Kunzima ukujongana nabantu abangabaziyo abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabo, kodwa kunokuba nzima nangakumbi xa ujongene nezalamane ezingabufuni ubufanasini. Aba 'bathandekayo' kufuneka bakuthande nokuba ungathini kwaye bangakugwebi ngokusekwe kukhetho lwakho ngokwesondo. Nangona injalo indlela ekufanele ukuba yiyo, akusoloko kunjalo. Kuba awukwazi ukuyitshintsha indlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo, ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukutshintsha indlela oziva ngayo kunye nendlela osabela ngayo ekuphenduleni kwinto abayenzayo ngokufunda indlela yokuqonda ukuzalana kwabantu abazalana nawe kunye nezinto onokuzenza ukwenza usapho. ubudlelwane bunyamezeleka ngakumbi.
Iingcebiso ngokujongana neentsapho ezithanda abantu abathandana besisini esinye
Nokuba ungungqingili, uthe tye, okanye ulala nabantu ababini, unokufumana ukuba ubungqingili kusapho lwakho buyajamelana. Cinga ngezi zimvo zokuphendula kunye nokujongana namalungu osapho angaluqondiyo isini esingaphaya kwesibini esitshatileyo esingamadoda / sabasetyhini.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Iintshukumo zangaphandle zoSapho Wonke umntu uya kuthanda
- Iifoto zoLonwabo loSapho lweHlabathi
- Yintoni ongayilindela xa usika amaqhina nabazali okanye nosapho
Iingcebiso zomntu wonke
Phantse wonke umntu unesinye isihlobo, esikufutshane okanye esikude, esinendlela ethile yokucalucalulwa, nokuba iza ngohlobo lobuhlanga, isini okanye ubundlobongela. Xa usapho lwakho lungavumelani neenkolelo zakho, inokudandathekisa kwaye ibe nzima. Ukuphulaphula abantu obathandayo bathetha izinto ezikwenza ube nomsindo kunokuba nzima. Nangona kunjalo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale uthe cwaka xa isizalwana sithetha izinto ezikhubekisayo.
- Hlala uzolile kwaye ube nomonde, nokuba ujongene nokuthukwa nokuthukwa.
- Zikhumbuze ukuba abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye ikakhulu kusekwe kukungabikho kolwazi ngesihloko, kwaye izihlobo zakho ziphinda-phinda iingcinga nezimvo abazivelisileyo kwindalo yabo. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba ukhulele kwikhaya eligcinayo okanye lenkolo.
- Zifundise ngokuba kutheni umntu enokuthiya abantu abathandana besisini esinye. Umzekelo, abanye abantu abakaze besazi ukuba nobuhlobo nomntu athandana naye kwaye ababuqondi ubufanasini, ngelixa abanye benokuba neentloni ngasese kwiminqweno yabo yobufanasini. Kwiintsapho apho umntu omnye okanye abangakumbi besini esinye, ungquzulwano lomntakwenu lunokudlala indima.
- Yiba sengqiqweni kwaye uqonde ukuba abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabanye abantu abasetyhini abayi kuphela ngokukhawuleza, okanye kwincoko enye.
- Sebenzisa ingqiqo, ubalo kunye nenyani xa ukhusela amalungelo esini. Umzekelo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umtshato wesini esifanayo kufuneka ube semthethweni, ndwendwela iwebhusayithi ye-pro-gay yomtshato enolwazi malunga nomba, Kutheni Imicimbi Yomtshato okanye Ukulingana Komtshato e-USA .
- Joyina iqela elikwi-intanethi elixhasa amalungelo abantu abathandana besisini esinye kwaye libonelele ngenkxaso kunye neengcebiso kubantu abajongana neentsapho ezithandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye. Eminye imizekelo ibandakanya IGLAAD (Umanyano lwamaGay kunye namaLesbiya ngokuchasene nokuNgcoliswa) kunye Iprojekthi kaTrevor .
- Jonga iwebhusayithi yenkxaso nosapho lwakho njenge I-PFLAG (Abazali, iiNtsapho kunye nabahlobo bamaLesbi kunye namaGay) ngolwazi kunye neendlela zokuqonda.
