Ukuba uthumela ikhadi, ubhala isicatshulwa, okanye ufikelela kumhlobo osentlungwini nangayiphi na indlela, kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba uthini xa ungakwazi ukuya emngcwabeni. Xa umntu omkhathaleleyo efumene ilahleko, kuya kufuneka ufumane amagama anokukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala, nokuba ngekhe ubekho buqu. Isitshixo kukubonelela ngenkxaso kunye novelwano ngaphandle kokugxila kakhulu kwisizathu sokuba ungakwazi ukuya.
Uwunqande njani uMngcwabo kuBuntu
Ukuba uthetha nomhlobo osentlungwini ubuso ngobuso, kuyanceda ukwenza ingcinga encinci ngaphambi kokuba uthethe. Injongo yakho apha kufuneka ibe kukuxhasa umntu okhe wehlelwa yilahleko. Sukujonga ukuba kutheni ungenako ukuya emngcwabeni; Kwiimeko ezininzi, nasiphi na isizathu osinikayo siya kubonakala singabalulekanga xa kuthelekiswa nelahleko usapho oluye lwanyamezela. Endaweni yoko, cinga ngeendlela onokuthi uncede ngazo okanye ngenye indlela onokumhlonipha ngayo umntu oswelekileyo. Nazi ezinye zeembono zento onokuyithetha:
- Ewe, Judy. Ndilusizi ukuva ngokudlula kukaBill. Andikwazi ukuza emngcwabeni, kodwa ndingathanda ukudlula kule veki izayo ndikuncedise ekunyamekeleni ingca. '
- Uxolo ngoEllen. Wayengumntu omangalisayo kunye notitshala olungileyo. Andikwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ndingathanda ukunikela ngeencwadi kwithala leencwadi lesikolo ngembeko yakhe. '
- 'Erin, ndivile ngokudlula kukatata wakho. Ndinqwenela ukuba ndibekhona emngcwabeni, kodwa andikwazi. Ngaba kuya kulunga ukuba ndingathumela iintyatyambo kwinkonzo? '
- AmaNqaku aKhumbuza isiQinisekiso sokuFa kunye neMiyalezo yokukhumbula
- Iivesi ezingama-40 ezikhuthazayo zemingcwabo
Into oza kuyithetha ekhadini xa ungekho
Ikhadi lovelwano luphawu olubalulekileyo, ngakumbi ukuba awukwazi ukuba semngcwabeni ngobuqu. Njengoko ubhalaumyalezo wekhadi lokufelwa, uthathe ixesha lokukhumbula umntu ongasekhoyo. Yenza inqaku lakho libe lelakho kwaye libe nentsingiselo kangangoko unakho kwaye ulandele unikezo loncedo ukuba kunokwenzeka. Zama ukungangeni kwiinkcukacha malunga nemeko yakho kunye nesizathu sokuphoswa ngumngcwabo. Le mizekelo inokukukhuthaza:
- Ndiyakhumbula mhla ndadibana notata wakho. Kwakukukuthweswa isidanga ekholejini, kwaye wayexelela wonke umntu adibana naye indlela awayezingca ngayo ngokuba uye kwi-alma mater yakhe. Andikwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ndingathanda ukumwonga ngokunikela ngemali kwingxowa-mali yokufunda ekholejini. '
- URosella wayengumntu ongaqhelekanga, ezele yintlantsi kunye nobungqabavu. Wayenamabali amnandi ngobomi bakhe obude, kwaye kwakumnandi ukuhlala nokuthetha naye. Andikwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ndifaka ezinye iifoto zikaRosella kwindawo yogcino losapho lwethu. Nceda uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe kwaye ndinqwenela ukuba lapho. '
- Ndaye ndazisola ngokuva ngomama wakho. Nceda uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe ngeli xesha linzima. Andikwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ngaba kuya kulunga ukuba ndiyeke i-casserole kwiveki ezayo? '
Uyibhala njani i-imeyile yokuNqaba uMngcwabo
Ukubhala i-imeyile yenduduzoyinto ebucayi ukuyenza, kunye nokunciphisa umngcwabo nge-imeyile kunokwenza ukuba kube nzima ngakumbi. I-imeyile kufuneka ibe ngakumbi ngokunikezela ngovelwano lwakho kwaye incinci malunga nokuzisola kwakho ngokusilela emngcwabeni. Gcina inqaku malunga nokungayi kumgca omnye ukuba unako. Nanku umzekelo we-imeyile ukukunceda wazi ukuba uza kuthini xa ungakwazi ukuya emngcwabeni:
Wonke umntu olapha eSimon & Smith wayekhathazekile kakhulu kukuva ngokusweleka komfazi wakho. Ndiyakhumbula ukuba wayengumntu onomdla kangakanani kwiqela lethu leeholide. Wayencokola ngokuncomekayo kwaye enobubele. Nangona ndingakwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, nceda uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe ngeli xesha linzima. Nceda undazise xa kukho nantoni na inkampani yethu endinokuyenza ukunceda. '
Into oza kuyithetha kwifowuni xa ungekho kuMngcwabo
