Ukuba ujonge amagama akhethekileyo entuthuzelo yeumntu osentlungwini, ungakhangeli ngaphaya kwentliziyo yakho. Libala ii-clichés okanye naziphi na iintetho ezipakishiweyo; kubalulekile ukunyaniseka. Injongo yakho kufuneka ibe kukubonisa imfesane, hayi ukuvuyisa umntu osandul 'ukufelwa.
Amagama afanelekileyo okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwini
Ngokucinga kancinci, unokufumana amabinzana athuthuzelayo abonisa ngqointo ofuna ukuyithetha ukuthuthuzela umhlobo osentlungwiniokanye ilungu losapho. Gcina olu luhlu lulandelayoUkufelwaimiyalezo efayilini ukuba kunokwenzeka ucinezelwe ukufumana into oza kuyithetha kumntu ofelweyo.
- Ndiyaxolisa.
- Ndikukhathalele.
- Uya kukhunjulwa kakhulu.
- Uhlala kwiingcinga zam nasemithandazweni yam.
- Wena nosapho lwakho nikwezam iingcinga nemithandazo yam.
- Ubalulekile kum.
- Uvelwano lwam.
- Ndiyathemba ukuba niyalufumana uxolo namhlanje.
- Yiba nobubele kuwe.
- Ngaba uyafuna ukundixelela malunga (negama lomfi)?
- Ndilapha ngenxa yakho.
- Ndinqwenela ukuba ndiyisuse intlungu yakho.
- Ndazise ukuba kukho nantoni na endinokuyenza.
- Ndibuhlungu ukuva ngokudlula (kwegama likamfi).
- Ndilusizi kakhulu ngalento uyenzileyo.
- Andikwazi ukuyicingela indlela oziva ngayo, kodwa ndilapha ngenxa yakho.
- Yazi ukuba ndizakuba lapha ukukuxhasa kuyo yonke le nto.
- Akukho nto ndiyithethayo enokutshintsha okwenzekileyo, kodwa ndilapha kuwe nosapho lwakho ngeli xesha.
- Intliziyo yam ibuhlungu ngokwazi ukuba (igama lomfi) selidlulile.
- Ndilahlekelwe ngumntu endimthandayo ngaphambili kwaye ndiyayiqonda into onokuziva ngayo.
- Yazi ukuba kulungile ukuziva nangona ufuna ukuziva ngeli xesha kwaye ndiza kuba lapha kuwe.
- Ngamana iinkumbulo (zegama lomfi) zingakuzisela uxolo.
- Igalari yeZipho zabaLilayo
- Imifanekiso eli-10 yabantu abasokolayo kwintlungu
- Amanyathelo e-9 okudala imeko yokuqonda
Amagama namabinzana obuhlungu kwimo ethile
Unokufuna ukucinga ngokutshintsha into oyithethayo kuxhomekeke ekubeni uthetha nabani, ubazi kangakanani, kwaye ngubani olilayo. Nanga amagama ambalwa athuthuzelayo xa usweleka umntu kwiimeko ezithile:
- Amagama entuthuzelo ngokuphulukana nabantu oqhelene nabo: Ndicela uxolo ngokuva malunga nelahleko yakho.
- Amagama enkosi elusizi okanye aphezulu: ndiyaxolisa ukuva malunga nale nto ukuyo.
- Umyalezo oya kumhlobo osondeleyo osentlungwini okanye ilungu losapho: Andikucingi ukuba uhlangabezana nantoni na. Ukuba ufuna nantoni na, ndihlala ndikulapha.
- Amagama omhlobo osondeleyo olilela isilwanyana: Ndiyazi ukuba lali (igama lesilwanyana) lithetha ntoni kuwe. Nam ndizakumkhumbula. Ndingenza ntoni ukunceda?
- Into emandiyithethe kumntu endimqhelileyoIbuhlungu isilwanyana: Ndiyaxolisa ukuva malunga nokulahleka kwe (igama lesilwanyana) ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kanjaniphulukana nesilwanyana sasekhaya.
- Amagama onokuwathetha ukuthuthuzela umhlobo onawoulahlekelwe ngumzali: Ndinqwenela ukuba ikhona into endinokuyithetha ukwenza ngcono oku. Ndiza kulikhumbula (negama lomzali) ngokunjalo. Ndingatsalela umnxeba ukuze ndikujonge kamva?
- Amagama onokuwathetha kubahlobo bakhoabazali abasentlungwiningenxa yokuphulukana nomntwana: Into ohamba kuyo ayilunganga kwaphela. Nceda undazise ukuba kukho nantoni na endinokuyenza.
- Amagama okushiywa ngumntwana oswelekelwe ngumzali: Ndihlala ndilapha ngenxa yakho. Ndingakwenzela ntoni namhlanje?
- Amagama athuthuzelayo kumntu osebenza naye ophulukene neqabane: Ndiyaxolisa ukuva ngokusweleka kweqabane lakho. Ukuba ungathanda ukuthetha ngayo nantoni na, nceda undazise.
- Ungathini kumntu osebenza naye ofelwe ngumntwana: Ndibuhlungu kakhulu ngokuva malunga nelahleko yakho. Ndazise ukuba kukho into oyifunayo.
- Amagama athuthuzelayo kumhlobo onawowaphunyelwa sisisu: Ungumntu omangalisayo kwaye andinakucinga ukuba kunokuba nzima kanjani oku. Uziva njani namhlanje?
- Amagama athuthuzelayo kumhlobo onawouphulukene nomntakwaboNdiyaxolisa ngokuba utyhafile. Ndizokukhumbula (igama lomntakwethu) kakhulu. Ndingakuphathela isidlo sangokuhlwa kamva?