Iingcebiso kumaGay, amaLesbi kunye neeBisexuals
Ukuba ulifanasini, ulala okanye ulala nesini sakho kwaye amalungu osapho lwakho anengxaki ngokuqhelana nokwabelana ngesondo, okanye nokuba uyala, zininzi iindlela zokujongana nengxabano. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubenalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa.
- Zikhumbuze ukuba awuwedwa, kwaye ingxaki ikwelungu losapho elithandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye, hayi wena. Ayilotyala lakho ukuba isihlobo sakho asikuqondi.
- Hlala unethemba lokuba isimo sengqondo sokuthandana kwabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye siza kutshintsha emva kokuba isihlobo sakho sibe nexesha lokuziqhelanisa ne-closet yakho. Amanye amalungu osapho ngokwenyani akabacaphukeli abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye, abazi nje ukuba mabathini okanye bayitsho njani, kwaye amagqabantshintshi anokuvela ngokungafanelekanga.
- Zimele kwaye uthembeke. Ukuba umntu uthetha into ehlaselayo, mqondise kakuhle ngentlekisa. Umzekelo, abanye abantu bakholelwa ngenene ukuba onke amadoda athandana namanye athande ukuhombisa okanye abanxibayo. Nceda aba bantu bafunde ukuba iingcinga ezikhohlakeleyo azisoloko zichanekile.
- Yala izimemo zomcimbi wosapho, ezinje ngeeholide okanye imitshato, ukuba iqabane lakho alimenywanga. Ukuba ilungu losapho lazisa intombi yakho 'njengomhlobo,' yilungise kwaye uthi, 'Uthetha iqabane lam (okanye intombi yam).'
- Chitha ixesha kunye namalungu osapho anothando, anengqondo evulekileyo ngexesha leeholide okanye kwimibhiyozo. Umzekelo, wena, umntakwenu kunye nomzala wakho ungaqala isiko elitsha lombulelo kulo nyaka ukuba awamkelekanga kumsitho wosapho owandisiweyo. Unokuba nexesha elingcono kuneliqhelekileyo, njengoko unokuzama iindlela zokupheka ezintsha, ukucofa iwayini ebiza kakhulu, kwaye ube nexesha elimnandi, elingenadrama losapho.
Ukujongana nokuNqatshelwa kunye nokuSetyenziswa gwenxa
Ngelishwa, abanye abantu bakwiintsapho ezinomlinganiso wobufanasini ezingasokuze zitshintshe. Ngapha koko, amanye ala malungu osapho ayazihlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo izalamane zawo. Zininzi abazali bade bakhahlele ngaphandle unyana okanye intombi yabo ekwishumi elivisayo ngokuvela nje ngaphandle. Ukongeza ekulandeleni iingcebiso ngokubanzi malunga nokujongana namalungu osapho anzima, thatha la manyathelo ongezelelweyo:
- Funa iingcebiso ukuze ujongane nentlungu ehambelana nokungafumani uthando olungenamiqathango kusapho lwakho.
- Buza izalamane ezandisiweyo ukuba ungahlala nabo xa ukhatywa kwikhaya lakho.
- Xela naluphi na uhlobo lokuphathwa gadalala kwabasemagunyeni bonyanzeliso lomthetho. Kukho imithetho yolwaphulo-mthetho eyenziweyo ukulungiselela le njongo.
- Ngokutsho kweZiko lika-Ali Forney, iipesenti ezingama-25 zolutsha ziyanqatshwa ziintsapho zazo kwaye uninzi lwazo luphela lungenamakhaya ngenxa yoko. IZiko lika-Ali Forney limisele umona we-LGBT (abantu abathandana nabasetyhini, abathandana besini esinye, abathandanayo nabathandana nabantu abathandanayo) ukuba baxhase kwaye bakhusele. Unokufunda ngakumbi ngayo kule vidiyo imfutshane:
Ukuhamba kwiHomophobia edlulileyo
Ukuhlala okanye ukunxulumana namalungu osapho athandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo kunokuba yinto enzima. Ikhaya lakho limele ukuba yindawo yokusabela kubutshaba, ngaphandle komhlaba, kwaye kubuhlungu xa usazi ukuba amalungu osapho ahluke kakhulu kunawe. Nokuba bayakugatya okanye bafunda ukwamkela owokwenene, khumbula ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uphile ubomi bakho ngokukhululekileyo kwaye uhlale unyanisekile kuwe.
