Abanye abantu banokucinga ukuba umntu obhinqileyo okanye owesilisa okrelekrele, ofundileyo, onenkathalo, kwaye oyintombi enyulu kumashumi amabini eminyaka okanye aneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala wahlukile, okanye okubi kakhulu, akaqhelekanga. Unokumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba ngokuka Iziko loLawulo lweNgcaciso kunye noKhuseleko ingxelo , Iipesenti ezi-4.8 zabasetyhini abaphakathi kweminyaka engama-25 ukuya kwengama-29 abakaze babelane ngesondo (4.4 yamadoda); Iipesenti ezi-2.4 zabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ezi-3.3 zamadoda aphakathi kweminyaka engama-30 nama-34 bangazintombi, njengoko kunjalo nge-1.5 yeepesenti yabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ze-1.6 yamadoda aphakathi kweminyaka engama-35 nama-39.
Iingcebiso ngeeNtombi eziDala eziDala
Abantu abangalahlekelwanga bubuntombi babo okanye abathandanayo ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-30 banokujamelana nemiceli mngeni emininzi, kubandakanya nembono ephosakeleyo yabanye. Umfundi uSG uphawule ngesimo sakhe njengentombi enyulu kwaye wathi, 'Ndihlala ndibambe le ngebhongo, kodwa uluntu lubonakala luzimisele ukuyenza into engaqhelekanga.' Kuluntu oluvuleke ngakumbi ukuthetha ngamava ezesondo kwincoko ngokubanzi, abo bangenamava anjalo banokuziva bencinci okanye bengenanto yokwenza igalelo.
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- Igalari ye-7 Yolonwabo kunye namaXabiso oMhla oXabiso
- Iingcamango ezi-8 zoMhla oMangalisayo weHlabathi
Gxila kubomi bakho beNtlalo
Kukho intetho ethi: 'Ubomi yinto eyenzekayo ngelixa usenza ezinye izicwangciso.' Ukusebenza okanye ukufunda esikolweni akuthethi ukuba kufuneka unikezele ngokuthandana okanye wenze abahlobo. Njengakwizifundo kunye nomsebenzi wakho, kuya kufuneka ulinganise izifundo okanye igumbi lokufundela kunye nokuhlamba nokutya nokulala, ke kufanelekile ukuthi ungafunda ukulinganisa ubomi boluntu. Kwaye, ubomi bentlalo yinto eya kukukhokelela ekudibaneni namaqabane amnandi kakhulu. Ungadibana njani nomntu? Ngoku ka Ingxelo yeLinker :
Unina womyeni unxiba ukuwa
- Amashumi amahlanu anesibhozo eepesenti abantu abadibana nabathandi babo kwinethiwekhi yabahlobo.
- Kuphela ziipesenti ezili-19 zee-singles ezibhalisiweyo kwindawo yokuthandanaokanye usetyenziso.
- Amashumi amathathu anesixhenxe eepesenti abantu bafumene umntu kwindawo okanye kwenye indawo.
- Amashumi amabini anesine eepesenti adibana kusapho.
- Amashumi amabini anesixhenxe eepesenti ahlangana emsebenzini.
Musa ukulinda Lowo
Abanye abantu bathi bajonge iqabane labo lomphefumlo, ngokungathi lo mntu ungazukubakho uya kuba yimpendulo yokuphepha ukudakumba kunye nokudana. Umfundi weLoveToKnow uBeth uphawule wathi, '.... bendisoloko ndimfuna kwaye andizikhuphi ngokukhululekileyo kumntu ongandifanelanga.' Inkqubo ye-ingcinga yomphefumlokudla ngokungaqondwa kakuhle. Ke yintoni umphefumlo, kunjalo?
Umlingane womphefumlo, nawuphi na umphefumlo, ngumntu okwangoku ukubonisa ukuba ufuna ukwazi ntoni ngawe. Abalingane bakho bomphefumlo bonke bemi phambi kwakho, kodwa khange ubabone. Kwenzeka njani oku?
- Mhlawumbi ubungakhange ubaqaphele kuba uthintele ukuthandana kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kunye nekholeji okanye kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi ukuze ujolise kwizifundo zakho okanye kubomi bomsebenzi.
- Mhlawumbi ukuthandana kunyeIntlalontle izive ingonwabanga.
- Mhlawumbi uzijonge ngokwahlukileyo, njengomhlobo nje okanye umhlobo oqhelekileyo.
Inyani yile, okukhona usiya phantsi kule ndlela yokungathandani, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ukuqala. Umphawuli we-LTK uRachel uthi, 'Kulula ukuhlala ungatshatanga, ndikhuselekile, ngaloo ndlela andinakulimala.' Unezizathu ezininzi ezilungileyo kakhulu zokuthintela ukuthandana, kodwa loo nto ayenzi ukuba kube lula ukuba kube lula.
Udibana njani neeNgoma ezinjengawe
Ngokobalo lwabantu base-US, ngaphezulu kwe-100 yezigidi ezizodwa. Ithuba lokufumana abantu abasemgangathweni ukuza kuthi ga ngoku liyenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, apha endleleni unokudibana nezinye ijezi. Iijerks zikhona ukukubonisa into ongayifuniyo kubudlelwane ukuze ukufundise ukubona into oyifunayo. Ke uqala njani ukuthandana kunye nokuhlalisana?
