Xa abantu baliva igama lisondele, bahlala becinga ukuba linxulumene kuphela nengxoxo yegumbi lokulala, kodwa imibuzo enomdla inokugubungela ukubanzi okubanzi. Banokukhathaza nantoni na ukusuka kumaphupha akho obuntwana ukuya kwiqabane lakho ekuboniseni ikamva lakho kunye. Vavanya imibuzo esondeleyo ukubuza isithandwa sakho malunga noluhlu olubanzi lwezihloko.
Imibuzo yokutsala ngokubanzi yokubuza enye into ebalulekileyo
Kukho izinto ezithile ofuna ukuzazi nangona zingenakubekwa kudidi olunye. Ezi zizinto malunga nokukhetha, indlela othetha ngayo omnye komnye, kwaye mhlawumbi kwanomnqweno okanye emibini iphoswe kumxube wemibuzo yokubuza intombi okanye isoka lakho.
- Yintoni into yokuqala oyibonileyo ngam?
- Yiyiphi indima edlalwa ngumtsalane ekuqhubekeni ulwalamano okanye cha?
- Loluphi uhlobo lwevumba olithandayo emfazini?
- Ungathi unayo 'uhlobo'? Ngaba ndiyayifanela le nto ubucinga ukuba uyikhangela?
- Undichaza njani kwabanye abantu?
- Ucinga ukuba ndingakuchaza njani kwabanye abantu?
- Yintoni endinokukwenzela yona endingayenziyo ngoku?
- Yintoni into yokuqala ocinga ngayo xa undibona?
- Zeziphi iimpawu ezenza ukuba ndikhetheke kuwe?
- Ngaba ujonge amanye amadoda (abafazi)?
- Ukuba unokuba neminqweno emithathu kum, iyintoni?
- Zithini iinjongo onazo ngathi?
- Yintoni into yokuqala oyicingileyo xa udibana nam?
- Ungaphendula uthini ukuba imbonakalo yam itshintshe kakhulu, nokuba kungobusuku nje obunye (iinwele ezintsha kunye nombala weenwele ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo) okanye ixesha elingaphezulu (ngaphezulu / kancinci kwezihlunu, ukutyeba / ukulahleka)?
- Yintoni into ocinga ukuba iyinyani ngam, kodwa awuzange ubuze ukuba uqinisekise?
- Zikhulu kangakanani isivumelwano ngezihlandlo ezikhethekileyo kuwe?
- Izinto ezili-10 ezimnandi ukuThetha kwiQabane lakho
- Iimpawu ze-10 zeQabane eliKopayo
- Igalari yeeNgcinga eziGqibeleleyo zothando lweMvelaphi
Imibuzo Ngexesha Elidlulileyo
Ngaphambi kokuba uye phambili kunye neqabane lakho, unokuba luhlobo ofuna ukwazi malunga nokudlulileyo kwakhe. Ukuba uceba ukusondelelana okanye ukuhlala kunye ixesha elide (mhlawumbi nkqutshata), Kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ukubuza nantoni na oziva ukuba ufanele uyazi, okanye nantoni na onomdla ngayo. Khumbula, ukubuza le mibuzo kuya kuvula isango lakho elidlulileyo, kananjalo.
- Wakhe wakhohlisiwekwiqabane? Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba ukhe wayiqwalasela kodwa watshintsha ingqondo?
- Unamaqabane amangaphi angaphambili?
- Ngaba uye waxoxa malunga nokuba ungandibuzi? Kutheni le nto ukhetha ukungavumi?
- Ucinga ntoni ngomhla wethu wokuqala?
- Wakhe wathandana phambi kwam?
- Ngubani umzekelo wakho ebomini? Ngubani oyena mzekelo wakho eluthandweni?
- Waziva njani xa uqaphela ukuba uyandithanda?
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba simiselwe ukuba sibe kunye, kangangokuba ukuba besingazange sithathe isigqibo sokwenza amadinga xa sithandanayo kwaye siphulukene nokunxibelelana, singaphinda sidibane?
- Ubukhangela ntoni xa undifumana? Ngaba ubukhangela uthando konke konke?
Imibuzo Ngekamva
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba wena kunye nomthandi wakho niyahambelana ixesha elide? Buza imibuzo enzima malunga nokuba izinto ziyaphi. Yiya kwikamva njengoko uziva kufanelekile, kodwa gcina ubude bexesha lobudlelwane bakho engqondweni kunye nezicwangciso osele uzixoxile ngaphambi kokuba ubuze malunga nezinto ezinje ngezemaliucwangcisela umhlalaphantsi, okanye unokunika umbono ombi.
- Ububona phi obu budlelwane bujolise kunyaka olandelayo? Kuthekani ngeminyaka emihlanu ezayo?
- Luthini uluvo lwakho ngomtshato nangabantwana?
- Ungazohlala nam xa ufumanisa ukuba ndinguyeengakwazi ukuzala abantwana?
- Zithini iinjongo zakho zomsebenzi kwaye zingabuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bethu?