- Amagama osizi ngotatomkhulu okanye umakhulu oswelekelwe ngumlingane wakhe: Nobabini ninobudlelwane obumangalisayo. Ndilusizi kakhulu ngalento uyenzileyo.
- Amabinzana athuthuzelayo kumhlobo ophulukene notatomkhulu: Ndiyazi ukuba malini (igama likatatomkhulu) lalithetha ntoni kuwe. Ndilapha ngenxa yakho kwaye ndingathanda ukukunceda ngale ndlela nangayiphi na indlela oyifunayo.
- Into oza kuyithetha kumntu osebenza naye oswelekileyo utamkhulu: Ndiyaxolisa ngokuba utyhafile.
Into Ongamele Uyithethe Xa Usitsho Ngamazwi Athuthuzelayo
Ngelixa kulula ukufumana ezimbalwaamazwi okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwini, Kulula nokuthetha into engeyiyo ungakhange uyiqonde. Abantu abasandula ukuphulukana nomntu ababathandayo bahamba nexesha leemvakalelo kwaye eyona nto incinci inokubabeka. Yiba nolwazelelelo ngakumbi kwabo baphulukene nelungu losapho ngokungalindelekanga. Ukuba usasokola ukufumana amagama okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwini, khumbula ukuthintela ii-cliches kunye neengxelo ezinokuthi zibonwe njengezingenamfesane. Sukuthetha izinto ezinje:
- Uhlala kwindawo engcono.
- Unengelosi ezulwini.
- Akasahlupheki.
- Unokufumana uthando olutsha, ube nomnye umntwana, njl.
- Akuyomfuneko ukuba ube lusizi; uku noThixo ngoku.
- Ndiyazi kakuhle indlela oziva ngayo.
- Wonke umntu uhamba ngale nto.
- Ixesha liyaphilisa onke amanxeba.
- Uya kuyidlula.
- Lixesha lokuqhubeka.
Ukubeka amagama athuthuzelayo ekuBhaleni
Ukuba utyikitya ikhadi lovelwano okanye ubhala inqaku, khumbula ukuligcina lifutshane kwaye lilula. Faka ingxelo enyanisekileyo kunye nezivakalisi ezimbalwa ezimfutshane ezibonisa indlela onomdla ngayo. Ungabandakanya nekhadi lomthandazo, imali yomngcwabo okanye umnikelo kwizipho ozithandayo.
Izinto zokuphepha ekubhaliweyointetho yovelwanozibandakanya:
- Sukucacisa ngakumbi ngomntu ofelweyo kuba usenokungakulungeli ngokwasemphefumlweni ukufunda ileta ende.
- Sukucacisa ngakumbi ngobomi bakho okanye eminye imicimbi yobuqu. Kuya kubakho ixesha, kamva, lokufumana.
- Sukubandakanya imifanekiso yosapho okanye ezinye izikhumbuzo zosapho lwakho. Gcina ezo zinto ngeholide okanye amakhadi okuzalwa.
Ukongeza amagama akho ovelwano kwiSipho
Ngamanye amaxesha unokukhetha ukuthumela amazwi ovelwano kunye nesipho sesiko, njengeentyatyambo, ukutya okanye ikhadi eliyilwe kakuhle.
- Ngokwesiko iintyatyambo ezimhlophe zithunyelwa ukubonisa uvelwano. Ungabandakanya amagama akho ekhadini ngolungiselelo yeentyatyambo ezimhlophe okanye iinyibiba, mhlawumbi nokuqaqamba okuncinci kombala okhanyayo ngathi upinki okanye tyheli.
- Olunye ukhetho kukuthumela isityalo, esinokubonisa ukuzalwa kwakhona kunye nokuhlaziywa. Ezinye izityalo zemveli ezithunyelwa njengezipho zovelwano zibandakanya Iinyibiba zoxolo , dieffenbachia, izityalo ze rose kunye iiorchid ezimhlophe .
- Kwezinye iinkcubeko, ezinje ngobuJuda, kufanelekile ukuthumela ibhasikithi yeziqhamo kusapho. Unokukhetha ibhasikiti yeziqhamo zemveli okanye ukutyiwa kweziqhamo kwaye dibanisa amagama akho kunye nekhadi elibandakanyiweyo ukubonisa iingcinga zakho kunye nemithandazo yakho nosapho. Ukuba uyazi ukuba usapho luza kubamba abanye ukukhumbula ilungu elingasekhoyo, lithumele isipho sokutya okupheleleyo kwindibano enkulu kunokuba yindlela yokucinga yokususa umthwalo wokubonelela ngokutya xa bekhetha ukugxila kulusizi kunye nokuba kunye nabathandekayo babo.
- Amakhadi okubulisa lukhetho oluthandwayo kodwa ungaya ngaphezulu nangaphaya ukwenza isipho sesikhumbuzo esilungiselelwe ngokukodwa umntu odlulisileyo. Umzekelo ukwenza incwadi yeefoto ngokusebenzisa uShutterfly onemvelaphi emhlophe emhlophe ehamba kunye neefoto zabo babathandayo kwaye amagama akho awakhumbulayo angayindlela echukumisayo yokuhlonipha ilungu losapho.
Yamkela ilahleko ngendlela ekhathalayo
Akusoloko kululaukuthuthuzela umntuosweleke umhlobo okanye usapho, kodwa kubalulekile ukuyamkela ilahleko ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba awukwazi ukuthumela ikhadi lovelwano, umnxeba okhawulezayo wamkelekile, kunye ne-imeyile. Sukuthumela umyalezo obhaliweyo. Khumbula, nayiphi nauhlobo lovelwanoiya kuthetha umhlaba kumntu osentlungwini.
