Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokwazi umntu ngcono. Kukho iitoni zeendlela zokwenzayenza incoko iqhubekekwaye ufumanise ukuba nobabini niyimidlalo elungileyo.
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Ukwaziwa omnye nomnye
Ukubhala imiyalezo yindlela ekhawulezayo nelulayazi iqabane lakhookanye iqabane elinokubakho. Imiyalezo ebhaliweyo inokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuba nobabini nineshedyuli exakekileyo kodwa nifuna ukuhlala ninxibelelana kwaye niqhubeke nokwazana ngaphambi komhla olandelayo.
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Imibuzo enxulumene nosapho
Ukwazi okuncinci malunga nobudlelwane beqabane lakho kunye nosapho lwabo kunokukunika ubutyebi bolwazi ngokubhekisele kubuchule babo bokugcina ubudlelwane, ukujongana neengxabano kunye nokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo. Ungabuza:
- 'Kwakunjani ukukhula kwakho?'
- 'Zazijongwa njani iingxabano?'
- 'Ngubani oyena mntu uthethe phandle kusapho lwakho?'
- 'Lunjani usuku oluqhelekileyo kuwe ekukhuleni kwakho?'
- 'Zeziphi izithethe zosapho ezazithandwa nguwe kwaye ngoba?'
- 'Ngubani oyena mntu uvana naye phakathi kosapho lwakho?'
- 'Uthetha kangaphi namalungu osapho lwakho?'
- 'Usapho lwakho luthetha njani ngeemvakalelo zabo?'
Fumanisa malunga nomdla
Kubalulekile ukuba nezinto onomdla kuzo kunye neqabane lakho. Ukubhala imiyalezo yindlela eyoyikekayo yokubona ukuba umdla wakho uyahambelana na. Zama ukubuza:
- 'Yeyiphi eyona ndlela uyithandayo yokuchitha ixesha lakho ngempelaveki?'
- 'Ngaba kukho into oyithandayo okanye uthatha inxaxheba kuyo ixesha elide?'
- 'Ngaba uthanda ukuchitha ixesha wedwa, okanye nabanye?'
- 'Zeziphi izinto ezintathu ozithandayo ozenzayo xa unethuba?'
- 'Ngaba uyathanda ukuzama ukwenza izinto ezintsha?'
- 'Yintoni oyenzileyo engaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela?'
Ukutyhila ukungathandwa
Ukungathandwa kunokubandakanya nantoni na kwizinto ezincinci ozithandayo ukuya kwiimpawu zobuntu iqabane lakho lifumanisa lingahambelani nolwabo. Zama ukubuza malunga:
- 'Sesiphi esona sidlo sakha sasona sakha sakha sakha sakha sakha sakha sakha sasihla?'
- 'Zeziphi iintlobo zokutya ofumanisa ukuba zibekiwe?'
- 'Ngaba unazo naziphi na izifuba zesilwanyana sasekhaya?'
- 'Zeziphi ezona mpawu zincinci ozithandayo kubuntu bakho?'
- 'Ngaba kukho naziphi na izinto ozonwabisa ngazo okanye imisebenzi onokuyiphepha ngandlela zonke?'
Xoxa ngeziCwangciso zexesha elizayo kunye neenjongo
Ukuthetha malunga necebo elicwangciswa liqabane lakho ngekamva labo kunokukuxelela ulwazi oluninzi malunga nenkuthazo yabo, ukucwangciswa kokukhethwa, nokuba ngaba bajolise kwinjongo. Ungabuza:
- 'Ungathanda ukuba uphi kule minyaka mihlanu izayo?'
- 'Ngaba uyafuna ekugqibeleni ube nabantwana?'
- 'Ucinga ntoni ngomtshato?'
- 'Yintoni umsebenzi wakho amaphupha?'
- 'Uzibona uhlala phi?'
- 'Ngaba uceba ukuhamba kwikamva?'
- 'Ngaba uceba ukuqhubeka nesikolo?'
- 'Yintoni ojonge phambili kuyo kunyaka ozayo?'
Funda ngobuntu babo
Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga neqabane lakhookanye ubuntu obunokubakho beqabane likuvumela ukuba ufumanise ukuba bangobani kanye kanye njengomntu. Oku kunokukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kusebenza kakuhle kunye, okanye ukuba kukho ezinye izinto onokukhetha kuzo kwiqabane. Ungabuza:
- 'Ungumntu wakusasa okanye isikhova sasebusuku?'
- 'Injani inkqubo yakho yasekuseni?'
- 'Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukufudumala kubudlelwane obutsha?'
- 'Ngaba uhlala uthambekele ngakumbi okanye ungenisa?'
- 'Yintoni ekwenza uzive unamandla?'
- 'Loluphi olona lonwabo lukhulu ubukulo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku?'
- 'Ngaba ucinga ngaphakathi kuwe phambi kokuba uphendule umbuzo, okanye ngaba uhlala uphendula ngokuvakalayo?'
- 'Yeyiphi incwadi oyithandayo kwaye ngoba?'
- 'Wenza ntoni xa ukhathazwe ngumntu?'
- 'Ulubonakalisa njani uthando?'
- 'Lunjani usuku olufanelekileyo kuwe?'
- 'Ngaba uyathanda ukuphuma okanye ukhetha ukuhlala kuyo?'
- 'Ngaba uqhele ukutsiba ukusuka kubudlelwane uye kubudlelwane?'
Yintoni omele uyiphephe
Ukuba usazi umntu othile, kungcono ugcine ngakumbiimibuzo enzulukude kube kamva. Oku kunokubandakanya imibuzo enzulu enxulumene nosapho kunye neenkcukacha ezinzulu malunga nolwalamano lwabo lwangaphambili. Ungasoloko ubuza imibuzo ngokubanzi enxulumene nezi zifundo kwaye ugcine eyona mibuzo yabucala yomntu osengomntu kamva.
Unokuthintela ukusebenzisa ulwimi olusemthethweni kwaye ungasishwankathela, usifinyeze, okanye usebenzise i-emojis ukugxininisa ithoni yombuzo wakho. Ngale ndlela, unokwenza isicatshulwa sakho sibe sesakho ukuze iqabane lakho lazi ubuntu bakho.
Ukonwaba ngokufunda ngeQabane lakho
Imiyalezo ebhaliweyo yindlela ekhululekileyo yokufumanisa ngomntu onomdla kuye okanye osandula ukuqalaukuthandana.Ukubuza imibuzo enengqiqoinokukunceda uqonde ukuba iqabane lakho okanye iqabane elinokubakho lelona lifanelekileyo kuwe.
