Amagama ovelwano ngokulahleka koNyana okhulileyo

Amagama Aphezulu Ebantwaneni

Indoda ethuthuzela umfazi

Ukufumana ukuswelekelwa ngumntwana okhulileyo kunokuziva kubuhlungu kwaye kubenzima kumalungu osapho asaphilayo. Ukuba uyazi umntu olahlekelwe ngumntwana wakhe omdala, kukho iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokugcina engqondweni xa ufikelela kubo.





Uthini Kumntu Olahlekelwe Ngunyana Wabo?

Ingaziva ingaphaya kwamandla ukuzama ukufumanisauzothiningendlela enovakalelo nenenkathalo kumntu ofelweyo ngunyana. Thatha ixesha lakho lokucinga ukuba ngawaphi amagama ovelwano afanelekileyo xa unikwe imeko ethile, kunye nenqanaba lokusondelelana nomntu kunye / okanye nosapho ekulileni. Ungaqwalasela ukuthi:

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  • Unyana wakho wayenobuntu obungummangaliso kunye nomoya, kwaye sonke siya kumkhumbula kakhulu. Sicinga ngawe ngeli xesha kwaye silapha ukuze sikuxhase nangayiphi na indlela ongathanda ngayo. '
  • Ndibuhlungu ukuva ngokusweleka konyana wakho. Wayethandwa ngabaninzi kwaye uya kukhunjulwa kakhulu. '
Amanqaku afanelekileyo
  • Imfesane yokuThetha kumntu oFelweyo
  • Ukukhathalela amagama ovelwano ngokulahleka kukaMama
  • Imiyalezo enzulu yovelwano yokulahleka kukaTata
amanenekazi amakhulu axhasanayo
  • 'Nangona bendingamazi kakuhle unyana wakho, bendisiva kuphela izinto ezintle malunga nesisa nobubele bakhe kwabanye. Ndicinga ngawe ngeli xesha linzima. '
  • 'Kwakulilungelo ngokwenene ukuba ngumhlobo wonyana wakho, kwaye ndiza kumkhumbula yonke imihla.'
Abafazi bayaxhasana
  • Ndiziva ndinethamsanqa lokuba ndikwazile ukuba nexesha elininzi njengoko bendinalo nonyana wakho, kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndizithanda ezo nkumbulo zikhethekileyo. Ndilapha kuwe nanini na kwaye ndingathanda ukukuxhasa nangayiphi na indlela okhululeke ngayo.

Yintoni yokubhala uMama (okanye uTata) olahlekelwe ngunyana wakhe

Ukwazi ukuba uza kuthini okanye ubhalele umama okanye utata oswelekelwe ngumntwana okhulileyo kunokuba nzima. Nika amagama athuthuzelayo kumama okanye utata okhe wafumana olu hlobo lwelahleko:





  • 'Umama-nyana bond (okanye utata-nyana) yinto ekhethekileyo kwaye ndiyazi ukuba wawusondele kangakanani (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo). Ndilapha ukuza kuni ngeli xesha kwaye ndifuna ukuvakalisa amazwi endivelise ngawo ngokusweleka kwenu. '
  • Intliziyo yam inzima ndisazi ukuba unyana wakho akasekho kuthi. '
  • Ndiyazi ukuba ubudlelwane bakho kunye nonyana wakho babungakholeleki njani kwaye ndonwabile kuba ndiswelekile. Yazi uzokhunjulwa ngabaninzi kwaye ndilapha kuwe. Ndingathanda ukuthatha ukutya kwakho kweveki yonke ukuba ukhululekile xa usenza njalo. '

Ndingathini endaweni yokuXolisa ngokulahleka kwakho?

Endaweni yokuthetha uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho, ungaqwalasela ukuthi:

  • Ndifuna ukuvakalisa amazwi ovelwano olunzulu ngokusweleka konyana wakho. '
Umfazi uthuthuzela umama okhathazekileyo ekhaya
  • Ndibuhlungu ukuva ngokusweleka (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo). '
  • Intliziyo yam ibuhlungu ngokwazi ngokusweleka konyana wakho.
Indoda ixhasa utata okhulileyo okhathazekileyo
  • 'Ndilapha ngenxa yakho kwaye ndiyakuthanda.'
  • Intliziyo yam iyophuka ndisazi ukuba (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) udlulile.
  • (Faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) uchukumise ubomi obuninzi kwaye uya kubakhumbula kakhulu abaninzi. '

Indlela Yokuthetha Nosapho Olusentlungwini

Usapho olulahlekelwe ngunyana walo osele ekhulile lunokuba namavaIntlungu engafunekiyo, ngaphezulu kokuziva unetyala lokuphila ixesha elide. Ukuba nobubele kwaye uyikhathalele into oyithethayo, kunye nokubaxhasa njengoko benamavainkqubo ebuhlungu,inokuba luncedo ngokwenene. Ungaqwalasela ukuthi:



  • Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukulahleka (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) kusapho lwakho. Ndingathanda ukukushiya isidlo sangokuhlwa kule veki ukuba ukhululekile kuyo. '
  • Ayothusi into yokuba (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) uvela kusapho olumangalisayo. Unobubele, unemfesane, kwaye ushushu, kwaye ndiziva ndinethamsanqa lokwazi (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo). Ndilapha nonke ngeli xesha. '
  • Ndiya kuhlala ndikhumbula ukuchitha ixesha kunye (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) kunye nani nonke (faka usuku, iholide, okanye umsitho) kunye nexesha elihle kunye. Ndinombulelo kakhulu ngezi nkumbulo zabelwane kwaye ndifuna ukuba nonke nazi ukuba ndinithanda kangakanani kwaye nzulu (faka igama lomntu ongasekhoyo) eliza kuphoswa.

Amagama oXolelwano lwaMntu oPhulukene nonyana

Ukubhala ileta yenduduzoyindlela eqiqayo yokubonisa umntu ukuba ucinga ngaye ngeli xesha linzima ngokumangalisayo. Ungaqwalasela:

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  • Ukuqala ngemvakalelo elula malunga nokuba uziva ubuhlungu kangakanani xa usiva ilahleko yabo yamva nje.
  • Yabelana ngenkumbulo ekhethekileyo yomntu oswelekileyo enje ngala, 'Unyana wakho ebenobuntu kwaye ekhathala, kwaye andisokuze ndilibale ixesha la (faka inkumbulo ayithandayo)
  • Nika inkxaso kunye noncedo lwakho ngokuthi, 'Ngeli xesha linzima, ndingathanda (ukufaka iindlela ongathanda ukunceda ngazo).'
  • Yigqibezele ileta ukuphinda inkxaso yakho ngokuthi, 'Nceda wazi ukuba ndilapha ngenxa yakho.'

Amagama enkolo ovelwano ngokulahleka koNyana okhuleleyo

Ngelixa inkolo inokuba yintuthuzelo kwabanye, abanye banokufumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo ezithile ziyacaphukisa kwaye / okanye zingenavelwano. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngendlela amagama enkolo yakho ovelwano aza kudibana ngayo nabo bazilileyo, kungcono ungazithethi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyazi ukuba abo bazilileyo banonxibelelwano olunzulu lwenkolo kwaye bahlala bethetha ngeenkolelo zabo zonqulo ngokukhululekileyo, ungaqwalasela ukunikelaamagama enkolo ovelwano.

Amagama enduduzo

Iingcaphuno zoxolo, kungenjalo zaziwa njengeIivesi zokufelwa, inokubhalwa kwiileta yovelwanookanye ikhadi lovelwano, kunye nokutshiwo kwabo bazilileyo ngomntu. Ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba zeziphi iikowuti zoxolo onokuzisebenzisa, jonga abaphulaphuli bakho. Izicaphuno zoxolo zingakunceda ukuba ufumana ilahleko yamagama omthandayo, okanye unokongezwa kumakhadi ovelwano okanye iileta ezikhoyo.



Oko Ukuphepha Ukuthetha

Ukuphulukana nonyana okhulileyo kunokuba lixesha elinzima kakhulu kwabo bazilayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uyikhumbule into oyithethayo kwabo basentlungwini.Zama ukukuphepha:

  • Kuphephe ukuthetha nantoni na ezahlukanisa nokuthi, 'Andikucingi ukudlula kule nto ukuyo.'
  • Kunqande ukuthi uyawaqonda amava abo njengoko oku kususa ukugxila kuwe kwaye kunokuzisa iimvakalelo zokuzikhusela kuzo.
  • Kunqande ukuthetha ngawe kwaye ujonge kumava abo, nokuba ukhe wadlula kwinto efanayo.
  • Ungathumeli nantoni na esidlangalaleni kwimidiya yoluntu njengoko le isenokungabi yinto eyonwatyiswa ngabantu ngabanye kusapho, kwaye inokubonwa njengabucala.
  • Zama ukunqanda ukuxabana kunye namazwi enkolo, ngakumbi ukuba usapho alukho kunqulo.
  • Zama ukungathelekisi imeko yabo nabanye kuba oko kunokwenza amava abo angasebenzi.

Imiyalezo yovelwano yokulahleka komntwana omdala

Ukuphulukana nonyana okhulileyo kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezinzima kumalungu osapho alilayo. Ukuxhasa, ukugxila kumava abo kule lahleko, kunye nokuthetha into enomdla kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kwaye kunentsingiselo kwabo baphakathiBabuhlungu ngokuswelekelwa ngumntwana omdala.

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