Nokuba uneminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu okanye ungumzali omnye, ilizwe leukuthandana kolutshaigcwele impumelelo kunye nokusilela. Njengokuba abantwana bekhula kwaye bekhula kwimizimba yabo yabantu abadala, umdla wabo unokujikela ekuthandaneni- oku kunokuba lutshintsho olunzima kulutsha nakubazali ngokufanayo.
Abahlobo
Ukudalaubuhlobo obuqinileyolinyathelo lokuqala eliya kubomi bokufikisa kulutsha olusempilweni. Njengomntu ofikisayo, izihlobo zakho ziya kuthi zichaphazele ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nolonwabo. Qinisekisa ukuba kusoloko kukho ukulingana phakathi kwexesha lakho nabahlobo bakho kunye nexesha lakho kunye nomhla wakho xa uqala ukuphonononga ukuthandana. Sukuchitha onke amandla akho kwinkwenkwe okanye intombi entsha, kuphela ukuba ubudlelwane buqhuma kwaye ukhawuleze uqaphele ukuba akusekho mntu uza kumfowunela akhalaze naye.
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Yithemba Intu yakho
Kunye nabahlobo ngentuthuzelo nenkxaso, nako kuzaifuthe labanganingokwendalo ifumaneka kubo bonke ubomi bolutsha. Njengoko uqala ukuphonononga ubudlelwane obuninzi kulutsha lwakho, zama ukumamela ilizwi lakho langaphakathi, endaweni yelizwi elikhulu lesangqa sabahlobo bakho. Kunokuba nzima ukuthoba uxinzelelo kulutsha kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo malunga nokuba ngubani oza kuthandana nomntu okanye indlela yokuziphatha, yehlisa ezo zwi zangaphandle. Thatha uhambo lokuthula uthe cwaka okanyebhala kwijenali. Ilizwi lakho langaphakathi liya kwazi ukhetho olufanelekileyo kuwe; thatha nje ixesha lokumamela.
Zazi
Ngayo yonke imiyalezo ephikisanayo kubomi bolutsha, kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba bafuna ntoni xa kufikwa kumba wokuthandana kunye nobudlelwane. Njengomntu oselula okwishumi elivisayo, thatha ixesha lokuzazi ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthandana. Joyina imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kwaye uphonononge izinto onomdla kuzo. Ayisiyi kukukwenza ngakumbi ngakumbi okuumdlanjengomhla, kodwa kuya kukunceda uxabise iintlobo zabantu ofuna ukubandakanyeka ngokusondeleyo ebomini bakho.
Sukungxama
Endaweni yokuziva uxinzelelo lokuhamba ngokukhawuleza uye kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, yazi amaxabiso Ukwabelana ngesondo phakathi kolutsha bezincipha ngokuthe chu kule minyaka ingama-20 idlulileyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba nasiphi na isizathu esithi 'wonke umntu uyayenza' asiyonyani.
Ukuthandana kulutsha
Xa umncinci,ukuthandana kufuneka ibe yinto eyonwabisayo. Kukho ixesha elaneleyo kwikamva lobudlelwane obunzulu. Ulutsha oluninzi luziva ludinga ukuba nenkwenkwe okanye intombi, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukufunda ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo. Sebenzisa eli xesha lobutsha ukuphonononga iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuncamathela, kubandakanya usapho, izihlobo kunye nokuthandana. Amava akho ngoku aseta inqanaba lokuphuhlisa uthando kunye nolwalamano olukhuselekileyo njengoko ukhula kwaye ukhula.
Phambi Ukuthandana iqala
Kulungile, uyivile intlantsi kwaye uyazi ukuba lo mntu kufuneka abe ungowakho. Ingaba wenza ntoni? Ewe, inokuvakala iyindinisa kodwa khupha ipeni kunye nephepha kuqala. Phambi kokuba ubuze nakubani na ngaloo mhla wokuqala, yenza uluhlu lweziqinisekiso ozifunayo kwintombazana ehloniphekileyo okanye kwisoka. Cacisa kwaye udwelise zombini ezi zinto kufanele ukuba unayo kwaye ezi ze ngekhe ibenayo . Ngelixa uhlalutya umhla onokubakho, cinga malunga nento ekufuneka uyinike umhlobo omtsha.
Umhla wokuqala
Nje ukuba ube uluqonda kakuhle udidi lomntu oluya kuba lolona lulungileyo kuwe, qalisa ukucwangcisa loo mhla wokuqala. Kwanangaphambi kokuba ubuze nabani na ukuba uphume okanye ubuzwe, kubalulekile ukuba ubumbe ezinye izicwangciso ezisisiseko. Ukuya kumhla kubandakanya umngcipheko kunye nokucwangcisa, kokukhona ufeza kwangaphambili kwexesha, kokukhona kungcono. Thetha nabazali bakho malunga nemithetho kunye nolindelo, uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungathanda ukuphuma nini kwaye nini, kwaye uzame ukwenza unxibelelwano oluqhelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba uthathe usuku lokuqala olukhulu kunye.
