Ukuba ngumzali ngumsebenzi onzima, ngakumbi xa kufuneka uhambe wedwa.Oomama abangatshatangaIcandelo elikhulayo ngokukhawuleza labemi njengeendlela zokuziphatha kunye nokutshintsha kwexabiso losapho. Mininzi imicimbi ejamelana nokujamelana noomama abangatshatanga eyahlukileyo kwimeko zabo.
Imiba yezomthetho
Abasetyhini baba ngoomama abangatshatanga ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo:
ukubuyela kumyeni wangaphambili emva koqhawulo-mtshato
- Umhlolokazi
- Uqhawule umtshato
- Ukukhulelwa okungacetywanga / utata ongafuniyo
- Hlukala
- Ukujongana nemiba eqhelekileyo yobuzali
- Izinketho zeQela lenkxaso yabazali
- Iindidi zabanengxaki yokuva bancinci
Naziphi na kwezi meko zinokuzisa izinto ezisemthethweni ezifana nokugcinwa,inkxaso yomntwana, izithintelo zokuhlala, kunye nocwangciso lwezindlu. Ngenxa yoko, umama ongatshatanga unokuzifumana egumbini lenkundla elisingatha enye yezi meko. Inkqubo yenkundla malunga nale micimbi ixhaphakileyo inokwenzeka kwisithuba seenyanga kunye neminyaka njengoko iinkundla zigutyungelwa ngamatyala. Kuxhomekeke kwimeko yakho yezemali ngaphambi nasemva kokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga, iifizi ezinxulunyaniswa nezi nkqubo zomthetho zinokuba luxanduva lwakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlawula iifizi zomthetho kunye nokumelwa, amazwe amaninzi aneenkqubo ezikhoyo zokukunceda.
Amalungiselelo oGcino kunye nokuPhila
Kuxhomekeka ekubandakanyekeni kukatata, oomama abangatshatanga banokuzifumana benemicimbi yokugcinwa. Isakhono sokuxhasa ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokujongana ngokweemvakalelo nezigqibo zenkundla malunga nokugcina umntwana kunokuba luxinzelelo koomama abangenamaqabane. Ukuhamba kunye neeshedyuli zokundwendwela kunokuba nzima ukuzilawula, ngakumbi ukuba utata ungqongqo kwizicelo zakhe okanye uhlala kude nawe. Eyona nkxalabo inkulu ngoomama ababelana ngokugcinwa okanye ukutyelelwa kwabantwana babo kubandakanya:
- Uziva njani umntwana xa eshiya eyokulanda
- Ukoyika into engaziwayo - kwenzeka ntoni kwelinye ikhaya
- Ukoyika ukutshintshwa lelinye iqabane kubomi bukatata
- Ukoyika umntwana okhetha ukuhlala nomnye umzali
- Imiba yokuziphatha evela kumntwana
Inkxaso yomntwana
Inkxaso yomntwana yimali ehlawulwa kumzali ogcina umntwana ngumzali ongamgcinanga umntwana ukunceda ekuhlawuleni iindleko zokuphila zomntwana. Ukunyanzeliswa kokuqokelelwa kwenkxaso yomntwana kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba isivumelwano senkxaso senziwe ngenkqubo yenkundla. Urhulumente ngamnye unemigaqo emiselweyo malunga nokuba inkxaso yomntwana imiselwa njani. A ikhalityhuleyitha yenkxaso yomntwana inokukunceda uqonde inkqubo kwaye ufumane umbono wemali onokuyityalwa.
Ukuchongwa kwenkxaso yomntwana kunye nezicelo kunokuba noxinzelelo ekulawuleni ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi:
- Iindleko zokwenyani ezizodwa kuphela kumntwana kunokuba nzima ukufumanisa
- Inkxaso engahlawulwanga inokohlwaywa ngexesha lokuvalelwa
- Ukuba omnye umzali uziva ukuba isixa asinabulungisa oko kunokubangela uxinzelelo okanye iingxabano
Abanye abazali bakhetha ukuthatha zonke iintlawulo zenkxaso yomntwana bazibeke kwiakhawunti yebhanki egameni lomntwana ukuze bayisebenzise njengomntu omdala. Abanye abazali bayayidinga le mali yokuncedisa ngeendleko zokuphila zemihla ngemihla njengokutya kunye nendawo yokuhlala. Nokuba ziphi na iimfuno zakho, gcina ingqalelo yenkxaso yomntwana yenzelwe ukuhlawula iindleko zokuphila zomntwana wakho. Ukuba uyisebenzisa kuphela, akunakubakho sikhalazo sivela komnye umzali.
