Ukufunda ibali elikhuthazayo kulutsha kunokukunceda ufumane ithemba kwimeko engafanelekanga. Ungacingi ukuba uwedwa xa ubomi bubonakala ngathi bukubi kakhulu. Uninzi lwabakwishumi elivisayo bebekwizihlangu zakho kwaye baye bakwazi ukuphakama ngaphezulu kwemiceli mngeni yokuphila ubomi bokhuseleko, uxolo kunye nolonwabo.
Amabali akhuthazayo malunga nolutsha olunengxaki oloyise iingxaki zobomi
Amabali alandelayo okhuthazayo kulutsha olunengxaki limalunga nolutsha oluvela kuzo zonke iindlela zobomi. Ungafumanisa ukuba unokunxibelelana namanye amabali, okanye ungabona ukuba nangona olu lutsha lwalusezantsi, babekwazi ukuphuma emseleni baphinde baphile.
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- Igalari yaBafana yaBafikisayo kwiZimbo zeFashoni
- Iingcamango zokulala zamantombazana aselula
Umzabalazo kaDanielle wokufumana ulwamkelo
UDanielle wakhulela kwikhaya apho abazali bakhe babengabasebenzisi iziyobisi kakhulu kwaye benxila. Abaphambukeli babengena bephuma endlwini ngalo lonke ixesha lobusuku. Ngobunye ubusuku, indoda yangena egumbini likaDanielle yamdlwengula. Wayeneminyaka eli-13 ubudala. Waxelela abazali bakhe, abathi bayikhupha, besithi inokuba uphuphe kakubi. UDanielle wagqiba kwelokuba abaleke ekhaya aye kuba lilungu leqela lemigulukudu elithandwayo ekuhlaleni.
Uye wasondela kakhulu kwaba bantu kwaye uyabathanda. Babengengabo abona bantu babalaseleyo kuye, kodwa waqonda ukuba bamkhathalele ngakumbi kunabazali bakhe. Waziva ukuba kungcono enze le nto bayifunayo, okanye banokumfulathela. Waqala ukuba, ukuhlasela abantu, nokusebenzisa iziyobisi notywala. Kungekudala emva koko, wagqiba ukuchitha iminyaka emihlanu kwiziko lokugcina abantwana ngenxa yolwaphulo-mthetho.
Ngelixa wayelapho, waqala unyango kwaye wafumana inkolo awayethuthuzeleka kuyo. Wafunda ukuba kwakutheni ukuze ajoyine iqela lemigulukudu nendlela ubomi bakhe obabuphumela ngaphandle kolawulo. Ngexesha lokugqitywa kwesigwebo sakhe, wayesisithethi esidlangalaleni kwaye engumcebisi woontanga kwabanye babanjwa abancinci. Emva kokukhululwa kwakhe, waya kwikholeji kwaye waba sisayikholojisti yabantwana.
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Ukufuna kukaAmanda Uthando lwenene
Xa uAmanda wayeneminyaka esixhenxe, utata wakhe wamshiya umama wakhe. Oku kwamkhathaza umama wakhe, kwaye waqala ukusela kakhulu. Ngobunye ubusuku, umama wakhe waya ejele kwii-DUI ezininzi kunye nezinye iindleko. Inkundla ithathe isigqibo sokuba ngumama ongafanelekanga, kwaye kuba lwalungekho olunye usapho olufumanekayo ukuba lukhathalele uAmanda, wangena kwinkqubo yokugcina abantwana.
Ekuqaleni, kwakukuhle, kuba ekugqibeleni wakwazi ukuba yinxalenye yosapho olumkhathaleleyo, okanye wayecinga njalo. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva kokuba efudukile, abazali bakhe abamkhulisayo bathatha isigqibo sokuba ayizukusebenza, ke uAmanda wathunyelwa kwelinye ikhaya. Ikhaya lesibini lalingenakulunga njengelo lokuqala, kodwa babemkhathalela ngcono kunonina. Nangona kunjalo, emva kweeveki ezintathu, iarhente yagqiba ukuba ikhaya lokugcina abantwana alilunganga kukhathalelo lwabantwana kwaye uAmanda waya kwenye indawo. Kwikhaya lakhe lesithathu lokugcina, waphinda wafumana usapho olunothando. Wahlala iinyanga ezine kwaye ekugqibeleni wacinga ukuba ulifumene ikhaya lakhe-okokude usapho luthathe isigqibo sokungathathi nxaxheba ekugcinweni kwabantwana.