Uthando vs. Inkanuko
Zininzi iintlobo zothando: uvelwano kwabanye, ubuhlobo obuqinileyo okanye unxibelelwano losapho. Uthando lolutsha lubandakanya ukufumana umntu onomdla kuye okuqondayo noxabisekileyo kuwe. Inkanuko ngumtsalane okhawulezayo, onamandla. Inkanuko yeshumi elivisayo yesini kwaye iqhutywa ziihormone. Ngelixa liyinxalenye yomzimba eqhelekileyo yokukhula, inokuba namandla kwaye idideke.
Ukuziva Unomdla
Kunganzima ukuxelela umahluko phakathi kothando nenkanuko njengomntu ofikisayo. Oku kuyenza nzima imeko yokuthandana kolutsha. Ukugcina umbono ophilileyo kunye nokuqonda ukuba ezi mvakalelo zibalulekile kwaye ziyinyani ziya kunceda ukuqhuba inkqubo. Njengomntu ofikisayo, zivumele uzive ezi mvakalelo zahlukeneyo kodwa ufumane iindawo ezisempilweni zazo. Sebenzisa amandla akho okufunda ulawulo njengoko kuya kukunceda kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho njengoko ushiya iminyaka yakho yeshumi elivisayo.
Iingcebiso Zokuthandana Kwabafikisayo
- Unxibelelwano lubalulekile kuko konke ukuthandana. Sukucinga kwaye uphephe ukuhleba.
- Yenza kucace ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane bakho bukhethekileyo okanye abuqhelekanga.
- Ukuba ujikile okanye uyaliwe, musa ukuchitha ixesha kuyo-qhubeka.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ubuze nabani na omtsha, qala ubazi kancinane. Iya kwenza kube lula ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi impendulo yabo.
Eyabazali
Ngaphambi kokuba abantwana bakho bakhule babe kwishumi elivisayo, zinike ixesha lokudala imigaqo yosapho ejikeleze ukuthandana kolutsha kunye nobudlelwane. Akukho mgangatho uyinyani; imigaqo iyakwahluka ngokwexabiso kunye namasiko emizi eyahlukeneyo. Inyathelo elibalulekileyo kukuqinisekisa ukuba unemithetho ngokucacileyo endaweni. Ezinye zeekhonsepthi ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe zezi:
- Thatha iminyaka yokuba umntwana wakho aqale ukuthandana -i Iminyaka yobudala xa ulutsha luqala ukuthandana umntu-omnye ujikeleze i-16.
- Unokukhetha ukuvumela amalungiselelo okuthandana kweqela ngaphambi kokuvumela ukuthandana nomntu ngamnye.
- Ukubonelela ngengcebiso malunga nokuziphatha ngomhla; Ingxoxo ephandle malunga nemvume ngumbono olungileyo phambi kokuba umntwana afikise.
- Chaza kwangaphambili apho bavunyelwe ukuba baye ngomhla. Iindawo ezikhuselekileyo, ezinabantu abaninzi zezona zibalaseleyo.
- Ixesha elibekiweyo lokubuyela ekhaya libalulekile kwaye ulindelo kufuneka lubekwe, kunye neziphumo zokufika ekhaya emva kwexesha.
- Cwangcisa imigaqo ecacileyo malunga nokuba wedwa ekhaya kunye nomhla, okanye ukuba semva kweengcango ezivaliweyo.
- Izithintelo ze-Intanethi kunye nokubeka esweni okunokwenzeka kubalulekile kulutsha olunomdla wokuthandana kwi-Intanethi.
Thetha Ngezesondo
Kunye neengxoxo malunga nemithetho yokuthandana, kubalulekile ukuba uphinde uthethe malunga nezesondo. Nokuba uyichazile le nkqubo ngaphambili, yiphinde loo ntetho yesondo. Qaphela ukuba bazi ngaphezu kokuba ucinga. Ngelixa singabazali sinokuziva sinexhala ngoluhlobo lwencoko nomntwana wethu okhulayo, ukukhulelwa kolutsha okanye isifo esidluliselwa ngesondo kubi kakhulu. Sukuxhomekeka kwizikolo ukuba zifundise ulutsha malunga nobudlelwane bezesondo. Imfundo yezesondo ezikolweni ithanda ukuba yenzululwazi kunye ne-biological ukuze ihlale ichanekile kwezopolitiko. Abahlobo babo banefuthe elinamandla kulwazi lwabo lwezesondo, kwaye ungaluchaza ngokuchanekileyo kunabo bonke oontanga babo.
Amava okuFunda aMnandi
Ulutsha alonwabeli kuphela ukuthandana, kodwa eneneni ngamava afanelekileyo okufunda. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba baya kuba nolwalamano oluninzi ebudaleni (i Iminyaka yobudala yokuhlangana neqabane lakho Ngu-27) kwaye izifundo abazifundayo ngelixa bethandana njengolutsha malunga nokuseta imida kunye nokuhloniphana kubudlelwane kuya kubanceda kamva ebomini.
