Kwimuvi ka-1984, Umahluko ongenakulungiswa , umdlali weqonga uDrew Barrymore wadlala intombazana eneminyaka esithoba ubudala eyaqhawula umtshato nabazali bayo. Ngelixa kubonakala ngathi yimeko yeentsomi zaseHollywood, abantwana banokwenza, kwaye benze, ifayile yokuqhawula umtshato nabazali babo. Kuthatha ntoni ukuze umntwana akhululwe, kwaye zeziphi iziphumo kubazali nakumntwana?
Yintoni ukukhululwa?
Ukukhululwa ligama elisemthethweni xa umntwana ekhululeka kubazali bakhe, kwaye kwenzeka nokuba xa umntwana efikelela kubudala besininzi sezomthetho (esahluka phakathi kwamazwe), okanye xa enikwa umyalelo wenkululeko kwinkundla. Uninzi lweenkundla aluyi kuthathela ingqalelo inkululeko ngaphandle kokuba umntwana uneminyaka eli-16 ubuncinci, nangona abanye besitsho California , vumela ukuba ibe neminyaka eyi-14 ubudala.
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- Bachaphazeleka njani abantwana kuQhawulo-mtshato
- Iziphumo zoqhawulo mtshato ebantwaneni kunye nokubanceda bajamelane nazo
Ubudala bokukhululwa
Ezomthetho ubudala besininzi Ngokwesiqhelo une-18, okanye xa umntwana ephumelela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, nayiphi na eyenzeka kamva. Kwimeko yokuba umntwana aqhawule umtshato nabazali, umntwana ufuna ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yenkululeko ngokususa lonke unxibelelwano kubazali bakhe ngaphambi kokufikelela kubudala besininzi.
yimalini ukuxabisa ubucwebe
Ukupheliswa kweMfanelo zoMzali
Xa umntwana ekhululwa, abazali bakhe abasekho inyanzelekile ukumnika ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, impahla okanye ukhathalelo; oku kubandakanya ukuphelisa uxanduva lokuhlawula inkxaso yabantwana. Akusekho xanduva lwazo naziphi na izenzo zokuziphatha gwenxa ezinokwenziwa ngumntwana. Endaweni yokuba umntwana abe noxanduva lokubonelela iimfuno zakhe ezisisiseko.
Izinto ezinokwenziwa ngabaNcinci abaKhululekileyo
Xa umntwana eqhawula umtshato nabazali bakhe, unezimbalwa, zonke ezi amalungelo noxanduva yomntu omdala. Umntwana okhululekileyo unoku:
- Ngena kwizivumelwano ezibophelelayo ngokusemthethweni
- Sebenza kwaye ugcine yonke ingeniso (nangona izithintelo zomsebenzi ziphantsiimithetho yezabasebenziusengasebenza)
- Yenza izigqibo zonyango
- Fumana indawo yokuhlala
- Fayila isimangalo, okanye umangalelwe enkundleni
- Khetha isikolo abaza kuya kuso
Abangaphantsi kwabantwana abanakho ukukwenza
Ukuba inkundla ikhupha umyalelo wenkululeko, kusekho izinto ezithile ezingenakukhululwa ngumntwana okhululweyo, nangona bethathwa njengabantu abadala ngokusemthethweni ngokwasemthethweni. Umntwana okhululekileyo akanako:
- Ukuqhuba (ngaphandle kokuba bafikelele kwiminyaka yokuqhuba ngokusemthethweni kwimeko yabo)
- Vota
- Sela
- Ukuyeka isikolo ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuba basebenzela ukufumana i-GED
- Ukutshata ngaphandle kwemvume yomzali, ukuba umntwana akafikanga kwiminyaka yobudala apho imvume ingasafuneki khona
Ukuba nguMncinci oKhululekileyo
Nazi iindlela ezintathu umntwana angakhululwa-atshate, ajoyine emkhosini, okanye ngemvume yenkundla.
Umtshato
Umtshato uhlala ukhokelela kwinkululeko yomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, umntu omncinci ngesiqhelo akanakutshata ngaphandle Imvume yomzali de kube li-18 leminyaka. Amanye amazwe, kubandakanya iDelaware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Maryland, nase Oklahoma, vumela umntwana okhulelweyo okanye osele enomntwana ukuba atshate ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali, nangona kungafunwa imvume yenkundla.
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Inkonzo yezelizwe
Ukubhaliswa emkhosini kunokwanela nakwamanye amazwe ukukhulula umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, emtshatweni, ukubhalisa ifuna imvume yomzali ukuba umntwana ungaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18. Umkhosi nawo ufuna idiploma yesikolo esiphakamileyo, uninzi lwabantwana olungekayifumani. Ukongeza, ezomkhosi zinezona mfuno zisezantsi zeminyaka ezinokuthi zithintele ukubhaliswa komntwana kwanakwimvume yabazali.
Ukukhululwa kwenkundla ngokomyalelo
Umntwana usenokufaka isicelo kwinkundla efuna ukuqhawula umtshato nabazali bakhe. Le yinkqubo yomthetho eza kufuna ukuveliswa kobungqina kunye nobungqina macala omabini. Abazali bomntwana okanye abagcini bomntwana ngokusemthethweni kufuneka baziswe ngale nkqubo.
Phambi kokuba kukhutshwe umyalelo wenkululeko, inkundla iya kuthathela ingqalelo ukuba ngaba inkululeko leyo ikumntwana na eyona nto ibalulekileyo . Ezinye zezinto ezinokuthi ziqwalaselwe yinkundla zibandakanya:
zizikhova ezintle okanye ezintle
- Ubudala kunye nenqanaba lokukhula komncinci
- Impilo yomntwana ngengqondo, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni
- Nokuba umntwana unendlela yokuxhasa ngemali
- Nokuba umntwana unendawo yokuhlala efanelekileyo, okanye unendlela yokufumana amalungiselelo afanelekileyo
- Nokuba abazali bayavuma na
- Izizathu zokufuna inkululeko, umzekelo ukushiya okanye ukuphathwa gadalala ngabazali, okanye ngenxa yezizathu zemali
Umahluko kaRhulumente
Imithetho yokukhululwa iyahluka ukusuka kwilizwe ukuya kwilizwe. Kunokubakho iyantlukwano kubudala besininzi somthetho, inkqubo yokukhululwa kwinkundla, izizathu zokuba kutheni inokunikezelwa kunye namalungelo noxanduva lomntwana nabazali emva kwesibonelelo senkululeko. Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba uphonononge imithetho kwisimo sakho kwaye uqhagamshelane negqwetha elinelayisensi ngaphambi kokuqhubela phambili neenkqubo zomthetho.
Ukutsiba okukhulu
Isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato nabazali bakho sesinye esingafanele kuthathwa kancinci. Ukuba uxanduva olupheleleyo kuwe njengolutsha kungoyikisa, kwaye ubuncinci kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kubomi bakho ekuhlaleni - ngelixa abahlobo bakho besonwabile, uya kuba uxakekile usebenza ukuze uzixhase.
Ngokukwanjalo, ukuba ungumzali onomntwana ofuna ukuqhawula umtshato, kufuneka uzithathe nzulu iingxaki zakhe. Hlala phantsi uthethe nomntwana wakho, ngokukhethekileyo ngoncedo lwegqirha, umcebisi okanye umntu othembekileyo ongumfundisi, ukufikelela kwingcambu yengxaki kwaye uzame ukusombulula iyantlukwano, kwaye usebenzele isisombululo esifanelekileyo.
