemngciphekweni. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokwakheka kosapho, amaxabiso entlupheko anokuhlala ephezulu koomama abangatshatanga kunakwimizi enabazali ababini. Nangona oomama abaninzi bengatshatanga besebenza, inqanaba lentlupheko kumakhaya anabazali ababini ibingama-11 eepesenti kuphela ngo-2009, ngelixa izinga lentlupheko kwiintloko zamakhosikazi angatshatanga lalingama-44.3 ekhulwini.

Uhlengahlengiso lwabazali abahlolokazi nabaqhawule umtshato

Abazali abangenamaqabane abasandula ukuqhawula umtshato okanye abangabahlolokazi, ukongeza ekubeni kuphela kwegunya endlwini, kuya kufuneka basingathe yonke imiba evela kutshintsho lweemeko zabo zokuhlala.

Ngokwe- IZiko loPhuhliso lwaBantwana , ayizukuphela kwabazali abangabodwa abaya kujongana nemicimbi yabo yeemvakalelo ezivela ekufeni kweqabane, kuya kufuneka bancede ngabantwana babo bodwa ukujongana nemicimbi yeemvakalelo ezivela kutshintsho, uhlengahlengiso kunye nelahleko.

Umzekelo:

Imvakalelo yelahleko yenzeka xa abazali beqhawula umtshato, naxa umzali eswelekile.
Abantwana baphulukana nokufikelela kwi-24/7 kubo bobabini ubukho bomzali.
Umzali abachitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye usenokungabinalo ixesha elininzi afumanekayo.
Abantwana abanabazali abaqhawule umtshato okanye abangabahlolokazi kusenokufuneka baziqhelanise nokuhlala kwikhaya elincinci okanye ukuba nexesha nemali encinci.

NgokukaJane K. Burgess kwincwadi yakhe, UMququzeleli weeNtsapho , uninzi lwabazali abaqhawule umtshato baya kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokungazinzi koluntu, okushiya abazali abangabodwa besesichengeni semicimbi yokuzithemba kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Ukungazinzi kwezentlalo kukwanxulunyaniswa namazinga aphezulu eengxaki zemvakalelo.

Iintsapho zoMzali ongatshatanga kunye noxinzelelo

Zonke iintsapho zinoxinzelelo ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa iintsapho ezingumzali ongenaqabane zikwanalo uxinzelelo oluchaphazela imeko yazo. Ngokwe- Umbutho wezengqondo zaseMelika , abazali abangenamaqabane abaqhawula umtshato banokujamelana nezi ngxaki zilandelayo.

Banokuba neengxabano eziqhubekayo nomnye umzali, ngakumbi malunga nokugcinwa komntwana kunye nokutyelelwa.

Banokufumana ubunzima bexesha ngenxa yoxanduva olongeziweyo lokuqhuba umzi nomsebenzi. Oku kuthetha ukuba banexesha elincinci lokuchitha nabantwana babo
Abantwana babo banokuphuhlisa iingxaki ekuhlaleni nakwizifundo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwimeko yabo yesiqhelo yokuphila, kubandakanya ukungqubana kwabazali kunye nokunciphisa ingqalelo komzali omnye okanye bobabini.
Banokuphulukana nenkxaso yosapho lweqabane langaphambili lomtshato.

Imiceli mngeni kubantwana

Xa utshintsho kusapho lutshintsha ekhayeni, kunjalo nakwindima yabantwana. Umzekelo, banokuthi bathathe indima yokuba ngumgcini kunye nabantakwabo abancinci. Ngokwe- Isiteshi seMpilo esingcono , abantwana bamakhaya anomzali omnye bajamelana nemiceli mngeni emininzi.

