Ngaba uphelile ubulumko bakho? Ngaba unalo ulutsha olungalawulekiyo? Ukwazi umohluko phakathi kokuziphatha ngaphandle kolawulo kunye nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kunokuba nzima. Funda indlela yokwahlula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho ngaphandle kolawulo kunye nezinto ezikhoyo onokukhetha kuzo.
Ukuphuma kuLawulo lokuziphatha ngokuchasene nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kulutsha
Ulutsha luza nazo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha indlela abaziphethe ngayo iye ihoye nabona bazali babazali bazibuze, 'Ngaba le yinto eqhelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi umahluko phakathi kwesiqhelo noko kugqithileyo. Ulutsha oluqhelekileyo lunokuba:
- Imood
- Ukufihla
- Ndidanile
- Mfutshane
- Ukungoneliseki
- Ukungazinzi
- Ulawulo lwaBazali kwiiFowuni
- Isohlwayo esifanelekileyo kulutsha
- Yeyiphi iMithetho kuLutsha oluShiya iKhaya?
Xa kufuneka uqale ukhathazeka kukuba umntwana wakho:
- Ukuhlukumeza / ukonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni
- Ukuzenzakalisa
- Ukuhlukumeza ngokwenyani
- Ukwenza iziyobisi / ukusela
- Ubusela
- Ukungabuyi ekhaya
- Ukubanjwa / ukugcinwa ngamapolisa
- Ukutshintsha kokuziphatha okukhawulezileyo
- Ukubalekaokanye ukushiya ikhaya
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha aziqhelekanga kulutsha kwaye inokuba sisalathiso sakho sokuqala sokuba kukho into engalunganga. Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba ujonge ntoni, kubalulekile ukuba usebenzela ukuzama ukubuyisela kulawulo lwendlu yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, oku kulula njengokusebenza nomntwana wakho ukuba atshintshe isitayela sakho somzali okanye imigaqo, kodwa kunokuthetha ukufuna uncedo lobugcisa.
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Unokuluphinda njani uLawulo loMntwana wakho ofikisayo
Uninzi lolutsha luya kutshabalalisa ngaxa lithile okanye luzame isiselo okanye ezimbini. Le yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokukhula kunye nokuvavanya imida. Uninzi lwexesha, ukuba indlela yokuziphatha iqala ukuwela umgca, uya kuziva kwangoko. Ukuthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo okubuyisela umntwana wakho kumkhondo kubalulekile. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso onokuzama ngazo.
Imigca evulekileyo yoNxibelelwano
Ukuthetha nolutsha akuyondlwan 'iyanetha. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuka UDebbie Pincus, uMMS LMHC , kubalulekile ukuqonda nokunxibelelana nokuba awuqondi. Endaweni yokugweba okanye ukunika iingcebiso, mamela nje umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo. Basenokungaphenduli imibuzo ethe ngqo kodwa ukuba umamele kwaye uthethe ngokungakhathali xa sele bekulungele, uyakumangaliswa zizinto abazimisele ukwabelana ngazo.
Ubundlongondlongo
Ukwahlula ligama lomdlalo kulutsha. Bazama ukufumana indlela yokulawula ilizwe labantu abadala bebodwa, kodwa iingqondo kunye nemizimba yabo isakhula. Ngokufana nomntwana omncinci, oku kuza nokukhathazeka kunye nobundlongondlongo. Ukujamelana nolo gonyamelo, ngokwe IMeri Wallace, iLCSW, kufuna umonde nokuqonda. Yamkela iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho kwaye umamele oko kubangela ukukhathazeka. Sebenza kunye ukuzama ukuqonda iimfuno zabo okanye izigqibo kwaye ubancede basebenze ekuthathweni kwesigqibo esifanelekileyo ngaphandle kokugxeka okanye ukubulala ulutsha.
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Fumana ibhalansi
Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uyakruquka okanye mhlawumbi bafuna uncedo lwakho ekufumaneni uthando lwabo. Ulutsha oluninzi luxhalabile ngekamva kunye nokusilela kolwakhiwo okanye injongo ebomini babo. Unganceda ukubanika olo lwakhiwo ngokuseka izikhokelo malunga namaxesha okutya, amaxesha okulala, njl. Ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, ulutsha lufuna uthando kunye nokwamkelwa kwakho njengoko behamba emanzini anesiphithiphithi kwinqanaba lokufikisa.
