Ungamxelela njani umntwana ngokufa kukatatomkhulu okanye umakhulu, ubadida abantu ababathandayo. Ukunceda umntwana ahlangabezane nelahleko kunye nokumnika inkxaso kubonisa ukhathalelo kunye novakalelo. Nazi ezinye izinto abazali ekufuneka bazikhumbule njengoko benceda umntwana ukuba enze inkqubo yokulahleka kotatomkhulu.
Ukuxelela umntwana ngokufa kukaTatomkhulu
Ukuxelela umntwana ukuba utat'omkhulu sele eswelekile kunokuba nzima kakhulu ngenxa yobudlelwane obukhethekileyo obuchaphazelekayo. Ootatomkhulu banika inyathelo elibalulekileyo kunye nekhonkco kubudlelwane bomntwana ngaphandle kosapho olusondeleyo. Nokuba babonelela ngononophelo lomntwana rhoqo okanye bambona kuphela umntwana kwizihlandlo ezikhethekileyo, ootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu banika ubudlelwane kunye nesizukulwana esidala kunye nonxibelelwano olubalulekileyo ngaphandle kwekhaya. Ukukhumbula kwabo ootatomkhulu noomakhulu babo kubadibanisa nelifa labo elidlulileyo kunye nelifa losapho lwabo.
Amanqaku afanelekileyo- Iincwadi zaBantwana eziCingayo malunga nokufa nokufa
- Ukuchaza njani ukusweleka kunye nokufa kwaBantwana
- Amagama afanelekileyo okuthuthuzela umntu osentlungwini
Ungatsho njani ukuba uTatomkhulu okanye uMakhulu udlulile
Ukuqonda ukufa yinkqubo yomntwana. Iingcali zophuhliso ndiyavuma ukuba kukho amanqanaba ahlukeneyo umntwana ahamba kuwo njengoko beqonda ukuba yintoni ukufa. Gcina olu phuhliso engqondweni njengoko unquma indlela onokuxelela ngayo umntwana ngokusweleka kotatomkhulu. Nazi izikhokelo zamagama akho kwinqanaba ngalinye lophuhliso.
Ubaxelela njani abantwana abaDala esikolweni
Umntwana oneminyaka engaphambi kokuya esikolweni usenokungayiqondi imeko yokufa. Endaweni yokungena ngokweenkcukacha uchaze ukuba yintoni ebangelwe kukusweleka, kungcono ukuthetha ngomzimba. Abasaqala isikolo bahlala bekubona ukufa njengento yokwexeshana, enokubuyela umva. Mqinisekise umntwana ukuba akukho nto bayenzileyo ukubangela ukufa. Musa ukoyikisa umntwana ngeemvakalelo ezinzulu, kodwa yazi ukuba kulungile ukubazisa ukuba uziva ulusizi kwaye uyamkhumbula umakhulu okanye utatomkhulu. Bancede baqonde ukuba ayizizo zonke izifo ezikhokelela ekufeni. Ungaqwalasela ukuthi:
- 'Utat'omdala wayemdala kakhulu kwaye nomzimba wakhe wawungasakwazi ukusebenza.'
- 'Ukusukela oko umakhulu wasweleka, akasakwazi ukuhamba okanye ukutya, kodwa ngoku akasaziva zintlungu.'
- 'Abantu abasoloko besifa xa begula. Uyayikhumbula ingqele ebendinayo phambi kweKrisimesi? Ndingcono ngoku. '
- Ndiyamkhumbula kakhulu uTatomkhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abadala bayakhala xa besentlungwini njengawe. '
Ubaxelela njani abantwana abaDala
Phakathi kweminyaka emihlanu nesithoba, uninzi lwabantwana luqala ukuqonda ukuba zonke izinto eziphilayo ekugqibeleni ziyafa. Lindela umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke ebuza imibuzo efanayo kwaye ube nomonde kubo njengoko beqhuba iimpendulo zakho. Sebenzisa la magama afanayo nemfesane ngokungathi ubesiva okokuqala. Imifanekiso yokufa inokuboyikisa abantwana kwaye ikhuthaze imibuzo emininzi. Basenokuba namaphupha amabi ngokufa. Nceda umntwana wakho akhumbule umakhulu notatomkhulu ongasekhoyo, ngelixa umqinisekisa ngovuyo nentuthuzelo ekuzisa kuwe ngamaxesha obunzima.
- 'Utatomkhulu usweleke izolo kwaye akasayi kuba nathi xa sibhiyozela umbulelo.'
