Elona xesha lilungileyo lokulala ngesondo kubudlelwane kuxa uziva ulungile. Amathandabuzo emva kokuba usabelana ngesondo kunye nendoda oyithandayo inokungena kwaye ungaphinda uqikelele isigqibo sakho. Ukuba ukhathazekile ukuba wabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza, iUkuthandana Ingcebiso yomqeqeshiinokukunceda ukhuphe iimvakalelo zakho.
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Ngaba Kwakukwabelana Ngesondo Kungekudala?
Ukuthandana kwinkulungwane yama-21 kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungenxa yobuhlobo kunye nomntu oza kwenza naye izinto ngaphambi kokuba atshate. Ukuthandana kungokufunda indlela yokucela into oyifunayo kubudlelwane kunye nokufunda ukuba liqabane elilungileyo. Ezi zibini zizakhono ezibalulekileyo wonke umntu azifunayo kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.Kufuneka ulinde ixesha elingakanani ukulala ngesondoKuxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo zakho nakwinqanaba lobuhlobo.
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Xa isini senzeka ngokukhawuleza kakhulu
Abasetyhini abaninzi baziva bekhutshiwe kubudlelwane babo bezesondo kunye neemvakalelo obusondeleleneyo namadoda ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle ekufundeni indlela yokucela into abayifunayo. UkubaUkwabelana ngesondo kwangoko kakhulu ngumba oqhelekileyokubantu abathandanayo, kunye nokulindela okungafaniyo emva koko.
Sukungxama
Kuba kukho ukuqhubela phambili kwendalo ekuthandaneni, ukukhawulezisa naliphi na inqanaba kungakhokelela kwiqabane lakho ukuba lizive ngathi uswele. Ukubonakala uswele okanye unxunguphalo kukucinywa okuqinisekileyo. Ukukhetha ukulala ngesondo nangaliphi na inqanaba kufuneka kusekwe kwisigqibo esinolwazi kunye nomnqweno wakho. Ukwabelana ngesondo akufuneki kube sisiphumo sokuziva uxinzelelo okanye ukuziva unetyala okanye ukusebenzisa isondo njengesixhobo sokwenza umntu azinikele kubudlelwane.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngexesha ngalinye lokuDibana
Qonda loo ntoubudlelwane buhamba ngamanqanabakunye nokuthatha isigqibo sokuba sisondele emzimbeni kwinqanaba ngalinye liza kuziva lahlukile kuwe. Sebenzisa la manqanaba ukukunceda ubone ukuba ubukhe wabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza.
Inqanaba lokuhlangana kunye nezesondo
Isigaba sokuqala 'yintlanganiso okanye isigqibo'. Apha abantu ababini badibana kwaye badlula kuthotho lokunxibelelana okanye imihla. Ngexesha leentlanganiso, elowo uya kwenza njaloBuza imibuzo omnye nomnyekwaye sabelane ngolwazi malunga naye ngenjongo yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba ikhona na i-chemistry eyaneleyo yokuqhubeka nokuphuma. Ngesi sizathu, umntu ngamnye unokuqhubeka nokudibana nabanye abantu. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngeli nqanaba yinto yokwenyama. Kwabasetyhini abakhuliswe ukuba bakholelwe ukuba isini yinto ozibandakanya kuyo ngenjongo yokungena kubudlelwane bexesha elide, isondo ngeli nqanaba linokwenziwa ngesazela ukuba ukuthandana akuqhubeki.
Ukuthandana kweNqanaba kunye neSondo
Inqanaba lesibini kulapho abantu ababini bagqibe ekubeni kukho umdla owaneleyo wokuqhubeka nokwazana. Ukuthandana okwenyani kwenzeka ngeli nqanaba. nangona ungathandana nabanye okwangoku. Imincili malunga nenye ikhokelela ekuchitheni ixesha elongezelelekileyo kunye. Ukuthandana kuhlala kuthabatha iinyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngeli nqanaba kumalunga nenkanuko ngaphezulu kokwenza uthando. Kungenxa yokuba isitshixoubudlelwane bezinto zokuthembelaayikakhuli ngokupheleleyo kwaye ufuna ukuthembana phakathi kwabantu ababini ukwenza uthando. Kubafazi abaqale ukuziva benxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane, isondo kweli nqanaba kungamkhokelela ekonzakaliseni iimvakalelo ukuba ubudlelwane bungaphela.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo
Kwinqanaba lesithathu, umntu ngamnye uya kwenza isigqibo sokuba ngaba umntu ngamnye ufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane. Oku kuya kukhokelela kwisibini ukuba sixoxe ngesihloko ngokukhululekileyo kwaye senze isivumelwano malunga nokuqhubeka nokuthandana okanye hayi. Ukuthandana kweli nqanaba kuya kwinto enokuqikelelwa ngakumbi kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ibe njaloyeyabathile macala. Abanye banibona 'njengesibini.' Ukuthembana kuqala ukukhula njengoko abantu ababini bezimisele ngakumbi ukwabelana ngolwazi olusondeleyo kunye noluntu. Iimvakalelo zokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo zikhula ngokwabelana ngolwazi. Ngenxa yoko, isondo kweli nqanaba liziva lahlukile njengoko umntu ngamnye efumana ukuzinikela. Ukuba ubudlelwane bungaphela ngeli nqanaba, ukubola kwentliziyo, usizi, kunye nelahleko ziimvakalelo zihlala zinamava.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kwabaseTyhini kamva ebomini
Abasetyhini abaye baphuma kwindawo yokuthandana banokungazi ukuba bangasondela njani kwisini kubudlelwane babo obutsha. Isibonelelo esinye sokuba ngumfazi ongaphezu kweminyaka engama-40, okanye aumhlali omdlala, kukuba ungena kwixesha ebomini bakho apho uziva unyanzelekile ukuba ubuze into oyifunayo kwikhondo lomsebenzi, ubuhlobo nakubomi. Njengoko uqala ukufumana le nkululeko, uya kuziva ukhululekile kulusu lwakho. Ke ukuba uyayithanda indoda kwaye ufuna ukulala nayo, awuyi kuqikelela ukuba sisigqibo esihle; Uyazi ukuba sisigqibo esifanelekileyo kuwe. Ukuba kweli xesha lobomi bakho kunokuba yinkululeko kakhulu. Olo luphawu uninzi lwabantu olufunyanwa lunomtsalane: umfazi ozaziyo kwaye oqinisekile ukuzicelela into ayifunayo.
Ungenza ntoni xa usabelana ngesondo ngokukhawuleza
Ngelixa kunokuba nzima, kuya kufuneka uncokole nendoda okwangoku othandana nayo ukuba uziva ngathi walala naye kwangoko kubudlelwane. Ukungathethi naye ngesihloko esibaluleke ngolu hlobo njengoko kusenzeka kubudlelwane bakho kuya kukugcina ungaziqinisekanga ngobuhlobo bakho naye. Oku akunamandla kakhulu. Ukwazi ukuthetha nomhla wakho malunga neengcinga zakhe, iimvakalelo, kunye nokuqonda ukusondelelana kwabo babini okhe wakuva, kunye nokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho, kuya kuba kukunika amandla.