Ifowuni ayisiyondlela ifanelekileyo yokunxibelelana nomntu osentlungwini. Ngeli xesha linzima, abantu abaninzi bakhetha ukuvumela iminxeba ukuba iye kwi-voicemail njengoko bejongana neemfuno ezibonakalayo kunye neemvakalelo. Ukuba ukhetha ukufowunela uxelele umntu ongekhe uye emngcwabeni, landelaiintyatyambo kunye nomyalezo onovelwanoukuba unganako. Kwakhona, lungela ukushiya umyalezo. Nazi ezinye zeembono zento onokuyithetha:
- Ndifuna ukufowunela ndikwazise indlela endibuhlungu ngayo ngokuva ngokudlula kukaSteve. Wayengumfana omangalisayo, kwaye siyakuphoswa kukuhleka kwakhe okwosulelayo ngobusuku bokubhowula. Ndiyoyika ukuba andizokwazi ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ndiza kube ndimisa kwiveki ezayo ukuze ndibone ukuba ndingakunceda ngengca okanye ngayo nayiphi na enye into. '
- Ndaye ndazisola ukuva ngomama wakho, kwaye bendifuna ukukufowunela ndikuxelele ukuba ndinqwenela ukuya emngcwabeni. Ndiza kuthumela iintyatyambo, kodwa ndifuna nje ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe ngeli xesha. '
- 'Ndinqwenela ukuba ndibekho ngolwe-Lwesibini njengoko ubhiyozela ubomi bukaJim. Wayengumntu obalaseleyo kunye nomhlobo othandekayo. Ndiza kumkhumbula kakhulu. '
Uwuncame njani ngentlonelo umngcwabo ngaphezulu kwesicatshulwa
Xa uthumela umyalezo kumntu osentlungwini, Kuya kufuneka ulandele njalo ngendlela ebaluleke ngakumbi yonxibelelwano. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa ungakwazi ukuza emngcwabeni. Cwangcisa ukuthumela iintyatyambo okanye ikhadi, kwaye ukuba unokucinga ngendlela yokubonelela ngoncedo olusebenzayo, kuya kufuneka. Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuthi uthumele umyalezo ngazo ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala, nokuba awukwazi ukuya emngcwabeni:
- Ndaye ndazisola ngokuva ngodade wenu. Andinakuza emngcwabeni, kodwa ndizakube ndikubambe kufutshane neengcinga zam ngoMgqibelo. '
- Ndive nje ngomakazi wakho. Ndiyoyika ukuba andinakuphumelela kule nkonzo, kodwa ndiza kube ndithumela iintyatyambo. Nceda uyazi ukuba ndilapha ukuba ufuna ukuthetha. '
- Ndiyaxolisa ukuva ngokudlula kukaStan. Andikwazi ukuza emngcwabeni, kodwa ndingathanda ukwenza umnikelo egameni lakhe kwi-ACLU. Ndiyazi ukuba ubulungisa kwezentlalo babubalulekile kuye, kwaye yindlela encinci yokuhlonipha umoya wakhe.
Ukuba Utheni Xa Uphoswe Ngumngcwabo
Ukuba umngcwabo sele wenzekile kwaye khange ubekho, akukho mva kakhulu ukuba ufikelele. Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe into, nokuba uziva ungonwabanga. Ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala kubalulekile, kwanasemva kwenyani. Nazi ezinye zeembono zento onokuyithetha:
- Ndixhelekile ukuva ngokusweleka kukaSam. Wayengumkhuthazi kunye nomhlobo olungileyo. Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu kuba ndingakwazanga ukuya emngcwabeni. Nceda uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe kunye nosapho lwakho ngeli xesha linzima. '
- 'Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ndiphosile umngcwabo kaMaggie. Wayengumfazi owomeleleyo kunye nomzekelo omangalisayo wokuqina kunye novuyo. Ndiyazi ukuba eli lixesha elinzima kusapho lwakho lonke, kwaye ndingathanda ukuhlonipha inkumbulo yakhe ngomnikelo kwi-hospice.
- Ndiyazi ukuba sekuphele iiveki ezimbalwa eswelekile uJennifer, kwaye ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ngokungahambi emngcwabeni. Intsapho yakho ibaluleke kakhulu kum, kwaye kuyandivuyisa ukuba kufutshane noJennifer ekukhuleni kwakhe. Nceda uyazi ukuba ndicinga ngawe. '
- 'Umama wakho wayengumntu omangalisayo, kwaye ndiziva ndinethamsanqa ngokumazi. Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu kuba ndingakwazanga ukuya kwinkonzo ebeninayo. Ndeva ukuba yayiyimbeko entle. Ndivalela ijam eyenziwe ekhaya endiyenzileyo ndisebenzisa iresiphi kamama wakho. Kuninzi kakhulu endikufundileyo kuye. Ndiyaxolisa ngokulahleka kwakho. '
Umgaqo ofanelekileyo wokuPhosa uMngcwabo
Ekugqibeleni, ukuba awukwazi ukuza emngcwabeni, kufuneka ubonise inkathalo ngenye indlela. Thatha ixeshafikelela kumntu osentlungwini. Umgaqo ofanelekileyo unyanzelisa ukuba uvume umcimbi kunye nelahleko; kungenjalo, ukungabikho emngcwabeni kukungabi nantlonelo. Ekugqibeleni, inyani yokuba uthethe into ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala ibaluleke ngaphezu kwento oyithethayo xa ungakwazi ukuya emngcwabeni.