Cwangcisa iziPhumo
Ulutsha kufuneka luqonde ukuba kukho iziphumo ngezenzo zalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubeka ulindelo ngokungekho ngqiqweni okanye ii-odolo zokukhonkotha kuya kukufaka kwimvukelo efana nemfazwe. Endaweni yoko, thetha nomntwana wakho kwaye nisebenze kunye ukusetha imigaqo kunye nolindelo olusengqiqweni . Umzekelo, sebenzani kunye ukwenzaixesha lokubuyaisengqiqweni loo nto kwaye inokulandelwa. Yenza iziphumo kwimithetho eyaphukileyo kwaye unamathele kuyo. Ukungaguquguquki kubalulekile.
Unokulufuna nini uncedo lobungcali
Ukwazi xa ilixesha lokufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha akusoloko kungumda osikiweyo nowomileyo. Uninzi lwexesha, kuxhomekeke kukuqonda komzali. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha akufuneki uvumele isilayidi. Ukuba umntwana wakho ulikhoboka leziyobisi okanye unobundlobongela kuwe okanye kubantakwenu, kubalulekile ukuba ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele iimpawu zoxinzelelo okanye eminye imiba yezempilo yengqondo enokubangela isimilo. Oku kubandakanya:
- Ngokugqithisileyo ngokweemvakalelo / ngokungenangqondo
- Ukudinwa
- Ukutya ukutya
- Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu
- Ukuzenzakalisa
- Ukuphazamiseka
Iinketho ziyafumaneka kulutsha olunengxaki
Ukuba wenze konke onokucinga ngako njengomzali okanye umgcini kwaye umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo usaya kujikeleza loo ndlela imxinwa eya entshabalalweni, kusekho ukhetho. Lixesha lokuba ungenise imipu emikhulu kwaye ufumane uncedo lobuchwephesha ngaphambi kokuba ubaleke okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho lwabantwana. Ayisiyonyango yabo kuphela ekhaya, kodwa zonke iinkqubo ezibandakanya iiyure ezingama-24 nazo.
ungawasusa njani amabala egazi omileyo
Iingcebiso / Unyango
Ingcebiso ingafumaneka kuphela kulutsha lwakho kodwa nakwi usapho njengokuba. Unyango lunokunceda wena nomntwana wakho ukuba niphilise ukunqamka kunxibelelwano kwaye akuncede ufumane indawo ezinengxaki. Ingcali inokukunceda ekuchongeni nayiphi na imiba yezempilo yengqondo umntwana wakho anokuba nayo. Olu hlobo lonyango lunokuhlala nje kancinci kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kodwa nangaphezulu.
Iinkqubo zasemva kwesikolo
Ukugcina umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwengxaki kunokuba lula njengokuzibandakanya. Kukho zonke iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zemisebenzi yasemva kwesikolo onokuzama kuyo. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo kufuneka ajoyine iqela elifana ne-YMCA okanye mhlawumbi banokunceda abanye ngomsebenzi wokuzithandela okanyeUkufundiswa koontanga.
Iinkqubo Zokuhlala
Ulutsha olunengxakiiziyobisi okanye utywalaokanye efuna ukususwa kwimeko yosapho inokuyifumanaiindlela zokonyangoluncedo ngakumbi. Oku kunokubandakanya ikhaya leqela okanye isikolo sokubhoda sonyango. Isenokuba yiIkhempu yehlobo,Ukubaleka komKristuokanyeinkqubo entlango.
Isikolo soMkhosi
Olunye ukhetho olunokuzama abazali kukuisikolo somkhosi. Ubume kunye noqeqesho olunikezelwa kwezi ntlobo zeenkqubo kunokuba luncedo ekuguqukeni kulutsha olunengxaki. Ukongeza, ezi nkqubo ziyafumaneka ngokude kwayeixesha elifutshane.
uneminyaka emingaphi apho ungahamba ngokusemthethweni
Izisombululo zoLutsha olunengxaki
Njengomzali, kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho uya kuziva uphelile. Iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo ngomnye wayo. Njengale mibini yoyikekayo, iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo eyoyikekayo ingakushiya uxinezelekile kwaye uhlunguzela intloko. Ukuqonda okulindelweyo kunye nendlela yokuphatha indlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle kolawulo kunokuqinisekisa ukuba iarhente yakho yobuzali ihlala igcwele.
