Izimvo ziyahluka ngokubhekisele elona xesha lifanelekileyo elifanele ulwalamano ixesha elide. Kuxhomekeka kumava akho, into ocinga ukuba yeyethuba elide ingahluka kuleyo abanye bayithatha njengobudlelwane bexesha elide.
Ixesha elide kangakanani ubudlelwane obude?
Ngokubanzi, ukuzibophelela Izibini zifumana ukuqhuma kwe-oxytocin , Ihormon yokuziva uziva ulungile, kwiinyanga zokuqala zobudlelwane ezihlala malunga neenyanga ezilithoba ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu kule meko iphakanyisiweyo (kunye ne-lovey-dovey). Phakathi kweenyanga ezisithoba kunye neminyaka emithathu, amanqanaba e-oxytocin athambile njengoko nina nobabini nitshona ngesiqhelo. Ukusuka kwimbono yesayensi ngakumbi, unokujonga ubudlelwane bexesha elide apho isibini sihlangabezana khonaunxibelelwano olunothando nolusempilweniemva kokuba amanqanaba e-oxetocin eyekile.
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- Ixesha elide phakathi koBudlelwane obuDala (nguBudala)
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Ngaba iinyanga ezisixhenxe bubudlelwane bexesha elide?
Ngelixa ezinye izibini zingathatheli ingqalelo iinyanga ezisixhenxe kubudlelwane bexesha elide, abanye banokuzijonga. Emva kweenyanga ezisixhenxe bekunye, izibini zinoluvo ngokubanzi ngendlela ezisebenza ngayo kwaye kungenzeka ukuba sele zitshilo, 'Ndiyakuthanda.' Cinga ngale ndlela:
- Umntu oye wathandana nje kuphela kwaye engazange abe kubudlelwane obuzibopheleyo ngaphambili unokujonga ngokuqinisekileyo iinyanga ezisixhenxe ukuba bubudlelwane bexesha elide
- Umntu oye wanobudlelwane obuninzi obudla ngokuhlala ngaphezulu konyaka ubuncinci akanakujonga iinyanga ezisixhenxe njengobudlelwane bexesha elide
Ngaba iinyanga ezintandathu bubudlelwane bexesha elide?
Ngokufana neenyanga ezisixhenxe, abanye banokuthi okanye bangathatheli ingqalelo iinyanga ezintandathu ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Nokuba umntu wenza okanye hayi uya kuxhomekeka ngamnye ukuthandana amava eyodwa, iimpembelelo zenkcubeko, kunye nokukhuliswa.
Ubuhlobo bexesha elide buhlala ixesha elingakanani?
Ubudlelwane bexesha elide buhlala buhlala naphi na ukusuka kwiminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu, izibini ezitshatayo ziqhekeka ngeli xesha. Akumangalisi ukuba oku kuxa izibini ezininzi zinamava nge-oxytocin dip kwaye ziziva ngathi azithandani. Banokuqala ukuqaphela imiba enxulumene nabo ebaphazamisayo okanye bazive bengenakulungiseka. Abanye bayaqhubeka kwaye baqhubeke nokuzibophelela kwabo komnye nomnye.
Yintoni ethathwa njengobudlelwane bexesha elide kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo?
Kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ubudlelwane bexesha elide buchazwa sisibini. Ukuba isibini siziva ngathi iinyanga ezimbalwa lixesha elide, ke kubo, kunjalo. Ukuba isibini sibona unyaka okanye nangaphezulu njengexesha elide, kuye kunjalo. Yintoni efanelekileyo ixesha elide ixhomekeke kwinto yokuba isibini sivakalelwa kukuba lixesha elide. Ngelixa abanye benokuba noluvo, akukho mthetho ubekiweyo oyalela ukuba isibini singakuthatha njengobudlelwane bexesha elide.
Amanqanaba obudlelwane bexesha elide
Kubudlelwane bexesha elide, izibini zijolise ekwakheniubudlelwane obunothando nobusempilweniNgelixa kusenziwa ubomi obabelwanayo kunye nolungelelwanisiweyo Amanqanaba anokubandakanya:
- Intabatheko kunye nokudibanaamanqanaba aphakamileyo e-oxetocin, ukuziva unxibelelene, kunye ne-giddy kunye nomnye
- Ukwazi omnye nomnye: unxibelelwano olunzulu, ukuxoxa ngeenjongo ezizodwa kunye ekwabelwana ngazo
- Ukudibanisa ubomi bakho kunye: zonke izibini ziya kuba nebhalansi yazo eyahlukileyo nokuba ingakanani okanye incinci kangakanani na ekubandakanyekeni kubomi bomnye nomnye
- Ukuzibophelela: ukuzibophelela ngokupheleleyo komnye nomnye nangayiphi na indlela isibini esiziva sikhululekile ngokwenza njalo
Ixesha elide kangakanani ubudlelwane obufutshane?
Ubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane bukwachazwa ngumntu kunye nesibini. Kwabanye, ubudlelwane bexesha elifutshane bunokuba ziiveki ezimbalwa ukuya kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, ngelixa abanye benokubona nantoni na engaphantsi konyaka njengexesha elifutshane. Abanye banokuthi bajonge ubudlelwane bexeshana elifutshane njengamava amnandi ngakumbi nangaphantsi ngokuzibophelela.
Uyenza kanjani into yoBudlelwane bexesha elide
Ubudlelwane bexesha elide busebenza kakuhle ukuba:
- Umlingane ngamnye ukhululekile, uthembekile kwaye uyanxibelelana.
- Iqabane ngalinye linokuchonga kwayebathethe ngeemfuno zabokubanye ngabanye.
- Iqabane ngalinye lifuna ukusebenza nzima ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zeqabane lalo.
- Omabini amaqabane anayoUkwabelana ngeenjongo zobudlelwane.
- Iqabane ngalinye linokuqonda, likulungele ukujonga indlela eliziphethe ngayo, kwaye liqonde imbono yeqabane labo.
- Kukho ukulungelelaniswa okulinganayo phakathi kobudlelwane.
- Iqabane ngalinye linoluvo olukhulayo lovelwano.
- Omabini amaqabane afuna ukuba kunye kwaye azive enyanzelekile ukuhlala kunye.
Yintoni ethathwa njengobudlelwane bexesha elide?
Yintoni umntu ngamnye kunye nesibini abayijonga njengexesha elide kuya kuxhomekeka kwindlela abayichaza ngayo ngokukodwa. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokuchaza ubudlelwane bexesha elide, kwaye kuxhomekeke kukuqonda kwakho.
