Ukungakwazi kuthi ndlela-ntle kumntu omthandayo kunokuziva kubuhlungu ngendlela engathethekiyo kwaye kunokwenza ukubaInkqubo ebuhlungukunzima kakhulu. Ukufumana iindlela ezisempilweni zokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho kunokubonelela ngenduduzo njengoko ujongana nalo mzuzu unzima.
Ukuqonda Intlungu
Intlunguyinkqubo entsonkothileyo ejongeka ngokwahlukileyo kuye wonke umntu. Abanye banokufumana amahla ndinyuka, ngelixa abanye benokujikeleza malunga nemvakalelo efanayo okanye bacinge ukuba abanakukwazi ukuyishukumisa. Akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye iphosakeleyo yokuba buhlungu kwaye ukuqhutyelwa kule nkqubo kunokuziva kunzima kakhulu.
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- Iindlela eziphilileyo zokuJongana nokuFa kweSithandwa sakho
- Ukujongana neemvakalelo zentlungu kunye nokulahleka ngexesha loBhubhane
Ukuqhubekeka ukungakwazi ukuThetha kakuhle
Ukuphulukana nomntu othile okhethekileyo kuwe sele uziva unganyamezeleki, kodwa ukungakwazi ukuthi ndlela-ntle kunokuyenza ibe mandundu ngakumbi. Njengoko uhamba kule nkqubo, thatha ixesha lokuqonda ukuba kutheni ukungakwazi ukuthi ndlela-ntle kuva kabuhlungu. Unokufumana inkolelo engeyiyo malunga nokujikeleza kwakho. Ukuqonda iingcinga zakho ezingaziwayo kunokukunika ukuqonda kokubulawa kweemvakalelo onokuthi ube nazo. Iingcinga eziqhelekileyo ezinokubandakanya:
- Kuba khange ndithini, ndingumntu ombi.
- Ngenxa yokuba ndingakhange ndivalelise, ndingumntu osilelayo okanye andixabisekanga.
- Ukudlula kwabo kulityala lam.
- Ngenxa yokudlula kwabo, ndiziva ngathi umhlaba awukhuselekanga.
- Ngenxa yokudlula kwabo, ndiziva ngathi ndiphulukana nabo bonke endibathandayo.
Ukuba nayiphi na kwezi ngxelo iyinyani, yazi ukuba yinto exhaphakileyo kubantu abaninzi ukuba babambe iinkolelo ezingalunganga malunga nabo okanye umhlaba kwaye bathande ukuvela ngendlela ephakamileyo ngexeshaamaxesha oxinzelelo. Kubalulekile ukuba uchithe ixesha elithile ujonga ezi nkolelo zingalunganga kwaye uza nempilo, umbono omnyama omnyama nomhlophe xa kufikwa kule meko. Umzekelo, endaweni yokuba 'ndingumntu ombi', umbono ophilileyo uya kuba 'ndingumntu olungileyo kwaye / okanye ndingumntu kuphela.' Ukuhamba nzulu ekuqondeni iingcinga ezizenzekelayo kunye neemvakalelo ezithi zivele ngenxa yokungakwazi kwakho ukuvalelisa kunokuba yinto ebalulekileyo kwinkqubo yakho yokulila.
Ukulila Ngexesha Lobhubhane
Ngexesha lobhubhane olunjengeCovid-19, kungenjalo yaziwa njenge-coronavirus, kuya kufuneka uthobele imigaqo ethile echaphazela amandla akho okuvalelisa umntu omthandayo. Oku kunokuziva kungalunganga ngendlela engathethekiyo kwaye kwenza ukudlula kwalo mntu kuziva kabuhlungu nangakumbi. Oku kunokuziva ngathi kukuphulukana nokuvalwa kwabanye kwaye kunokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuqhubekeka. Ukuthi ndlela ntle kwenza ukuba ilahleko izive iyinyani kwabanye, ke ukungabinakho ukwenza njalo kunokwenza ukuba imeko izive ingaphezulu. Ukuba ulila umgama okanye ngexesha lobhubhane, ungabamba umsitho obonakalayo okanye usete incoko yevidiyo ukuhlonipha lo mntu kwaye unxibelelane nabo babesondele kubo.
Ukulila Kude
Usenokungakwazi ukuthi ndlela-ntle ngenxa yomgama owuhambileyo. Ukuba awukwazi ukuhamba, unokufumana iimvakalelo eziphakamileyo zokuziva unetyala kunye nosizi xa ungakwazi ukuthi ndlela-ntle kumntu omthandayo kwaye umkhathaleleyo. Ukuba ulila umgama okanye ngexesha lobhubhane, unokwenza umsonto we-imeyile kwaye wabelane ngamabali akho owathandayo malunga nomntu ongasekhoyo.
Iimeko ezinzima
Awungekhe ukwazi ukuthi ndlela-ntle kumntu omthandayo ngenxa yobudlelwane obunzima kunye namalungu osapho okanye abahlobo abanokuthi batyelele umntu lowo okanye baye kwisikhumbuzo emva kokuba bedlulile. Yazi ukuba kukho iindlela zokuhlonipha umntu omthandayo ngaphandle kokuzibeka kwindawo engakhuselekanga okanye engonwabisiyo. Ukuba usentlungwini kwaye uneemeko ezinzima, unokufikelela kwabanye abathembekileyo kwaye ubuze ukuba ungazenza na iimvakalelo zakho kunye nabo xa uncokola ngevidiyo. Ungabhala ileta ubhalele umntu ogqithileyo kwaye uyigcine njengesikhumbuzo sokuxabiseka kwabo kuwe.
Ukufumana iindlela ezisempilweni zokuhlangabezana nazo
Wonke umntu ujongana nentlungu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukungakwazi ukuthi ndlela ntle kunokuyenza nzima inkqubo yakho yokulila njengoko unokufumana iimvakalelo ezongezelelekileyo ezinje ngokuba netyala kunye nokuzisola okuhambelana nelahleko yokuvalwa. Kubalulekile ukujongana hayi kuphela nentlungu yokuqala yelahleko yakho, kodwa neemvakalelo zakho malunga nokungakwazi ukuthi ndlela ntle kwaye kuthetha ntoni kuwe. Ukufumana eyakho indlela eyahlonipha umntu omthandayoinokuba yinto ebalulekileyo kwinkqubo yakho yokulila. Qiniseka ukuba uzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokulwa ukuze ubone ukuba zeziphi ezona zilungileyo kuwe. Iindlela zokukopa zinokubandakanya:
- Ngexesha lobhubhane, iimeko ezinzima, okanye ukude unokwenza umnikelo egameni lalowo ungasekhoyo ukuhlonipha inkumbulo yabo kunye nenkxaso yesizathu esisondele entliziyweni yabo.
- Sebenzisa impilo yezonxibelelwano ukuthetha nomcebisi onelayisensi okanye ugqirha ogxile kwintlungu.
- Joyina amaqela enkxaso kwi-intanethi.
- Sebenzisa ubugcisa okanye ukuzoba njengendlela yokukhulula ezinye zeemvakalelo zakho xa ungaziva unxibelelana nabanye.
- Ijenali kwaye ugcine umkhondo weemvakalelo zakho kwisikali se-zero ukuya kwi-10.
- Yiza noluhlu lwakho lwezinto ezili-10 okanye nangaphezulu onokuzenza ezinokukunceda xa uphantsi.
- Ziqhelise ukukhumbula,iindlela zokuphumla zokuphefumla, kunye nokuphumla kwezihlunu okuqhubekayo ukuba uziva ukoyiswa ngomzuzu othile.
- Chitha ixesha kunye nezilwanyana okanye ubukele iividiyo zezilwanyana ukuba awunakho ukufikelela kuyo.
- Fowunela okanye uthumele umyalezo kumhlobo othenjiweyo okanye ilungu losapho onokuthi uthethe nalo.
Cwangcisa ixesha lokuLila
Ukuba kunzima ukukhupha iimvakalelo zakho okanye uzive ungaphaya, cwangcisa ixesha lokuba usizi- oku kuvumela ukukhutshwa kolawulo lweemvakalelo. Qiniseka ukuba umakisha ukuqala nokuphela kweli xesha ngokwenza uhlobo lwesiko eliwujikelezileyo, umzekelo ukhanyisa ikhandlela emva koko ulivuthele ekugqibeleni. Sebenzisa enye yemithambo yakho yokuziqhelanisa nokuzikhusela ngokwakho ekugqibeleni kunye nokunceda ukwenza umahluko.
Amagama amantombazana awodwa aqala ngo-e
Yiba Nomonde Ngexesha Lenkqubo
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu onokuyenza kukuzeka kade umsindo kwaye uzivumele uzive ukuba ufuna ukuziva njani. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zinokuhla kwaye zibaleke kwaye akukho ndlela ilungileyo okanye iphosakeleyo yokuziva ngeli xesha. Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzenzakalisa okanye zenzakalise abanye, funa uncedo kwangoko. Intlungu inokuziva inamandla, ke kubalulekile ukugcina umkhondo wenkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo ukuze uhlale ukhuselekile.
Ukuba Nobubele Kuwe
Nokuba usentlungwini ngexesha lobhubhane, uneemeko ezinzima ezikuthintelayo ekuboneni umntu omthandayo, uhlala kude kakhulu, okanye unezinye iimeko eziyinyani ezingakuvumeliyo ukuba uthi ndlela-ntle, zininzi iindlela onokuthi uqale ngazo iimvakalelo zakho ngeendlela ezisempilweni, ngelixa uhlonipha umntu ongasekhoyo. Yiba nobubele kwaye uthambe ngokwakho ngeli xesha kwaye uqonde ukuba inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo iya kuba yodwa.
