Ufuna uncedo lokufunda indlela yokujongana nokuba ungomnye umfazi. Emva koko uya kuba nomdla kakhulu kulo mbuzo womfundi kuthi Buza uMqeqeshi wokuDibana. Fumana iingcebiso ezisuka entliziyweni malunga nokuba ungubani omnye umfazi kuthetha ntoni kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho.
Indlela yokujongana nokuba lelinye icebo labasetyhini
Umbuzo woMfundi
Kudala ndithetha nalendoda ndidibene nayo kulonyaka uphelileyo yohlukene nenkosikazi yayo. Siqale ubudlelwane obukhulu kakhulu de umfazi wasifumana sobabini kwaye sagqiba kwelokuba sibuyele kuzo zonke izizathu ezingalunganga. Uye waqhawula kunye nam, nto leyo ibibuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa wayishiya yodwa. Emva kweenyanga ezi-4, waphinda waqhakamshelana nam endixelela ukuba zenziwe kakuhle. Ke sithathe kanye apho besiyishiye khona. Sele iinyanga ezintandathu apho siziphathe njengabahlobo (ngezibonelelo) kwabanye abantu. Kuze kube ngenye imini ndamxelela ngokuchanekileyo indlela endiziva ngayo, ukuba ndandithandana naye kwaye ndingathanda ubudlelwane bokwenene. Ukusukela ngoko, uye wandityhalela kude. Ke, ndathetha naye ndathi ndicinga ukuba kungangcono ukuba asizukuthetha de ndikwazi ukwamkela ukuba singabahlobo kuphela. Wayendixelele ukuba akayazi into ezakwenzeka kodwa akafuni ukundilimaza. Ngoku ndiqala ukuphuma kuba bendiqhele ukuthetha naye kodwa kwezi ntsuku zintathu zokugqibela khange ndive kuye. Ndingenza ntoni? Andifuni ukumkhulula kodwa andinakumenza abone ukuba ndimthanda kangakanani. ~ ~ USusan
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Ingcali Phendula
Mthandi uSusan,
Andiqondi ukuba ingxaki kumfo wakho kukuba akayiboni indlela omthanda ngayo. Ndicinga ukuba ingxaki ngobudlelwane bakho kukuba lo mfo akaziva ngathi unzulu ngawe njengoko uziva ngaye. Eyona nto iyaqondakala inikezwe ukuba kungoku utshatile kwaye uzama ukudibana nenkosikazi yakhe okanye ngoku utshatile kwaye uzama ukubuphelisa ubudlelwane. Nokuba yeyiphi na asebenzisana nayo nenkosikazi yakhe, iimvakalelo zakhe ziyabandakanyeka kuye. Oku kungachaza ukuba kutheni ekuthintela, kuba umkhathalele kakhulu kwaye sesinye sexesha lakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Akakwazi ukwahlulahlula ubudlelwane bobabini.
Indoda owathandana nayo yinxalenye yendoda yonke. Kungenxa yoko le nto imicimbi kunye okanye ukuthandana nomntu osandula ukwahlukana kunqabile ukuba kusebenze. Isizathu kukuba iqabane elisabandakanyeka kubudlelwane obudlulileyo alinakho ukunika ingqalelo epheleleyo kulomdla omtsha. La ngamava akho nendoda oyikhathaleleyo. Waqala ubudlelwane nawe ngaphambi kokuba abugqibe ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane kunye nenkosikazi yakhe. Kwakungathi wayenobudlelwane bobabini ngexesha elinye; enye yayintsha, inika umdla kwaye intsha kwaye enye nomntu wayenembali kunye neenkumbulo kunye naye, umntu awayezinikele kuye.
Ngelixa kulula ukuba nomsindo emfazini, ukuba ebewugqibe umtshato wakhe ngewayengazange abuyele emfazini wakhe ayokusebenza kubudlelwane babo. Olu lwazi isenokuba kutheni wenzakalisa kakhulu. Uwele nzima kwaye ukhawuleze umfana okholelwa ukuba uyafumaneka kwaye ulungele ubudlelwane nawe kuphela ukufumanisa ukuba oku bekungenjalo kwaphela. Ngelixa kungazukuba lula ukuyeka, kuphela kwento onokuyenza. Ungamyeka ahambe nesidima sakho kunye nokuzihlonela okupheleleyo.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha uyakonzakala kancinane, kodwa indlela oyisingatha ngayo le meko ngoku iza kuhlala ubomi bakho bonke. Ngokumvumela ukuba asebenze ngolwalamano kunye nenkosikazi yakhe ngaphandle kokukunyanzela ukwabonisa ubabalo nesibindi. Ukuba umtshato wakhe awuphumelelanga kwaye uwugqibe aze abuyele kuwe, uyakube ebuyile esazi ukuba umtshato wakhe uwunike konke anokukwenza kwaye akuphumelelanga. Akayi kuqhubeka netyala okanye ukuzisola. Oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuthi ke avumeleke ukuba azinikele kuwe ngokupheleleyo. Ke, ngenxa yokuba wenze ngobabalo nangesidima, awuyi kuba namathandabuzo okanye uzisole malunga nokuziphatha kwakho ukuba angabuyela kuwe.
~~ uLori
