Abantu abaninzi banobunzima bokwazi ukuba benze ntoniyithi kumntu omthandayo odlulayo. Ngelixa akusoloko kulula ukwazi ukuba ungathini kumntu okwinkqubo yokufa, kukho imigaqo ekufuneka uyigcinile.
uqhawula njani umtshato ngaphandle kwegqwetha
Uthini Kumntu Oswelekayo?
Nokuba ukhululekile ukuthetha ngokufa kunye nokufa okanye akunjalo, ukubakho kumhlobo wakho kungenza umahluko kubo njengoko behamba namava. Nantoni na oyinyusayo, qiniseka ukwenza njalo ngobubele nangemfesane. Khawufane ucinge ukuba ubukwizihlangu zabo ngaphambi kokuba uthethe into ukuze ube nombono ongcono wokuba ungamkelwa njani. Unokufuna ukuthetha nabo malunga:
- Baboamalungiselelo omngcwabo okanye izicwangciso: 'Ngaba ukhululekile ukuthetha ngeminqweno yakho yokuphela kobomi?' Landela oku ngoncedo loncedo, 'Ndifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba unayo yonke into oyifunayo.'
- 'Wenza njani?'
- 'Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza namhlanje?'
- 'Ngaba ikhona into ongathanda ukuyenza namhlanje?'
- 'Ungathanda ukuthetha ngantoni?' Banokuveza amava abo, okanye bafune ukuxoxa ngencwadi, imuvi, iindaba, okanye enye into. Yiya nayo, kwaye ulandele ukhokelo lwabo.
- 'Uziva njani namhlanje?'
- Ndifuna ukukuxelela indlela ondixelela ngayo. '
- 'Ungoyena mhlobo ungakholelekiyo kwaye ndiziva ndinethamsanqa lokuba nawe ebomini bam.'
- Imifanekiso eli-10 yabantu abasokolayo kwintlungu
- Iingcebiso malunga nokuYila iLitye lakho eliyintloko
- Ukufa kosaziwayo
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokuzisa ukuba uza kubakhumbula kangakanani kwaye bathetha ntoni kuwe, kodwa qiniseka ukuba abaphelelanga kukukhathalela. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubabonise njengoko beqhubeka noku.
Indlela Yokuthetha Nomntu Ofayo Kungekudala
Ukuba umntu othile usondela esiphelweni sobomi bakhe, banokuba okanye bangabinangxaki ekunxibelelaneni nawe. Banokubona kwaye beve izinto ongakwaziyo ukuzibona. Ezi ziyaziwa njengombono wokuphela kobomi. Nokuba abakwazi ukudlulisela ezabo iingcinga kuwe, usenokubaxelela ukuba bathetha ntoni kuwe kwaye ubathuthuzele ngokuthi:
- 'Ndikuthanda kakhulu.'
- 'Enkosi ngokundifundisa ....'
- 'Andinakuze ndilibale xa ....'
- 'Imemori yam endiyithandayo sabelana ngayo .....'
- 'Uxolo ngo .....'
- 'Ndiyathemba ukuba uza kundixolela ngo .....'
- 'Kuvakala ngathi uyabona ....'
- 'Kuvakala ngathi uyeva ....'
- 'Yazi ukhuselekile kwaye ndilapha nawe.'
- 'Ndingasibamba isandla sakho ngelixesha sithethayo?'
Into oza kuyithetha okanye uyenze ukuba umntu oFayo ngumntu oMaziyo
Ukuba umntu omaziyo ukuxelela ukuba bakwimeko yokufa, okanye uyiva ngomnye umntu, gcina engqondweni ukuba kulungile ukuba ungazi ukuba wenzeni okanye utheni. Ukuthetha into elula okanye ukufikelela kwisenzo kunokukhangeleka ngathi:
- Ukubhaka into ekhethekileyo.
- Ukuzinikela ukuba ubekhona kubo ukuba bafuna ukuthetha.
- Ndibaxelela, 'Ndivile ngale nto iqhubekayo kwaye ndilapha ngenxa yakho.'
- Ukuthumela ikhadi, iintyatyambo, okanye ukuhanjiswa kokutya kunye nenqaku elithi ucinga ngazo.
- Ukuthi kubo, 'Ndicela uxolo ngokuva ngale ngxaki ukuyo, ndicela undazise xa kukho nantoni na endinokuyenza.'
Ngaba Kulungile Ukulila?
