Ngaba ufuna uncedo oluncinci lokufunda ukuxelela umfana ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo? Umqeqeshi wokuthandana uLori Gorshow ubonelela ngeengcebiso ngokwazisa umntu ukuba awunomdla ngaphezu kobuhlobo.
Indlela Yokumxelela Ukuba Ufuna Ukuba Ngumhlobo
Kuthatha isibindi ukubuza umntu othile, ngakumbi xa kubeka emngciphekweni ubuhlobo obukhoyo. 'Ebomini, zimbalwa kakhulu izinto eziqinisekileyo. Inye into eqinisekileyo ngothando kukuba awunakuba nayo ngaphandle kwayoumngcipheko wentliziyoutshilo uGorshow. Ngethamsanqa okanye ngelishwa, ngekhe ubenayo ngaphandle komnye. Ngapha koko, le ngxoxo ixhasa uthando njengobungozi obufanele ukuthatha okanye ukwaphuka kwentliziyo njengamava abuhlungu kakhulu nekungafanelekanga ukuba uphinde. Qaphela isibindi esifunekayo ukubuza umntu kwaye ube nobubele kwimpendulo yakho.
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Ngokucacileyo unokuba kwinjongo yakho yokuhlala ungumhlobo, ngcono. Ukungacacanga okanye ukunika ithemba elingelolakhe kuya kumdida kwaye kunokubangela uxinzelelo macala onke. 'Andifuni ukuba ngaphezulu kwabahlobo' kukhethwa ukuba 'Andifuni ukwenza amadinga ngoku,' nto leyo ebonisa ukuba ixesha lingafika xa ufuna ukuthandana naye.
Indlela yokuxelela umntu osebenza naye ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo
IGorshow ineengcebiso ezithile zokuxelela umntu osebenza naye ukuba awunamdla kwinto engaphaya kobuhlobo okanye abantu osebenza nabo. 'Ukuba umntu osemsebenzini ungena ngaphakathi kuwe, kungenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba umngcipheko kufanelekile ukuba uwuthathe. Inyani yokuba awunguye kuye sisiphumo ajongane naso ngokuthatha umngcipheko. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa onokuthi ulinciphise ifuthe lokwaliwa. '
Ukunyanzeliswa kwempembelelo yokwaliwa
'Qonda ukuba nangona enokuba neemvakalelo ngawe, okanye ubuncinci benomdla ngokwaneleyo ukuba' afune ukubona ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ', kokukhona uthatha ixesha elide ukubeka irekhodi ngokuthe ngqo kokuya kukuziva unomdla,' icebisa uGorshow. 'Into yesibini onokuyenza kukugxila kwinto yokuba kungangumdla wakho ukuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane obulungileyo bunabantu osebenza nabo, ke kuyakubaluleka ekucoceni izinto ngokwasemthethweni.'
Cacisa
IGorshow iphakamisa amagama athile ukuba acace kukhetho lwakho. 'Ungathetha into efana nale,' Ndibe nexesha elimnandi xa sasibudibana ngobunye ubusuku, yiyo loo nto ndifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba mna nawe sikwiphepha elinye, utshilo uGorshow. '' Ndinomgaqo wobungcali endizibekele wona wokuba ndingaze ndithandane nomntu endisebenza naye. Ndisandula ukuqala umsebenzi omtsha, andifuni nakuphi na ukungavisisani phakathi kwethu. Sele nditshilo, ndingathanda ukuba sihlale nje singabahlobo? ''
Ukhuseleko kwinani
Into yokugqibela ekufuneka ucinge ngayo kukugcina umthetho 'wokukhuselekileyo kunoko kungaphantsi', utshilo uGorshow. Isitshixo kulo mgaqo kukuphuma ngamaqela abantu osebenza nabo okanye abahlobo kunokuba ibe nini nobabini. Ke kwixesha elizayo xa ebuza ukuba uyafuna ukuxhoma, ungathi, 'Ukuba yinto yeqela endibalelayo, kodwa ukuba sisobabini kuphela, kuzakufuneka ndicele umgaqo wam wokungathandani -abasebenzi. ' Okukhona ungqinelana nokulandela imithetho yakho, kokukhona uya kuba nolwalamano oluhle nabantu osebenza nabo. '
Ungayixelela njani i-Teen Guy ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo
Abakwishumi elivisayo bafunda indlela yokwenzaujikeleze ubudlelwanekwaye usenokungaqondi ukuba amanye amantombazana afuna ukuba ngabahlobo. 'Yiza nezizathu ezikrelekrele kwaye ususe uxinzelelo.' I-Gorshow iphinda icebise, 'Sola wenaabazalingokumisela imigaqo ethile; xelela amakhwenkwe ukuba abazali bakho banemithetho engqongqo yokungathandani de ube ufikelele kubudala obuthile. Unako ukuyeka inkwenkwe ngobumnene ngokumxelela ukuba ubandakanyeke kakhulu esikolweni nasemva kwemidlalo / kwimidlalo yesikolo ongenakho ukunikezela inani elifanelekileyo lokuqwalaselwaubudlelwane. '
Ukubeka abafana abakwishumi elivisayo
Ayingomsebenzi wamantombazana akwishumi elivisayo ukwenza amakhwenkwe akwishumi elivisayo ukuba azive engcono ngokulahlwa. Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba nobubele xa uxelela umfana ukuba awunamdla kubudlelwane obungaphaya kobuhlobo (nangaliphi na ixesha) kuba iimvakalelo ziyabandakanyeka, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ucace kwaye ungaxoli ngokungabinamdla. Akukho ntombazana okanye mfazi unyanzelekileyo ukuba uthandane nenkwenkwe okanye indoda ukuze nje ukhusele ukuzazisa kwakhe.
Bambelela kwisigqibo sakho
Kungenxa yokuba indoda iveza umdla, oko akuthethi ukuba ungamgcina kwisitovu esingasemva ukuba akukho nto ilunge ngakumbi eza kuza. Nje ukuba umlahle, musa ukuthumela imiyalezo exubeneyo eya kudida imeko.