- UMakhulu wasweleka kuba wayegula kakhulu. Kulungile ukuba uMakhulu akasaziva zintlungu zinje. '
- Ndiyamkhumbula nam utat'omkhulu. Ungathanda ukuzoba umfanekiso wenu nobabini kwiholide yethu yokugqibela? '
- Sonke sibuhlungu ngokusweleka kukaMakhulu. Ndazise xa unemibuzo okanye ufuna ukuthetha. '
Ubaxelela njani abantwana abaDala kunye nabadala
Ukususela kwiminyaka elithoba ukuya phambili, umntwana usenokuqalisa ukubona ukuba ukufa akunakuguqulwa. Banokuqonda ukuba ukufa kwenzeka kubantu ababaziyo nababathandayo, kwaye baqala ukwenza inyani yokuba baya kufa ngelinye ixesha. Banokubuza imibuzo malunga nokuba yintoni inkqubo yokufa kwaye bafumane eyabo inkqubo yeemvakalelo xa kufikwa kumba wokuxoxa ngokufa kuthelekiswa nokuthatha imikhondo kubantu abadala ababangqongileyo.
- Ndineendaba ezibuhlungu endinokuzixelela zona. Utatomkhulu usweleke phezolo esibhedlele. '
- 'Kungokwemvelo kuthi sonke ukuba lusizi size simkhumbule uMakhulu. Ukuba ungathanda, sinokumkhumbula uMakhulu ngokwenza into awayehlala ethanda ukuyenza. Ungathanda ukundinceda ndisebenze egadini ngaxa lithile? '
- UTatomkhulu usweleke phezolo. Yazi ukuba ndilapha kuwe ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngayo nantoni na. Ngaba ikhona imibuzo ongathanda ukundibuza yona? '
- 'Ukusweleka kukaMakhulu yayingeyonto esinokuyithintela; kodwa into esinokuyenza kukugcina inkumbulo kaMakhulu iphila ezingqondweni nasezintliziyweni zethu. Ukuba ungathanda ukuba singenza i-scrapbook ngamanye amaxesha ethu amahle kunye xa uziva ulungele ukwenza njalo.
Amagama anzima, kodwa achaza amaXesha
Inxalenye yenkqubo yokujongana nosizi kukufumana iindlela zokubonisa okwenzekileyo. Inkqubo ye-ubudlelwane ekwabelwana ngabophakathi komntwana noomawokhulu bakhe kuthwala ukubaluleka kunye nexabiso. Unxibelelwano luyanceda ukuqonda imeko kwaye luqala amanyathelo okwamkelwa. Ukuxelela umntwana, 'Umakhulu uswelekile,' kunokuba nzima. Amagama anokubonakala ngathi eza kancinci, kodwa iingcinga ekwabelwana ngazo nomntwana zinokuba ngamathuba athile. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ekufuneka uzikhumbule.
Gwema izichazi
Ukuvuleka nokunyaniseka kumagama owabelana ngawo kunceda ukunika intsingiselo kunye nokuqonda kwiimvakalelo ezinamandla zomzuzu.Izichaziinokudideka ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci abaqala ukuqonda imeko yokufa.
Yiya ngqo-phambili, kodwa ungazinikeli iinkcukacha
Ukunikezela iinyani ezinyanisekileyo kugcina ingqondo ekuqikeleleni kunye nentelekelelo ekubeni ibaleke. Nikezela ngolwazi olufanelekileyo ngokobudala, kodwa zama ukungabelani ngeenkcukacha, kuba oku kungabhidisa. Ngokwesiqhelo nabantwana, ukuba banemibuzo, baya kubabuza.
Musa ukumangaliswa ziimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo
Qaphela ukuba nokuba ungakhetha awuphi amagama, okanye nokuba uza kuthetha ngantoni na, umntwana wakho angabonisa uluhlu lweemvakalelo, kwaye kulungile. Nokuba bathini na ngaphandle, yazi ukuba kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokubaxhasa kwaye ujonge nabo malunga nenkqubo yeemvakalelo zabo.
Gcina Izinto zingaguquguquki
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abe nobume, indlela yesiqhelo, kunye nokuhambelana. Kangangoko kunokwenzeka, gcina iindlela zemihla ngemihla zomntwana wakho, ngakumbi amaxesha okutya kunye nexesha lokulala. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana uyaqhubeka nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yesiqhelo esikolweni nakwiminyhadala yoluntu. Yazi ukuba kulungile ukubonisa ubhetyebhetye ukuba baziva becaphukile okanye bephantsi ngenye imini, kwaye unokwenza uhlengahlengiso ngokufanelekileyo.
