Xa ulahlwa nguusapho lwakho, unokufumana umkhukula weengcinga neemvakalelo. Njengoko uqala ukuqhubekeka nokwenzekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele kwaye ufunde indlela yokujongana neendlela ezisempilweni.
Yintoni omele uyenze xa usapho lwakho lukukhanyela
Ukulahlwa, okanye ukwahlukaniswa nosapho lwakho kuthetha ukuba iseti yabantu okanye umntu omnye kuweinkqubo yosaphouthathe isigqibo sokusika ubudlelwane nawe. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukwahlukaniswa kosapho kunokuvela kwabo banxulumene nawe ngokwebhayoloji, bayintsapho ngokwamkelwa, okanye obajonga njengosapho ngokusekwe kumava akho nabo. OkuUkuchithwa kungahlawuliswal ngokungathi ayivelanga ndawo, inokudideka, kwaye inokubangela amaza amakhulu eemvakalelo ezibuhlungu ukuba avele.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Ungayidibanisa njani nentombi yakho emileyo
- Yintoni ongayilindela xa usika amaqhina nabazali okanye nosapho
- Ukujongana nosapho lwabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye
Lindela iimpendulo zeemvakalelo ezinzulu
Emva kokuva oku kunqunyulwa, unokuziva ukonganyelwa sisikhukhula seemvakalelo. Usenokuziva ndindisholo kwaye usala. Umntu ngamnye uyakukufumana oku ngokwahlukileyo kwaye uya kuyilungisa le meko ibuhlungu ngendlela yabo nangexesha labo. Iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ezinxulunyaniswa nokubandakanya zibandakanya:
Isityalo sam soqalo sijika satyheli
- Intlungu ebiweyo, olusizi olungavunyelwayo, olungaxhaswanga ekuhlaleni, okanye olwamkelweyo
- Usizi, iimvakalelo zelahleko, kunye nomsindo
- Ukudideka kunye nokudana
- Isizungu, ukungancedi, kunye noxinzelelo
- Ukungakholelwa kunye nokuba ndindisholo
Ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha uneengcinga zokuzenzakalisa wena okanye abanye, fikelela kuncedo lobuchwephesha kwangoko. Ungaqhagamshelana neumgca weengxaki, amapolisa okujonga impilo, kunye nesibhedlele ukubamba ngokuzithandela ude uzive ungcono. Emva kokufuna uncedo kwangoko, kubalulekile ukufumana inkxaso engaguquguqukiyo yokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke nezinto ohamba kuzo. Khumbula, le yimeko entsonkothileyo, ebuhlungu, kwaye edidayo kwaye yamkelekile ngokupheleleyo kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ufumane inkxaso encinci ukuhamba kulo mzuzu ebomini bakho. Ukufuna ukhathalelo olufanelekileyo kunesibindi kwaye komeleza umbono wokuba kufanelekile ukuba uzive ungcono kwaye unokufikelela kwizakhono zokulwa impilo.
Qonda ukuntsokotha kweMeko
Wonke umntu uhlangabezana nenyani yakhe. Le nyaniso ichaphazeleka ngamandla ngumntu ngamnye kunye neenkumbulo ezizodwa ezingaziwayo kunye nezazi. Ezi nkumbulo zimisa indlela abantu abayijonga ngayo, bayitolika ngayo, bayikhumbule, kwaye bayenze ngolwazi kunye nonxibelelwano Oku kuthetha ukuba usapho lwakho luyichaza njani imeko inokuba yahluke kakhulu kwindlela ozibona ngayo iziganeko ezikhokelele kunqunyulwa. Kananjalo, usenokungazi nokuba yintoni ebangele ukuba banqumle ubudlelwane kunye nawe. Oku kutolikwa kwahlukeneyo kunye nezinto ezibangela ukudibana namava awodwa omntu wonke kunokubangela ukudideka okuninzi esiphelweni sakho. Yazi ukuba akufuneki ube nazo zonke iimpendulo ukuze uphilise kwaye usebenze ngokupheleleyo kwimeko.
