Ke ngoku ubuthandana nomntu othandana naye okwethutyana kwaye ubudlelwane bubonakala buba mandundu - ungazibuza ukuba 'ungasilindela nini isicelo somtshato?' Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba kuphela kwento kunene Ixesha lesicelo somtshato kuxa nobabini nikulungele ukubandakanyeka, kwaye akukho xesha lichaziweyo kulindeleke ukuba ulindele isindululo.
Xa ubudlelwane buba bukhulu
Uninzi lolwalamano luhamba ngokwamanqanaba endalo okuvela kwendalo. Ngokubanzi, isibini siqala ukuthandana ngokungakhathali kwaye emva koko sinokugqiba ekubeni sithandane ngokukodwa. Njengoko isibini esithandanayo sichitha ixesha elininzi kunye, bayadlula kwinqanaba elinomdla kwaye baqale ukwabelana ngeempawu zabo. Baye ekubeni nemihla, bachithe ubomi babo kunye. Nje ukuba oku kwenzeke, kuyindalo ukuqaphela iqhina lomtshato.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Ezona Ndlela ziPhambili zoMtshato
- Iindlela zokuPhakamisa umbuzo
- Ngaba Ndikulungele Ukuzibandakanya
Nangona kunjalo, icandelo elikhohlisayo likwixesha. Ngelixa abanye abantu beqinisekile ukuba bawafumene amaqabane abo obomi emva kwemihla embalwa, abanye bathatha ixesha elide ukuzibophelela. Kwezinye izibini, ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuganana ziinyanga nje ezimbalwa emva kokuba beqalile ukubonana; ezinye ii-duos zithatha iminyaka ukuya esibingelelweni.
umdlalo webhodi yobomi kwi-intanethi
Nje ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bube nzulu, ubuncinci omnye kuni angaqala ukucinga malunga nokuzibandakanya. Ukuba umtshato usezingqondweni zakho, usenokuzibuza ukuba umntu othandana naye uyeva naiintsimbi zomtshato. Abanye abantu baziva beziva benyanzelekile ukuba benze amadinga ngenxa yokuba bebethandana ixesha elithile okanye bekwiminyaka ethile, nangona kunjalo ezi zinto azinanto yakwenza nexesha elifanelekileyo.
Kunokuba mnandi njengokuganana, kubalulekile ukuba ungangxami uye kweli nqanaba lobudlelwane bakho, ngaphandle komnqweno wakho weringi yedayimane. Endaweni yoko, bonwabele ukuthandana, kwaye uthathe ixesha lokufunda malunga nexabiso lamaqabane, iinjongo kunye nesitayile sayo kuzo zonke izinto ukuqinisekisa ukuhambelana kwexesha elide.
Ukutyikitya isindululo esinokubakho
Ngelixa imiqondiso yokuba umntu othandana naye ethathela ingqalelo ukuvela kwalo mbuzo unokukwazisa indlela aya kuyo, akukho nto inokukuxelela ngokuqinisekileyo xa kufanele ukuba ulindele isicelo somtshato.
Nangona kunjalo, ezi zalathi zingakunceda ubuncinci ukuba uchaze ukuba uzimisele:
- Sele nithethile ngezicwangciso zexesha elide kunye? Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba kubalulekile ukuqonda iinjongo zomnye kunye nokuba neendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuchitha, kodwa ukwabelana ngolwazi lwemali luphawu olulungileyo lokuba isoka lakho likuthatha njengeqabane kwaye ayisiyontombi nje.
- Ngaba uthetha ngezicwangciso zexesha elide ezibandakanya nobabini? Iingxoxo malunga nokuthenga ikhaya kunye, ukucwangcisela ikhondo lomsebenzi kunye nezinye izigqibo ezibalulekileyo abelana ngazo nawe zingangumqondiso wokuba uzekelisa nawe ngekamva.
- Xa exoxa ngezicwangciso zakhe, ngaba uhlala esithi 'Ndi' okanye 'si'? Ngamanye amagama, xa emenyelwa kwi-barbecue, ngaba impendulo yakhe 'ndingathanda ukuza, andazi ngoMariya' okanye 'Ndiqinisekile ukuba singathanda, kufuneka ndijonge noMariya ukuqinisekisa ukuba sikhululekile. ' Ukuba ucinga ngaye njengenxalenye 'yethu' sele ezibophelele kwintsebenziswano yakho.
- Ngaba uchitha ixesha kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo? Ngaba sele usenza umngxunya weholide ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyayibona intsapho yakhe xa kutshintshwa imibulelo kunye neyakho kwiKrisimesi? Oku kudityaniswa kobomi linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuzibophelela kwexesha elide.
- Oku kunokubonakala njengenkomba ebonakalayo, kodwa ngaba sele ekhankanyile ukubandakanyeka, umtshato, okanye abantwana? Ngaba ucele uluvo lwakho malunga nokucebisa ngaphambi komtshato okanyeizivumelwano zangaphambi komtshato? Ngelixa ingxoxo yezi ziganeko ingenzi siphakamiso sisondele, ngokuqinisekileyo yalatha kwinto enokuba isengqondweni yakhe.
Ke, ufanele ukuLindela nini isiPhakamiso soMtshato?
Okokuqala, ngekhe ube njalo lindela Nye. Kwelinye icala, ukuba uziva ukulungele ukutshata kwaye ubonakalisa iimpawu zokulungela, ngokuqinisekileyo ungakhuthaza kwaye umazise ukuba iimvakalelo ziyahambelana.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ukuba ixesha lilungile, ungawuthetha ngobumnene umcimbi kunye nesoka lakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo kulungile ukumxelela ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyathemba ukuba uyazibona kwikamva lakho.
Into ongafuni kuyenza kukunyanzela umba. Nokuba uziva ukhathazekile yindlela ebonakala ngathi iyirhintyela lenkwenkwe yakho njengoko icinga ngomtshato, ukutyhala akunakulunga ukuba ubandakanyeke. Rhoqo amadoda aphendula uxinzelelo ngokuzama ukubaleka ubudlelwane. Ngenye indlela, ukuba bayanikezela kwaye baphakamise, baphela beziva benenzondo kwimizamo yabo.
Ukuba uvumela ulwalamano lwakho lukhule ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ngokwendalo, luya komeleza ixesha elide. Ke, phumlani kwaye nonwabele ixesha lokuthandana enilichitha kunye kwaye xa eso sicelo somtshato sifikile, siya kuba sikhethekile njengoko uhlala unethemba.
