Iingcebiso ezilungileyo kubafana abafikisayo zihlala zivela kootata, kootitshala, kubacebisi nakwimizekelo. Aba ngabantu obajonga njengomzekelo womntu onqwenela ukubakhona ebomini bakho. Nokuba ufuna ingcebiso yamakhwenkwe malunga nothando lolutsha, isikolo, ezemidlalo okanye ubulumko bemihla ngemihla, kukho iimpendulo phaya.
Uthando lwabaselula: Amantombazana athandana nawo kunye namasoka
Xa ungaqinisekanga ngendlela onokuba ngumfana olungileyo ngayo, unokuhendeka ukuba ujonge amajelo eendaba njengomzekelo. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda ahlala evezwa ngokungachanekanga, anokubangela ukudideka okukhulu. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezilula ukugcina engqondweni xa uqala ukuthandana ezinokukunceda ugcine intombi yakho (okanye isoka) lonwabe.
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- Abafana abakwishumi elivisayo baMihle ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo
- Igalari yaBafana yaBafikisayo kwiZimbo zeFashoni
- Iingcamango zokulala zamantombazana aselula
Ndiziva ndikhuselekile
Ukuqhagamshela nentombi yakho okanye isoka lakho kunokuba yinkohliso ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obutsha. Ukwenza ubudlelwane obulungileyo, obonwabisayo, qiniseka ukuba nobabini niziva nikhululekile xa nikunye. Oku kuthetha ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo nina nobabini nithembane ngokupheleleyo. Ukwenza njalo, chitha ixesha lokwazana kunye nokubuza imibuzo malunga nezinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo. Ngena kunye nomnye ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga nantoni na, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kuyo nayiphi na into yesondo. Nangona kunokuziva kunzima ukuxoxa malunga nokuxhuma ngaphambi kokuba wenze njalo, kuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini nikhululekile ukwenza njalo kwaye aniziva ninyanzelekile.
Unxibelelwano ngundoqo
Ukufumana iindlela zokuthetha omnye nomnye yinxalenye enkulu yokuba kubudlelwane obuqolileyo. Xa intombi yakho (okanye isoka) lithetha nawe, nyanimamela. Ngamanye amaxesha sixakeke kakhulu sicinga ngempendulo yethu ukuba sive ukuba bazama ukuthini. Sukuba nexhala le nto yenzeke kuye wonke umntu ngaxa lithile. Ukubonisa intombi yakho ukuba umamele yenza ukudibana kwamehlo okuhle, kwaye umnike imikhondo oyivayo ngokunqwala, kwaye ubuze imibuzo enxulumene nesihloko. Abanye abantu bathanda ukuthanda ezi ndlela zokuphulaphula nazo. (Cebisa abazali nootitshala).
Ukwahlula inkanuko kuthando
Yiba ngaphambili njengoko unokuba malunga noluphi uhlobo lobudlelwane ongathanda ukuba nalo. Ukwenza njalo kukuseta ukuba ube nolwalamano olufunayo, ngaphandle kokulahlekisa. Kuvakala kulungile, akunjalo? Ukufumanisa ukuba umntu othandana naye unomdla wokuzigcina uqhelekile okanye ukuba semthethweni, babuze ukuba balindele ntoni kulwalamano kwaye babelane ngento oyifunayo. Ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye, kulungile! Ukuba akunjalo, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ingaba obu bubudlelane obulungileyo na kuwe. Unokuthi, 'Ndiyakuthanda ukuthandana nawe, kodwa ndifuna ukugcina izinto zingaqhelekanga.' okanye 'Ndiyakuthanda ukuthandana kwaye ndifuna ukwazi ukuba uya kuba yintombi yam na.' Khumbula, ukuba kwinkanuko kudala ulwalamano olwahlukileyo kunoloukuba sothandweniyenza. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, qiniseka nje ukuba nabani na othandana naye uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni entlokweni yakho.
Ukukopa
Ukuba uziva ulingekaukukopa, khumbula ukuba abantu bathanda ukwenza njalo xa beziva ngathi abafumani nto bayifunayo kulwalamano lwabo lwangoku. Ngaphambi kokudibana nomnye umntu, cinga malunga nokuba ufuna ukuqhubeka uthandana nentombi yakho yangoku (isoka). Ukulungisa umonakalo owenziwa kukukopela kulucelomngeni kwaye ayonwabisi kwaphela. Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane ungathi, 'Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu ukuthandana nawe, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kungangcono ukuba sibuphelisile ubuhlobo bethu.'
Imilinganiselo yokuziphatha
Ukuseka indlela efanelekileyo yokusebenza ngoku kungakunceda wakube uphumile esikolweni nakubasebenzi. Ukwenza kwangoko kwangoko kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lokuba umsebenzi osisigxina unokuba nexesha elininzi lokwenza izinto obungathanda ukuzenza.
