KWELI NQAKU
- Ngaba ukuchasa koMntwana siSigaba?
- Yintoni Ebangela Ukungahloneli Kwabantwana Abasakhasayo?
- Xa Ufanele Uzixhalabise Ngokungahloneli Kwabantwana Abasaqalayo?
- Ujongana Njani Nomntwana Oziintloni?
Ukubukela umntwana oselula esala ukulandela imiyalelo kwaye exambulisana nabantu abadala kunokwenza abazali bangazithembi. Kodwa ukuba nomntwana oselula odelelayo akusoloko kuthetha ukuba ukhulisa umntwana wakho omncinane ngendlela engafanelekanga. Endaweni yoko, olu tshintsho kumntwana osakhulayo ekufuneka uluqonde.
Ubuncinci kuxa umntwana efumana umtsalane wokuzimela okokuqala. Ngaxeshanye, bafumana utshintsho oluninzi lomzimba kunye nentlalo-ntle abangakwaziyo nokuyiqonda. Kubangelwa yingxubevange yezi zinto edla ngokudala inkcaso, edla ngokuba yeyokwexeshana. Noko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa iimpawu zokuchasa okungapheliyo, ingxaki isenokuba yenye into.
Funda ukuze ufunde ukuba kutheni umntwana oselula ejika edelela, iingcebiso zokuyilawula, kwaye xa ukuchasa kubantwana abancinci kuyinkxalabo.
Ngaba ukuchasa koMntwana siSigaba?
Ewe, ukuchasa abantwana abasahambayo kudla ngokuba kokomzuzwana kwaye kwenzeka ngexesha lesigaba sobuntwana. Ngokutsho kweengcali, ukuchasa, ukuxhathisa, kunye nenkani kubantwana abancinci kunokuba yinto ephawulekayo ukususela kwiminyaka emibini. (Nye) . Uninzi lwabantwana abasacathulayo baqalisa ukucaphuka xa beneenyanga ezili-18 ubudala, kodwa ihambo evakalala iqala ukusuka kwiinyanga ezingama-24 okanye kwiminyaka emibini. (Mbini) . Umntwana oselula usenokukhula kwindlela yokuziphatha xa sele elungele ukuya esikolweni eneminyaka emine xa ebonisa intsebenziswano engcono.
Yintoni Ebangela Ukungahloneli Kwabantwana Abasakhasayo?
Ukubonakalisa inkcaso akuthethi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngomntwana osemncinci okanye kwizakhono zakho zobuzali. Yindlela yomncinci yokusebenzisa inkululeko yabo entsha kunye nokuvavanya umhlaba ngesizathu kunye nesiphumo. Apha ngezantsi kukho izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni abantwana abancinci bebonisa ukuziphatha okudelelayo (Nye) .
1. Ukuziqonda ngcono
Umntwana oselula uyaqonda ukuba bangumntu, onokuba nempembelelo ngokuzimeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, abaqondi ukuba basenengqondo ekhulayo kunye nezakhono zomzimba. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na inkcaso ephakanyiswa ngumzali ngalo naliphi na inyathelo ivunywa ngokudelela okanye ngenkani.
2. Umdla wendalo
Umntwana osakhasayo uzele kukufuna ukwazi, yaye ihlabathi sisifundo sabo sovavanyo. Kungokwemvelo ukuba bavavanye imida yemithetho nendlela abanokusabela ngayo kwabo banyamekela abaguli, njengabazali.
Ukungathobeli yindlela yabo yokumisela ukuba bangawanweba kangakanani amaphiko abo ngaphambi kokuba babekwe phantsi. Qaphela ukuba umntwana oselula uyenza ngokwemvelo ngaphandle kweenjongo ezimbi.
3. Izakhono ezingcono zomzimba kunye neengqondo
Umntwana oneminyaka emibini ubudala ufumana inkululeko kuzo zonke iinkalo, kuquka nokushukuma komzimba. Umntwana wakho ohambahambayo uphantse enze nayiphi na intshukumo yomzimba, ukusuka kwitiptoeing ukuya ekubalekeni ebaleni. Izakhono zonxibelelwano nazo ziyaphuculwa kwaye umntwana oselula ngoku ekwazi ukuqonda imiyalelo elula kunye nenjongo yayo.
Izithintelo ezimbalwa kunye nobuchule obungcono bonyusa ukuthambekela kwendalo ukuchasa yonke imida kwaye bahambe ngendlela yabo, nokuba ayifanelekanga. Kungokwemvelo ukuba umntwana oselula abonakalise inkcaso xa abazali bengenelela ukulungisa ukhetho lomntwana.
Xa Ufanele Uzixhalabise Ngokungahloneli Kwabantwana Abasaqalayo?
Uninzi lweziganeko zokuchasa abantwana abasaqalayo aziyonto yokukhathazeka ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, kunokubakho iimeko apho ukuziphatha okudelelayo kunokuxhalabisa. Dibana nogqirha wabantwana okanye isazi ngengqondo yabantwana ukuba umntwana ongevayo ubonisa ezi flegi zibomvu zilandelayo (3) .
- Ukucaphuka rhoqo
- Ukungathobeli okungapheliyo kudla ngokukhatshwa lugonyamelo
- Ukwala rhoqo ukulandela imiyalelo yomntu omdala
- Ngalo lonke ixesha ubuza imibuzo, ngakumbi ngobundlongondlongo
- Ukwenza izinto ngabom ukucaphukisa umntu omdala
- Ukwaphula imithetho okanye ukuchasa igunya kwindawo yokugcina abantwana okanye kwezinye iindawo
- Ukuthetha krwada okanye ngqwabalala kubantu abadala okanye kumntu onegunya
- Ukuthetha ukuziphindezela okanye ukuziphindezela
Ukubonakaliswa okungapheliyo kweeflegi ezibomvu kunokubonisa imiba yokuziphatha ephantsi, njenge-oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Akukho sizathu esinye sokuba kutheni umntwana enokuba ne-ODD. Kungathatha uvavanyo oluninzi olwenziwa yingcali yokuziphatha yabantwana ukumisela ngokuchanekileyo ubukho be-ODD kumntwana osakhulayo. Ngoko ke, musa ukothuka xa umntwana wakho ebonisa naluphi na uphawu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ibe yindlela yokuziphatha yethutyana kwaye inokusonjululwa ngongenelelo olufanelekileyo.
Ujongana Njani Nomntwana Oziintloni?
Abazali banokuhlangabezana ngokulula neemeko ezininzi zehambo edelelayo ekhaya. Apha ngezantsi kukho imilinganiselo ecetyisiweyo onokuthi uyithathele ingqalelo ukunciphisa inkcaso kubantwana abaselula kwaye ubenze basebenzisane ngakumbi (4) .
Ukungathobeli kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo ngexesha lokukhula okunokulawulwa ngemilinganiselo efanelekileyo. Khumbula ukuba ungazibeki tyala wena okanye umntwana wakho ngaloo nto. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukuziphatha kwendalo, kwaye umntwana oselula akanako ukulawula kuyo. Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, ufunda ukusebenzisana nabanye, yaye kuba lula ukuqiqa nabo. Noko ke, ukuba ubona iimpawu ezothusayo, ezinjengokuchasa ngokuchasa, musa ukuthandabuza ukuthetha nogqirha okanye isazi ngengqondo.
Mbini. Amanqaku abalulekileyo ; i-CDC
3. I-Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) kubantwana ; KwiYunivesithi yaseRochester
Isine. Umntwana Ongathobeliyo ; I-American Academy of Pediatrics