Ukuba wena neqabane lakho niphonononga umbono wokuthatha ikhefu kubudlelwane bakho, kubalulekile ukufumana ixesha eliza kusebenza kakuhle kuni nobabini. Ukubeka isiseko, njengokuxoxa ngokuhlala ixesha elide kubudlelwane, kunokunceda nina nobabini niyilawule imeko.
Lixesha elingakanani elimele ukuqhawuka kubudlelwane?
Ukuqhawuka kobudlelwane kunokuhlala naphi na ukusuka kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, kuxhomekeke kwinto enivumelana ngayo neqabane lakho. Ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuba lingakanani ixesha oza kulithatha ngexesha lokuphumla, xoxa ngezinto ezinokuziva zilungile kuwe nakwiqabane lakho. Ungahlala uvumelana ngexesha elifutshane, usete umhla wokuphinda uqhagamshele, kwaye uxoxe ukuba omnye okanye nobabini ningalithanda ixesha elingaphezulu. Xa usenza isigqibo sokuba lingakanani ixesha oza kulithatha:
- Xoxa ngexesha eliziva ngalinye ukhululeke ngalo
- Chaza ukuqiqa kwakho ngesixa esithile sexesha
- Ixesha elide phakathi koBudlelwane obuDala (nguBudala)
- 18 Imizekelo yoNcwadi oluSimahla
- Kuthathwa ixesha elingakanani ukuba liBudlelwane bexesha elide?
Kuthetha ntoni ukuthatha ikhefu kubudlelwane?
Kubudlelwane, ukuthatha ikhefu kunokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kwisibini ngasinye, kunye neqabane ngalinye. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uxoxe kakuhle ukuba kuya kuthetha ntoni kuwe nakwiqabane lakho kwaye ungaze ucinge ukuba unokufunda ingqondo yeqabane lakho. Ukuthatha ikhefu kunokuthetha:
ukuba ubhale ntoni ekhadini kumntu ofayo yimizekelo
- Nobabini anizukunxibelelana nexesha elithile lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba nifuna ntoni malunga nolwalamano.
- Unokukhetha ukuya kunxibelelana kwaye uthandane nabanye abantu ngexesha lekhefu.
- Unokucwangcisa ukungena rhoqo ngexesha lekhefu.
- Unokukhetha ukungabinazithintelo ngokubhekisele kunxibelelwano.
Kungumbono olungileyo ukuxoxa ukuba enye okanye zombini iimfuno zakho ngokwemiqathango yezikhokelo zekhefu zingatshintsha nanini na kwaye niyavuma ukuba nobabini niza kuvuleleka kwingxoxo ukuba kwenzeka nini okanye nini.
Indlela yokujongana nokuThatha ikhefu kubudlelwane
Inokuziva ngathi iyashukuma ngendlela eyoyikisayo, kwaye yoyikisa, kunye noxinzelelo ekuthabatheni isigqibo sokuthatha ikhefu nomntu omkhathaleleyo. Ukuba ukwinkqubo yokuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuba uthathe ikhefu, okanye uphakathi kwekhefu:
ikhadi lesipho sevisa esihlawulelwa kwangaphambili ngaphandle kwemali
- Vumela amava akho enkqubo.
- Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ikhefu inokuba lithuba elimangalisayo lokujonga ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane lolona khetho lusempilweni kuwe kwaye uchonge umntu wakho, kunye nolwalamano, iimfuno.
- Nxibelelana nabahlobo abaxhasayo kunye / okanye amalungu osapho.
- Cinga ngokuthetha nonyango olunokukunceda uqhubeke namava akho.
- Yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nayiphi na imiba yesikhokelo sekhefu osele usenzile (oku kuya kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo).
Unxibelelwano Ngexesha lekhefu lobuhlobo
Kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngeemfuno zonxibelelwano ngexesha lekhefu. Unokukhetha ukwenza unxibelelwano, ube nokungena rhoqo, okanye ukhethe ukuhlala kunxibelelwano kangangoko ufuna. Ukwenza izikhokelo ezisetiweyo kunye, unokucinga ngokuxoxa:
- Nokuba nobabini niyakhululeka ngokuhlala ninxibelelana nabanye
- Ukuba ukhetha enyeuhlobo lonxibelelwano, kodwa hayi abanye
- Into oza kuyenza ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba niqubisane
- Ukudibanisa njaniukuba omnye okanye bobabini baziva bengakhululekanga ngalo naliphi na icandelo lesikhokelo sakho
- Xa useta ixesha lokuxoxa ngokuvavanya kwakhona ikhefu
Ngaba ukuhlukana kubudlelwane kuyasebenza?
Ukuqhawuka kobudlelwane kunokusebenza ukuba nobabini nithatha ixesha lokucingisisa ngeimpilo yobudlelwane bakho, indlela oziphethe ngayo kunye nokuphendula kwakho, kunye nempilo yakho yeemvakalelo. Ukwaphuka kobudlelwane nako kunokuba yinto elungileyo ukuba nobabini nibonise ukuba zeziphi iinjongo zokunxibelelana ezizezinye kwaye ukuba ziyahambelana na xa sele ninxibelelanisile. Ukuba omnye okanye nobabini anizimisele ukubonisa nokusombulula 'izinto' zakho, amathuba okuba akukho nto kubudlelwane iyakutshintsha, kwaye ungagqibela ngokufumana ubunzima obufanayo kubudlelwane kwakhona.
Ngaba izibini ziyabuyela emva emva kokuthatha ikhefu?
Ababini banokuphinda babuyelane emva kokuthatha ikhefu ukuba ngaba umntu wabo kunyeiinjongo zobudlelwanelungelelanisa. Ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane abona ukuba ubudlelwane abunampilo, okanye ukuba ezinye iinjongo ezingahambelaniyo, abanakubuyelana.
Ngaba ukuthatha ikhefu kuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane budlulile?
Ukuthatha ikhefu akuthethi ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile. Ukuba nobabini nizimisele ukusebenza kubudlelwane benu, ninokwazi ukuqhagamshela ngempumelelo. Ukuba omnye okanye nobabini anizimisele ukubonakalisa indlela eniziphethe ngayo kunye namava emvakalelo, ninokuba nexesha elinzima ngakumbi lokwakha kwakhonaubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
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