Umzekelo:

Abantwana banokufumana ixesha lokudlala elincinci njengoko bethatha uxanduva ngakumbi endlwini.
Abantwana banokuthatha indima yabantu abadala ngakumbi, enokwenza ukuba kube nzima kubo ukuvuma kubaphathi abanjengootitshala, abahlali, njl.
Kwimeko yoqhawulo mtshato, abantwana banokuphenjelelwa yimpikiswano yabazali, enokubenza bazive ngathi kufuneka bakhethe omnye umzali endaweni yomnye.
Abantwana banokuziphatha ngcono kumzali abangamboni rhoqo. Umzali ogcina umntwana uhlala ekhetha ukuba abe ngumqeqeshi, okanye 'umntu ombi.'

Inkqubo ye- IAmerican Academy yeZilwanyana ikwatsho ukuba indlela yokuziphatha komntwana inokutshintsha- kwaye ayisoloko ingcono. Amakhwenkwe anokuba ndlongondlongo ngakumbi kwaye amantombazana anokurhoxa ngakumbi.

Umxholo woCalucalulo eMsebenzini

Isihloko VII soMthetho wamaLungelo oLuntu ka-1964 yenza kube semthethweni kubaqeshi ukucalula abasebenzi ngenxa yoxanduva losapho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda kwezentlalo kungazisa umceli mngeni wokunyanzeliswa komthetho xa kufikwa kutata omnye. Oomama abasebenzayo abachongiweyo bachongiwe, kodwa ootata abasebenza bengatshatanga bahlala bebonwa njengamadoda asebenzayo.

Umzekelo:

indlela yokwelula umnqwazi olinganisiweyo

Ukuba utata ongatshatanga uzisa isimangalo enkundleni, usenokungafiki kude kuba ngokwesintu kulindeleke ukuba amadoda abe ngabondli, hayi abagcini. Olu luvo lucalucalulo lonakalisa amathuba amadoda okufumana amalungelo afanayo njengoomama abangatshatanga xa kufikwa ekuthatheni ikhefu ukhathalela abantwana babo.
Abanye abasebenzi abangamadoda banokuziva ngathi utata ongatshatanga ufumana unyango olukhethekileyo okanye asebenzise abantwana bakhe njengesizathu sokumka kwangoko emsebenzini xa, enyanisweni, ezinyamekela iimfuno zabo.
Oomama abangatshatanga nabo banamava ocalucalulo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha babonwa 'njengedreyini' eluntwini. Osebenza nabo banokuba nomona ngoomama abangatshatanga ngenxa yokuqonda unyango olukhethekileyo. Ulawulo lusenokungakhangeleki kakuhle kubo njengabaqeshwa, nokuba inkampani ibonelela ngeeyure eziguqukayo ukuze aba mama bakwazi ukujongana neemfuno zabantwana babo.

Ibala loMzali ongatshatanga

Uninzi lwabazali abangenamaqabane bavakalelwa kukuba kusekho ukubekwa ibala eluntwini xa kusiziwa kubazali abangenamaqabane, nokuba umntu ungumzali ongenaqabane ngokuzikhethela.

Ngelixa uphando lubonakala luxhasa umbono wokuba abantwana babazali abaqhawule umtshato nabangabahlolokazi baneengxaki ngakumbi esikolweni nakwiingxaki ezingakumbi zemvakalelo, akunjalo ngabazali abathatha isigqibo sokuba ngabazali abangabodwa ngokuzikhethela.
Ngokophando olwenziwe ngo-2011 Uphando lwePew , amabala entlalontle asaphila kwaye ayaphila. Ababini kwisithathu sabathathi-nxaxheba baphendule ukuba imeko yokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga, kunye nokuba ngumama ongatshatanga ngokuthe ngqo, khange ibe lutshintsho olulungileyo eluntwini.
Ngokwenqaku elikwi- Usapho loMzali ongatshatanga epapashwe yi ISebe leMfundo noPhuhliso lwaBantwana aBasaqalayo kwiSiqithi iPrince Edward, eKhanada, abantwana kuye kufuneke bajamelane namazwi abuhlungu athethwa ngabantu abadala abangakhathaliyo.

