Ukuba kude nomntu omthandayo kunokwenza kube nzima ukuba uzive unxibelelana kwaye ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala kuthatha umzamo owongezelelweyo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba sele uyazi into ekufuneka uyenzile ukubenza bazive bekhathalelwe- kufuneka uyiguqule ukuze isebenze kude.
Uyakhathala
UKUYAubudlelwane bomgama omde- nokuba yeyethutyana okanye yexesha elide- ithatha umsebenzi owongezelelweyo. Ngokuhlala nje kubudlelwane kwaye uzama ukuwenza usebenze, sele ubonakalisa ukuba umkhathalele omnye umntu. Ngaphandle koko, kutheni unokuba kubudlelwane obungenazibonelelo zininzi zobudlelwane bemveli njengokuchukumisa kunye nexesha kunye? Ngelishwa, ukuhlala kubudlelwane kungonelisi ukuba iqabane lakho likukhathalele. Ngale nto, kuya kufuneka ubeke umzamo ngakumbi.
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Ukuhlala uqhagamshele
Kulungileunxibelelwanokubaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano xa nithe nahlukana. Yenza unxibelelwano lube yinto ephambili ngokucwangcisa amaxesha athile okunxibelelana ngefowuni okanye kwi-Intanethi kwaye ungaphoswa lolu nxibelelwano lucwangcisiweyo. Ukwenza unxibelelwano neqabane lakho kube yeyona nto iphambili, nokuba uxakeke kangakanani, kubonisa ukuba ukhathala kangakanani. Kwelinye icala, ukucwangcisa kwakhona okanye ukusilela kule 'mihla' ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuya kulishiya iqabane lakho lizibuze ukuba ukhathalele na.
I-borax iyafana nesoda yokuhlamba
Izikhumbuzo zoKhathalelo lwakho
Wasebenzise amathuba okukhumbuza iqabane lakho ukuba ulikhathalele kangakanani. Umzekelo: baqonde ubunzulu benkcazo-ntetho. Nokuba isicatshulwa esikhawulezayo 'uza kwenza kakuhle!' okanye 'phefumla nje - unayo le nto!' ngumboniso obalaseleyo wenkathalo yakho; ayinayo imali ebizayo okanye ecacisiweyo ukuba nje iyacinga.
Thatha into ezandleni zabo
Ukuba unendlela yemali yokukhupha eminye imisebenzi ayithiyileyo umntu ayenzileyo, ukuthatha umthwalo kubo kunokuba sisikhumbuzo esimnandi sokuba ubakhathalele kangakanani. Nantsi eminye imizekelo:
- Lungiselela ukuhanjiswa kwesidlo xa usazi ukuba baya kuba bexakeke kakhulu ukuba bangapheki.
- Uku-odola ukutya kunye nokuziswa ukuze kungafunekiIvenkile yokutya.
- Thenga inkonzo eyenza ukucoca, ukuhamba nenja, ukuhlamba iimpahla, okanye iinkcukacha ngesithuthi.
- Khusela iinkonzo zomncedisi wakho ukubanceda ngamaxesha akhethekileyo.
Sebenzela ukuhlangana
Yintoni ekwahlukanisa? Ukuba iimayile zibangelwa luxanduva lomsebenzi okanye enye into kulawulo lwakho, kuya kufuneka ube nesicwangciso endaweni yokuba ekugqibeleni ube kufutshane ngokwendawo okanye, ubuncinci, ukutyelelana. Baza kukwazi ukuba uyakhathala ukuba uzimisele ukubeka umsebenzi ukuze usondele kubo kwaye ungalenzi ixesha lohlukane nemeko esisigxina. Ewe, ukuba umgama awunakuthethatheka kangangexesha elithile ngenxa yesinyanzelo esinyanzelekileyo (emkhosiniukuthunyelwa, uxanduva losapho) emva koko izicwangciso zokuba kunye ekugqibeleni zisenokungangxamiseki kodwa kufanele ukuba zisasebenza.
udibanisa ntoni nerum yekhokhonathi
Cela uNcedo
Abantu abasondeleyo kwiqabane lakho banokuveza amathuba amahle okuba ubonise ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani. Ukubuza umntakwabo okanye umhlobo weqabane lakho, 'Ndingenza ntoni kule veki ukunceda iqabane lam lizive likhathalelwe?' inokuveza amathuba amaninzi okuba ucingisise kwaye ubakhathalele.
