Ukuba ukhe wayibona imovie Umtshakazi obalekayo , Uyazi ukuba ngelixa ukumisa umtshato ngokuqinisekileyo kubalulekile, akufuneki ukuba kubonakalise ubomi. Amaxesha amaninzi, xa abantu bethandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo okanye bethembisene ngomtshato, bacinga ukuba kusemva kwexesha ukuba babuyele umva. Kodwa uyazi ntoni? Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo! Ke, ukuba ikho kwezi zinto zisebenza kuwe, zilungiselele, njengoko i-Dixie Chicks yacula, 'ukubaleka.'
1. Awuyivuyeli into yokuthenga iimpahla
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantu basetyhini abanalo 'uhlobo lomtshakazi,' kwaye kulungile. Kodwa ukuba akukho nto malunga nomtshato wakho onomdla ekucwangciseni, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba ubuye umva. Ngaba awonwabanga kukucwangcisa umtshato kuba unqwenela ukuba uthi 'ndiyakwenza' kwinkundla yamatyala, okanye awonwabanga ngokwenza amalungiselelo omtshato wakho, kuba entliziyweni yakho, uyazi ukuba awufuni kutshata? Ukuba ucinga ngengubo yomtshato yokuthenga unayo kwimingxunya iLarrie Bradshaw evela kuyo Isini kunye neSixeko , ke mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uthathe inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye uphinde uphumeze izinto.
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2. Uxinzelelo malunga neBachelor Party
Ukuba awumthembi umntu oza kutshata naye ukuba uza kuba nepati ye-bachelor, ke -inyani-kutheni utshata? Ukuba awunakumthemba lo mntu uthembisa ubomi bakho kuye ubusuku obunye, kuya kuthekani ngabo bonke ubusuku obunye? Kuthekani ngohambo lweshishini? Amaqela eenkampani? Usebenza iiyure zokonwaba? Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantu banomona kakhulu kunabanye, kodwa ukuba ingcinga yakho ebalulekileyo kwi-bachelor bash ikwenza ungacingi nto ngaphandle kwabaphangi kunye nokukopela, kusenokwenzeka ukuba luphawu lokuba awulithembi iqabane lakho. Kwaye mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ukhetho oluthile.
3. Awuvumelani Nabantwana
Ngexesha uninzi lwabantu lufikelela kuloo ndawo yabantu abadala ebomini apho bacinga ngokuhlala phantsi, ingcinga yabantwana sele iwele ezingqondweni zabo. Kwaye, kuninzi lwabantu, loo ngcinga yaphelisa enye yeendlela ezimbini: Ndifuna abantwana ngokupheleleyo okanye andifuni kwaphela. Ukuba usebudlelwaneni apho wena neqabane lakho ningavumelani khona ngokuba ingaba nizakuba nabantwana na kwixesha elizayo, akunakulindeleka ukuba omnye wenu atshintshe ingqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iyenzeka, kodwa ayisiyonto iqhelekileyo. Kuya kufuneka kuvunyelwane ngabantwana ngaphambi kokuba nabani na athi 'ndiyayenza.' Ngaphandle koko, umisela nje ukuba ubenentliziyo ebuhlungu.
4. Amaqabane akho oMtshato kunye neNtsapho yakhe ngaphaya kwakho
Ukuba ungomnye wabo bantu balithiyileyo ikamva lakhe le-MIL, ngokuqinisekileyo awuwedwa. Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Iiholide kunye nemihla yokuzalwa isenokungonwabi ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ukuba nje omnye obalulekileyo unomqolo wakho, ungawuphatha ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ukuba umntu oza kutshata naye ukhetha icala labo kunelakho? Ewe, ntombazana, kungcono ubaleLE. Akukho mntu unexesha lokudlala ifiddle yesibini kumama womntu ... ngakumbi hayi ngonaphakade . Ke, ngomoya kaBeyonce, mxelele ukuba apakishe izinto zakhe ahambe.
5. Guy wakho Awuyi Phakamisa
Ukuba uhleli nomntu iminyaka kwaye akavumi kwaukuxoxa ngomba womtshato, kungalixesha lokuba uqalise ukuqwalasela ezinye izinto. Ngelixa ingengabo bonke ubudlelwane ekufuneka buphele emtshatweni (molo Kurt noGoldie!), Ukuba umtshato uyinto oyifunayo, kufanelekile ukuba ube nomntu oziva ngendlela efanayo. Ukuba uziva uziva ngathi ngumlinganiswa ovela Akayiyo nje loo nto kuwe , emva koko isenokuba lixesha lokushiya inqanawa.
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6. Ulele kumagumbi okulala ahlukeneyo
Ukuba nihlala kunye kwaye uhlala ubusuku bonke kumagumbi okulala ahlukeneyo, isenokuba lixesha lokuba ujonge esipilini kwaye uzibuze ukuba yintoni le uyenzayo. Ngelixa izibini ezininzi ezonwabileyo zilala kumagumbi ahlukeneyo okulala ngenxa yokurhona okanye iishedyuli zomsebenzi ezingqubanayo, inokuba luphawu lwengxaki. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ulele wedwa ngenxa yokulwa okanye ngenxa yokuba ungafuni nje ukuba sebhedini enye neqabane lakho, ezo zezinye iiflegi ezibomvu ezinkulu. Ukuba sele unengxaki, ukubaphepha akuyi kubenza ukuba bahambe, kwaye ukutshata ngokuqinisekileyo akuyi kuzilungisa.
7. Usoloko umamela iingoma zamandla zokuqhekeka kweeNgoma
Ukuba uzibona usesikhundleni sokudlala iingoma zokuqhawulwa kwamandla amantombazana nguBeyonce okanye uKelly Clarkson okanye uTaylor Swift kwaye ucinga ngento ekuyoba yeyakho wedwa, kuyawucela lo mbuzo: kutheni usahleli kubudlelwane? Ukuthanda ingoma enomtsalane yenye into, kodwa ukuba unoluhlu lokudlalayo olubizwa ngokuba 'yiNtombazana yamandla' kwaye yonke ingoma ekolu luhlu imalunga nentombazana eshiya indoda yayo iqhubeke izimele kwaye intle ngoko .... Ewe, uyazi kufuneka wenze.
8. Ucinga ngee-Exes
Kuqhelekile ukuba ucinge ngabanye abantu xa usebudlelwaneni. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uhleli ujikeleze usuku nosuku uzibuza ukuba buya kuba njani ubomi ukuba awuzange ulahle inkwenkwe yasekholejini kwiminyaka elishumi elinambini eyadlulayo, ewe, ubudlelwane bakho bunokungabi bomelele njengoko ucinga ukuba kunjalo. Ngelixa uzibuza malunga nexesha elidlulileyo yinto enye, ukuphupha ngobomi kunye naye yenye into. Ukuba awonwabanga ngumntu onaye ngaphambi kwezinto ezinzima ezifana nokubambisa, abantwana, kunye nabazali abagulayo, awusoze wonwabe naye.
Lungela ukuqhuba
Ngelixa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ingcinga yokuba ngumtshakazi obalekileyo ivakala iyothusa, eyona nto yoyikisayo kukutshata nomntu ongafanele uchitha naye ngonaphakade. Ke bopha imitya yezihlangu, intombazana, kwaye ulungele ukubalekela kubomi obonwabisayo.
