Ixesha laxa abantu abatshatileyo besiba lixesha elimyoli. Kwabanye nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi xa bengazi kakuhle kwimicimbi yokuziphatha efanelekileyo ejikeleze ukubandakanyeka kunye nomtshato. Isibini esonwabileyo mhlawumbi sinemibuzo emininzi. Ngubani esixelela kuqala? Senza ntoni kuqala? Sikhetha nini iringi? Sikwazisa njani ukubandakanyeka kwethu kwihlabathi? Akukho mntu ufuna ukwenza into engalunganga okanye ukulimaza naziphi na iimvakalelo, kodwa ngaphandle kokwazi isimilo esifanelekileyo, iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zinokwenzeka.
Iringi
Ukuba umtshakazi uza kuba engenayo indandatho yokubandakanya emnweni wakhe, ngoku iya kuba lixesha lokukhetha enye. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe nangona kunjalo, ukuba umsesane wokubandakanya awuyomfuneko, kwaye awufuneki. Eyona nto ifunekayo kwisibini esiza kutshata sisiqingatha sabantu ukuba sivelise umbuzo esinye isiqingatha sithi, 'Ewe.' Iidayimani zizinto ezintle, kodwa azinyanzelekanga.
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Ukwazisa uthethathethwano
Ingumbono olungileyo kwisibini esonwabileyo ukucebisa abazali babo malunga nokuzibandakanya ngokukhawuleza. Ukugcina olu lwazi kubo, okanye ukuxelela iseti enye yabazali kunokukhokelela ekwenzakaleni okanye kumsindo. Isimilo esifanelekileyo sihlala sifuna ukuba abazali bomtshakazi baxelelwe iindaba kuqala, ngabazali bomyeni abalandelayo kungekudala. Ukuba eli lungiselelo lenza ukuba iseti yabazali bazive bengajongelwanga ntweni, umtshakazi nomyeni oza kuba soloko bexela iiseti zabazali kunye ngesidlo sangokuhlwa. Ungaze ugcine iindaba ezivela kubazali, kuba oku kuya kuqala kuphela izinto kunyawo olubi. Vala usapho kunye nabahlobo banokulandela kungekudala. Kwakhona, ayisiyongcamango ilungileyo ukugcina ezi ndaba zisondele kuwe ixesha elide okanye iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zinokuvela.
Nje ukuba abo basondeleyo kwesi sibini sonwabileyo bazi malunga nokuzibandakanya, lixesha lokuba umhlaba wonke wazi. Esi sibhengezo sinokwenziwa ngokubeka isibhengezo somtshato kwiphepha loluntu kwiphephandaba lasekuhlaleni. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali bomtshakazi nomyeni babhengeza ukubandakanyeka kunye, kodwa kuqhelekile kule mihla ukuba isibini esonwabileyo senze isibhengezo. Kuluhlu lwesibhengezo kukho ulwazi lokuba baya phi na umakoti nomyeni, apho baqeshwayo, bahlala phi ngoku kunye nolwazi ngokuhlala kwabazali bomyeni nomyeni. Ukuba usuku lomtshato lubekiwe, olu lwazi luya kwaziswa nakuluntu.
Ngoku lelona xesha lichanekileyo lokuba abazali bomtshakazi nomyeni babize omnye nomnye bavuyisane nabo. Akukho mthetho unzima kwaye ukhawulezileyo wokuba loluphi uhlobo lwabazali ekufuneka lubize, kodwa esinye isibini kufuneka sithathe kubo ngokwabo ukwenza njalo.
Iqela lokuzibandakanya
Njengendandatho, iiqela lothethathethwanoakuyomfuneko kodwa yinzuzo entle. Ukuba itheko lothethathethwano yinto enomdla kumtshakazi nakumyeni wexesha elizayo, kufuneka ngeendlela zonke benze itheko. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa zokugcina engqondweni, nangona kunjalo. Umgaqo wokuqala ayikokumema nabani na ethekweni ongazukumenyelwa emtshatweni.
Ukuba umntu uphosa itheko lokuzibandakanya emtshatweni ngokwesiko, iindaba ziya kumangalisa uninzi lwabantu abezayo. Abazali bomtshakazi baya kusingatha lo msitho. Nje ukuba zonke iindwendwe zifike, isibhengezo esonwabisayo sinokwenziwa. Ukungqubanisa ii-toast kunye nokuvuyisana kuya kulandela. Kuba esi sisibhengezo esothusayo, izipho azilindelwanga.
Ukucima uthethathethwano
Akukho mntu ungena kumtshato wokulindela ukuba uwele. Ukuba umtshato umisiwe, usapho kunye nabahlobo kufuneka baziswe. Ukuba iindaba zibuhlungu kakhulu kwabo babethembisene nomtshato, abazali babo banokufowunela ukusasaza iindaba ezibuhlungu kwiindwendwe zomtshato. Enye ingenuis owayesakuba ngumtshakazi wabhala umbongo omnandi kwaye wathumela ngaphandle kwezimemo kuye wonke umntu kuluhlu lweendwendwe zakhe. Kukuziphatha okuhle ukwazisa wonke umntu ngokukhawuleza ukubathintela ekuthengeni izipho nakwimpahla yomtshato kunye nokwenza ezinye izicwangciso.
Ukucwangcisa umtshato
Esi sibini sonwabileyo sinokufuna ukuqesha umcwangcisi womtshato kweli nqanaba. Umcwangcisi womtshato uya kunceda ukwenza amalungiselelo kube lula ngokujongana nazo zonke iinkcukacha ukusuka kulwamkelo kwikhekhe. Nangona olu lungelelwaniso luxhaphake kule mihla, awungomgaqo. Esi sibini sonwabileyo siyakwazi ukwenza amalungiselelo omtshato waso ngokwaso.
Umhla kufuneka ubekwe ngokukhawuleza ukuze umtshakazi nomyeni, iintsapho zabo, amalungu omtshato kunye neendwendwe ezimenyiweyo nazo zinokwenza amalungiselelo afanelekileyo.
Khumbula ukubandakanyeka kwabantu abatshatileyo kufuneka kube lixesha lokonwaba, elonwabisayo. Nangona kuhlala kukho umqobo omncinci omelwe ukujongana nawo, ubukhulu becala kufanelekile ukuba ube noxinzelelo simahla. Ukwazi isimilo esifanelekileyo kunokunceda ukunciphisa eminye imiba enokuvela. Khululeka kwaye wonwabe ngeli xesha.
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