- Uzibona uhlala phi xa uthatha umhlala-phantsi?
- Ndifuna ukuba ngumthandi olungileyo, kwaye ndifuna ukubakhona kuwe. Ndingenza ntoni ukuze ubengumfazi okanye indoda?
- Ucinga ukuba ungathini ngemini ebomini bethu, sitshatile nabantwana? Kuthekani ngeveki ebomini?
- Zithini iingcinga zakho ngokuhlala nabazali bethu abalupheleyo ukuba abanako ukuhlala bodwa ngosuku olunye?
- Uceba ukwenza njaniyonga umhlalaphantsi? Zithini iinjongo zakho?
Imibuzo Ngothando
Abantu balubonakalisa uthando ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo; kubalulekile ukuba ufumane ukuqonda okufanelekileyo kokuya kuthetha kwintliziyo yeqabane lakho. Kananjalo unemibuzo kulowo uza kuba liqabane lakho malunga neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo (zangaphambili nezangoku) kuthando.
- Ndingenza ntoni ukukubonisa indlela endikuthanda ngayo?
- Uyakholelwa kumaqabane omphefumlo? Kuthekani ngothando xa uqala ukulibona?
- Ngaba wakha wakhathazwa kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye ubuza ukuba kungenzeka ukuba uthando?
- Uziqonde nini ukuba uyandithanda?
- Ngaba uyalubona uthando lwethu luhlala luhleli? Ngaba ukhe ube namathandabuzo?
- Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ukhethe, ngaba ukhetha ukufumana isipho okanye umntu othile akwenzele into entle okanye eluncedo kuwe?
- Ngaba uyazithanda izipho zemizwa okanye ngaba uhlala ufuna ukuba isipho sibe nenjongo ebonakalayo kwaye sibe yinto oyifunayo?
- Ucinga ukuba ulubonisa njani olona thando?
- Zeziphi iintlobo zokuncoma othanda ukuziva?
Imibuzo eSerious malunga nobuhlobo
Ukusondelelana yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano olunzulu. Ayisiyiyo yonke into eyenzekayo kwigumbi lokulala. Ewe kunjalo, inokudlala indima kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa kukho izinto onokuzenza ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala okanye ubusuku onokuzicwangcisa ngokusekwe kwimibono yabanye ebalulekileyo. Musa ukuba neentloni. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi into kwaye wakhe ulwalamano, vele ubuze.
- Ngaba ubudlelwane bethu bomzimba bwanele kuwe? Yintoni enokuyenza ibe ngcono emehlweni akho?
- Uthanda ukuchukunyiswa njani kwaye phi?
- Ngaba unayo iminqweno onqwenela ukuyizalisekisa?
- Zithini iingcinga zakho ngezinto zokudlala?
- Ngaba ikhona into esingakhange siyizame ongathanda ukuyenza?
- Ngokufanelekileyo (kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, nathi), ungathanda kangaphi ukuba sibe nolwalamano?
- Zeziphi izinto endinokuzenza ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala ukugcina iiimvakalelo zokusondelelanauhamba imini yonke?
Imibuzo ebhaliweyo
Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni ngokukhawuleza yeyona ndlela iphambili kunxibelelwano kwizibini ezininzi, ngenxa yoko ayothusi into yokuba incoko esondeleyo inokwenzeka ngokubhaliweyo. Kungade kube lula ukubuza imibuzo esondeleyo ngokubhaliweyo kwabo baneentloni ngencoko esondeleyo xa ubuso ngobuso. Zama eminye yale mibuzo yokubhaliweyo ukuze uqalise incoko esondeleyo.
- Yintoni oyikhumbula kakhulu ngam ngoku?
- Yintoni le nto ubusoloko ufuna ukuyithetha nam kodwa ungakwazi?
- Ungathanda ndenze ntoni kwixesha elizayo xa sikunye?
- Ungathanda ndikuphuze phi?
- Yintoni oyena mntu usondeleyo okhe waziva kum?
- Liliphi igama ongathanda ukuba ngumxholo wolwalamano lwethu?
- Ndingaba liqabane elingcono njani kuwe?
Khetha into ofuna ukuyazi
Qaphela xa ubuza umbuzo osondeleyo kwiqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uvuleleke ekuphulaphuleni. Unokufumana impendulo uyamangaliswa yiyo okanye awufuni kuva. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ungaligwebi iqabane lakho okanye ube nomsindo. Ukuba uziva ukhathazekile okanye umangalisiwe, thatha umzuzwana ukwetyisa oko liqabane lakho likuxelele ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Khumbula, akukho bantu bagqibeleleyo emhlabeni, kwaye nobabini anizukuvumelana ngento yonke. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uhlale ujonge kwinto oyifunayo kubudlelwane kwaye unqume ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye.Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyoisoloko isitshixo seuthando olungapheliyo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba iqabane lakho linokufuna ukukubuza imibuzo esondeleyo ngokubuyisela, ke kulungele ukuyiphendula. Ubudlelwane banika-kwaye-bathathe, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
