Kubantu abaninzi ukufa komntu abamthandayo, umhlobo, okanye umntu abamaziyo sisiganeko esibuhlungu. Amagama awakwazi ukuyichaza intlungu, ukungabi nto, kunye neemvakalelo zelahleko emva kokufa, kodwa ezi ngcaphuno zithatha ezo mvakalelo ngokuchanekileyo kunye novelwano.
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Ukuphulukana notatomkhulu, umzali, iqabane, umntwana, okanye umntakwenu kuhlala kuyeyona nto ibuhlungu ikukufa ngenxa yezibophelelo ezisondeleyo eziza nolwalamano losapho. Amazwi ngokusweleka komntu omthandayo anika inkcazo kwiimvakalelo zakho kwaye uchaze abanye ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngaphakathi kuwe njengoko usentlungwini.
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Ukusweleka koMzali
Xa iumzali uswelekile, abantwana bashiyeke benomngxuma entliziyweni nakubomi babo, njengoko abazali bephakathi kwabantu abambalwa abakhoyo kwasekuzalweni. Kwincwadi yakhe Ngomhla omnye , UMitch Albom uyithatha le mvakalelo ngendlela enzulu xa esithi, 'Kodwa wayengekho, kwaye yile nto xa kusifa abazali bakho, uziva ngathi kunokuba ungene kuwo wonke umlo ngokulondolozwa, uya kuwo onke Yilwa wedwa. ' Ukuphulukana nale nkqubo yenkxaso inikwa ngabazali kunokuba buhlungu.
Ukuphulukana noMntwana
Esinye sezona zifo zibuhlungu umntu anokuhlangabezana nazo yileUkuphulukana nomntwana wabo. Ukusweleka komntwana kushiya abazali bexakekile befumana intsingiselo entsha ebomini babo kwaye behamba yonke imihla, umzuzu omnye ngexesha. UWayne Loder uthabatha olu luvo kwibinzana, 'Xa umntwana wakho esifa ufumanisa ukuba ubomi bakho buhlukaniswe ngonaphakade baba' ngaphambili 'nasemva' emva '. An umbhali ongaziwayo yongeza umyalezo ofanayo, 'Xa unomntwana ezulwini uhlala kwilimbo phakathi' kwalapha 'nokuthi' phaya '.'
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Ukuphulukana nabantwana bakowenu
Kwincwadi yakhe Apho Zibuya Izinto , umbhali uJohn Corey Whaley uchaza ukuba kunjani ukuba ngumzalwana wenkwenkwe elahlekileyo. Uthi, '... inxalenye yobomi bam yayihambe naye. Amabali ngathi angathi, ukusukela kuwo ukubaliseka.
Xa uUkuphulukana nomntakwenuokanye umhlobo owabelana naye ngeenkumbulo, kubuhlungu ukuqonda ukuba awusoze uve ukuba baphinde bazifumana njani ezo nkumbulo. Kwincwadi yakhe Umgcini kadade wethu , UJodi Picoult uveza ukudideka okuza emva kokuphulukana nodade xa ebhala, 'Ukuba unodade kwaye uswelekile, uyeka ukuthi unaye?' Kukho amagama okuchaza abafazi abaphulukana nabayeni babo, kodwa hayi abantakwabo abaphulukana nabantakwabo.
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Izicaphuno Ezibuhlungu Ngokufa
Ukufa yenye yezona lahleko zinkulu umntu anokuhlangabezana nazo. Amagama afana nala abonisa ubukhulu bale mvakalelo.
- UJohn Dryden ubhala athi, 'Ukufa ngokwako, akuyonto; kodwa siyoyika, ukuba asazi ukuba yintoni, asazi apho, 'emsebenzini wakhe UAureng-Zebe . Kwabaninzi, ukufa yinto yokoyika ubomi bonke.
- 'Abahlobo abasenyongweni abakwazi ukuya emngcwabeni womnye nomnye, utshilo umbhali UKehlog Albran ekwabelaneni ngosizi olunzulu oluve kwaxa ucinga ngokufa komhlobo.