Ukusebenza ngokufanelekileyo
Ukulawulwa kwexesha kunye nokusebenza kakuhle zizakhono ezibalulekileyo eziza kuluncedo njengoko usiba mdala. Funda ukwenza uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali ngexesha lakho ngokufanelekileyo ngokuhoya ukuba imisebenzi ethile ithatha ixesha elingakanani ukuze ucwangcise imisebenzi yakho ngokufanelekileyo. Unokwenza oko ngokulandela umkhondo wexesha lomsebenzi wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya okanye iiprojekthi ezikuthatha ngexesha kwifowuni yakho, okanye ukhuphele usetyenziso lokulandela umkhondo wexesha. Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula ixesha, setha isikrini sakho sokulala kwiwotshi kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uhlala unalo ixesha. Oku kunokunceda iwotshi yakho yangaphakathi ichane ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ukwenza oku kunokukunceda ufeze imisebenzi eyimfuneko (aka eyona idikayo) ngelixa ushiya igumbi elininzi lezinto ezonwabisayo ongathanda ukuzenza.
Ukufumana ukuthanda kwakho
Ukuba uziva ulahlekile okanye uyakruqula esikolweni, chitha ixesha elithile ungena kwizinto ezinomdla kuwe. Ukwenza njalo kunokukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive wonwabile. Unokuzama nokuvolontiya kwiinkqubo ezimbalwa ukubona ukuba ikhona into ehambelana neseti yakho yobuchule kwaye inomdla kuwe. Ukwenza izinto ozikhathaleleyo kunokukwenza uzive uzithembile kwaye uhlala uphumelela.
Ukufumana iNhlonipho
Ukufunda indlela yokunika kunye nokufumana imbeko koontanga bakho nakubantu abadala ebomini bakho kunokukusa kude kakhulu. Nangona iihormoni kunye nokukhula kwengqondo kunokukwenza ukuzibamba kube ngumceli mngeni ngeli xesha, ziqhelise ukwenza izigqibo ezinengcinga. Kwenza ukuba ukusebenzisana nabantu kube lula kwaye kongele itoni yamandla.
Ulawulo lweemvakalelo
Ukuba nembeko kuthetha ukucinga ngeemvakalelo zabanye abantu kwaye ubaphathe ngobubele. Nangona kunzima ukuyenza, zama ukuthatha ifayile ye-ukuphefumla nzuluume kancinci phambi kokuba uphendule kwabanye, endaweni yokuphendula kwiingxelo zabo. Khawufane ucinge umhlobo okanye iarch nemesis ithethe into ekukhathazayo. Misa kancinci, thatha umphefumlo uze uphendule. Ngamanye amaxesha xa siphendula kwangoko sivumela iimvakalelo zethu ukuba zisilawule. Kwaye kuhlala kungcono ukuba ungavumeli abantu abakrwada bakubone ubila.
Ukuthembeka
Bonisa abanye ukuba unokuthenjwa ngokubambelela kwilizwi lakho kwaye ulandele. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukwenza le nto ubuyithetha uya kwazisa abantu kwangaphambili. Unokuthi, 'Uxolo andizokwazi ukukulanda kamva.' 'Ndilibele kwaphela ukuba kufuneka ndibekelwe ixesha lokuya esikolweni emva kwesikolo.' Abantu abapholileyo bahlala bejongwa njengabanganithembanga kangako-hayi into ofuna abantu badibanise igama lakho nayo. Kubudlelwane, ukuthembeka kunokuzisa ulwalamano olusondeleyo nokuba ukunye nabahlobo okanye umntu othandana naye.
Ukubeka iinjongo
Ukwenza iinjongo zekhonkrithi kunokukunceda uhlale ukhuthazekile kwaye kukulungiselele imisebenzi enzima ngakumbi kwixa elizayo. Ukuzigcina ugxile, hlala ulungelelene.
Ukulandela
Ukusebenza ngokulandela, yenza uluhlu lwemisebenzi ngokokubaluleka. Unokwenza njalo kwifowuni yakho okanye kwikhalenda. Emva koko, hlula iinjongo zakho kwimisebenzi enokulawulwa. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba uzive ungoyiki kangako. Zinike ikhefu elikulungeleyo emva kokusebenza nzima kwaye uze nemivuzo emincinci ngokwakho. Cinga ngeempazamo okanye iimpazamo njengamava okufunda, endaweni yokuba ube nzima kuwe.
Unxibelelwano olusempilweni
Ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabantu ongavumelaniyo nabo kunokukunceda ufumane umbono wakho ngaphandle kokubangela iimpikiswano ezingeyomfuneko. Xa ukwazi ukunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo nangokuqonda, ubudlelwane bunokuba mnandi ngakumbi kwaye kube lula ukulawula indlela.
Ngaba usike iihostas emva ekwindla
Kulungile ukucela uNcedo
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukucela uncedo. Ukuba unengxaki ungathi, 'Ndiyazibuza ukuba ungandinceda na (faka ingxaki).' Xa umntu omthembileyo ekunika iingcebiso, sebenzela ekubeniumphulaphuli olungileyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba uyakuqonda ngokupheleleyo oko kuthethwa ngomnye umntu ngaphambi kokuba uphendule kwaye ubuza imibuzo ukucacisa izifundo okanye ulwimi oludidayo.