Lungiselela Kwangaphambili
Ukuba iqabane lakho lihamba kungekudala kodwa liza kubuya, kukho izinto onokuzilungiselela kwangaphambili ukuqinisekisa ukuba baziva bekhathalelwe:
- Yenza incwadi yemifanekiso okanye ugcwalise i-flash drive ngeefoto zabo nobabini abanokuhamba nazo.
- Sneak ngokufutshanenothandokwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yemithwalo yabo ukuze bakwazi ukuyifumana rhoqo.
- Phanda indawo yabo yexesha elizayo kwangaphambili kwaye ubanike iingcebiso ngeendawo zokujonga ngelixa belapho.
- Thenga encinciithamsanqa elungileyoukugcina kwabo.
- Banike into eza kwenza ukuba unxibelelwano lube lula, njenge-smartphone entsha, ithebhulethi, okanye iimvulophu ezinokuposwa kwangaphambili.
- Bapakishe iphakheji yokhathalelo yohambo lwabo, abagqibeleleyo kunye namaqebengwana abawathandayo.
- Yenza izicwangciso ngoku zokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kunxibelelana nini kwaye njani ngexesha lokungabikho kwabo.
- Ukuba baqhuba, yenza ukuba imoto yabo ihlolwe ngumatshini kwangaphambili ukuqinisekisa ukuba ilungile indlela.
- Bhalathanda iiletakwaye uzibeke kwiimvulophu ezinomhla ukuze kuvulwe iimvulophu zisasazeka ngokulinganayo ngalo lonke ixesha labo kude.
- Cwangcisa umboniso ngaphambi kokuba bahambise iifoto zabo kwaye imihombiso ethile ithembisa ukubathandazela (okanye ukucinga ngayo) yonke imihla.
- Gcwalisa ingqayi ngeelekese-isiqwenga esinye semihla ngemihla ziya kube zingasekho- kwaye ubaxelele ukuba batye isiqwenga ngemini ngelixa bekude.
- Qala ukwenza izicwangciso kunye ngoku ukubuya kwabo ukuze nobabini ninento enijonge kuyo.
- Bamba itheko lokuya kwenye yeendawo zabo abazithandayo kunye nabantu babo ababathandayo.
- Nikezela ukubanceda bapakishe-okanye ubenzele ukupakisha.
- Thenga iperi ubudlelwane bomqamelo okanye namasongo omgama ukuhlala uqhagamshele.
- Bhalisela ubhaliso (lwedijithali okanye iphepha) lephephandaba lasekuhlaleni ukuze bahlale benolwazi malunga nokwenzekayo ekhaya.
Ndiziva Ndikhathalelwe
Asinguye wonke umntu ophendula kwizimbo zomzimba ngendlela efanayo. Unokonwabela ukwamkelaizicatshulwaimini yonke kuba ikwenza uzive ukhathalelwe, kodwa iqabane lakho linokucinga ukuba linobunzima kwaye liyaphazamisa. Iiroses ezibomvu ezinikezelwe kwindawo yakho yokusebenza zinokukuvuyisa kwaye zikwenze uzive ukhathalelwe, kodwa iqabane lakho lisenokukufumanisa kulihlazo kwaye kuliguqule. Ngokusisiseko, kubalulekile ukuba ungathathi nje ukuba ngawaphi amagama okanye iintshukumo ezinokukuncedaiqabane liziva likhathalelweukude, kodwa endaweni yoko uthethe ngayo ngokuphandle kwaye emva koko wenze oko ukufundayo kwincoko.
Mamela uze ufunde
Wenza ntoni iqabane lakho xa usenza umqondiso onomdla? Kuya kufuneka unike ingqalelo ngakumbi kwindlela abasabela ngayo kunokusabela kwabo babangqongileyo. Masithi ulungiselela ingokuhlwa yodwa kwiqabane lakho kubandakanya i-limo, isidlo sangokuhlwa, kunye nomboniso. Wonke umntu ukuxelela indlela obelucingisisa ngayo ulungiselelo lwakho, kodwa iqabane lakho liyakuvuma ukuba uziva ungumnqa kwaye ungonwabanga ukuba nobusuku edolophini bebodwa. Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukumamela izimvo zeqabane lakho kunokuzixhamla kwiimbasa zabanye abantu.
nini umbulelo waba iholide yesizwe
Ngaba Uyakhathala?
Ukubonisa iqabane lakho olikhathaleleyo ukude akufuneki uzive ngathi ngumsebenzi okanye uxanduva olucaphukisayo. Kuya kufuneka ufune ukunceda iqabane lakho liziva likhathalelwe- kwaye ukuba akunjalo, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ulungiselelo lwakho.
