Ukuba inja yakho ihlala ijonge kuwe ngala mehlo amakhulu enja, unokuzibuza ukuba yintoni enika. Kutheni inja yakho ikujonga nje? Kuba bazama ukukuxelela into. Ukujonga inja yakho ixesha elide kunokuba yindlela yabo yokuthetha, 'Ndiyakuthanda,' 'ndifuna into,' okanye nkqu, 'Ndikulinganisa.' Nika ingqalelo kule ndlela yokuziphatha-kunye nezinye iimpawu ezivela kulwimi lomzimba wabo-ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni inja yakho ikhangele kuwe kwaye ithetha ukuthini.
Kutheni Inja Yam Indijongile?
Ukudibana kwamehlo asiyondlela izinja ezinxibelelana ngayo, ngaphandle nje kokudibana kwamehlo ixesha elide luphawu lobundlobongela. Kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba izinja ezifuywayo zifunde ukusebenzisa ukujonga kunye nokujonga njengendlela yokunxibelelana nabanini bazo. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa abanokuzama ukukuxelela zona:
'Ndifuna into'
Izinja zineendlela ezininzi zokukuxelela ukuba zidinga into ethile, njengokukhonkotha, ukuncwina, ukukhotha, okanye ukumbambazela. Ungongeza kwakhona ukujonga kuluhlu. Abaphandi bacebisa izihlunu zamehlo ezinja yavela kwiminyaka engama-33,000 edlulileyo ukubanika inkangeleko 'yeliso lenja' awukwazi ukumelana nayo. Ithuku lokusinda, ngokwenene. Ukujonga inja yakho kunokuthetha ukuba bafuna ukutya, intuthuzelo, ukhuseleko, ukudlala, ukubanjwa , okanye ukuhambahamba.
Ngaba onke amakhadi ezipho evisa ahlawulisa?
'Ndifunda Wena'
Inja yakho isenokuba ijonge kuwe ngenjongo yokukubukela, nangona ingekho ngendlela eyothusayo. Banomdla nje wokuba uphezu kwantoni na. Mhlawumbi uhamba ukuya kwisitya sokunyanga, kwaye bayazibuza ukuba uya kumisa kwaye ubanikeze into ethile. Mhlawumbi unxiba izihlangu zakho, kwaye banomdla wokwazi apho uya khona. Eminye imiqondiso yokufuna ukwazi ibandakanya intloko eqatywe ecaleni kunye neendlebe ezimile.
indlela yokufumana apho umntu ahlala khona
Iingcali nazo zikholelwa ukuba izinja ziye wafunda ukufunda indlela umntu avakalelwa ngayo okanye umlinganiswa ngokubajonga. Ke mhlawumbi bazama nje ukugweba ukuba zingaphi izinja ezincamisayo ozidingayo ukuze uphakamise umoya wakho.
'NdikwiNdawo eVulnerable'
Ngaba ukhe waphawula ukuba inja yakho ijonge kuwe ngelixa i-poop? Kungenxa yokuba bakwimeko ebuthathaka ngendlela emangalisayo. Xa zithungela ukuzikhulula, izinja zisengozini kwizilwanyana, ngoko zihlala zijonge kuwe ukuze zinxibelelane zifuna ukhuseleko. Ukubamba iliso labo kubazisa ukuba unomqolo wabo. Izinja zinokubonisa indlela yokuziphatha ejonge kwezinye iimeko apho ziziva zisengozini, njengokuba umntu omtsha undwendwela ikhaya lakho, okanye ukuba udibana nomntu ongamaziyo obenza baxhalabe ngelixa bephuma kwaye malunga.
'Ndifuna Uhlehliswe'
Ukujonga phakathi kwezinja kudla ngokuba yi- ukuziphatha ndlongo , ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba inja yakho inokukujonga njengendlela yokuthi, 'Buya.' Oku kunokwenzeka kwiimeko apho inja yakho iye yafumana ukutya, izinto zokudlala, okanye omnye umntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba inja ikujongile ngenxa yokuba iba nomsindo okanye inomsindo, iya kukunika ezinye iimpawu, ezinjengokubethelela iindlebe zabo, ukuthoba intloko, ukuphakamisa umzimba, ukuqinisa umzimba wabo, ukubonisa i-hackles yabo. baphakamise iinwele emqolo), okanye ukukrala nokugquma.
Awudingi ukukhathazeka kakhulu ukuba inja yakho ijonge kuwe kodwa ingenzi ndlongo. Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke ngenja ongaqhelanga nayo ngokuchasene nenja yakho, kodwa akukho bulumko ukucela umngeni kuyo nayiphi na inja ekujongileyo. Yaphula nje ukudibana kwamehlo kwaye uzisuse kwimeko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba inja yakho ibonisa ubundlongondlongo, kufuneka ujongane nokuziphatha kwaye udibane nokuziphatha ukuze uqiniseke ukuba wena kunye nosapho lwakho nikhuselekile.
'Ndiyakuthanda'
Ukujonga emehlweni akho kunokuba yindlela yokuba inja yakho ibonise uthando lwayo kuwe. Uphando lubonisa ukuba zombini izinja kunye nabanini bazo bakhulula i-oxytocin , echazwa ‘njengedlala lothando,’ xa zijongana ngqo emehlweni. Kanye kunye nokujonga ngothando, inja yakho inokugungqa umsila, ibe nomlomo ovulekileyo, kwaye ibeke intloko emadolweni akho.
ukuba uxelele ntoni umntu osentlungwini
Ndihlala Ndiba Ngathi Kukho Umntu Ondijongileyo
Izinja zijonge njengendlela yokunxibelelana nawe. Ungahlala ucacisa ukuba yintoni abazama ukuyithetha ngolwimi lomzimba wabo kunye nesetingi okanye iimeko. Jonga indlela abathetha ngayo, kwaye ubone indlela abasabela ngayo kuwe xa uphakama, ubanike isilwanyana sasekhaya, ubaphathele ukutya, okanye uzame ukulungisa indlela abakujonga ngayo. Izinja azikwazi ukuthetha, ngoko ubudlelwane bakho buxhomekeke kumdaniso wonxibelelwano njengoko ufunda ulwimi lomzimba womnye. Kwaye ukuba yinto nje yokujonga 'ndiyakuthanda', yazi ukuba wakha ubuhlobo ubomi bonke. Kungenjalo, inja yakho mhlawumbi ifuna ukwazi, 'Luphi unyango, sele?'