Ukujongana nokuNxibelelana kweSikolo
Esikolweni, unokufumana ootitshala okanye abasebenzi bezolawulo ekunzima kubo ukuhlala nabo. Ukuthintela ukubanga ukungqubana okungakumbi, zama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye ucinge ngendlela okhetha ukuthetha nabo ngayo. Khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo, yeyakho kuphela. Ukuba ujongene nomntu onzima esikolweni, gcina unxibelelwano lwakho lufutshane kwaye luchubekile. Ngaloo ndlela akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba ujongane nomntu onomsindo. Landela umgaqo-nkqubo wesikolo, zama ukunqanda ukuzibandakanya nabo rhoqo, kwaye uthethe nosapho lwakho okanye umsebenzi othembekileyo ukuba unxibelelwano luba nobutshaba.
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuze kukhutshwe isiqinisekiso sokubhubha
Iingxaki zosapho
Kunokubakho ukungavisisani okukhulu phakathi kwakho namalungu osapho lwakho njengoko usiya ukhula. Ngeli xesha, uyaphula kancinci kwaye uba ngumntu omdala ozimeleyo. Le nkqubo yesiqhelo inokuba ngumceli mngeni kubazali, kwaye unokufumana iimpikiswano ezingakumbi ekhaya. Ukunceda ukusasaza imiba, yiba nomonde kwaye uyazi ukuba eli nqanaba liya kudlula.
Ngexesha elinamandla ngakumbi xa uziva iimvakalelo ezinamandla zivela, chitha ixesha ucinga ukuba ungabelana njani ngokuzolileyo neengcinga zakho nosapho lwakho. Yindlela ekunzima ngakumbi ngayo ukuzama ukuphikisana nomntu ozolileyo endaweni yomntu onomsindo omkhulu. Ukuba impikiswano iphuma esandleni kwaye uziva ukhathazekile, bazise ukuba kufuneka uthathe ikhefu kancinci kodwa ungathanda ukuqhubeka nokuthetha xa uziva ungonwabanga.
Ukunxibelelana noontanga
Oontanga bakho banokuziva njengeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho ngoku kwaye iqhelekile. Kukuziqhelanisa nokuba mdala ukuba uqale ujonge ubudlelwane bakho nabahlobo bakho kwaye uchonge ezona zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo abaxhasayo, abanobubele kunye nokuqonda. Ezi zihlala zizihlobo ezinamathelayo nokuba nonke nihamba ngeendlela ezahlukileyo emva kokuthweswa isidanga.
Ukuqonda Iimvakalelo Zakho
Iimvakalelo zikunika ulwazi oluphambili malunga nokwenzekayo kwingqondo nasemzimbeni wakho. Xa ufunda ukubona iimvakalelo zakho, uya kuba nexesha elilula lokujongana nezo zikwenza uzive ungonwabanga.
Ukujongana Nomsindo
Kubafana abaninzi abakwishumi elivisayo,umsindounokuba yimvakalelo enzima ukujongana nayo. Ukunceda ukusebenza ngeemvakalelo ezinomsindo, zama ukubaleka okanye wenze into esebenzayo ukuze usebenze kwiimvakalelo emzimbeni wakho. Unokumamela umculo opholileyo. Qiniseka ukuba ulala ngokwaneleyo ebusuku, njengoko unokufuna ukulala kancinci kunabantu abadala, kwaye ukungabikho kokulala kunokubangela ukutshintsha kwemozulu kunye nokuxinana okukhulu. Chitha ixesha ucinga into ebangele ukuba uzive unomsindo kwasekuqaleni kwaye ucinge ngezisombululo onokuzisebenzisa kwimeko enokuthi iphinde ivele. Ihlala ilungile ukuzilungiselela!
Ukusebenza ngokuxhalaba
Ngexesha lokufikisa, zininzi izinto ezenzekayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Unokuba noxinzelelo malunga neemeko zentlalo, inkangeleko yakho yomzimba kunye nekamva lakho. Ukunciphisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo, chonga ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezibangela uxinzelelo. Ziqhelanise nemithambo yokuphefumla ngokunzulu kunyeukuphumla kwezihlunu okuqhubekayoukukunceda uhlale uhleli. Qiniseka ukuba uyayivuma impumelelo yakho, nkqu nezo zivakalelwa ukuba zincinci, endaweni yokuchopha ukusilela kwakho okubonakalayo. Oku kunokunceda ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokubanzi.
Apho kungafunyanwa ngcebiso khona
Kubalulekile ukuba nomntu othembekileyo oza kuthetha naye xa ufuna ingcebiso. Oku kunokukunceda xa uziva unomsindo, uxhalabile, ukhathazekile okanye ukhathazekile. Unokufumana iingcebiso koogqirha, kumalungu osapho, kootitshala, kubaqeqeshi nakwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Iingcebiso ezilungileyo kubafana abakwishumi elivisayo
Ixesha lakho lokufikisa lixesha elinomdla lokufunda ngawe kwaye uyiqonde bhetele inkqubo yakho yokucinga. Thatha eli xesha uzibekele iinjongo, sebenzela ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokufumana iindlela ezisempilweni zokuzikhathalela.