Lindela ukuqhubekeka ukuze ungene kwiiWave
Nokuba sekuyiminyaka, usenokufumana iimvakalelo ezinokuba namandla njengoko zazinjalo xa wawunokunqunyulwa ekuqaleni. Ukwalelwa lusapho lwakho kunokuthwala ubunzima obunokuchukumisa imixholo enjengokhuseleko, uthando kunye nokuthembana. Ukuba ulahlwe ngumzali (ngabazali), kuyinto eqhelekileyo, nanjengokuba umdala, ukuba uzive ulahliwe, ungathandeki, kwaye ungafanelekanga kubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Oku kunokuba kungoku okwaziyo okanye okungazi nto okuchaphazela ukhetho lwakho kunye nokuziphatha okunxulumene nolwalamano. Ukuba unqunyulwe ngumntwana wakho, unokufumana amaza osizi ngaphandle kokuziva ngathi ungafuna ukuvalwa, kuba isiphelo asikokugqibela. Ngenxa yoku kunqongophala kokugqibela, ukuqhubekeka kuhlala kuza kumaza njengezinto ezibangela ukuba zingene zingene ebomini bakho.
Lungiselela iiNgxaki
Iiholide, imihla yokuzalwa, iziqhulo zangaphakathi, iivenkile zokutyela ezizithandayo, kunye neziganeko zosapho ongamenywanga kuzo banokuziva bebuhlungu ngendlela engathethekiyo kwaye bavuselele iimvakalelo ezinamandla. Ukugcina inqaku lezinto ezikukhuthazayo kunye nokuzilungiselela ngokweemvakalelo ngesiqalo esizayo kungenza umohluko omkhulu kubuchule bakho bokuzikhathalela ngokwakho. Ngelixa ukuzinakekela kujongeka kwahlukile kuye wonke umntu, ukuthatha ingqalelo kwezinto zakho kunye nezinto ezihlala zikunceda ekuqhubeni ixesha elinzima kunokuba sisixhobo esiluncedo kunye nesiqalo esomeleleyo sokuqonda ngcono inkqubo yakho yokucinga.
Indlela yokujongana nokuKhanyelwa lusapho lwakho
Ngelixa ukuqonda ukwahlukana linyathelo lokuqala ekuphiliseni, kukho iindlela zekhonkrithi onokuzixhasa ngazo njengoko usenza le nkqubo ibuhlungu. Yazi ukuba la mava antsokothileyo athatha ixesha ukukhupha kwaye aqonde ngokupheleleyo, ke yiba nomonde kuwe kwaye uzame iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokulwa impilo de ufumane indibaniselwano esebenza ngcono kuwe.
Funa ugqirha
Kuba ukwaliwa kungumbandela onzima, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu Ingcali yonyango ndikukhokele kwindlela efanelekileyo yokuphucula la mava. Iingcali zonyango ezijolise kule meko zijolise ekunikezeleni ngenkxaso engakhethi cala, ukufundisa ngengqondo ngokubhekisele kulwahlulo, kunye nezixhobo eziluncedo ekujonganeni nazo.
Fumana iQela leNkxaso
Akukho mntu uya kuba nakho ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo into ogqithe kuyo, kodwa abo bakwi iqela lenkxaso abaye bahlangabezana neemeko ezifanayo banokuba nembono eyahlukileyo engenakho kubahlobo bakho nakumalungu osapho. Amaqela enkxaso ahlala ekhokelwa ngabacebisi abaziingcali okanye abanyangi abenza imeko-bume ekhuselekileyo kwaye ngobunono bakhokele incoko ukuze abo bakwiqela banxibelelane ngcono kwaye banike inkxaso omnye komnye.
Ijenali malunga namava akho
Ngelixa ukushicilela inokuba yinto yokugqibela oziva ngathi ufuna ukuyenza, ukubhala iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho kunokunceda abanye abantu ukuba bakhuphe ezinye zezinto abazivayo. Ukubhala kunokukunceda ukuba uququzelele iingcinga zakho, uqonde ngcono izinto ozibangeleyo, kwaye unxibelelane nawe. Abanyeiphepha-ndabaungazama ukubandakanya:
- Yintoni ukuqonda kwam ukusikwa?
- Ndiziva njani ngoku? Yintoni eyabangela ezi mvakalelo?