Kulungile ukulila nokuba umhlobo wakho umde kangakanani kwinkqubo yokufa. Ukulila kuyabachazela ukuba bathetha ntoni kuwe kunye nendlela oziva ngayo ngokwenene. Ukwenza ngathi yonke into ilungile ngenxa yomhlobo wakho inokuvela ngokunganyaniseki, xa enyanisweni, eyona nto ingcono yokwenza kukuba ube kulo mzuzu kunye nabo. Qiniseka ukuba ukuba ugqibela ngokulila ukuba ujoliso lubuyela kwiimvakalelo zomhlobo wakho ukuze uqhubeke nokubabonisa ukuba ukhona ukubaxhasa njengoko beqhubeka noku.
Iindlela Zokuthuthuzela Umntu Omthandayo Ofayo
Ngaphandle kokuthetha nomntu omthandayo, ukubonisa nje kwaye ubekhona ukuze unike intuthuzelo nenkxaso. Gcina ukhumbula, ngokuxhomekeka kweliphi inqanaba abakuloo nkqubo yokufa, banokufumana iimvakalelo zokukhanyela, umsindo, usizi, ukudideka, uloyiko kunye nokudideka.
Baphulaphule
Ukufa kunye nokufa kunokuzisa unxunguphalo olukhulu ngaphakathi kuwe, ke zama ukuba lapho nabo ngalo mzuzu kwaye uqinisekise iingcinga neemvakalelo zabo, nokuba izimvo zakho okanye iingcinga zahlukile. Cothisa phantsi kwaye umamele nyani into ethethwa ngumhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho. Abanye abantu bafuna ukwabelana ngeenkumbulo ezibalulekileyo ekupheleni kobomi babo kwaye banokuziva bethuthuzelekile xa umntu eyeka ukumamela ibali alithandayo ukususela ebuntwaneni. Abanye banokuba nexhala kunye noloyiko abafuna ukwabelana ngalo. Mamela ngaphandle kokuwisa isigwebo kwaye unike inkxaso kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
ungaxela njani ukuba i-guppy ikhulelwe
Thetha ngokufa kunye nokufa
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu okwinkqubo yokusweleka uya kufuna ukuxoxa ukuba bekunjani kubo ukudlula koku. Oku kunokuziva kungonwabanga kwabanye, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho livakalise inkxalabo kunye nemibuzo yakhe. Usenokufuna ukuthetha ngamalungiselelo omngcwabo, ngokunikela ngamalungu omzimba, okanye ngokwenza umyolelo. Mamela, ubuze imibuzo ngentlonipho, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba baziva besiva ngeli xesha.
Nika iNkxaso kulowo Umthandayo Owenza izinto ezingekhoyo
Abanye abantu banamava okuva kunye / okanye okubonakalayonemibonoinokuba yinxalenye yesiqhelo yenkqubo yokufa. Ukuba bayaphazamiseka okanye boyikiswe zezi zinto, zama ukubamisa kwakhona kwindawo ebangqongileyo kwaye ubanike intuthuzelo ngokuthetha ngethoni ethomalisayo kwaye ubazise ukuba bakhuselekile. Ukuba bonwabile yile nto bajongana nayo, kungcono ukuba ungaphikisani nabo kwaye ulingqina eli candelo lenkqubo yabo.
Landela iNkokeli yabo
Kuhlala kulunge kakhulu ukuvumela umntu okwinkqubo yokufa akhokele ngesihloko sencoko nakwithoni yokunxibelelana. Oku kuthetha ukuba ungena kolu nxibelelwano okanye utyelelo ngaphandle kwe-ajenda kwaye ukhona kumhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho. Banokulahla iingcebiso okanye bakhankanye ezinye iingcinga ezinxulumene nokufa. Ukuba kunjalo, ungabuza ukuba bangathanda ukuthetha malunga nawe ngakumbi.
Yintoni onokuthi uyiphephe ukuThetha kumntu oFayo
Njengoko unxibelelana nomntu okwinkqubo yokufa, zama ukung:
ubunzima bomndilili oneminyaka eli-14 ubudala
- Xoxa ngeengcinga zakho zonqulo, ngakumbi ngaphandle kokubuza kuqala
- Yitsho nantoni na enkonkxiweyo okanye i-corny malunga nokufa- oku kunokuvela njengokungaqiniseki
- Xoxa ngeenkolelo zakho malunga nokuba kutheni besifa
- Shiya ingxoxo ujolise kwiimvakalelo zakho kuphela
- Ukugxininisa kakhulu kwizicwangciso zokuphela kobomi
- Xoxa ngendlela onokuziva ngayo ukuba ubukwizihlangu zabo
Into oyithethayo kuMhlobo oswelekayo
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule xa uthetha nomntu okwinkqubo yokufa kukuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni. Nyaniseka, ube nemfesane, kwaye ukulungele ukuphulaphula. Ukubabonisa kungabanceda bazive bexhaswa, bethandwa, kwaye bebonwa ngeli xesha lotshintsho.