Musa ukuLuhlaza uLwimi lwakho ngeeAnalogies
Fumana amagama ayinyani nanesinyanzelo oza kuwasebenzisa njengoko uchaza ukufa. Uphando luyaqhubeka ukubonisa ukuba ukusebenzisa amagama aphathekayo kunceda umntwana kwinkqubo yokulila. Nangona amagama afana nokufa kunye nokufa kunzima ukuwasebenzisa, amabinzana afana nokusweleka, ukulahleka, ukuwela, ukugoduswa, ukwindawo elungileyo, okanye ukuya kulala kungabangela ukudideka engqondweni yomntwana omncinci. Basenokungayiqondi imbekiselo, kwaye banokusebenzisa intsingiselo kwezinye iimeko.
Yabelana ngolwazi kwiiNxalenye ezincinci
Ukufa kunokuziva kunzima kumntwana, ke qiniseka ukuba wabelane ngolwazi ngezixa ezifanelekileyo. Funda imikhondo yomntwana wakho ubabuze ukuba bangathanda ukuthetha ngenye into ukuba baziva bexakekile. Bakhumbuze ukuba kulungile ukuziva nokuba baziva njani kwaye niyakuqhubeka nokuthetha ngale nto kwaye ubalungele.
Musa Ukoyika Ukuthi, 'Andazi'
Ngamanye amaxesha eyona mpendulo ungayibeka kukuba awazi zonke iimpendulo. Kuyanceda ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ungangazi izinto ezithile malunga neenkcukacha zokufa okanye malunga nemibuzo engenampendulo ilula.
Iinyembezi Ziyaphilisa
Kusempilweni kwaye kuyaphilisa ukulila ngokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Musa ukoyika ukwabelana ngamava nomntwana wakho. Ngelixa kungekho mfuneko yokuba babone umzuzu onamandla weemvakalelo, iinyembezi ziyindlela yendalo yokubonisa ukudana, ukukhathazeka kunye neemvakalelo ezinzima. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale umazisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyakwazi ukubakhathalela, ngenxa yoko baziva bekhuselekile kwaye bexhaswa ngeli xesha.
Lindela ukuThetha ngaphezu kwesihlandlo esinye
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka uthethe ngalo mbandela rhoqo kangangexesha elithile. Umntwana angaqhubekeka nolwazi oluya kuthi kamva lukhuthaze eminye imibuzo. Jonga kwakhona nomntwana kwaye uvule kwaye ufumaneke kwimibuzo eqhubekayo kunye neengxoxo. Ukuqonda ukufa yinkqubo.
Lungiselela uMntwana iiNkonzo
Eminye imifanekiso umntwana azakuyibona iya kuba yodwa kwaye ibe nentsha. Baxelele ukuba bazokubona ntoni, ngubani oza kubakho, ukuba abantu baziva njani, kwaye nokuba abantu benza ntoni. Cacisa, ngakumbi abantwana abancinci, ukuze kungabikho nto ibothusayo. Zimisele ukuthetha nabo emva kweenkonzo ukubenza ingxoxo malunga noko bakubonileyo kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Bazise ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha ungabakhuphela ngaphandle ukuba baziva bengakhululekanga.
Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba athathe inxaxheba
Kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana, ubukho babo kwikhaya lokungcwaba okanye kwinkonzo kunokuba luncedo njengoko besenza ilahleko. Nokuba abanakubakho, bavumele ukuba bancede bakhethe iifoto zesikhumbuzo okanye bancede bakhumbule iculo likagogo nomkhulu alithandayo, umbongo, ukufunda, okanye iSibhalo esiya kusetyenziswa kwinkonzo. Oku kunokubanceda bazive beyinxalenye yenkqubo.
Sukubeka umda weXesha ekufeni
Wonke umntu ubuhlungu ngendlela yakhe kunye nesantya sakhe. Ukuziqhelanisa nobomi obutsha ngaphandle komntu omthandayo kuya kuthatha ixesha ukwenza oko. Imihla yokuzalwa, isikhumbuzo kunye neeholide kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezinamandla. Musa ukunika umntwana wakho umda wexesha xa kufikwa ekusetyenzisweni kwale lahleko.
Ungamxelela njani umntwana ngokufa kukatatomkhulu
Ukuthatha isigqibo ngendlela oza kuxelela ngayo umntwana ngokusweleka kotatomkhulu kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokufunda ekuqhubeni iinkcukacha zobomi. Ukufelwa ngumntu omthandayo kufuna ixesha nenkathalo. Ukuba ufuna inkxaso eyongezelelweyo, iingcali kwisikolo somntwana wakho, ugqirha wakho, oochwephesha babantwana, okanye iinkokheli kwindawo yakho yonqulo banokukunceda.