- Ngokwendlela yokunqunyulwa, eyona nto indixhalabisayo .....
- Ngaba ndicinga ukuzama ukuxolelanisa kwixa elizayo? Kutheni usitsho?
- Ndizakwenza ntoni namhlanje ukuzihoya?
- Ndizilungisa njani iingcinga zam kunye neemvakalelo zam? (yedwa, nabanye, ngaphakathi, ngaphandle, ngemisebenzi, njl.
Yiba Nomonde kwinkqubo yakho
Qhubeka nokuzikhumbuza, mhlawumbi ude wenze imantra, ukuba wenza konke okusemandleni kwaye okwangoku ujolise ekuqhubeni into ohamba kuyo. Ukujongana nentlungu ozivayo kungabonakala ngathi iyoyikisa, ayinantsingiselo, kwaye iyoyikisa. Ukujongana ngqo nento oyicingayo kunye nemvakalelo yakho, endaweni yokuphanzisa inkqubo yakho, kunokukunceda uphilise ngendlela esempilweni. Ukuphepha iimvakalelo ezinzima kunokukhokelela ekugqabukeni ngokweemvakalelo, ukonyuka kokuqina kweemvakalelo, ukucaphuka nabanye, kunye namanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokuphepha ukuthintela inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo xa kuthelekiswa nokusebenza ngexesha lakho. Imizekelo yeemantras onokufuna ukuzisebenzisa zibandakanya:
- Nangona oku kubuhlungu, injongo yam kukuzikhathalela.
- Ndibeka phambili ukuphilisa kwam.
- Ndifuna ukukuqonda ngcono okwenzekileyo kwaye ndizama iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuzikhathalela.
Zijikeleze Ngabantu Abaxhasayo
Abanye abantu banokuziva benesithukuthezi emva kokusikwa ziintsapho zabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqhubeke uzingqonga nabantu abakuxhasayo kwaye bakho ngeli xesha. Ukuba uziva ngathi awunabo abantu abanokuthenjwa ebomini bakho, khangela iqela lenkxaso okanye iqela elikwi-intanethi labanye abadlule kwinto efanayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nabanye ebomini bakho abanokungqina kwaye baqinisekise inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo.
Kutheni le nto abantu beqhawula unxibelelwano neentsapho zabo?
Abantu baqhawula unxibelelwano neentsapho zabo ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ezinye zingabandakanya:
- Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi notywala
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo
- Iimvakalelo zokungcatshwa
- Amava abiweyo ekwabelwana ngawo ukuba phakathi kwelungu losapho elibangela kwakhona
- Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okukhokelelauxinzelelo lobudlelwane kunye nokuguquguquka
- Ukhetho lobuqu olungavumelani nosapho lwakho njengenkolo, non-inkolo, umsebenzi
- Ubudlelwane obusondeleyo usapho lwakho aluvumelani nalo
Ngaba Ufanele Uzame Ukuvumelanisa?
Unokuba namaxesha apho unqwenela ukuxolelana nabo bakudibanisileyo. Oku kunokuba okanye kungabi yinto onokuyilawula. Yazi ukuba nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuphinda uqhagamshele, kunethuba lokuba usapho lwakho lungayi. Ukuba uhamba ngale ndlela, qiniseka ukuba ucinga ukuba uza kuziva njani emva koko ukuba abafuni ukuxolelana. Ukuzilungiselela imeko enzima kakhulu, nokuba yeyiphi enokubonakala ngathi, ihlala iyinto ekufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwimeko enokubakho. Unokujonga ukuba uxolelwaniso lukhetho olusempilweni kuwe ngoku. Qiniseka ukuba uzinike ixesha lokucinga ngale meko kwaye uqhubekeke neemvakalelo zakho nomntu omthembileyo ngaphambi kokuzama ukuphinda uqhagamshele.
Ukuqonda ulungelelwaniso
Ukulungelelaniswa kunokuba ngamava amabi kakhulu kwaye adidayo anokuziva ngathi akukho siphelo okanye ukuvalwa emehlweni. Ukubeka phambili ukuzikhathalela kwakho kunye nokufuna inkxaso efanelekileyo kunokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela esempilweni.