Iingxaki zokuBambisana noMzali
Nangona abantwana behlala nomzali omnye uninzi lwexesha, impilo-ntle yokuba ngumzali kusafuneka yenzekile. Ukubambisana njengomzali kunye nomntu ongasayi kuhlala naye kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, ngakumbi njengoko ubuchaza ngokutsha ubudlelwane bakho.
Unxibelelwano
Ukubambisana njengomzali akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube ngumhlobo osenyongweni notata womntwana wakho. Akuthethi nokuba kufuneka umthande. Oko kuthetha ukuba nizimisele ukuxoxa ngeziganeko ezibalulekileyo kunye nemicimbi malunga nomntwana wakho kwaye nizama ukuvumelana ngendlela emanyeneyo. Ngelixa kungenakwenzeka kuzo zonke iimeko, kukho iingongoma ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzikhumbule xa unxibelelana notata womntwana wakho:
- Gcina omnye nomnye enolwazi ngezinto ezibalulekileyo zekharityhulam kunye neziganeko.
- Hlala ulungile kwaye ujonge xa uthetha phambi komntwana wakho.
- Gcina iingxoxo ezinzima ngexesha apho unokuthetha wedwa.
- Phila ngomthetho wegolide: mphathe utata womntwana wakho ngendlela onqwenela ukuphathwa ngayo.
Indima yaBalingani bamaRoma
Ngexesha elithile, wena okanye utata womntwana wakho unokuthatha isigqibo sokuthandana kwakhona. Ukuzilungiselela ngokwasemphefumlweni ngalo msitho kungathatha ixesha. Kunokuba luncedo ukuxoxa ngokulindelweyo malunga nokuba umntwana wakho angaziswa nini kwiqabane elitsha lomzali kunye nokuba yeyiphi na indima ekufuneka eyithathile phambi kokuba kuqalise ubudlelwane obutsha.
Ukhuseleko lwezeMali
Ngokwe- Iziko laseMelika laseCensus , Oomama abangenamaqabane banengeniso esezantsi ephantsi yalo naluphi na uhlobo losapho. Nangona umvuzo ophakathi ungaphezulu kwe- izikhokelo zentlupheko eUnited States, kucacile ukuba oomama abaninzi abangenamaqabane baneengxaki zemali. Imiba yezemali ibandakanya:
- Amandla okuhlawulelaukhathalelo lomntwana olusemgangathweni
- Ukubonelela ngesondlo esaneleyo ekhaya
- Iindleko zempahla
- Amandla okuhlawulela imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo yekharityhulam
- Ukugcina ixesha likaxakeka kunye nexesha elizayo
Ukuphila ngomvuzo omnye kunokuba lucelomngeni kuyo nayiphi na intsapho. Oomama abangatshatanga bahlala bejamelana nocelomngeni olongezelelekileyo lokuba ngabazali bokuqala kunye nokondla ikhaya. Ukulinganisa ubomi basekhaya kunye nobomi bomsebenzi kunokuba nzima kwaye kube noxinzelelo koomama abangatshatanga. Ngethamsanqa, zininzi iinkqubo ezikhoyo ngoku kunye neenkonzo zentlalo yoluntu ukubonelela ngezixhobo koomama abangatshatanga. Uncedo luyafumaneka kuyo yonke into ukusuka kwivenkile yokuthenga ukuya kuthenga ekhaya. Inkqubo ye- ISebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neeNkonzo zoLuntu unikezela ngeenkcazo zeenkqubo ezikhoyo kunye nezikhombisi zokufumana uncedo kwindawo yakho.
Ukubonelela ngozinzo
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule yile nto abantwana bakho bayifuna kakhulu luthando nokhuseleko. Bayakudinga ukuba ubekhona kwaye ubandakanyeke ngakumbi kunokuba bafuna izinto ezingaphaya kwezo zihlangabezana neemfuno ezisisiseko. Ukubeka okona kuzama kwakho ukubonelela ngemali abantwana bakho kuko konke umntu anokukucela kuwe. Sukuvumela uxinzelelo lwezezimali lukuthintele kulwalamano olunentsingiselo nabantwana bakho.