Phuma kuloo Rut
Uqala ngokuthatha inyathelo! Ukho ngoku. Uya emsebenzini okanye esikolweni, uye kwiiklasi nakwiintlanganiso, ufunde okanye ulungiselele iofisi yonke imihla. Ukwenza into enye yonke imihla kwenza kungathandeki ukuba uza kudibana okanye uqaphele umntu omtsha ukuba aqale ubudlelwane. Qala ngokwaphula inkqubo yakho yesiqhelo.
- Yiya kwivenkile yekofu eyahlukileyo.
- Yiya kwithala leencwadi kwaye uhlale etafileni enegumbi lokujoyina abanye.
- Yiya kwiklasi yokuzilolonga.
- Thatha iklasi entsha ocinga ukuba uyonwabele ngokwenene.
- Ivolontiya.
Yenza nantoni na ekusa ngaphandle kwesiqhelo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhambe wedwa; Tsala umntakwenu okanye udadewenu (okanye umhlobo!) kunye ukuba ufuna isibindi ukuze uqalise.
Dibana nabantu eNtsha
Fikelela kwaye uvuleleke ekwenzeni unxibelelwano. Yonke imihla, udibana nabantu ongabaziyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba yonke imihla unamathuba amaninzi okuhlangana kunye nokuthetha nabantu, ukuba kuphela ngokufutshane.
ithetha ntoni ipolishi emnyama yamazipho
Okokuqala, chonga abantu abanomdla. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthembela kwimo yakho kwaye wenze kwimpawu yakho yokuqala. Sebenzisa incoko evula incoko ukwenza izinto zikhululeke ngakumbi. Nika ukuncoma, kukulungele ukwabelana ngombono wakho, okanye wenze isicelo somntu xa umi emgceni. Umzekelo, ukuba usemgceni kwivenkile yekofu buza umntu onomdla kwinto abazame ngayo kwimenyu. Awunakuhlala uziva ngathi uthetha nabantu abatsha, kwaye kuyakuthatha inzame ukugqitha kwi-inertia, kodwa imbuyekezo iya kulunga.
Khetha kwi-Intanethi
Umcimbi onjengam kakhulu kukuba ndinentloni xa kufikwa ekuthetheni nabafana ... utshilo umfundi uRossyPossy. Ukuba oku kuvakala ngathi, cinga ukusebenzisa inkonzo ekwi-Intanethi. Zininzi iinkonzo zokuthandana phaya. Abanye badibanisa abantu ngokufana nobuntu, abanye banomdla oqhelekileyo, kwaye nganye inezixhobo ezahlukeneyo zokuhlola. Isibonelelo sokusebenzisa inkonzo ekwi-Intanethi kukuba yindlela yokunciphisa inkqubo yokudibana nabantu, enokuthi ibe yinto yokudibanisa nabantu abafumana isantya esikhawulezayo sokudibana nomntu buqu kancinci. Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi kukuvumela ukuba ukhethe imihla enokubakho, uthethe nge-imeyile, emva koko usebenze udibana nomntu.
Lonwabele ixesha lakho njengeNtombi Enyulu
Khumbula, ngelixa kunokubonakala ngathi umbono wabantu bonke ngexesha elimnandi, ubomi obonwabileyo, okanye impelaveki emnandi ibandakanya isondo, akusoloko kunjalo. Sukuba nexhala lokuba inqanaba lokusondelelana alenzekanga kuwe okwangoku. Kuya kuthi ekugqibeleni, kwaye awudingi kuba noxinzelelo malunga nokuba uyintombi eneminyaka eyi-31. Okwangoku, yonwabela ixesha lakho kunye nabahlobo ababelana ngezinto onomdla kuzo kunye nezinto ozithandayo,
Kusekho ixesha elininzi lokufumana umntu okhethekileyo oya kufuna ukwenza njalophulukana nobuntombi bakhokwaye kwaye wonwabele ubomi bakho ngokupheleleyo kangangoko unako, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane loo mntu ngokukhawuleza. Sukuba noxinzelelo! Khumbula kwakhona, awuwedwa ebuntombini bakho kule minyaka, nokuba uyindoda okanye ulibhinqa.
Thatha inyathelo ngoku
Ukutshintsha izimvo zakho malunga nobomi boluntu kuya kuthetha ukuthatha inyathelo ngoku. Ukuba uziva uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo luyakumisa, cinga ngokusebenza ngeumqeqeshi wobomi,ukuthandana ukuqeqesha, okanye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukukunceda ukuba uphuhlise isicwangciso sokwenza kunye nezakhono zentlalo zokunxibelelana namadoda. UMark Twain uthe, 'Bonke ubomi bufuna utshintsho, umahluko, umahluko- enye into akukho nto incinci kuyo.' Lixesha lokuba ufumane umdla wakho.
Ucoceka njani isipaji somqeqeshi welaphu
Vumela i-LoveToKnow yazi ukuba ucinga ntoni kwicandelo lamagqabaza apha ngezantsi. Abafundi abaninzi, kubandakanya noDiana bathi, 'Kumnandi kakhulu ukubona ukuba andindedwa.' Yabelana ngamava akho, i-anecdote, okanye uluvo ngokubanzi malunga nokuba kunjani okanye wazi intombi eneminyaka engama-30 ubudala.