Ngekhaya lesithandathu, uAmanda waziqinisekisa ukuba akukho mntu umfunayo apha emhlabeni. Ukuphelisa ezo mvakalelo, waqala ngokunxiba ngendlela eya kuthi imnike ingqwalaselo kwaye wayeya kwamkela naluphi na uthando anokulufumana. Oku kuthetha ukuba wayeziphethe kakubi kwaye wayezibeka emngciphekweni wee-STD kunye nokukhulelwa. Ngokwenyani, wathi akakhathali nokuba angakhulelwa kuba ngekhe abe nengxaki yokuba nomntwana omncinci wokumbamba, ukumbamba nokumthanda.
Malunga nonyaka kamva, uAmanda wakhulelwa, kwaye utata wayengafuni kwanto edibanisa nomntwana. Wayeneminyaka eli-15 kwaye elindele umntwana. Kuba abazali bakhe abamkhulisayo bebengenazo izixhobo zokukhathalela umntwana, waphinda wathunyelwa kwelinye ikhaya lokugcina abantwana. Ayiphelelanga ekubeni ibhabhe isuka ekhayeni iye ekhaya, usana lwayo lwaphelela kwilishwa elifanayo-de kwaba ekugqibeleni lafumana usapho olunye olwamamkelayo ukuba ungubani.
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Ngenxa yokuzibophelela kosapho, ukukhathalela kunye nothando ngoAmanda, wakwazi ukugqiba amabanga aphakamileyo nokuya ekholejini. Kwakungekho lula. Kwafuneka asebenze imisebenzi emibini, ahlawule ukukhathalelwa kwabantwana, kwaye enze nezifundo zakhe, ngelixa ekhathalela umntwana wakhe. Wonke umsebenzi onzima uhlawulelwe. Wagqiba waphumelela ngedigri yeshishini kwaye ungumlawuli wokukhathalela abantwana kwiziko lokugcina abantwana.
Imvukelo kaJessica ngokuchasene neGunya
UJessica wayevela kwikhaya elinothando. Ingxaki kuphela kukuba uJessica akazange azive ngokwaneleyo. Abazali bakhe babefuna ukuba abe ngoyena ubalaseleyo kuyo yonke into, kwaye bafuna ukuba abathathe njengabahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni. Xa uJessica wafikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa, wagqiba kwelokuba akasayi kuphinda athabathe iimfuno zabazali bakhe kwaye wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukwenza ngokuchasene neminqweno yabazali bakhe, eyayiquka ukuzibandakanya nabantu abangalunganga, ukusela, ukusebenzisa iziyobisi, nokwenza ulwaphulo mthetho. Abazali bakhe babengenalo nofifi lokuba kungene ntoni kuye kwaye boyika ikamva lakhe. UJessica wayengakhathali nokuba wayehamba ngendlela emnyama. Abazali bakhe bamtyikitya kwinkampu yasentlango.
Inkampu yasentlango ibandakanya imisebenzi eyomeleleyo kwaye uninzi lothusa amaqhinga athe tye. UJessica wayekhunjuzwa yonke imihla ukuba ukuba akazimiselanga kakuhle, uyakuthi ekugqibeleni aphatheke kakubi ngakumbi entolongweni okanye ejele. Yakuba inkampu iphelile, uJessica wagoduka njengomntu owahluke ngokupheleleyo nowomntu omtsha. Abazali bakhe bayayiqonda into yokuba baphazame phi ngokufumana iingcebiso kusapho, kwaye bonwabile ukuba nentombi yabo ibuyile njengoko uJessica wayeza kubuya.
Ukukhuthaza ulutsha olunengxaki
Khuthaza ulutsha olunengxaki ngamabali akhuthazayo. Ukuva okanye ukufunda amabali anje kunokubanceda babone ukuba likho ithemba, nangamaxesha obunzima.