Ukusingatha Iimbono Zabanye

Njengoko kuphawuliwe yi IZiko loPhuhliso lwaBantwana , abantu abaninzi ngempazamo bakholelwa ukuba banelungelo lokucebisa abazali abangenamaqabane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali abanako ukukuxabisa konke oku, okulula ukuyiqonda. Zama ukugcina ezi ngcinga zilandelayo xa udibana nabantu abafuna 'ukuthatha phantsi kwephiko labo,' nokuba uthanda ntoni.

Uninzi lwabantu luthetha kakuhle kwaye bafuna ukunceda, ngelixa abanye bengenalo. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, unokumamela nokuba awukhange ufune ingcebiso. Kunokubakho ingqolowa yobulumko kwinto abayithethayo.
Uhlala unokhetho lokungalandeli ingcebiso ukuba ayisebenzi kuwe okanye kubomi bakho.
Akukho sidingo sokungena kwingxabano kuba oko kuya kunyusa kuphela inqanaba loxinzelelo lwakho.
Ukubuza 'Kusebenza njani oko kuwe?' inokuba yeyona ndlela isebenzayo yokuphelisa incoko ukuba umntu akalisebenzisi icebo lakhe.

Izixhobo eziluncedo kuBazali abaNgenaqabane

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba kukho izigidi zabanye abazali abangenamaqabane kwisikhephe esinye. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo, wenze abahlobo abatsha, kwaye ujonge imisebenzi emitsha kunye nemibono.

Ezi Webhusayithi zilandelayo ziya kukubonelela ngokufikelela kwezinye iiforamu zomzali omnye kunye namaqela enkxaso.

Umsebenzi omnye onzima -Le ndawo liziko lolwazi labazali elinikezela ngengcebiso esebenzayo ekukhuliseni abantwana.
Ummeli woMzali omnye Lo mbutho unikezela ngengcebiso kunye noncedo olusebenzayo, kunye nezixhobo zonxibelelwano zenethiwekhi ukunceda abazali abangenamaqabane ukuba bafumane inkxaso abayifunayo.
Inethiwekhi yabazali abangabodwa -Liziko lewebhu apho abazali abangabodwa banokufumana ulwazi kuyo yonke into malunga nokuba ngumzali omnye kwaye bafunde ngezixhobo ezikhoyo, kubandakanya nezixhobo zikarhulumente.

Unokufuna nini ukuCetyiswa

Njengaye wonke umntu, abazali abangabodwa ngamanye amaxesha bafuna uncedo ngemicimbi yemihla ngemihla. Uxanduva abaluthwalayo lunokuba nzima, kwaye kukho iimeko ezithile apho umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo anokunceda khona.

Umzekelo:

Ukuba ujongana noxinzelelo ngokukhwaza okanye uthathe izinto kubantu abakungqongileyo, jonga kumcebisi ngempilo yengqondo okanye kwisayikholojisti ukuze ufunde iindlela ezisempilweni zokujongana noxinzelelo. Qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho babona umcebisi naye ukuze bafunde izakhono zokujamelana.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngokucebisa ukuba wena okanye abantwana bakho ninobunzima bokuziqhelanisa nemeko yakho entsha.
Ukucebisa kunokunceda ukuba abantwana bakho baqhuba esikolweni okanye ekhaya, njengokulwa, ukurhoxa, ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu kwimikhwa nakwimbonakalo yabo, kunye / okanye ukwehla kumabanga.

Sukukubona njengokoyiswa ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokufuna ingcebiso. Awunakuziva kakubi ukuba kuya kufuneka use umntwana wakho kwagqirha kuba ebegula. Ukubaluleka okufanayo makubekwe kwimiba yeemvakalelo.

Amava aManzima, kodwa anomvuzo

Nokuba uqhawule umtshato, ungumhlolokazi okanye awukaze utshate, ukuba nosapho olunomzali omnye kunokuba nomvuzo nangona kunzima kwaye kunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Qhubeka uzama ukunyuka umceli mngeni, khangela uncedo xa ulufuna, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho.