Ungayitsho njani i-Goodbye kumntu oFayo

Ukuvalelisa kumntu omthandayo onguUkudlula emhlabenikunokuba buhlungu kakhulu. Thatha ixesha lakho kwaye wazi ukuba ukuvalelisa umntu omthandayo oswelekileyo yeyakho, kwaye kuya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kulwalamano lwakho naloo mntu.

Ubudlelwane obahlukeneyo Fumana ii-Goodbyes ezahlukeneyo

Ulwalamano lwakho nomntu okwinkqubo yokufa luya kuxela ukuba usondelelene kangakanani na. Nangona kunokuba kukudina ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye kunzima ukuza kummiselo wokuvalelisa, ukwenza oko ngaphambi kokuba kuhambe ixesha elide kuqinisekisa ukuba uyakwazi ukwamkela ukubaluleka kobudlelwane kwaye ufumane uhlobo lokuvalwa ngaphambi kokuba umntu asweleke.

Luthetha ukuthini usapho kuwe

Amanqaku afanelekileyo

Indlela yokujongana nentlungu xa ungeke ukwazi ukuthetha kakuhle
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Thatha ingqalelo iimvakalelo zomntu kunye nokuba le nkqubo injani kuye. Unokufuna ukuqaphela ukuvumela omnye umntu akhokele xa kuziwa kwindlela enichitha ngayo ixesha kunye ngexesha lakhe lokugqibela. Ukunyaniseka, uvelwano, kunye nokunyaniseka kunokukunceda nina nobabini niyonwabele le mizuzu ixabisekileyo kunye.

Ukuphulukana neqabane okanye iqabane

Ukuthi ndlela ntle kwiqabane okanye iqabane lakho kunokuba ngamava abuhlungu kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo uchithe ixesha lakho elininzi nalo mntu, nisakha ubomi benu kunye. Ukuthi ndlela-ntle kunye nokuza kunye naye ngokungabikho ekuhambeni phambili kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kwaye usenokuziva ungenakwenzeka. Gxila kubukho bomntu omthandayo kunye nawe ngoku kwaye uzame:

Ngaba amakhandlela e-yankee akulunganga kuwe

Ukukhumbula malunga nexesha, indawo, nendlela owathandana ngayo
Ukumkhumbuza ukuba olu lwalamano luthetha ntoni kuwe kwaye luya kuqhubeka luthetha kuwe wakube emkile
Ukuvuma iinkumbulo zakho ezimnandi kunye kunye nokujonga imifanekiso yakudala
Ukutyala intyatyambo ekhethekileyo ekhayeni lakho okanye embizeni onokuthi uhambe nayo ukukhumbuza ngobukho balo mntu- ngaba umntu omthandayo makayikhethe intyatyambo ayikhathalele kunye ade abhubhe.
Ukubukela iividiyo zasekhaya ozithandayo kunye, kugxilwe ekuhlonipheni indlela ezikhethekileyo ngayo kuwe
Yazisa omnye wakho obalulekileyo azi ezona mpawu uzithandayo ngaye kwaye unike imizekelo
Ukubuza ukuba ikhona into anokufuna ukuba ubenzele yona xa sele kudlule iqabane lakho

Ukuthetha okuhle kuMzali

UKUYAumzalikunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuphulukana nokuthetha nomntu oye wakho ngenxa yobomi bakho bonke ayingomsebenzi ulula. Yiba nobubele kuwe kwaye uzame ukugxila ekuchitheni ixesha naye ngoku. Ukuthetha kakuhle ungafuna ukuzama:

Umbulelo kumzali wakho ngako konke akwenzele kona kuyo yonke le minyaka
Ukwenza uluhlu lwazo zonke izinto umzali wakho akufundisile kunye nokwabelana ngazo
Ukuxoxa ngezithethe ezibalulekileyo kubo kunye nokwazisa umama okanye utata ukuba uza kuqhubeka njani ukubenza baqhubeke phambili
Ukukhetha umfanekiso owuthandayo nobabini kunye kunye nokuwakha
Ukubuza imibuzo malunga nobuntwana bomzali wakho kunye neengcebiso afuna ukuba uzikhumbule bakube beswelekile- bhala uxwebhu okanye wenze iprojekthi yobugcisa usebenzisa olu lwazi
Ukukhetha ukuthelekisa okunentsingiseloizacholoukuba ninokunxiba nobabini- oku kunokukunceda uzive uqhagamshelene nomzali wakho omthandayo akuba eswelekile

Ukuthi Ndlelantle kwelinye iLungu loSapho

Ukuphulukana nelungu losapho kunokutshintsha lonke usapho olunamandla, nokuba awusondelanga kakhulu kwilungu losapho. Nokuba ulwalamano luni na nomntu, ukuvalelisa kubalulekile hayi kuphela ekuvaleni kwakho kodwa ukunceda loo mntu

Thetha nomntu malunga nendima yakhe kusapho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uya kunyuka ukuze uqiniseke ukuba izithethe ziyaqhubeka. Umzekelo, ukuba bakwazileIncwadana yeendaba yosapho, nokuba uwuthathele ngokwakho loo msebenzi okanye ukhusele indawo efanelekileyo.
Ukukhumbula iinkumbulo ezimnandi kunye kufanelekile kuye nabani na olungiselela ukudlula; ukuba nobabini aninazo iinkumbulo kunye, ukubuza malunga neenkumbulo namanye amalungu osapho kungakhokelela kwincoko echukumisayo.
Ukubakho nje kwaye ubanike isipho sobukho bakho kunye nendlebe yokumamela kunokubaphilisa bobabini. Abanye abantu baba neentloni kubantu abasweleka ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezichaphazelekayo okanye kuba bengafunibajongane nokufa kwabo, ke xa usiya phambili kwincoko, wenza into abanye abangakwaziyo okanye abangayi kuyenza.
Xa uthetha nomntu oza kudlula, ungazami ukunika ithemba elingelolakhe. Abantu abaswelekileyo bafanelwe lithuba lokwamkela ukusweleka kwabo, kwaye besithi, 'Uyakulunga' kuyaphikisana noko bakusebenze nzima kakhulu ukwamkela kwaye kubonakala ngathi bayazithoba okanye bayalahla.
Ukubuza ukuba 'Ndingakwenzela ntoni emva kokuba uhambe?' Akakhathali kwaye angakunika umntu ogulayo intuthuzelo. Qiniseka nje ukuba ulandela kuzo naziphi na izithembiso ozenzayo.
Ukuba umntu unjalozonqulo, Cela ukuthandaza kunye nabo kwaye uthandazele utshintsho olunobunono ukuya kubomi basemva kokufa.

Ungayithetha njani i-Goodbye kuMhlobo oFayo

Kwabanye, abahlobo banokuziva bebalulekile okanye babaluleke nangaphezulu kunamalungu osapho. Umntu lowo usenokuba ngumntu omthembileyo, umhlobo osenyongweni ukususela ebuntwaneni, okanye umhlobo osandula ukushiya umbono onentsingiselo kuwe. Abahlobo bahlala bekhona xa kungekho mntu ungomnye, kwaye banokukuqonda ngcono kunaye nawuphi na umntu. Ukuhlonipha ubomi bomhlobo wakho, cinga malunga nento obungathanda ukuba akwenzele yona ukuba ubunokubuyiselwa umva. Unokufuna uku:

Thethani ngeenkumbulo zenu ezizithandayo kunye
Yenza iprojekthi yobugcisa bokusebenzisana ukuze ube nayo njengeUkugcinwa okukhethekileyo
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uyakwazi, yiya kwindawo oyithandayo nabaqhele ukuya kuyo bobabini
Yabelana ukuba uxabisa kangakanani umntu ngokubhala inowuthi okanye umazise ngesiqu
Thetha malunga nokuba ubuhlobo buye bathetha ntoni kuwe kuyo yonke le minyaka
Xoxa ngendlela oziva unethamsanqa ngayo ngokudibana nomntu kunye nendlela abutshintshe ngayo ubomi bakho
Buza umhlobo wakho ukuba kukho nantoni na onokuyenza ukuze umhlonele xa umntu sele eswelekile- njengokupha kwisipho sabo abasithandayo okanye ngokuzithandela kwenye indawo enentsingiselo kuloo mntu.

Ukubhala ileta

Xa ungekhe uyenze buqu ukuba ithi ndlela-ntle, okanye ukuba umntu ofayo akakwazi ukuncokola nevidiyo, ukubhala ileta kunokuba yenye indlela efanelekileyo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayibhala njani le leta ihlawulweyo ngokweemvakalelo, landela lo mgaqo ucetyisiweyo ngezantsi:

usipha isipho sobhaptizo

Qala ileta ngokucela uxolo ukuba ngekhe ubekho buqu.
Bandakanya amagama athile malunga nothando lwakho okanye ukuthanda kwabo.
Enkosi ngokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
Ukuba unenkumbulo ekhethekileyo, yifake ngaphakathi kweleta.
Banqwenelele uxolo kwaye ubaqinisekise ukuba soze balibaleke.
Ukuba kufanelekile, baqinisekise ukuba uza kunyuka ukuze uncede abanye abantu obathandayo xa kufuneka njalo.
Yigqibezele ileta ngokuphinda ubathande okanye ubathande.

Kutheni kubalulekile ukuThetha kakuhle

Ukufa sisiganeko esinzima ngendlela emangalisayoukumelana nayonge. Ukuhlonipha umntu omthandayo kunye nokuvalelisa ngendlela ekhethekileyo kukuvumela ukuba umazise umntu ukuba umthanda kangakanani kwaye umkhathalele kangakanani na.