- Kwibali elifutshane, UGeorge Eliot icebisa ukuba, 'Abafileyo bethu abaze bafe kuthi de silibale.' Esi sikhumbuzo sibuhlungu sabelana ukuba ekugqibeleni bonke abaswelekileyo bayalityalwa ngaphandle kweenjongo ezilungileyo.
- 'Ukufa sisicombululo sazo zonke iingxaki. Akukho ndoda-akukho ngxaki, 'luluvo oludandathekisayo oluchazwe yinkokeli yengcinezelo UJoseph Stalin . Kuyadabukisa ukuba oozwilakhe abaninzi beenkokheli kunye neenkokheli babambe le ngcinga inye.
- Kwibali lakhe Ihashe eliluthuthu, uMkhweli oLuthuthu , UKatherine Anne Porter uthetha ngendlela ukufa okwabelwana ngayo ngamava omfi kunye nabo bashiyekileyo. 'Ukufa kuhlala kushiya imvumi enye izilile.'
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'Ukuba abantu babecinga ukuba uyafa, bakunika ingqwalaselo yabo yonke,' utsho u-Chuck Palahniuk kwinoveli yakhe Iklabhu yokulwa . Le nyaniso ingonwabisiyo ithatha umbono wokuba abantu banenjongo kakhulu kunxibelelwano lwabo nabanye ababonakala ngathi basondele ekufeni kunabo baphila ngokungcangcazelayo.
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Kwincwadi yakhe Ingoma ye-Achilles , UMadeline Miller ubhala athi, 'Xa esifa, zonke izinto zithambile kwaye zintle kwaye ziqaqambile ziya kungcwatywa naye,' ukubonisa ukuba leliphi ixesha elimnyama elingaveliswa kukufa.
- Kumbongo wakhe UMaud muller , UJohn Greenleaf Whittier ubhala athi, 'Kuwo onke amagama abuhlungu olwimi okanye usiba, awona abuhlungu ngala:' Inokuba ibikho! '' ilahleko.
Amazwi Ngokuzibulala
Ukufa nguukuzibulalayenye yezona ndlela zibuhlungu zokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo njengoko uninzi lucinga ukuba ngekunokuthintelwa okanye kuthintelwe. Rhoqo, ngabo bashiyekileyo abahlupheka kakhulu kwezi meko.
Kwimbono yomfi
I-Emilie Autumn icacisa kwisicatshulwa lwengqondo zingavakala njani iingcinga zomntu ofuna ukuzibulala kunye nebala eliza emva komzamo ongaphumelelanga. 'Ayikho into ebomini yam eyakha yandenza ndafuna ukuzibulala ngaphezu kwendlela abantu abasabela ngayo xa ndizama ukuzibulala.' Le mibono ngumjikelo okhohlakeleyo wokuzicingela gwenxa ongenakuguqulwa ziinjongo ezintle zabanye. Intetho engaziwayo yongeza ukuba, 'Ukuzibulala akuphelisi amathuba okuba ubomi bube mbi, kuphelisa ukubanakho ukuba kungangcono.'
Kwabo bashiyeke ngasemva
Abantu ababathandayo abashiye ngasemva emva kokuba umntu ezibulele bashiyeka benemibuzo engapheliyo, usizi kunye nosizi kuba bengasiqondi isizathu sokuba kwenzeke oku. Izabelo zikaJeannette Walls, 'Xa abantu bezibulala, bacinga ukuba bayaziphelisa iintlungu, kodwa konke abakwenzayo kukukudlulisela kwabo babashiyileyo.' Umntu oswelekileyo akasaziva edanile kwaye ephelelwe lithemba, kodwa njenge Clark Izabelo, 'Umntu ogqiba ukuzibulala ufa kube kanye. Abo bashiyeke besweleka besweleka, bezama ukuphinda bafumane la maxesha mabi baqonde ... Kutheni? '
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Ukuhlonipha Usizi
Ukuziva unxunguphalo emva kokufa yinto eqhelekileyo kumava omntu. Yamkela kwaye uyihlonele loo mvakalelo ngezicaphulo ezinje ukukunceda uhambe kwiimvakalelo.