Iintlungu zoluntu
Oomama abaninzi abangatshatanga bafumana iintlungu nokudideka malunga nendlela abanye abantu ababajonga ngayo. Nangona uluntu lwethu luye lwasondela kwiimbono ezikhululekileyo ngakumbi malunga nomtshato nokuba ngumzali, baninzi abantu abajonga oomama abangenamaqabane ngendlela engeyiyo. Oomama abangatshatanga boyika ukujongwa njenge:
- Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo
- Ukuphatha umthwalo omninzi
- Kukuzingca
- Ayikwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomsebenzi ngenxa yeemfuno zabantwana
Oomama namhlanje bagxekwa ngokubandakanyeka kakhulu kwaye bangabandakanyeki konke konke. Oomama abasebenza kakhulu baneentloni zokulahleka ngexesha nabantwana babo ngelixa oomama abangasebenziyo bebizwa ngokuba ngamavila. Akukho mbono wamkelwe kwilizwe liphela wokuba ubomi bukamama bubukeka njani. Logama uziva wonwabile kukhetho lwakho lobomi, amabala entlalontle ayizukuba ngaphezulu koluvo lomnye umntu.
Ukuziva unetyala
Oomama abangatshatanga bahlala beziva benetyala. Ezinye zezona zinto zixhaphakileyo oomama abaziva benetyala ngazo zibandakanya:
ukuba ndiyarhoxa emsebenzini ndingafumana ukungaphangeli
- Ukususa amava osapho olunabazali bobabini kwikhaya elinye
- Ukusebenza kakhulu
- Ukuphoswa ngamava awenzekayo ngexesha lotyelelo nomnye umzali
- Ukuthandana
- Utshintsho kwinqanaba lomvuzo nakwindlela yokuphila
- Iimvakalelo abantwana abajamelana nazo xa bejongana nabazali abohlukene okanye umzali ongabandakanyekanga
Njengabantu, wonke umntu unelungelo lokuziva neemvakalelo, zombini ezilungileyo nezimbi. Ukuziva unetyala ngeedosi ezincinci luphawu lothando lwakho kwaye kunokukuqhubela ekubeni ngumntu ongcono. Nangona kunjalo, ukuziva unetyala kakhulu kunokubangela ukuba uhlale wedwa, ulahlekelwe nguwe, kwaye wenze izigqibo ezingalunganga. Ukuba uziva ukonganyelwe sisazela, cinga ngokuthetha nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.
Umama oQhelekileyo oNgekathandi ukuDibana neengxaki
Ngexesha elithile, umnqweno wokuba nolwalamano olutsha luza kwenzeka. Ukuthandana xa unabantwana ekhaya kubangela iseti eyongezelelweyo yemiceli mngeni ngaphezulu kokukhathazeka okuqhelekileyo kokuthandana. Eminye imibuzo oomama abangatshatanga bahlala bezibuza malunga nobudlelwane bobuhlobo kubandakanya:
- Ngaba ukhona umntu ofuna ukuthandana nomfazi onabantwana?
- Ndiza kulenza njani ixesha lobudlelwane obutsha?
- Ndenza niniyazisa abantwana bamkwiqabane lomtshato?
- Kuthekani ukuba abantwana bam abamthandi umntu endithandana naye?
- Uza kuthini utata wabantwana bam xa ndithandana?
Njengomfazi, ufanele ukuthandwa kwaye uxatyiswe kubudlelwane bezothando. Njengomama, yinxalenye yomsebenzi wakho ukubonisa ubudlelwane obunempilo ebantwaneni bakho. Ukuthandana linyathelo lendalo ebomini ekufuneka lifunyenwe ngononophelo kunye nethemba. Akukho mithetho inzima kwaye ikhawulezayo xa kufikwa kumba wokuthandana njengomzali omnye. Thatha ixesha lokuvavanya amaxabiso kunye nenqanaba lokuthuthuzela kunye nemiba eyahlukeneyo yokuthandana. Landela iimvakalelo zakho kwaye umntu olungileyo uza kuza ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ukuzikhathalela
Oomama abangatshatanga banezinto ezininzi kwiipleyiti zabo, ke ayimangalisi into yokuba bengasoloko bebeka phambili ukhathalelo lwabo.
Iingxaki zokulala
Ngokwe- Iziko Lolawulo Lwesifo , oomama abangatshatanga lolona hlobo lwabantu abadala lokufumana ubuncinci bokulala. Ukusuka ekujonganeni nemicimbi yokulala ukuya ekulawuleni uxanduva lwasekhaya, oomama abangatshatanga bathatha okuninzi ngexesha lasebusuku. Ngelixa oku kunokuba ngathi lelona thuba lokwenza izinto,ukulala ngokwaneleyoinokukhokelela kwimicimbi enzulu efana:
ukubamba njani iimpukane endlwini yakho
- Seswekile
- Isifo sentliziyo
- Uxinzelelo
- Iingozi zokuqhuba nezokuphangela
Kusenokungasoloko kubonakala kulula okanye kunokwenzeka, kodwa ukuzikhathalela yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenzela abantwana bakho. Xa uphumle kakuhle uyakuthi qwa, ubenezimvo ezintle, kwaye ukwazi ukwenza okungakumbi. Zininzi izinto oomama abangatshatanga abanokuzenza ukongeza ixesha lokulala:
- Sebenzisa iikhalenda kunye noluhlu ukugcina ubomi bakho buququzelelwe kunokukunceda ukuba ulale kwangoko kwaye ube neengcinga ezimbalwa ebusuku
- Ukuziqhelanisa neyoga okanye ukucamngca kunokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla. Kananjalo ungazenza ekhaya ngaphandle kwezixhobo
- Ukutya okusempilweni kunye nokusela amanzi amaninzi kuya kunika umzimba wakho amandla owadingayo ukuze usebenze imini yonke
- Ukwenza ixesha lokulandela umdla wakho kunokukugcina uzive ungumntu, hayi umama kuphela
- Ukuthetha nabahlobo okanye ingcali malunga noxinzelelo kunokukunceda ekucingeni ngeengxaki rhoqo
Ulawulo loxinzelelo
Oomama banotyekelo lokuzibeka mva. Ngelixa le ingumbono ohloniphekileyo, inokukhokelela kwimpilo enkenenkene kunye nesimo sengqondo esibi. Ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba uxinzelelo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula intetho endala ethi, 'ngekhe ubakhathalele abanye abantu xa ungazinyamekeli.' Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa koomama abangatshatanga abathwala ubunzima behlabathi. Zininzi iindlela ezilula zokunciphisa uxinzelelo mihla le ezingayi kukugcina uzive ulungile, kodwa zikwenze nokuba ungoyena mama ungcono.
- Yenza umthambo rhoqo-wedwa okanye nabantwana.
- Fumana umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho onokuthi ukhuphe kuye rhoqo-umntu onokuphulaphula kwaye angazami ukukusindisa.
- Zama iindlela zokuphefumla ukuthomalalisa imithambo-luvo yakho.
- Cwangcisa ukonwaba kwabantu abadala rhoqo nabahlobo.
- Khetha umdlalo opholileyo njengokufunda okanye ukukhonkxa.
Ungayifumana phi inkxaso
Umsebenzi wokugungxula, ikhaya, ukuba ngumzali, kunye neminqweno yobuqu kunokuba nzima kwaye kube nzima. Ukwamkela uncedo xa unikezelwa kwayeUkufuna inkxasoinokukunceda ufumane isiqhelo esitsha ngokukhawuleza. Zininzi iindlela zasimahla nezilula zokufumana uncedo nenkxaso kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi:
- Abahlobo kunye nosapho
- Amaqela oomama anjengeMOPS okanye Abazali Ngaphandle Kwamaqabane
- Urhulumente kunye neewebhusayithi zolwazi ezifana Ummeli woMzali omnye
- Amaqela okudlala asekuhlaleni kunye neeklasi zeentsapho
Yinike konke
Iimfuno kunyeokulindelweyo koomama abangenamaqabanekunokuba nzima. Ukubeka izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye nokucela uncedo ziindlela ezilula zokunceda ukulinganisa ubomi kunye nokuba ngumama.
